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My friend is currently going through a divorce in the UK and having a hell of a time. His wife mounted as many allegations on him as possible during separation - domestic violence, marital rape, child abuse, drugs and alcohol use, adultery, forgery just to name a few. He had to leave the house. He has moved to a room in a shared house and now even struggling to pay the rent. He does not see his kids anymore (not by choice). He is very broke and in debt because of all that is going on. He can no longer afford a lawyer. He feels so powerless, helpless and hopeless that he cannot fight most of what his wife is putting him through in court. He represents himself these days.

He has stopped looking after himself and is always looking sad . He also lost his job due to his arrest and all the drama. He was arrested because he tried to go see his kids at his former home and his wife called the police that she was afraid of him and that he had come to harass her. Police arrested him even without any traces of any harassment. Note that he moved out of the family house voluntarily thinking that the period of separation would ease tension between him and his wife.

I always feel sad seeing him in this state and just wish that he could recover and bounce back. He is considering moving back to Nigeria.

Have you gone through divorce in the UK or do you know anyone who has? What was the experience and what advice would you give someone going through this?

Thank you.

olabrinks:
Because he is your friend, you have painted him to be the victim. Are these allegations or did he actually commit all these things listed? What exactly pushed the wife to divorce him and are there any ways they can reconcile, because it’s going to be a very very long battle for him starting afresh.

Heathrow44:
LIES LIES LIES ! Don't believe this t. wat, this story has already been run, check travel section, the OP copied and past a thread of 2021 as a new thread only to garner attention, this is an attention seeking mofo on rampage
Check this link, the original thread by Asunder

https://www.0.freebasics.com/https/www.nairaland.com/6448238/how-did-survive-divorce-uk?iorg_service_id_internal=1646953538912597%3BAfoLUqCm8o_0mNio

How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? - Travel - Nairaland By ASUNDER


@IyaTola change course, Thread is dead 💀 on arrival! THREAD CLOSED!

IyaTola:
You are Nigeria with no power supply
Oppressed by Police
You suffering unemployment and you want to ban me in Australia,
Go ahead ban me!!!

mployer:
You women has no iota of sympathy in you.

You are wicked down to every fiber of your being. Reason I don't loose guard when dealing with women, I always prepare for the wost and stay one step ahead in the game.

Hakimi remains a hero.

IyaTola:
You are Nigeria with no power supply
Oppressed by Police
You suffering unemployment and you want to ban me in Australia,
Go ahead ban me!!!

olabrinks:
Because he is your friend, you have painted him to be the victim. Are these allegations or did he actually commit all these things listed? What exactly pushed the wife to divorce him and are there any ways they can reconcile, because it’s going to be a very very long battle for him starting afresh.

olabrinks:
if he has committed adultery, physically violent, drug addict.. you don’t think that’s enough to divorce?

Heathrow44:
LIES LIES LIES ! Don't believe this t. wat, this story has already been run, check travel section, the OP copied and past a thread of 2021 as a new thread only to garner attention, this is an attention seeking mofo on rampage
Check this link, the original thread by Asunder

https://www.0.freebasics.com/https/www.nairaland.com/6448238/how-did-survive-divorce-uk?iorg_service_id_internal=1646953538912597%3BAfoLUqCm8o_0mNio

How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? - Travel - Nairaland By ASUNDER


@IyaTola change course, Thread is dead 💀 on arrival! THREAD CLOSED!

olabrinks:
Because he is your friend, you have painted him to be the victim. Are these allegations or did he actually commit all these things listed? What exactly pushed the wife to divorce him and are there any ways they can reconcile, because it’s going to be a very very long battle for him starting afresh.

sisisioge:
Pls paste the links again, I want to go read the outcome of the divorce. This is not working as is. Thanks.

McStoic:
Why do most of you women support your fellow women when
any marital issues comes up? Everyone knows how bad and unfair Western laws are meant to favour women even when they're at fault

This kind of story has been told several times and most times the women use their advantage unfairly. Say the truth, if your own blood brother is kicked out of a home he sweated for or made not to see his kids just like that, will you support it?

It's the same UK that a man can be jailed and punished simply because a woman raised an unverified allegation against him. The West need to look into these things sha...

Heathrow44:
Search ASUNDER on your page

or Search How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? - Travel - Nairaland

In the travel section

Heathrow44:
Search ASUNDER on your page

or Search How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? - Travel - Nairaland

In the travel section

IyaTola:
...

olabrinks:
I understand what you’re saying but in 90% of cases, women don’t just react like this for no reason. A woman can never kick out a man just because she feels like it. Is he a chronic cheat? Is he physically/ emotionally abusive? Is he a drug addict? Is he lazy and financially incompetent? A lot of women cannot stand the trauma that come with these things. Peace and sanity is underrated. There’s a pattern with a lot of divorcee men, check them well and you will see where the problem lies.

olabrinks:
I understand what you’re saying but in 90% of cases, women don’t just react like this for no reason. A woman can never kick out a man just because she feels like it. Is he a chronic cheat? Is he physically/ emotionally abusive? Is he a drug addict? Is he lazy and financially incompetent? A lot of women cannot stand the trauma that come with these things. Peace and sanity is underrated. There’s a pattern with a lot of divorcee men, check them well and you will see where the problem lies.

mployer:
You women has no iota of sympathy in you.

You are wicked down to every fiber of your being. Reason I don't loose guard when dealing with women, I always prepare for the wost and stay one step ahead in the game.

Hakimi remains a hero.