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Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by illuminutty: 7:09pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Your wife is not your relationship. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Ten06(m): 7:11pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Tell him to return to Nigeria before depression will kill him or make him run mad 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by cococandy(f): 7:11pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
ahnie:Don’t believe all these NL lies. If she does any of those things she accused him of, she will be brought to Justice too. Like domestic violence, child abuse etc 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Xammie001(m): 7:13pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
But do you know sometimes it might also be the woman that's at Fault but due to the Law over there they always play the Victim,Imagine viewing the high rate of Paternity Fraud in the western world and the lady goes Scott free even after subjecting the man to pains at time Jailing the man. olabrinks: 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by kunle75(m): 7:15pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
mployer: Don't mind them,werey ni all of them ooo,me I no send them again am loving my single life ,anything wey them like make them say I no send 3 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Machinegun91(m): 7:16pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Pitty women and die before your time 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Hassanmaye(m): 7:18pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Mimicle101:You understand that gender |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by nigeriancritic1(m): 7:18pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Sweetvie: 7:19pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Hmm Na wa o |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by OloyeVIII: 7:23pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
FORWARDEVERLY:You and sniper eh! Make arsenal no go make you use am o |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by cococandy(f): 7:25pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
MrCuteking: He didn’t get any skills? 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by UNDFTD: 7:30pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
[quote author=IyaTola post=122550192][/quote] I am NOT one to give advice ordinarily except if I am getting paid to give legal advice. Having said that, when it comes to divorce in the West, a lot of Africans especially Nigerians do NOT totally get the concept and understand the DOs and DON'Ts of the dreaded word, Divorce. In Western countries, family law, which deals with divorce, for the most part, is geared in favor of the woman. But before one of the parties files for a divorce, something must have happened along the way to divorce, and that does NOT necessarily mean that one of the spouses cheated. It could be either a report of domestic violence, child abuse, sexual assault, stalking, or harassment. And when such allegations are made albeit true or false, the legal system employs all its mechanisms to forestall such breakdown of the family dynamic. One such mechanism is a temporary restraining or protective order, which is usually issued by ex parte motion. This means barring the spouse against whom such allegations were made from the matrimonial home or away from the child(ren). One of the spouses, usually the husband, is NOT allowed to visit the matrimonial home or see the children for the time being (for a fixed period of time) until a court hearing is held. However, permanent relief from an abuse order can be issued only after the alleged abuser receives notice of the hearing, and the alleged victim and the abuser both have a chance to tell their sides of the story at the final hearing. Now, this is where Africans and Nigerians in particular run afoul of the law. As long as you do NOT go near your house for whatever reason legitimate or NOT, you are okay. A violation of this simple court order attracts consequences and helps shape how the court views you as a defendant at the initial hearing. If you have any need to go to your house either to pick up your article of clothing or something that you have to have, you MUST contact either a sheriff or the police to supervise such a visit. You can NOT go near or be seen so many feet away from your house simply because you are the one who is paying for it ...it does NOT matter. If you do NOT want a FREE trip to a detention facility, stay away unless you have police to supervise your visit until you go for your initial hearing. But Nigerians let their emotions take over and they end up getting themselves into more trouble than they need to be in. Remember, the initial restraining or protective order is only temporary, maybe 10 days at the most, until a court hearing to determine whether the allegations are true or false. I always advise my clients to just stay away if they do NOT want to end up in jail. The system does NOT care whether you own the house or NOT as long as both of you shared that (matrimonial) home, your soon-to-be ex has the full right to it at least for now. A divorce as painful and devastating as it might be is NOT only for the spouses, it's even worse for the children especially if they are minors, but that's not a reason to make you lose your self-worth and end up destitute. There's life after a divorce! 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by linearity: 7:31pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Enemyofpeace: Village people dey wine you? Already the wife is accusing him of marital rape and you dey talk of konji? 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Alonso91(m): 7:31pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Wahala too much for marriage abeg Just pity we men |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by NwaliE01: 7:32pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Tell him not to move back into fire or sorry Nigeria. He can easily start up in UK rather than Nigeria. It's hard but it can always get better. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by ariesbull: 7:41pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
[quote author=IyaTola post=122550192][/quote] You can't see Indian or Asian women behave like this It's always Africans and blacks the women will want to pull their men down Na who do Blackman this 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by FireUpNow(m): 7:43pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
[quote author=IyaTola post=122550192][/quote] If the wife is a Nigerian and he did his wedding in Nigeria, he should lure the woman back to Nigeria and file for the divorce here or stay put in Naija and forget about the woman. My only worries is the kids and his life 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by zumbigbo(m): 7:44pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Ask him to call Hakimi's mum |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by ukaface(f): 7:46pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Nawa o Things Dey happen 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Jeezuzpick(m): 7:53pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
olabrinks: You don't wanna know what women have done (and are still doing) to men out there. See Hakimi, how his wife wanted to wipe his hard-earned money. He would have been destroyed after that. See rape case against CR7, see as Jeff Bezos wife cash out on am big time, look, the legal system is so skewed to favour women that sometimes, proper investigation is not done before the poor goon is hung out to dry. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by occfx: 7:59pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
thesicilian: Yea just forget about everything and everybody and restart but however, I won't rule out karma... You sure say the guy no follow oppress some guys for Nigeria destroy there marriage with pounds when the going was good. Lol. I dey fear everybody now ooo 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Noaim: 8:01pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
[quote author=IyaTola post=122550192][/quote] His lack of patience got him into the mess he is facing. It was a wrong move to go back there to see the kids without first seeking joint custody through the justice system. The law does not encourage allegations else every male in the UK will be in jail or have some kinda of criminal records for abuse allegations. In the Western world, once a legal relationship or marriage falls out, every subsequent action should have a legal backing with accumulated evidence. The African mentality does not work there. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by godwon01(m): 8:09pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
End of the story. Stop commenting on the story since it is plagiarism. Why people can't be original for God sake. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by abbey621(m): 8:17pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
sisisioge: Do you know that women cheat too? Do you understand that women become lazy and financially inept as well over the years? Is it wrong for a husband to expect home cooked meals, clean home and clothes while married? Would this be considered turning her into a maid even tho washing machine and dryer is installed and the husband only eats one meal at home per day? I believe when it comes to fairness in marriages, most of you women don't want fairness/equality, what most of you want is equity and preferential treatment. Look at U.K and U.S laws surrounding divorces, even when the woman is the reason for the divorce she still walks away happier in terms of financial compensation. It's a tale of two worlds, in 9ja divorce laws are too laxed while abroad it is too strict. Many men are suffering because they chose love over logic. You can love someone yet have the logic to understand that he/she may hurt you. The inability to prepare for the worst possible scenario is what gets most men depressed and dejected after divorce. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by olabrinks(f): 8:26pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
bukatyne:Absolutely. It is a criminal offence to lay your hands on someone. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by olabrinks(f): 8:29pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Omoawoke:He ruined his own life if he was physically violent/ abusing drugs etc. Lets take accountability for our actions. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Nweike1: 8:31pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
efficiencie:very true! |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by RangeCars(m): 8:33pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Hmmm, I feel very sorry for your friend and I hope he can get himself back and move on with his life. I saw this happen to someone close to me also, though they are in Nigeria, the wife also made up stories to lie about the husband despite the fact she was caught in the wrong place she didn’t want to explain why she was there. My advice to your friend is, he can’t avoid giving up on life and his purpose here on earth, God did not bring him this far to get wasted by someone he once called the love of his life. He needs to take hold of his thoughts and start channeling his energy for a possible outcome. He need to learn to start afresh and find his footing in God. A lot can happen for better for him, but he first needs to let go of the past and build himself back up again. Start afresh may be tough, but his journey back to the top will bring a better result compared to what he had experienced before. I wish he could give him a hug, and tell him “this too shall pass”. Pray for him, he is a bundle of testimony wanting to happen! 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by kaywhy09(m): 8:34pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
In all, going back to Nigeria shouldn't be part of his plans. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by abba09: 8:36pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
marriage is scam in the UK 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Nobody: 8:37pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
mployer:In Peter drury’s voice: and it’s Hakimiiiiiiiiiiii sublime finish, stunner!!! Just when everyone thought it was over. Hakimi pulls out a trick from his wildest of dreams, a blur of brilliance! 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by phenzy(m): 8:46pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
pappilo: I read about your ordeal in the other thread. Thank God fr your life. I am so happy for you. 1 Like |
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