Story of the day;

Hello Omajuwa. I am an only child who is 42years old. My mother refused to remarry after my father died when I was young. She sacrificed so much for me to be where I am today. I got married about 7years ago. My wife and I have been looking upto God for a child. After pleading with my wife for us to adopt at least a child to no avail, I decided to get my mum who stays with us to help me speak to her woman to woman. But this made them become sworn enemies. My wife since then talks to my mother anyhow and disrespects her every now and then. It has been like that for months.

Few days ago, while returning from work, I heard their loud shouts from outside but I remained outside waiting for the shouts to be over as I didn’t want to be put in the position of choosing a side. But I had to intervene when I heard a loud slap. My wife had slapped my mother. I was enraged but I kept my cool, took my mother from the scene and catered for her. I have since not said a word to my wife.

All I feel when I am at home is sadness and depression. I have no peace in my own home. I have sacrificed a whole lot just to make this marriage work. The woman I married has become someone else. I have defended this same woman from my extended family for years. I have been labeled a ritualist and all sorts of name due to our childlessness but I have never cheated and I have always defended my wife despite knowing that she is the one with fertility issues.

Even though my mother has been trying to put up a strong front since that day, I know that she has been crying herself to sleep. I love my wife so much but I love my mum too. What could my mother have possibly done to warrant her slapping my mother? I think my wife is selfish and is no longer who I married. Why would she rather constantly inflict pain and sadness on her own family? I just want peace of mind and I have made up my mind to divorce my wife. But hope this won’t be a mistake? Is there still a marriage to save here? How do I go about it? What do I do? Please help me.

This is true life story on radio station

I just listened to the program.

I will beat the hell out of such disrespectful wife

Red lines crossed

Nukilia:
Red lines crossed

she went too far

Your wife just gave you a reason not to trust her and try someone else, to your mother you are not man enough to scale through this small challenge,if I were you since she slapped my mother I will get another woman pregnant fast....... play smart there are over 100 million women in Nigeria alone.....

suckmedownthere:
Your wife just gave you a reason not to trust her and try someone else, to your mother you are not man enough to scale through this small challenge,if I were you since she slapped my mother I will get another woman pregnant fast....... play smart......

this is beyond the issue of trust, sending her away is the right thing to do now

Am I having eye issues or I actually saw 'she slapped the man's mother' in the post?

First mistake is putting two women to stay in the same space, you have literally put two burning woods together.

The bible says, for a man shall LEAVE his mother and father (the process of leaving his preparing himself to be a better man all round-financially, emotional and otherwise) and cling onto his wife. In addition, it also says who finds a wife find a good thing and obtain favor from God.

There was a reason your mom refused to remarry.
Your wife is wrong on all grounds to slap your mom irrespective of how angry she was.
Have you asked your mom what happened that day? Also ask your wife what happened that lead her to slap your mom, this should be done in the presence of both party and don't take sides at that point, don't let it escalate to a shouting match (act like a man in there presence), let your presence be felt by both parties in the meeting. After the meeting, thank them and tell them they would here from you soon.
Did you marry your wife legally? or it's a partnership relationship or co-habiting things?
The ball is in your court, act like a man for once. Women love men that take charge!!!

By the way, what's the fertility issue?
In addition, what did you mom tell your wife I decided to get my mum who stays with us to help me speak to her woman to woman. But this made them become sworn enemies. My wife since then talks to my mother anyhow and disrespects her every now and then. It has been like that for months.

I don't see any marriage to save here. Your wife has become very toxic. She went too far.
But why was your mum living with you guys? It doesn't ever end well.

I don't know what you can do to make this go away. Your mum and wife are both very bitter and may never ever be friends again in this life.

But you say you love your wife even though she's become something else.

Relocate your mum and get her a maid or another relation to live with her and allow things cool off.

It will take years for the relationship to bounce back between them.

But if your mum must remain with you, then your wife has to go, except she shows genuine repentance. She must go down on her knees to apologize and back it up with actions.

Note: A new wife is still not a surebanker. So choose your poison carefully.

QuinModah:
First mistake is putting two women to stay in the same space, you have literally put two burning woods together.

True, but she's insane for slapping her mother-in-law.

Young women should know that they will become mother-in-laws one day

UnusualEmissary:
Am I having eye issues or I actually saw 'she slapped the man's mother' in the post?

she did that and the weakling is still keeping her

SisterAnn:
I don't see any marriage to save here. Your wife has become very toxic. She went too far.
But why was your mum living with you guys? It doesn't ever end well.

I don't know what you can do to make this go away. Your mum and wife are both very bitter and may never ever be friends again in this life.

But you say you love your wife even though she's become something else.

Relocate your mum and get her a maid or another relation to live with her and allow things cool off.

It will take years for the relationship to bounce back between them.

But if your mum must remain with you, then your wife has to go, except she shows genuine repentance. She must go down on her knees to apologize and back it up with actions.

Note: A new wife is still not a surebanker. So choose your poison carefully.

No more repentance, she must go

Fineman2:
True, but she's insane for slapping her mother-in-law.

Young women should know that they will become mother-in-laws one day

She's very uncouth. The mum's sisters should show up and give her some wotowoto across the face. Nonsense!

Fineman2:
No more repentance, she must go

That's the best at this point. It could be temporary, depending on her conduct during the separation, it will determine if she's coming back or not.

SisterAnn:
She's very uncouth. The mum's sisters should show up and give her some wotowoto across the face. Nonsense!

she seriously deserves serious beating

SisterAnn:
She's very uncouth. The mum's sisters should show up and give her some wotowoto across the face. Nonsense!

Why call the sisters, it obvious the man lack balls.

QuinModah:
Why call the sisters, it obvious the man lack balls.

If he beats her, it could be easily turned against him. But the sisters have free hand to wotoporiously deal with her.

QuinModah:
Why call the sisters, it obvious the man lack balls.

And yes, he lacks balls for even going to radio with this tiny problem.

OP - the adoption discussion you had peacefully with your mom did not go peaceful between your mom and your wife… what exactly did your mom tell her and what did your wife reply?? An adoption discussion can not just result in months of shouting at each other …
There is more to the story ……

Wait ooo…. I just read somewhere that your wife slapped your mom…😂😂😂😂

What is the name of this movie ??

Wow how can your wife slap your mother? To me that’s absolutely disgusting I have nothing else to say. It’s unforgivable to me.

Fineman2:
Story of the day;

Hello Omajuwa. I am an only child who is 42years old. My mother refused to remarry after my father died when I was young. She sacrificed so much for me to be where I am today. I got married about 7years ago. My wife and I have been looking upto God for a child. After pleading with my wife for us to adopt at least a child to no avail, I decided to get my mum who stays with us to help me speak to her woman to woman. But this made them become sworn enemies. My wife since then talks to my mother anyhow and disrespects her now and then. It has been like that for months.

A few days ago, while returning from work, I heard their loud shouts from outside but I remained outside waiting for the shouts to be over as I didn’t want to be put in the position of choosing a side. But I had to intervene when I heard a loud slap. My wife had slapped my mother. I was enraged but I kept my cool, took my mother from the scene and catered for her. I have since not said a word to my wife.

All I feel when I am at home is sadness and depression. I have no peace in my own home. I have sacrificed a whole lot just to make this marriage work. The woman I married has become someone else. I have defended this same woman from my extended family for years. I have been labelled a ritualist and all sorts of names due to our childlessness but I have never cheated and I have always defended my wife despite knowing that she is the one with fertility issues.

Even though my mother has been trying to put up a strong front since that day, I know that she has been crying herself to sleep. I love my wife so much but I love my mum too. What could my mother have possibly done to warrant her slapping my mother? I think my wife is selfish and is no longer who I married. Why would she rather constantly inflict pain and sadness on her own family? I just want peace of mind and I have made up my mind to divorce my wife. But hope this won’t be a mistake. Is there still a marriage to save here? How do I go about it? What do I do? Please help me.

I acknowledged your patience and perseverance. Yet you are to be blamed because there are a lot of things you did not pay attention to before now which gave her the audacity. Only a woman that is perceived to be a slave to their own emotion why a man?
Slapped my mother! I wonder what that woman is still doing in your house till now, you haven't seen anything yet. If you failed to do the needful before it is too late.
Keep in mind, you are alone in this marriage because her body and soul have long left the marriage. The supposed tenant has fully grown into a full pledge landlady under your watch. I always remembering myself, your failure to act in full capacity as a man would make a woman to manoeuvre into her own advantage at the detriment of your own happiness. Take it or leave it women are smarter species created by God.

Have done more than you attempted for your wife ( extent of..... Wouldn't want to mention here ) but with boundary. Men are like goldsmiths that often mould tools (wife) to their intended purpose but NEVER ABUSE A WOMAN, cherish and respect them always.

Supper power does not belong to women because it will overrule their good sense of reasoning, if not put to check. I feel your pains but take heart! and act like a man you truly are. I'M NOWHERE NEAR 40 TO EVEN THINK OF IT. PLS, REMOVE YOUR AGE ABEG.

olabrinks:
Wow how can your wife slap your mother? To me that’s absolutely disgusting I have nothing else to say. It’s unforgivable to me.

very very unforgivable

PepperSauce:


I acknowledged your patience and perseverance. Yet you are to be blamed because there are a lot of things you did not pay attention to before now which gave her the audacity. Only a woman that is perceived to be a slave to their own emotion why a man?
Slapped my mother! I wonder what that woman is still doing in your house till now, keep in mind you haven't seen anything yet. If you failed to do the needful before it is too late.
Keep in mind, you are alone in this marriage because her body and soul have long left the marriage. The supposed tenant has fully grown into a full pledge landlady under your watch. I always remembering myself, your failure to act in full capacity as a man would make a woman to manoeuvre into her own advantage at the detriment of your own happiness. Take it or leave it women are smarter species created by God.

Have done more than you attempted for your wife ( extent of..... Wouldn't want to mention here ) but with boundary. Men are like goldsmiths that often mould tools (wife) to their intended purpose but NEVER ABUSE A WOMAN, cherish and respect them always.

Supper power does not belong to women because it will overrule their good sense of reasoning, if not put to check. I feel your pains but take heart! and act like a man you truly are.

the man is very weak, his wife knows his Achilles heel

Fineman2:
Story of the day;

I have always defended my wife despite knowing that she is the one with fertility issues.

How true is this! If you are certain about this, and she is also the one rejecting adoption plan, then she is on a mission to destroy you.

You have to save yourself and your family from her evil intentions by showing her the way out. The earlier the better.

True story fire! Unless the woman is the bread winner and it is sure that the man is the one with the fertility issue, this can not be true in naija! Woman wey never born go still dey cause trouble dey slap mother inlaw and husband see say she slap him mama but no do anything. Continue o....more grease to una elbows.

Fineman2:
Story of the day;

Hello Omajuwa. I am an only child who is 42years old. My mother refused to remarry after my father died when I was young. She sacrificed so much for me to be where I am today. I got married about 7years ago. My wife and I have been looking upto God for a child. After pleading with my wife for us to adopt at least a child to no avail, I decided to get my mum who stays with us to help me speak to her woman to woman. But this made them become sworn enemies. My wife since then talks to my mother anyhow and disrespects her every now and then. It has been like that for months.

Few days ago, while returning from work, I heard their loud shouts from outside but I remained outside waiting for the shouts to be over as I didn’t want to be put in the position of choosing a side. But I had to intervene when I heard a loud slap. My wife had slapped my mother. I was enraged but I kept my cool, took my mother from the scene and catered for her. I have since not said a word to my wife.

All I feel when I am at home is sadness and depression. I have no peace in my own home. I have sacrificed a whole lot just to make this marriage work. The woman I married has become someone else. I have defended this same woman from my extended family for years. I have been labeled a ritualist and all sorts of name due to our childlessness but I have never cheated and I have always defended my wife despite knowing that she is the one with fertility issues.

Even though my mother has been trying to put up a strong front since that day, I know that she has been crying herself to sleep. I love my wife so much but I love my mum too. What could my mother have possibly done to warrant her slapping my mother? I think my wife is selfish and is no longer who I married. Why would she rather constantly inflict pain and sadness on her own family? I just want peace of mind and I have made up my mind to divorce my wife. But hope this won’t be a mistake? Is there still a marriage to save here? How do I go about it? What do I do? Please help me.

While you take care of your mum who was humiliated and insulted by your wife, start making plans to return your wife to his parents

You guys need a break

Just a normal woman discussion she beats your mum

What will she now do to you when you guys are alone and you are telling her about adoption as she just doesn't want to talk about it

Why is she against that process or does she love the condition both of you are facing

I think you have protected her enough, let her return to her parents and use that opportunity to give her time to advice herself since you said you love her

And if she starts showing interest to make peace then let her apologize to your mum then let her start the processing of adoption while you follow up where your presence is needed

Remember she has to do so from her father's house and when it's time to receive the child both of you will go together and bring the child home

You continue to watch her behavior and attitude if there are changes

Fineman2:
she did that and the weakling is still keeping her

He says he loves her 🤣🤣

Fineman2:
■ Even though my mother has been trying to put up a strong front since that day, I know that she has been crying herself to sleep. I love my wife so much but I love my mum too. What could my mother have possibly done to warrant her slapping my mother? I think my wife is selfish and is no longer who I married. Why would she rather constantly inflict pain and sadness on her own family? I just want peace of mind and I have made up my mind to divorce my wife. But hope this won’t be a mistake? Is there still a marriage to save here? How do I go about it? What do I do? Please help me.

1. Given your mind is made up on divorcing her, then consider engaging a professional marriage counselor to help bring you both to the same page on that or anything else you both eventually decide.

I wonder what the guy is still waiting for?

His balls must be very tiny

Your wife crossed a very big red line. No amount of provocation should've brought about such dehumanization. She disrespected you, your late dad and every thing that bears your last name by laying her filthy hands on your mum.

If she could slap your mum, slapping or even killing you will not be a big deal to her. That's the kind of strong heart such women have.

Well, it shows the kind of man you are too. I am very disciplined, can be very loving, gentle and respectful but I will never tolerate such attitude from a woman I call my wife.

For me, the marriage is over but it's your call, not mine.

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