grandstar:
I don't blame the women. Will the men smile if their wives are cheating? Nowadays, many married women cheat.

They were into runs and hook-up before marriage, so may not see it as a big thing.

Others who engaged in them stopped once they got married and expect their husbands to be faithful which may be asking too much in Nigeria of today!

a woman don’t pay to marry a man. Men dictate what goes on in the house they marry and bring the women into.
Women do worse when they dictate the game

Encrypted wisdom

Donjazet2:
My only question for the original poster is this;

If the man is allowed to have a side chic and sleep outside the marriage, is the woman also given that same free roam?

Because what you've outlined here seems to be one-sided and caused by financial patrimony.

I hope all women reading this understand that they must strive to be financially independent, don't let yourself or your source of money be from any man even your husband.

Love and cherish any man you have, be obidient and respectful to him but make sure you are earning in your own right. Find something legit that pays you.

a woman is not allowed to do so because it is the men that pay bride price to bring women into their homes. Women will do worse when they are to pay groom price

dawnomike:
Every woman, especially wives should endeavour to be financially empowered!!!

It doesn't solve the problem. Women need men to lead them. It's never about the finance.

PreetyAngel4U:


How would you ensure that they do not contract STDs after you have confirmed? You will tie them down or use CCTV to monitor their movements? Them too, they don't want to get married and have people who they don't use protection with?

Protection is the surest way, We can’t have it all in life. I won’t sleep with anybody’s wife neither will I force any woman, nor take advantage of any woman. For example, sex for job or sex for grade is a non no. Doing that has a cosmic negative energy.
But there will always be ladies that just like you as much as you like them and will get wet for you. If a lady is ready to go out with me out of her free will and she isn’t married, and I find her attractive, what’s bad in exploring her land of pleasures and enjoy the heavens she has to offer on earth?

godliman:
If you know the long term consequences of this side chic nonsense you won't be saying this. Side chick can lead to either of these complications:
1. The chic may use juju to turn the husband's heart from his wife for good. They make men abandon their real wives.
2. It leads to baby mama. The husband can simply marry the side chic on the long run and begin raising another set of family elsewhere.
3. The promiscuous husband can bring home HIV and other STIs to 'finish' his innocent wife.
4. The side chic might kill him if she wants to.
5. The side chic might kill the real wife and reign without rival.
Don't blame wives who quit, aside the pain, their lives may not be safe. I however don't support prostitution or remarriage.
The solution is marry as genuine Christians without premarital sex. A man who only eats his wife's soup is content but the one who eats about compares.

Life is full of risks..
Even single men without women still ends up dead..
Europeans brought Christianity and their morals and forced it down your throat..
The traditional African home was polygamous and your so called Christian homes of today,is neither happier nor does the marriage last better..
You can't cheat nature,you can devise whichever means you like,to control man..
His natural tendencies would still shine forth..
It is what it is..

dazzlingd:



Protection is the surest way, We can’t have it all in life. I won’t sleep with anybody’s wife neither will I force any woman, nor take advantage of any woman. For example, sex for job or sex for grade is a non no. Doing that has a cosmic negative energy.
But there will always be ladies that just like you as much as you like them and will get wet for you. If a lady is ready to go out with me out of her free will and she isn’t married, and I find her attractive, what’s bad in exploring her land of pleasures and enjoy the heavens she has to offer on earth?

Why wouldn't you date a married woman as a married man? What now makes you feel that it is okay for another woman to be dating a married man?

PreetyAngel4U:


Why wouldn't you date a married woman as a married man? What now makes you feel that it is okay for another woman to be dating a married man?

Because we are men

And it is a simple law of nature. Nature made it that way for one man to own as many females as he is capable of. But humans laws only restricting this simple law of nature

Look at national geo, you see male dominating a territory and own all the females in that territory, for another male to enter its territory is war, fight to death. It is made that way for survival of a specie.

For a specie to ensure continuity, it needs just few males but numerous females. One male can mate as many females as possible but one female cannot mate all the males in a kingdom.

Let me ask you, if the world were to end and we need to keep the human race running. And the space ship will take only a few humans away to start a new world.
Your task is to select new people to continue the black race to survive. You are to make your choice from this two options;
Option 1. 20 males and 1 female
Option 2. 1 male and 20 females

Which option will u choose to ensure continuity of the black race?

Of course, option 2 has more chances of faster reproduction and survival.

Even if all the 20 males mate the 1 female in her life time, she may not birth more than 5 to 10 offspring’s

But the 1 fertile male can impregnate the 20 females and each of them birth average of 5 each

dazzlingd:


Because we are men

And it is a simple law of nature. Nature made it that way for one man to own as many females as he is capable of. But humans laws only restricting this simple law of nature

Look at national geo, you see male dominating a territory and own all the females in that territory, for another male to enter its territory is war, fight to death. It is made that way for survival of a specie.

For a specie to ensure continuity, it needs just few males but numerous females. One male can mate as many females as possible but one female cannot mate all the males in a kingdom.

Let me ask you, if the world were to end and we need to keep the human race running. And the space ship will take only a few humans away to start a new world.
Your task is to select new people to continue the black race to survive. You are to make your choice from this two options;
Option 1. 20 males and 1 female
Option 2. 1 male and 20 females

Which option will u choose to ensure continuity of the black race?

Of course, option 2 has more chances of faster reproduction and survival.

Even if all the 20 males mate the 1 female in her life time, she may not birth more than 5 to 10 offspring’s

But the 1 fertile male can impregnate the 20 females and each of them birth average of 5 each

Yes, in other words, (some) men are like animals in the animal kingdom. I wonder why women are not being impregnated by their male children like animals.

PreetyAngel4U:


Yes, in other words, (some) men are like animals in the animal kingdom. I wonder why women are not being impregnated by their male children like animals.

Im sure u got my points, and there are many males in the animal kingdom that won’t mate their offsprings

donbenie:
Life is full of risks..
Even single men without women still ends up dead..
Europeans brought Christianity and their morals and forced it down your throat..
The traditional African home was polygamous and your so called Christian homes of today,is neither happier nor does the marriage last better..
You can't cheat nature,you can devise whichever means you like,to control man..
His natural tendencies would still shine forth..
It is what it is..

Oyinbo system is worse, an African man will marry like 3 women and all of them live together.
Oyinbo came and said that’s bad and offer you one man one woman with option of divorce. Now men marry and divorce as many times as they can. You see a man that have been married like 4 times, with the kids from different women living under different homes all causing confusion and loss of identity.
Which is worse? Polygamy or divorce?

laivwire:
This is for women or men who are not self sufficient. It goes both ways. That's why it's important everyone develops and ensures they are financially independent at least.

The problem women has is environmental, when she is young she is raised to believe that any man who loves her should provide everything she wants. That's why the moment you toast a Nigerian girl, 2 hours later she is billing you already.

With this mindset you hear most of them tells a struggling young man 'You no get money you dey toast woman?'. They grow up this way into married adults who believes it is the husband's responsibility to take care of the home, theirs is just to cook, look after the children and watch movies at home. Some of them don't even mind checking up on what their men does for a living. They don't want to be involved in his business so they learn how it runs.

Then suddenly, death or divorce comes and takes the man away and she now realizes she is economically useless. Some can still re-package themselves to start hoeing but the competition from younger female counterparts is fierce. The men are generally looking for younger females. Depression comes thereafter.

Oh ye young girls of Nigeria, be economically empowered, learn a skill or a trade, work for your own money. In the long run you will be glad you did.

missyblissy:


Ooh sorry boo boo am married. Am with the man that completes me. Keep searching dont give up, there are many lafies that think like me eh.

This is what I called instant breakfast, she served me hot hot!

I don't Cheat not because I Cant, And I don't stay Loyal because I am, But I don't wanna be a Reason That someone stop Believing in love💟💖💛 cause of me, I don't want Someone to Stay awake at night crying 😭😭because of me, I don't wanna Turn Someone's Child into a laughing stock, and I'm not saying I'm PERFECT
I just Realised at this Age, Cheating is Immature and Disgusting😫.

IyaebeTheGreat:
See as you and others are sounding so cool online but it's entirely a different ball game in reality. But I somehow believe you because you are a very busy guy and might be too occupied to handle multiple women but it doesn't stop you from getting down with any aoof that crosses your path 🤣

Irony is I've turned down alot of offer. Sex is cheap, a baby isn't. Read the framework for poverty book, reckless sex and having a baby is the fastest way to be broke as a man.

I don't mess around because I know some bit.ches want to retire on my head. Not every man thinks with his penis.

The writer might be right to an extends but it's one sided, it applies to both gender.

This thread is full of HIV/AIDS. Keep thinking that women do not desire men as much as men desire women. I see so many married women with more than one man. People are just deceiving themselves.

dontiky:
a woman don’t pay to marry a man. Men dictate what goes on in the house they marry and bring the women into.
Women do worse when they dictate the game

Values very from place. What may portend in Nigeria is not what portends in England. Many Nigerian men would find it challenging marrying a white British lady as they believe the man must engage in housework. It is considered an obligation.

If you want to divorce, at least you know of Hakimi's case), she may take half of your wealth.

The best thing is to follow the Bible's standards of outright fidelity to one's spouse. All others are man made wisdom which has ended up doing far more damage than good.

At the end of the day, no matter how wise we are, we will render judgment to the originator of marriage ( Read Ephesians 3:15, Hebrews 13:4)

Please

dazzlingd:


You can cheat the system, get yourself one wife, but bang as many women as you can in your life time. Don’t just get caught by your wife so you can maintain a healthy family. Don’t let your kids find out too so you will keep your respect.
Make plenty money and go on some kind vacations where you can chop your life and what happens there stays there

And what about God, a system that can never be cheated and nothing is unknown to him?

dawnomike:
Every woman, especially wives should endeavour to be financially empowered!!!

That is actually the lesson in the OP.

Rutimillz:
A good woman builds her home not crashing it

Who crashed the home in this case:

The adulterous husband or the wife who cannot stand adultery?

Earthstorms:
It hurts when the trust is broken that is why some women leave a cheating husband.

However life later force such women to either become someone else side chick or a second wife. So the women do not really escape sharing the men.

What can the women really do? It is a man's world in Africa so it is more difficult for women to survive and take care of the kids alone. The first mistake they make when leaving is that they take the kids along.

To me, if a woman is leaving a man because he is cheating, she should leave the kids for him and bother only about herself.

leave your kids behind in the care of another woman? Lol

Dont try it. They should push for child support.

He was fully yours. He cheats, but he was fully yours.


Definition of useless mental gymnastics if I ever saw one.

And why is there the assumption that she can’t provide for her kids?

koladata:
Men were never designed to sleep with one woman for the rest of their lives. That's why there's a virginity seal on women at birth while there's no seal on men. Even in basic biology, men's sexual anatomy is completely different , the hormones and desires are referent. most of us have only come to accept this one man one woman thing because someone wrote it in the bible which i'm sure God didn't write that thing, he's not an author of confusion because that would have contradict his designs.

That’s why all of you are fathering each other’s kids because you’re polygamous in nature. It’s only natural for another man’s kids to be in your house because he’s practicing his god given right to sleep with as many women as possible including yours

godliman:
If you know the long term consequences of this side chic nonsense you won't be saying this. Side chick can lead to either of these complications:
1. The chic may use juju to turn the husband's heart from his wife for good. They make men abandon their real wives.
2. It leads to baby mama. The husband can simply marry the side chic on the long run and begin raising another set of family elsewhere.
3. The promiscuous husband can bring home HIV and other STIs to 'finish' his innocent wife.
4. The side chic might kill him if she wants to.
5. The side chic might kill the real wife and reign without rival.
Don't blame wives who quit, aside the pain, their lives may not be safe. I however don't support prostitution or remarriage.
The solution is marry as genuine Christians without premarital sex. A man who only eats his wife's soup is content but the one who eats about compares.

Exactly

Rutimillz:
A good woman builds her home not crashing it

Some home can't be build, no matter how much the woman try if the Man is not responsible all the woman effort to build it will all go in vain because the man will keep destroying it,co operation between two couples is very important in marriage or in any relationship, some man don't have Sense of settled down or sense of building a great future some men don't even have plans for the futures so if anylady got such man there's no future ahead all the woman will go through is suffering,pain,frustration especially when you have a baby for the man,trying all your efforts to make things work out but keep on getting disappointed,
the person you are trying to build a great Future with is busy thinking of which woman he will go on next,cheating is all that is in their mind woman is what they can only think of such man can't be build no matter what

MrBroke:
If not pride and society, men cheating shouldn't be a thing for women especially the married once.

YoU Are right but as a man when you cheat think of how your wife will fell when she finds out then do it in secret way some men are big cheater they do it even if their wife is aware they keep doing it and the worst part is bringing your wife down for the sidechic also bringing the sidechic to the bed you and your wife sleep on and even allow the sidechic to use your wife cloth God men are terrible

koladata:
Men were never designed to sleep with one woman for the rest of their lives. That's why there's a virginity seal on women at birth while there's no seal on men. Even in basic biology, men's sexual anatomy is completely different , the hormones and desires are referent. most of us have only come to accept this one man one woman thing because someone wrote it in the bible which i'm sure God didn't write that thing, he's not an author of confusion because that would have contradict his designs.

No one even wrote it in the bible. It is just misinterpretation that is worrying christians.