₦airaland Forum

qbqetell:
The acceptable reason you might consider marriage is to procreate, just like your father procreated you.
And even at that, extreme caution must be taken.

If you are considering marriage for any other reason, you might want to ask if you have learnt anything at all.

If you are considering marriage for love, you still haven't been unplugged. Romantic love is an illusion. (Would write on this specifically some day).
If you are considering marriage for sex, without mincing word, you're delusional.
If you are considering marriage because of pressure, you are about making a mistake you'd regret for decades of your life.
If you are considering marriage so you can always have someone who would always have your back, you have choose the worst way to go about it.

zenithgroup:
True talk. [b][/b]Am considering marriage to have someone to have my back; what do you suggest is the best way to go about it if not marriage?

Tonnyray:
Deep.

dhiqson:
Mehnnnnn

Tonnyray:
If we live a self-directed, self-motivated, self-centered life, always needing to get our own way, then we’re going to be miserable. In fact, many times we believe it’s our problems that are making us unhappy when, in reality, it’s because we’re focused on ourselves!
– Joyce Meyer

KennethIbe59:
You can also procreate without getting married marriage is overrated

akwesenana:
Dexter08, the 'spare the rod part', do you mean you cousins beat him up?

logicalhumour:
^^^
@Dexter08

What if I told you that the "black" behaviour was (mostly) genetic?

And what if I also told you that you shared false statistics according to the Census Bureau's Current Population Survey?

traware:
@Emboldened

On paper,this sounds all well and good but in reality,this leads to disastrous consequences for communities/societies and especially for the children involved.

All one has to do is to take a peek at the black american community where from the 1970s till present day 80% of them (yes 80%) were and are still being born in single parent households and just look at the sh.itshow that community has become.

What about the black south african community where single parenthood has sky rocketed for decades and look at how that community is hilariously collapsing on itself.

Even here in Nigeria,i have seen the damage and harm single parenthood/co-parenting has caused to children.

In essence the message i am trying to get across is,if a man wants children then he should get married because a two parent household may be a pain in the ass for men but it still remains the best viable option in giving a child a head start in life.

P.S.This sphere does not appreciate single mothers.Hence,those in it,should endeavour not to create more of them.

Dexter08:
Dear men,
I write after a long while to tell you this, that you are only love for your resources.

Just this week I lost my uncle. I dare say, his death was not as a result of his time coming to an end, his was as a result of losing the qualities that made him a man, husband and father.

Many years ago, he was what men were suppose to be or what men were groomed to be: a provider, a protector, a leader.

But one day things would go awry in 2005 I believe, as my uncle was shot almost 16 times by a gang of thieves on his way to the capital. How he survived all that to the year 2023 is a mystery in itself.

He might later become strong physically after that event, but mentally he never recovered. He lost his job. And losing his job meant he was no longer the provider, the protector, a leader and a beloved father.

This man that was loved by all, became something of a joke in his family. His wife disrespected him, his children cussed him out and sometimes they did not spare the rod on him which normally reverse should be the case.

I am definitely sure all of that frustration surely culminated to his death.

As I sat down thinking about the man, it hit me hard that as a man, you are only love for what you bring to the table. Nobody loves you for your hair, your bodily features.

You are only love for your resources. I dare say even your mothers are not left out.

I write to you today dear men, guard your resources judiciously, ruthlessly most especially when you get to the pinnacle of success.

They will call you stingy, wicked, even close the divide just underneath them. Dear men that shouldn't deter you from being frugal with your resources for should things go awry today, they won't hesitate to shame you and give you my uncle treatment as posted above.

Dear men, you are not love unconditionally, you are only for your resources!!!!

Rizzputin:
You made a great point. Red pill men are quick to attack single mothers but actively and deceptively create them

Marriage is still the best for a well functioning society. Whether if you want to marry one wife or 4.

Men that despise marriages are just weak and running away from a situation they feel is bigger than men

Mandela27:
lol I swear,I will say it again,I wish I never met redpill in 2020....my life became something else,I was bitter towards women,and at the same time very lonely....but before then I was very good with women and getting my own pound of flesh but when I met redpill,my life changed....bros,women are angels,adore them and watch how sweet and smooth ur life will be.

U can decide to go celibate,that one is acceptable,but pls don't be bitter towards women,it will affect u spiritually and mentally.

Rizzputin:
@bolded. 100% Facts. I don't where these fake àss get the impression that waiting for a girl to come to you is game.

That's literally the poorest form of game I've ever seen in my life. The worst past is he's saying that if you don't do it, you're a simp.

I'm beginning to think there are more clowns in red pill than i realized

Watch how they come to quote you and say "that's now what they mean" when it's the only thing they ever talk about

It's their no marriage talk that made me realize how lost they are

JovialRPiller:

odenkirk:
it never happen here in the north