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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Nobody: 8:41pm On May 16, 2023
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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Faposky95: 8:41pm On May 16, 2023
xpressionx:
Gambling is as dangerous as taking hard substance,once you're hooked you are hooked.

I know a guy that sold his car to gamble.

Only God can save you.

Who saves ? .... definitely.not a human....almost
Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by OgwuEgo: 8:42pm On May 16, 2023
Divorce him and marry me.
Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Nobody: 8:43pm On May 16, 2023
E no go pass Virtual.

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Faposky95: 8:43pm On May 16, 2023
It's like with the coin.....we all love the winner.....
Wat about if he was always winning....?!
Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by occfx: 8:43pm On May 16, 2023
Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.


Why did you marry him?
Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by vickydevoka(m): 8:43pm On May 16, 2023
Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.

Gambling is bad . I stopped gambling last 2 years, I came back and I lost 800k , I couldn't sleep. I used 250k I won 1.1 million. Na so I run. Very bad. I even by one of my babes phone of 90k say money no dey. I come say if to say I know I for kuku get her better phone. Thank God say I recover o. 1.1millon 50k for don go infact dem go even chop me reach 3 million say I de try recover

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by treatise: 8:43pm On May 16, 2023
destiny4luv:


Sorry for ur present predicament, well I was once a strong victim of gambling, my wife and I always have strong misunderstanding in that regard, but my wife on the other hand instead of arguing always she puts everything in prayers and find ways to talk to me in the most polite way. I didn't quit all of a sudden it was a gradual process. Though to be sincere I play game once in a while but not an addict anymore, just for fun. Adopt same and stop fighting him. All the best.
Low odds in this case, maximum of 3(with higher degree of certainty) with higher stakes are still rewarding; strategy matters

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by omoadeleye(m): 8:43pm On May 16, 2023
Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.



One day he go boom millions oo, fear who never collect

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by nappy760(m): 8:43pm On May 16, 2023
Baba ijebu crew I guess.... It's addiction is worse than drug.

I don't even know what to say than to pray

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Billionaire2: 8:44pm On May 16, 2023
labake1:
God knows I hate men who gamble, smoke and drinks

Your choice ,
the worst monsters out there donโ€™t gamble, smoke nor drinkโ€ฆ

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Waywardson6: 8:44pm On May 16, 2023
Madam, you should have known who you were getting married too, especially during courtship. It was sweet, that you ignored the signs. Besides, in Nigeria, marriage is a very big achievement that should even enter the Guinness book of records. Madam, you can never change a man, don't be deceived by so called church people. He is what he is, 'A CHRONIC GAMBLER' & he will ruin your life in time, if he doesn't change. So? You either divorce him or gamble away with him.

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by donproject2(m): 8:44pm On May 16, 2023
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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by duality(m): 8:45pm On May 16, 2023
Almost everyone says gambling is bad. Yet the bet shops are full of people

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by vickydevoka(m): 8:45pm On May 16, 2023
Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.

Is simple. Be in charge of his money. If he really loves you he will do it

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Westernequinox: 8:46pm On May 16, 2023
Pray, gambling is a serious addiction, it takes that God organizes certaIn experiences to cleanse him of the nature, He would never listen to yours advice as long as he is deluded by the millions he is going to win

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Minatouchiha(m): 8:46pm On May 16, 2023
Leave him alone. It's 50/50 now. There's nothing you can do for him as regards that.
Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by porthouse7(f): 8:47pm On May 16, 2023
He won't stop

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Pray(m): 8:47pm On May 16, 2023
Leave am, he go make am
Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by KazikageSama: 8:47pm On May 16, 2023
Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.


Keep praying for him.
Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by eniolorunfe: 8:47pm On May 16, 2023
sad E be like say the men wey dey on top this table plenty

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Nobody: 8:47pm On May 16, 2023
I feel ur pain. Start planning ur escape by;
Looking for a job. No matter how small the salary, atleast u re doing something.
Try to save from ur salary, no matter how small.
Try not to quarell or argue with him again, u re going 2 kill urself for nothing.
Whenever he doesn't drop money for food, dont ask him or remind him of it, look for a way for u and ur baby to eat.
Keep little portions of food for him, (that's after u and ur baby must had ur fill)
Dont forget, TRY not 2 argue or quarell with him. Anytime he wants to bring up an arguement, just smile and tell him it's well.

And lastly, stop praying

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by alizma: 8:47pm On May 16, 2023
Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.

How old is your marriage, how many kids do you have, are you a working class lady or full time house wife?
Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by ElijahIme1992(m): 8:47pm On May 16, 2023
Madam just keep praying for him one day him go win lottery.๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Pray(m): 8:49pm On May 16, 2023
Life indeed is a gamble. You too gambled when you decided to marry him. Cos you were like will we be happy together etc. So chill.
Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by xukwaa: 8:50pm On May 16, 2023
I gamble until I won something good. Stop chastising. Gambling is a way of life. Take my message for real and you hammer tomorrow.

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Officialetila(m): 8:50pm On May 16, 2023
Take it easy with him,I own two houses and a car:I wouldโ€™ve won 200m yesterday on draws if not the late minutes goal courtesy gambling

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by histemple: 8:50pm On May 16, 2023
Dearlove2me:
He really does annoying things. How can a grown man gamble away with all he has and return home empty expecting food to eat from his wife and little baby whom he left without anything?
My attitude has nothing to do here. What I tolerant, even you can not withstanding it.

Yesterday was the very first time I really insulted him. It was very annoying but I later regretted it though.

You need more education. Just from the way you sound here, you have a wrong attitude. I may just excuse you on the presumption that you are battling frustration presently.

Your husband is slipping into depression and only a more mature person with the right attitude and calmness can help him.

Let me shock you. There is no happy gambling addict. They are all sad just that they can't help themselves. They ALL know they are doing the wrong thing.

Just be calm and counsel him, that is the only solution. Nagging will complicate the whole thing, he may even become violent with time.

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by xukwaa: 8:52pm On May 16, 2023
I can give you 2 odds sure with the level I don reach now. Who cares? Don't bother. Gamble to reach my level of stating my fact.

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Re: How Am I Suppose To Fight For My Home Here? by Zealag(m): 8:52pm On May 16, 2023
Cut his hand,give him short sleeve ๐Ÿ˜

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