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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by dustydee: 3:58pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
AirBay:Where did she say she is rushing? And if the relationship has broken down, she will be right to rush the divorce so she can move on with her life. Imagine if she finds the love of her life but cannot commit because she is still married to the guy. How is she "dragging divorce"? You guys just form an opinion and spew it out as facts. 7 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by AirBay: 4:26pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
dustydee: Kindly read and digest my post properly before quoting. The OP was asking if there is anything she can do to facilitate the divorce process so that her ex can travel to the UK ad a dependant to another person. She never mentioned she has seen another love of her life. My response was based on her post here. In my opinion, I believe the ex should be the one looking for a means to speed up the divorce process and not her. That's my own opinion, yours may be different From the OP's post Thank you. I intend to start the divorce process asap but divorce in Nigeriq takes time the reason I'm asking if there's anything else I need to do to enable him be with whoever he wants as a dependent. If she wants a divorce, she can file one immediately, I am not against that 3 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by justwise(m): 4:45pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
Drey1: ojtopsy: This thread is a comedy club 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by justwise(m): 4:55pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
ojtopsy:Do they know each other before? Work mate or friends? |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by ojtopsy: 5:11pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Zahra29: 5:21pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
Drey1: Akata is a derogatory term, and you've also managed to insult "original" naija ladies who you must think are the ones to tolerate rubbish and "do the do" with in your words. 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by ELff: 5:21pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
AirBay: I am helping myself. I have always wanted to but just been dragging my feet as I was waiting for certain things to align. I don't have a problem with him doing it as he's the one who needs it the most now. Either way, we wil start the divorce process. Thanks for your input. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by AirBay: 5:24pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
ELff: Exactly my point. Best of luck. 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by ojtopsy: 5:31pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
Zahra29: People should please read the post several times and understand before commenting cuz it's obvious comprehension is a big problem around here. Why not read it properly and understand the issue rather than rush to make comments. I asked for best way forward and not banters please where is @lexusg450 Thehrguy and the rest that have good knowledge of conflict resolution and strategies. I need way forward please and not judgements |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by ojtopsy: 5:31pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
Zahra29: People should please read the post several times and understand before commenting cuz it's obvious comprehension is a big problem around here. Why not read it properly and understand the issue rather than rush to make comments. I asked for best way forward and not banters please where is @lexusg450 Thehrguy and the rest that have good knowledge of conflict resolution and strategies. I need way forward please and not judgements and threads derailment. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Zahra29: 6:16pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
ojtopsy: Where was I making bants? Silly comment that should be directed at the OP who made the akata comment. Besides people can only give detailed advice when in possession of more facts. You have given only one side of the story - your friend's. Why would his company be hell bent on destroying his life? is the patient taking up legal action against them? You mentioned that the police did not find any evidence of wrong doing so that should mean that the police investigation is over and his uni should be able to reinstate him on that basis. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by dustydee: 6:27pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
AirBay:So because she wants to "facilitate" the divorce means she is rushing ? You twisted her staements to suit your conclusions and that, in my opinion, is wrong. 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Ishilove: 6:38pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
ojtopsy:Why will he even be having intimate conversations with a patient? Na him do hinself |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by ojtopsy: 6:39pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
Zahra29:Silly comments attack and counter attacks are recipes for thread derailment and banters which I dont want at all. thanks for your response. the system is not working like that, he is still grounded as we speak even with the police involvement. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Viruses: 6:40pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
ojtopsy:If police didn't find anything after investigation and further injustice is still being meted out, go to court. The problem now is the resources to go to court. 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by ojtopsy: 6:41pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
Ishilove:Here we go again please read what you wrote and the request being made and come back. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by ojtopsy: 6:44pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
Viruses: The process and cost is the impediment here. But if this is what will solve the problem please lawyers in the house lets hear from you. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by iyatrustee(f): 7:28pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
ojtopsy: You seem to want to hear only what suits you. For safeguarding purposes, some organisations don't allow staff to give service user's a ride. It is meant to safeguard the staff from allegations such as this, also keeps the vulnerable patient from abuse and exploitation. Does your company expressly allow you do that? You are in a fiduciary relationship with your patient and should never have entertained the initimate conversation in the first place. It is your word against her's at this point. If you have the resources to hire a lawyer, then go ahead 5 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by worry357: 7:51pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
ojtopsy: You and your friend have to face up to facts. In the UK this is a serious allegation. Even if cleared by a court this will be on his record forever. No on in care agency is going to take a chance employing him ever. Any school is not going to want him there with the possibility of him doing it again. If anything did happen they would be pulled to pieces. Wether or not its true your friend is now poisoned by the accusation from any legal job that he gives his background detail. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by dupyshoo: 7:59pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
He needs to stop talking and should instead seek legal advice. If he is not careful, he will end up in sex offenders list. ojtopsy: |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Peerielass: 8:23pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
Drey1: This right here is what’s called ‘unconscious bias’ 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by semmyk(m): 8:37pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
Let's start off on this note. - is the suspension with pay or without pay. Expectedly, it's with pay. - is there a letter of suspension. If so, did the letter mentioned... suspension in view of investigation towards disciplinary hearing ... If the letter includes statement similar to the italic, you would be under the ambit of labour matter. Then ACAS becomes your go-to for advice or to lodge complaint towards employment Tribunal. If not, you might have to go the Court route on civil litigation. Going employment dispute might work best though. bigtt76:PS: Bigtt76 asked if there's a recording. Kindly answer this. If you're unsure, you'll need to demand. NB: it appears your friend has been opening his mouth too wide. In law, silence is golden. One does not go gara gara, especially the typical 9ja way. ojtopsy:Herewith within the limit of one-sided [audi alteram partem] -- ex patient or service user raised a sexual complaint At the time of the alleged incident, it the patient a subsisting patient or ex patient -- against her previous carer Ditto, at the time of incident, is she, the patient, ex or current. Was the complaint filed while a patient or ex patient Is the patient claiming she stopped/revoke the care service due to the incidence -- since last year August and he has been suspended from work ever since ... till now the issue is still on the table From Aug 2022, we are looking upward of 9 mths. That's gross. Can investigation takes so long, yes it can. Should it, heck no. Bearing no unforseen or unknown fact, your friend is within his right to file (labour) employment dispute. Link: ACAS: Investigations for discipline ... Approaching ACAS should be the first step, however, in most certainty, your friend might need a good employment lawyer. Obviously, not charge and bail!!! -- mentioned hes schooling in a university, As mentioned earlier, your friend must learn to be circumspect with words while not uneconomical or labeled as uncooperative. It's a balance within the ambit of ... reserve the right to be silent 😷 -- so they now went ahead to write the Uni to inform them hes under investigation so the uni asked him to stay away until he is cleared ... ... the police have been invited and they couldnt find any evidence of misbehavior. In this instance, let your friend approach the university with the police report (findings). On the basis of ... innocent until proven guilty ... the university should lift the bar. If not, your friend lodge a dispute with the university ombudsman (if there's one) and/or OIAHE: Office of the Independent Adjudicator for Higher Education Let your friend read more from Office for Students - https://www.officeforstudents.org.uk/for-students/ofs-and-students/complaints/complaints-about-a-university-or-college/ PS: if your friend can afford it, let him approach the likes of HCB Solicitor (hcbgroup {dot} com). -- that very week wahala started You mentioned earlier that ... It took months for the details of the so called offence that led to safeguard was even known o ... Which is which. Kindly clarify. You may want to read these regarding rights during investigation [1] https://castleassociates {.} org.uk/ blog/i-am-being-investigated-at-work-what-are-my-rights [2] www {.} richardnelsonllp.co.uk/ what-are-my-rights-if-im-being-investigated-at-work/ The advice herein are not construed as legal advisory as contemplated in law 14 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Ishilove: 8:41pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
ojtopsy:And come back unto say wetin? Guy carry your cross 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by babajeje123(m): 9:55pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
iyatrustee:I can't see any reason why he would give a patient a ride haha, didn't he do training on safeguarding? 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Drey1: 10:20pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Drey1: 10:26pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
babajeje123: Oh nah patient sef. When I thought nah fellow work mate o. Reason why I typed wetin I typed earlier on sef. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by giselle237: 10:44pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
ojtopsy:you need a lawyer. Go and get one. This type of stuff never goes away from your records so best you lawyer up. Gave patient a ride and started getting intimate/sexual. Very wrong. The ride should have never happened in the first place too. These ppl are vulnerable and it will be seen as you using your position unduely. You need a lawyer .. This is not nairaland stuff. 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by davide470(m): 11:01pm On Jun 03, 2023 |
I always look forward to semmyk detailed, 'legalistic' comment on every situation! Tuale baba!. I am glad we have you here. OP @ojtopsy, if you are still asking questions on what to do after this, then you are definitely not serious. Sit down, go through the comment and links therein. 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Viruses: 12:16am On Jun 04, 2023 |
semmyk: Since morning, this is the only post I've seen that addressed the issue on ground. Others were just rewording the problem and adding salt to injury. 8 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Oggg: 2:37am On Jun 04, 2023 |
Viruses:oversabi … Who made you Nairaland police over comments? Judge 5 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Lexusgs430: 4:47am On Jun 04, 2023 |
ojtopsy: - Is this person a member of any union.......... - Private or government organisation....... It's most likely an agency worker on zero hours contract, if not wages would still be ongoing......... |
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