RoadMozart:


Ahh the road is far na. And I don't see a case of incest there. Just a little family issue

So first cousins are far gone in your family tree?

The girl is a first cousin to OP and the guy involved o.

Cloudflare:


Oga your story no clear! Who impregnated her before she was sent to live with her aunt in their hometown? Was it the male cousin or someone else? Because I don't understand your write up!!!!!

Who got her pregnant?

It was somebody else

Thanks for bringing this story here and thanks for seeing us as KNOWLEDGEBLE to solve your family ISSUE.



Now all the Lady needs to do is to GET the pastor she TOLD because we respect PASTORS alot in this part of the world because he's the only person that can save the situation on ground.

Geovanni412:


Be like the godfather

Make him an offer he can't refuse

Know what he is scared of and what he truly desires - then you'll know the right offer to make to him depending on the generosity or darkness of your heart.

Too much movie is actually bad

patorial:



Too much movie is actually bad

If he doesn't know....he should forget abt it

Forrkke:



What are saying?


Can you communicate in the way of humans?

Don't mind him, he's trying to be funny in a st*pid way.

You said the girl told you everything as it happened; how are you so sure she didn't embellish it to appear innocent? The guy claimed she forced him, she told you it was done by mutual consent. How did you know she didn't force him truly and lied to you that they both agreed? Manipulation is real.

Forrkke:
■ It was somebody else

How old was your other cousin at the time the incident happened?

Since your female cousin get job tell her to hire you so you go and investigate on her behalf. You can go on YouTube to find videos on how to make mini documentaries, ask your other cousin's aunt for an invitation to stay over at their place for a week or two and during which time you gather all evidence to prove her innocence. If you do a good job, you both could end up turning it in to a good business too.

Don't take the advise of going for a swearing meeting before a deity. It will further complicate the matter. Same with Police, they will never solve the matter as long as their are different versions. These are never solutions to a family issue.

The solution here is that you or someone in the family needs to call a meeting of all involved. I know this - Who forced who is not the issue, the deed has been done and both are guilty alike. IN this meeting, Let a respected man of God be present. The boy needs to bare his mind, so he will be able to clear his conscience. He is feeling guilt and needs forgiveness. I don't know how you all don't see that. Once he clears his conscience, he will be fine.

The girl too will speak her version. Both of them needs to air their conscience. The end of it should be the elders advising them and forgiving them of their acts. And the Man of God praying for everyone. Then your cousin sister should stay far from the boy's family, and focus on her life and fiance. Youthful exuberance can be troubling, if not controlled.

Wahala!

Forrkke:


He’s a cousin to my cousin.

He’s the son of her dad’s younger sister.

My cousin’s mother is my own aunt

donhils:
You said the girl told you everything as it happened; how are you so sure she didn't embellish it to appear innocent? The guy claimed she forced him, she told you it was done by mutual consent. How did you know she didn't force him truly and lied to you that they both agreed? Manipulation is real.

If manipulation is what she wanted, she could have easily lied that she was forced and not a case of mutual consent.

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Forrkke:
Now, members of the family have been calling my cousin to call her all sorts of name. They said if anything happens to the guy, she’ll be held responsible for it.


My question is,

How can you lie against someone, more so your own cousin without any remorse?

How come it’s after 8 years that you’re feeling guilty and depressed for what happened?

I’m not supporting my cousin; she deserves whatever castigations are coming her way. But is it okay to let this humongous character assassination slide?

The sad thing is nobody is interested in hearing her own side of the story; it’s the guy they believe because he spoke first. I believe my cousin because she told me about this issue back in December last year, before it became known to everybody. She could have easily lied that she was forced or raped just to save her reputation. But she confided in me and said it as it was… that it was her who agreed to it.

From what I know, this guy has been a failure and has disappointed his parents many times; he’s just playing some antics and isn’t depressed. He’s using this story to draw sympathy because no one in the family likes him due to his waywardness.

Someone they said was depressed was heard on the phone laughing to a skit when my cousin called one of her aunts explaining. The boy was there but didn’t know the aunt was on phone with my cousin. Also, my cousin doesn’t have the boy’s number and has not been allowed to speak to him and confront him for all the lies against her.


My cousin has a fiancé, but now her father’s people her saying she’s wicked that after destroying someone’s life, she wants to settle down. They’re asking her what will happen to the guy whose life she has destroyed? This girl hasn’t been herself for weeks now. She has been thrown under the bus, so much that her one elder brother has disowned her.


What do you guys suggest she does going forward?

My cousin and I have always been very close, and I’m like the only person in the family that understands her now, even though I condemn what she fell into years ago.

Someone is suggesting my cousin sue the boy, how’s that feasible? We’re talking about a family member here.
And one thing is certain; this boy will not be able to tell all these lies in the presence of my cousin if confronted.

The same boy once wrote a love letter to another of his cousins during that period, telling her that he found her attractive and would love them to he togther

This matta no hard …..Your cousin sister gats go Traditional, Cuz na the only way weh she fit come Clean be that as the guy don mischievously rope her totally in all ways ….
Make everybody gather round the gods make She & The Useless Guy swear 7days Life/Death swear on who dey lie and on who really initiate fvckk matta way back then …


The Guy brain go run Hard factory reset !


Nigga a wussy 🤦🏿‍♂️

Kobojunkie:
1. The 16-year old gal was culpable while your excuse for the body is he is tormented by a spirit? Do you folks here yourselves speak abeg?

2. If all the family reason as you do, which I suspect, it will take more than one voice of reason to convince them of anything.

Shebi if I tell you say life is spiritual you go talk say we Dey reason blindly.

I don tire to Dey talk to you, continue feeling ontop

Mrsoft3:
■ Shebi if I tell you say life is spiritual you go talk say we Dey reason blindly.I don tire to Dey talk to you, continue feeling ontop

1. Get yourself mental health checkup and you will see that what you term "spiritual" is 99.999999% mental and behavioral. I am glad I did it when I did and since then, I can differentiate that which Jesus Christ in fact said of the Spirit from the spiritual bullsheet talk out there.

Kobojunkie:
No be everyone dey fear traditional stuff abeg! They need to pursue more practical by finding evidence against the boy's claims.

yes thats why I said some people can do anything to cover lies, even take oath and still lying that they dnt do the thing...only God can help.

Thebadpolitican:



Your cousin sister is damaged damn I am no Saint but if she was my cousin I would distance
Myself away from her and if she was my daughter I would wish I never had her


As for the matter on ground swearing at a shrine would solve all this small issue yeah i said small issue because the big issh is her family image, I advise you come to Benin and use ayelala to swear . God save us from such children 🙏

The way you guys bundle every guilt upon women's shoulders is sickening. Can you for once remember that that guy knows very well that she's his cousin before telling her they should have sex... Was that right?
Then trying to frame her of abusing him after 6/7yrs that they have moved on.... Was that also humane?

No one will want to believe the girl cz she's made a grievous mistake previously.... and even agreeing that she was not forced to do it, doesn't make the weight of the matter lighter

Kobojunkie:
Something tells me the embittered parents or the boy who may be dead set on passing their son's failings onto someone else would not let this die so easily. Also, what happened is unjust and needs to be resolved for this lady to be able to move past her past and live without the shackles of her past mistake.

I agree with the first statement!

When you say “resolved” what can the lady do at this point? Offer monetary compensation? Apologise?

As long as she continues to grant audience to the wagging tongues regarding this Matter , they’ll keep extending it.

Besides it’s an error of years ago , and she’s being accused falsely

DollarSigns:


To be honest this just confirmed your visible extremely low IQ level
anyone can see just at a first glance that I’m not the OP
furthermore your questions to ponder only further prove that you’re a local man with inferior Macho man vibes

Fly away son
I’m no longer giving you free moral lessons
Till tomorrow 🥰

You arevj ust an empty boy who find pleasure in insulting people you don't know just because you have access to Internet without anything tangible in your brain to counter an argument.

Don't ever quote me again idiot.

babythug:
■ I agree with the first statement! When you say “resolved” what can the lady do at this point? Offer monetary compensation? Apologise?
■ As long as she continues to grant audience to the wagging tongues regarding this Matter , they’ll keep extending it. Besides it’s an error of years ago , and she’s being accused falsely

1. She doesn't even have to pay any attention to them for the libel to continue. She has no reason to offer monetary compensation since she was herself also a minor when the incident supposedly took place.

2. It is an error of years ago that has come back to hunt her in such a way that should that boy continue to nosedive, failure-wise, his parents will continue to fault her for his sins in life. She can expose the boy for the manipulative eejit he is and at least gain some of those relatives to her side in the fight for her present and her future.

OdefaGirl:



The way you guys bundle every guilt upon women's shoulders is sickening. Can you for once remember that that guy knows very well that she's his cousin before telling her they should have sex... Was that right?
Then trying to frame her of abusing him after 6/7yrs that they have moved on.... Was that also humane?

No one will want to believe the girl cz she's made a grievous mistake previously.... and even agreeing that she was not forced to do it, doesn't make the weight of the matter lighter

Society says women should close their legs, bible values a virgin this tells you the power nature gives to women when it comes to issues of sex

Anything that goes wrong during sex, the woman should be blame that's where her power lies,

According to the norms a man cannot be sexually harrased by a lady, if a woman accuse you for a rape it likely to be taken serious compare to the opposite situation

So sex is everything for a woman

She is basically a LovePeddler, I pity her man

Smh, And people still view sex as ordinary and a game. Something dat can ruin an entire family. As for the case of your cousin. Is there an elder in the family that can be fair and hear both sides and judge fairly? So dat the truth can be known. She can also pray for God's vindication. I hope she the fiancee is aware of wots happening. B4 he hears a totally twisted story from someone else.

Thebadpolitican:


Society says women should close their legs, bible values a virgin this tells you the power nature gives to women when it comes to issues of sex

Anything that goes wrong during sex, the woman should be blame that's where her power lies,

According to the norms a man cannot be sexually harrased by a lady, if a woman accuse you for a rape it likely to be taken serious compare to the opposite situation

So sex is everything for a woman

She is basically a LovePeddler, I pity her man

Which society apart from black man society please?

Does your opinion justify the guy's actions?

Where do you people get the words you used on one another here? Chaii

Forrkke:


We’re not Igbo; both families are Christians

Tribe ?

Forrkke:


He’s a cousin to my cousin.

He’s the son of her dad’s younger sister.

My cousin’s mother is my own aunt

That guy is getting mad and if care is not taking he may enter street

Lady is very innocent of what is is happening to the guy

The guy parents are fully aware that their son have problem

So let them go tradition to cleans themselves to save the girls name from the show of Shame

Dont be surprise the guy is on drugs

Getting pregnant at 16 is harsh, but can be handled. From here, that is all she did. But your family turned it to a big machine.
You are asking us how one can lie without remorse against a family member? It is very possible, talking from experience, not someone told me. Adult lying against another Adult. Please your family is shameful, let the young woman have her peace.
Sometimes things don't always go as planned. We try our best but some of it could still shake

donbachi:
They should match on a he-goat

So that what will happen?

Funny story but here's the deal,
She should just deny it ,saying the guy has always made advances towards her which she refused cause of his age and she doesn't want her aunt to worry about his son, and that was why she left the house.

Anyways, it was a wrong move to have kept the girl in same room with a teenager, women are dumb headed, she must have seen too d*CK and fantasized a lot, so it was easy to go with it when he suggested it

Forrkke:


It was somebody else

So what then are you saying again about your male cousin?

Dude, that your female cousin is loose and wayward. She cannot control herself and it's obvious she might likely be the one that will even seduced that her male cousin to have sex with her. This is called manipulations! Noticed U said she gave in at once when the guy asked for sex.

Question

1. Why didn't she resist the guy?
2. Why didn't she report to the boy's parents when they got back from travel?

Dude, it's obvious that girl knew exactly what she was doing. She seduced the boy, this simply means she was the one that went and met him in his bed and asked him to fvck her. But instead she narrated that it was the boy who came to her (this is a lie bro). Na she go meet the boy for his own bed and then initiated the knacking mood.

Ofadaman:
Funny story but here's the deal,
She should just deny it ,saying the guy has always made advances towards her which she refused cause of his age and she doesn't want her aunt to worry about his son, and that was why she left the house.

Anyways, it was a wrong move to have kept the girl in same room with a teenager, women are dumb headed, she must have seen too d*CK and fantasized a lot, so it was easy to go with it when he suggested it

I can bet my balls that it was the girl who suggested that they should both fvck. After everything, she manipulated and lied to the OP that it was the boy who came to her, whereas na she go meet the boy for his own bed. Girls are very good at lying and manipulations knowing fully well that the society will believe them

OdefaGirl:



The way you guys bundle every guilt upon women's shoulders is sickening. Can you for once remember that that guy knows very well that she's his cousin before telling her they should have sex... Was that right?
Then trying to frame her of abusing him after 6/7yrs that they have moved on.... Was that also humane?

No one will want to believe the girl cz she's made a grievous mistake previously.... and even agreeing that she was not forced to do it, doesn't make the weight of the matter lighter

Madam, it was the girl that told the guy that they should have sex. Na she seduced and initiated the knacking mood. It was obvious she knew what she was doing back then. The girl is extremely loose, damage and highly wayward. She simply manipulated the OP into believing her.