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pachigo001:
what do you advice me to do

maybe she's the only woman on earth 🌎

Inter tribal marriage is very sweet especially if you do it with the consent of the family .

I married from another tribe infact the first day her elder sister saw me with her younger sister she liked me instantly and when I came for marriage being the eldest in the family she was the one that spoke to her parents and other siblings and they all accepted even before seeing me ,the entire process Was very easy all because my inlaws love me and I am enjoying the marriage. So my advice is this if the parents agree and just the brother that is saying no then no problem with time he will come around but if the parents are not in agreement please back off now .

But mind you I am a Christian and i engaged in prayers for God to clears off all obstacles and I can tell you my prayer worked .I had no issues with them not even one bit .

thorpido:
What of her parents?

late

pachigo001:
I have been dating this girl for a year now and we planned getting married this year but my problem is her brother always tell her not to marry me because Im not from the same tribe with her.

The thing is really affecting our relationship her brother is trying everything to manipulate her into hating me and the thing is affecting my mental health we love ourselves and she is the woman I need.

just need an advise from you guys if I should go ahead or end the relationship for good

Ones the immediate family is not in agreement just disappear. Nigeria is more divided now that you can ever imagine. This election changed a lot of things (made things even more worse).

You can see the silly assumption this guy below made because he believes only Igbos reject suitors not from their tribe (A tribal bigot kind of statement)

incandescentena:
Where are you from and she also? That region denying you is Southeast. and you are from the North or vice vasa. They will give you hell. Better try somewhere else for your sanity sake.... Wait o! Is the girl Fulani and you are Igbo?

For your mental health. Simply go and marry from your tribe. Their is even something special about being Igbo and marrying Igbo, your children will completely think in Igbo, act in Igbo, be resilient and progressive as igbos and the likes.

If the brother doesn't accept you and she can't also stand up for herself, trust me one day she is definitely gonna use it on you if provoked by saying things like "she was warned."

She is definitely going to be reasoning towards that angle. Family is family and she would rather place a statement told/made by her brother in her mind than one of a lover she met half way in life. I'm speaking from experience.

If she can't discern between humanity and tribe and come to terms that humanity is key not tribe and shun tribal bigots even if it's her brother or immediate family, then you are in for a long ride.

pachigo001:
I have been dating this girl for a year now and we planned getting married this year but my problem is her brother always tell her not to marry me because Im not from the same tribe with her.

The thing is really affecting our relationship her brother is trying everything to manipulate her into hating me and the thing is affecting my mental health we love ourselves and she is the woman I need.

just need an advise from you guys if I should go ahead or end the relationship for good

And one juju man has told you that you cannot get a better woman?

Sisora:
I have one rule as a man.

If someone else influences my woman's decision more than I do, she's not and will never be the one.

Just this one rule.

If her brother, sister, mother, father cannot influence her, then she is a big time Olosho. We are all from a family who have influence on us, just as we too have influence on them

Pls marry her don't let that distract u ..if i were u and love the girl bribe her brother ..take him out and chill

saweide:
Pls marry her don't let that distract u ..if i were u and love the girl bribe her brother ..take him out and chill

And when she starts displaying the spirit of Oloshoism, whom will you report to

incandescentena:
Where are you from and she also? That region denying you is Southeast. and you are from the North or vice vasa. They will give you hell. Better try somewhere else for your sanity sake.... Wait o! Is the girl Fulani and you are Igbo?

Rubbish talk. My guy married a fulani babe 2 years ago

incandescentena:
Where are you from and she also? That region denying you is Southeast. and you are from the North or vice vasa. They will give you hell. Better try somewhere else for your sanity sake.... Wait o! Is the girl Fulani and you are Igbo?

See what you have turned yourself into...because u wan to tell the whole Nairaland how much u hate a particular tribe.....

Dshocker:
You are not far from being called a fool.

So only the Southeast is filled with hate abi?

Calm down! if you cool down to read my post. I said the hate is directed to people from SE since the guy said he is from SE so it is better he stick to his own kind. The hates directed at Igbos in SW won't allow me advise anyone from SE to do inter tribal let alone one wey get K-leg. Well na my own advice I drop you fit drop your own

incandescentena:
Atiku married Yoruba. Davido married Igbo. FFK married Igbo. Bashir el-rufai married Igbo, and many moore. So whats the issue?!

You are quoting rich niggas, is there anywhere in the world a rich person can't marry from? He's talking about himself and of course everyone can tell all he has to offer is love, not money.

If he had bought that brother-in-law a Benz or Range a long time ago, that dude would have since shut up.

pachigo001:
I have been dating this girl for a year now and we planned getting married this year but my problem is her brother always tell her not to marry me because Im not from the same tribe with her.

The thing is really affecting our relationship her brother is trying everything to manipulate her into hating me and the thing is affecting my mental health we love ourselves and she is the woman I need.

just need an advise from you guys if I should go ahead or end the relationship for good

You can't really decide on that. It's marriage, not lording over one another, hence, the mutual understanding. Ask her what does she think about the relationship, also give the relationship a year or two more so see things more clearer. If you go ahead and marry her and after some months she decided to pull out, na your lost cuz' na you waste money on the wedding. Give it more time, a year or two.

What's her tribe?

Don't force yourself into a family that doesn't accept you totally,what about the father and her mother?

The sad part of it that she can't fight or stand for what she wants,and that's a minus. You should be the one having more influence on her and not her brother.You already know the truth...

i would tell the girl my fears and i would estimate how much she has and can contribute to my development in life, if it weigh more than i can contribute for her, i go fit go ahead otherwise, i go forget about the marriage and be friends only untill they settle their nonsense

have been dating this girl for a year now and we planned
getting married this year but my problem is her brother
always tell her not to marry me because Im not from the
same tribe with her.
The thing is really affecting our relationship her brother is
trying everything to manipulate her into hating me and the
thing is affecting my mental health we love ourselves and
she is the woman I need.
just need an advise from you guys if I should go ahead or
end the relationship for good....
what advice would you have given me if i were in your shoe.

incandescentena:
Where are you from and she also? That region denying you is Southeast. and you are from the North or vice vasa. They will give you hell. Better try somewhere else for your sanity sake.... Wait o! Is the girl Fulani and you are Igbo?

you see ur hatred for Igbo? You have already concluded when you don't get the full information.

incandescentena:
Atiku married Yoruba. Davido married Igbo. FFK married Igbo. Bashir el-rufai married Igbo, and many moore. So whats the issue?!

Bashir didn't marry Igbo. The girl he married was a Hausa/Fulani girl with an Igbo mother

pachigo001:
im the one that is Igbo not her

Where is she from?

pachigo001:
I have been dating this girl for a year now and we planned getting married this year but my problem is her brother always tell her not to marry me because Im not from the same tribe with her.

The thing is really affecting our relationship her brother is trying everything to manipulate her into hating me and the thing is affecting my mental health we love ourselves and she is the woman I need.

just need an advise from you guys if I should go ahead or end the relationship for good

Dear friend, if she listens to people and is often affected people's opinions, RUN. If she however has a mind of her own, and has proven capable to shun external influences, stick to her!

Uptheante:
Where is she from?

ondo

Is she worth dying for?

pachigo001:
ondo

Her brother's dislike for Igbos is probably connected the recent political disaffection between Igbo & Yoruba, especially as most Yoruba pple now view the Igbos with more suspicion than ever before, due to recent political events

pachigo001:
ondo

I thought they said Igbo men don’t marry Yoruba women?

pachigo001:
my problem with her she can’t even stand for herself and confront her brother instead anything her brother yell at her she will come crying to me

Oga forget that girl and move on. Girls like that always listen to their sister or brother more than anyone else. Better forget her and move on

fohlarp:
Try n see her decide,test her by asking shd we call it a day,if she would resist or oblige,cos u cant jst impregnate her n later fall into trouble

This is the best advice so far

pachigo001:
I have been dating this girl for a year now and we planned getting married this year but my problem is her brother always tell her not to marry me because Im not from the same tribe with her.

The thing is really affecting our relationship her brother is trying everything to manipulate her into hating me and the thing is affecting my mental health we love ourselves and she is the woman I need.

just need an advise from you guys if I should go ahead or end the relationship for good

She should decide if she wants the marriage or not.

When the bible said forsaking all others and to leave father and mother and cleave onto your spouse it knew that in-laws amd outlaws were one of the major problems that scatters marriages.

It seems your fiancee is not ready for marriage yet 'cos if she was she would be ready to marry you with or without her brothers consent or presence.

Me exes sister defied her parents to come back to Nigeria and marry her still husband against her parents wish and without them being present at the hastily arranged registry marriage. She took the guy to the UK and now 3 grown kids later, they are still married 30 years later and still counting.

Now, that is a woman who wanted to marry her choice of guy and defied her parents to do so not to talk of a brother who can not marry you no matter what.

I'm Yoruba. My younger brother first married a Yoruba woman and the marriage did not work out. He now met an Igbo girl in Lagos, they started dating and she got pregnant and when her brothers heard she got pregnant for a Yoruba guy, they beat her until she fainted even though she was pregnant.

Fast forward 6 years later, they are happily married with 3 children.

We need to stop caging our women and rendering them to become lifelong spinsters with our unrealistic, unhealthy and blatantly tribalistic and senseless interferences into their private marital choices.

Na so I meet one Nigerian lady in UK obviously under psychiatric care and we got talking and she probably thought I was interested in dating her not knowing that I was just talking to her because I see her as my sister in distress and all the oyinbo people at the bus-stop were stylishly avoiding moving too close to her and the Nigerian in me refused to let my sister be ridiculed just because she was going through mental health issues.

The first question the lady asked me was if I was from a certain tribe because according to her, she could only date someone from her tribe.

I started wondering how deep the brainwashing must have been for her to still be insisting on dating only from her tribe when she was even in mental health distress probably caused by loneliness and not having a man.

tiswell:
Oga,rest,you are not a full blooded NWA AFO.

No true son of igbo land would be brought to such.low cos of marriage to another tribe.

You are either half igbo or just chasing clout.


Igbo guys are the prize, when it comes to marriage, anywhere in naija.

shut up abeg

Yen yen yen

Michaelspresh:
shut up abeg

Yen yen yen

tell ya s i n g l e mother that raised you with out fath erly love to fvck herself

sonature1:
Marriage was happening before religion was brought to Africa!

Children everywhere.

Religion has always been in Africa

Babies everywhere