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pansophist:
Your question is like a salt asking how to attract flies when the salt can transform into sugar.

I don't get the idea of wooing. Relationships for men may be logical (eg she is virtuous, she has a good heart, etc), but for women, it is emotional. Toasting is appealing to her logic while attracting is appealing to her emotion.

You don't woo, you attract. As you are searching for a wife, lots of ladies are searching for a husband. Understand what women want in a man (can be slightly different depending on the society), and be that man.

Here comes the twist. There may be some natural constraints that may prevent you from being an attractive man (e.g., if you aren't tall, not handsome, etc), but you may compensate for it with other qualities.

Universally, a timeless quality a man can have, that will attract the best of women is to have the ability to give her absolute security. So it would be your ability to provide financially, emotionally, and sexually. Yep, sexual security is a thing lol.

SO throw off that idea of toasting, it doesn't work. All you will do is entertain and make her marvel at your wordplay, but in the end, she will go with a man she is attracted to and who offers security.

So you should have been spending your previous years preparing for when you want to get married, to be able to exchange your quality as a desirable man for the kind of woman you want.

I mean, if toasting works, women won't be having one-night stands with men they met the same day, still chasing after men that clearly do not want them, or cheating after getting married.

I don't think I have ever toast in my life. It's too lame lol. I will just be the best I can be (more like sharpening my sword), then choose from the pool of women that already finds me attractive. Then it's a perfect match in heaven.

If you are doing it wrong, you will think there is something wrong with you, because it's like driving to Abuja and expecting to land in Cotonou. But if you do it rightly, it's a matter of months, and you will be so confused about which women to pick.

Just as your problem is how to woo/get a woman, some men's problem is that they are indecisive, due to so many options from home and away. They just decided to be single and settle with concubines lol.

pansophist:
Your question is like a salt asking how to attract flies when the salt can transform into sugar.

I don't get the idea of wooing. Relationships for men may be logical (eg she is virtuous, she has a good heart, etc), but for women, it is emotional. Toasting is appealing to her logic while attracting is appealing to her emotion.

You don't woo, you attract. As you are searching for a wife, lots of ladies are searching for a husband. Understand what women want in a man (can be slightly different depending on the society), and be that man.

Here comes the twist. There may be some natural constraints that may prevent you from being an attractive man (e.g., if you aren't tall, not handsome, etc), but you may compensate for it with other qualities.

Universally, a timeless quality a man can have, that will attract the best of women is to have the ability to give her absolute security. So it would be your ability to provide financially, emotionally, and sexually. Yep, sexual security is a thing lol.

SO throw off that idea of toasting, it doesn't work. All you will do is entertain and make her marvel at your wordplay, but in the end, she will go with a man she is attracted to and who offers security.

So you should have been spending your previous years preparing for when you want to get married, to be able to exchange your quality as a desirable man for the kind of woman you want.

I mean, if toasting works, women won't be having one-night stands with men they met the same day, still chasing after men that clearly do not want them, or cheating after getting married.

I don't think I have ever toast in my life. It's too lame lol. I will just be the best I can be (more like sharpening my sword), then choose from the pool of women that already finds me attractive. Then it's a perfect match in heaven.

If you are doing it wrong, you will think there is something wrong with you, because it's like driving to Abuja and expecting to land in Cotonou. But if you do it rightly, it's a matter of months, and you will be so confused about which women to pick.

Just as your problem is how to woo/get a woman, some men's problem is that they are indecisive, due to so many options from home and away. They just decided to be single and settle with concubines lol.

Ade1177:
Nah

Not true

You don't need money

You need confidence and be direct

Ladies are human beings too with breast and different private part compare to yours

They not aliens

Looking at a girl asif she's another creature is what makes some guys scared of talking to really pretty girls

Just imagine her as one very handsome guy
Won't you talk to him just because of his face?


I see ladies as human beings first

So walk up to her

Say whatever comes to your mind don't rehearse it. If she likes you the rubbish you said will be the sweetest.

The more you talk the more confident you get

If she says no. Remember she's just 1 out of 4Billion

But don't be rude same way you can't be rude to your fellow guy


Most people that can't talk to a lady is because they are scared

Not money

Everybody can't be rich

So many poor people have alot of ladies at hand

Godfather898989:
I'm thinking about marriage man...seriously is time almost all my buddies are married

helinues:
Woo ladies for this century.

Hahaha, na money dey do the wooing now. You don't even need to say a Jack before the girls start flocking around you

Godfather898989:
I have difficulties keeping relationship with the opposite sex,for clarity I'm heterosexual male....I'm single, I need help brothers and sisters

Godfather898989:
I have difficulties keeping relationship with the opposite sex,for clarity I'm heterosexual male....I'm single, I need help brothers and sisters

damoobaba:
He said he wants to marry. Marriage attracts parasites, "NOT WIVES"

vickydevoka:
You don't have to worry. If you are ready. Make it known to people you like. They will connect you. Especially if you are rich. Don't approach unknown lady if you are rich. Unless she is also rich and independent. Most will always show you that they are good girls.
They economy is too harsh, don't marry a poor lady no matter what.

pansophist:
Your question is like a salt asking how to attract flies when the salt can transform into sugar.

I don't get the idea of wooing. Relationships for men may be logical (eg she is virtuous, she has a good heart, etc), but for women, it is emotional. Toasting is appealing to her logic while attracting is appealing to her emotion.

You don't woo, you attract. As you are searching for a wife, lots of ladies are searching for a husband. Understand what women want in a man (can be slightly different depending on the society), and be that man.

Here comes the twist. There may be some natural constraints that may prevent you from being an attractive man (e.g., if you aren't tall, not handsome, etc), but you may compensate for it with other qualities.

Universally, a timeless quality a man can have, that will attract the best of women is to have the ability to give her absolute security. So it would be your ability to provide financially, emotionally, and sexually. Yep, sexual security is a thing lol.

SO throw off that idea of toasting, it doesn't work. All you will do is entertain and make her marvel at your wordplay, but in the end, she will go with a man she is attracted to and who offers security.

So you should have been spending your previous years preparing for when you want to get married, to be able to exchange your quality as a desirable man for the kind of woman you want.

I mean, if toasting works, women won't be having one-night stands with men they met the same day, still chasing after men that clearly do not want them, or cheating after getting married.

I don't think I have ever toast in my life. It's too lame lol. I will just be the best I can be (more like sharpening my sword), then choose from the pool of women that already finds me attractive. Then it's a perfect match in heaven.

If you are doing it wrong, you will think there is something wrong with you, because it's like driving to Abuja and expecting to land in Cotonou. But if you do it rightly, it's a matter of months, and you will be so confused about which women to pick.

Just as your problem is how to woo/get a woman, some men's problem is that they are indecisive, due to so many options from home and away. They just decided to be single and settle with concubines lol.

mbaise1000:
They are the classical example of necessary evil, but there are still very good and intelligent marriage materials out there, real women, just don't look with your physical eyes, I mean don't look at standing breasts because they will fall tomorrow, don't look at how beautiful she is because you will definitely see more beautiful ones tomorrow while she fades, look at that thing that doesn't fade, the heart, look at the things that God will look at look at the things you want her to look in you, because a good heart will take all things because a good heart doesn't look at what ordinary people look at, it takes all THINGS, when you are sure you found her, go to her and tell her exactly what you think and want, I will not tell you what to tell her because that will be like doing it by the book and if a page of a book is lost, you will be lost, go tell her what comes out of your heart at that time, and you will see how smooth and easy it will be, if what you are going is to chase women around and testing, you will get HIV, if your plan is to get the best woman around you to marry, you will be successful and happy forever..
If you marry the wrong wife, you are finished,
GOOD LUCK

Chno:
Bro you are always emphasizing on the fact that niggas shouldn’t marry broke girls from broke family, why is it so?

vickydevoka:
Sorry, you can but make sure you are ready to accept responsibilities. Also, your location also matters. I should have thrown more emphasis on independent or working class lady.
Most guys suffering today marry out of pity or love. You can't stay in Abuja be receiving 150k n u want to settle down with fine jobless lady. Omo!! U go suffer.
Marriage na luck. But try do your own mathematics first. If en work fine, if e no work fine.

Y do you think ladies always consider finance first? You think they don't know

Chno:
Bro you are always emphasizing on the fact that niggas shouldn’t marry broke girls from broke family, why is it so?

vickydevoka:
Please don't take everything I write seriously. I'm an introvert, I don't go out. Most times I write for writing sake. Some times, I write to get attention. A wise person can't pick all advices from a public forum. Just pick the good one and do away with the bad ones.
People air their opinion based on their emotions and feelings at that point in time. Most people are not realistic and logical

Edipet:
which year are you, are you in 21st century?, You are right Base on the year you are. Money boast confident, money makes you smell good, money makes you dress well, money makes you live in a good house. If you don't have money to put on a good shoe, will she give you attention, even to take care of yourself to look presentable you need money. Money is the root. Nigerian girl will not like you for nothing,
It either money
Your good looking
Etc.

Fiscus105:
Tell your friends to woo them for you, life not hard the way you guys handle it.

Everyone has his/her strength and weakness, if ur weakness is to weak before woman,some people are professional in that field.

Contact them to lift you from your dongeon.

vickydevoka:
Please don't take everything I write seriously. I'm an introvert, I don't go out. Most times I write for writing sake. Some times, I write to get attention. A wise person can't pick all advices from a public forum. Just pick the good one and do away with the bad ones.
People air their opinion based on their emotions and feelings at that point in time. Most people are not realistic and logical

Godfather898989:
I have difficulties keeping relationship with the opposite sex,for clarity I'm heterosexual male....I'm single, I need help brothers and sisters

Godfather898989:
I have difficulties keeping relationship with the opposite sex,for clarity I'm heterosexual male....I'm single, I need help brothers and sisters

mbaise1000:
In the present day nigeria, the best way to woo the opposite sex especially women is first never say the truth to them, tell them that tinubu is your mother's junior brother, that bill gate is your uncle, that you are traveling to the us to collect your inheritance, that mm airport in Lagos belongs to you, that Atlantic ocean belongs to you, sharp sharp, you have your way, many of them will actually believe you

Zedoo:
Lol. You have to vibrate at the level of the woman you want, and she will appear before you...ready for you...all this wooing thing is a thing of the past and Nigerian women are not worth it anyway. They bring strife and indigence into your life. They always have 300 problems their father can’t solve and easily manipulated by other men.
Make money, travel the world, find a wife.

Those telling you to dress well, act polite be confident etc my question is FOR WHO? For people wey never bath??

Don’t chase women bro.
Become the man, they will chase you, you set your standards and choose the best one wey suit ya taste.

Godfather898989:
I'm thinking about marriage man...seriously is time almost all my buddies are married

pansophist:
Your question is like a salt asking how to attract flies when the salt can transform into sugar.

I don't get the idea of wooing. Relationships for men may be logical (eg she is virtuous, she has a good heart, etc), but for women, it is emotional. Toasting is appealing to her logic while attracting is appealing to her emotion.

You don't woo, you attract. As you are searching for a wife, lots of ladies are searching for a husband. Understand what women want in a man (can be slightly different depending on the society), and be that man.

Here comes the twist. There may be some natural constraints that may prevent you from being an attractive man (e.g., if you aren't tall, not handsome, etc), but you may compensate for it with other qualities.

Universally, a timeless quality a man can have, that will attract the best of women is to have the ability to give her absolute security. So it would be your ability to provide financially, emotionally, and sexually. Yep, sexual security is a thing lol.

SO throw off that idea of toasting, it doesn't work. All you will do is entertain and make her marvel at your wordplay, but in the end, she will go with a man she is attracted to and who offers security.

So you should have been spending your previous years preparing for when you want to get married, to be able to exchange your quality as a desirable man for the kind of woman you want.

I mean, if toasting works, women won't be having one-night stands with men they met the same day, still chasing after men that clearly do not want them, or cheating after getting married.

I don't think I have ever toast in my life. It's too lame lol. I will just be the best I can be (more like sharpening my sword), then choose from the pool of women that already finds me attractive. Then it's a perfect match in heaven.

If you are doing it wrong, you will think there is something wrong with you, because it's like driving to Abuja and expecting to land in Cotonou. But if you do it rightly, it's a matter of months, and you will be so confused about which women to pick.

Just as your problem is how to woo/get a woman, some men's problem is that they are indecisive, due to so many options from home and away. They just decided to be single and settle with concubines lol.

DonroxyII:
Even if He attracts But Doesn't know how to Put Out the Right Words He would still Fail with Women !

You missed all his Questions With Your Long Posts ...

Person no sabi Put 5 & 6 Together Because He is a Coward-Lilly-Livered-Feeble-Hearted You are Teaching Him to Attract ....

Of Course Women would flocks him Once They Find him attractive But How would he take it On Afterwards That's His Question !

He is a Boy in a Man Not a Man Yet !

The Power of Attractions is the Reason why Many Men fell into Generations Poverty Because They are Easily Swindled By Street-Wise Woke Women ....

Op, Make it a Target to Approach atleast Two Women Daily Regardless of The Consequences Whether They Gree or Nor Gree ... Your Mental Faculty Would Train You on the Rest Base on Lessons & Experiences.... Learn from Your Mistakes & Consolidate on Your Strengths.... Your Heart Will Beat Faster at this Point But Once You Show Your Body-Systems That's what You wanna Do, Adaptations would kick in & Your Body would Obliged Your souls !

Becareful Though to Avoid Being Addictive.. Once You Become Pro in the Game of Wooing By Learning Games Everything Become so simple and Easy like Semovita On Okro Soup !