I am a 30year old lady. My husband and I got married in 2021 and I traveled to the UK earlier this year to give birth to our first child. My husband could not join me due to his work and businesses but he has been with me through the journey through communication and it never felt like he was not over there with me.

I decided to make my come back a surprise by arriving a week earlier than I told him. When I got back, he was not home. All clothes and traces of me were gone in our room and home. I later found out that my items were locked in one of the other rooms. In our matrimonial room, I met some ladies clothes and underwears. I am a plus sized lady while the items I met belong to a slim lady. When he got back that day, I confronted him and questioned what was going on.

He said that he wanted to renovate our room and that he mistakenly bought the wrong size of clothes and underwears for me. In my continuous attempt to make sense of the situation as his own clothes were still in the other side of the wardrobe and only his pictures are all over the house, he started shouting, called me all sorts of name and stomped off.

He has since turned everything on me. His friends, brothers and mother are in support of him. They asked that I apologize for asking him such questions. Another thing one of his brothers said was that he is entitled to 4 women.

I felt my world shatter infront of me. This is the man that I have sacrificed so much for so that our marriage can work. I have cried to the extent that I feel sick. Do I apologize for peace to reign? How many times will I have to apologize for what I didn’t do wrong? Should I still stand on my grounds to find out whose items I met in our home? I do not know what to do. Please advise me

She should beg her husband for forgiveness

U said his friends, and family members support's him' then u are not telling the whole story, we gats hear the comrade side of the story or maybe they hate u.
Beside what are those things u sacrifice for the relationship ur p*ssy or what, tell us the whole story manchi.
Ur gender shabi twist story in their favour.

Fineman2:
She should beg her husband for forgiveness

Say what

Are you the lady? Or this is just 'from my DM story'?

Cos I'm lost at this your response.

Some people can be irresponsible. His wife is going through the rigors of childbirth and he's parading himself as a single man. Too bad.

Since he's ran to his people for support, let her involve her family too, so family meeting can be set up. Let him explain why he had to take down all her pictures and stuff.

Marriage should not be a kalo kalo affair biko.

Fineman2:
... This is the man that I have sacrificed so much for so that our marriage can work...

The same annoying old story, IMHO

Fineman2:
I am a 30year old lady. My husband and I got married in 2021 and I traveled to the UK earlier this year to give birth to our first child. My husband could not join me due to his work and businesses but he has been with me through the journey through communication and it never felt like he was not over there with me.

I decided to make my come back a surprise by arriving a week earlier than I told him. When I got back, he was not home. All clothes and traces of me were gone in our room and home. I later found out that my items were locked in one of the other rooms. In our matrimonial room, I met some ladies clothes and underwears. I am a plus sized lady while the items I met belong to a slim lady. When he got back that day, I confronted him and questioned what was going on.

He said that he wanted to renovate our room and that he mistakenly bought the wrong size of clothes and underwears for me. In my continuous attempt to make sense of the situation as his own clothes were still in the other side of the wardrobe and only his pictures are all over the house, he started shouting, called me all sorts of name and stomped off.

He has since turned everything on me. His friends, brothers and mother are in support of him. They asked that I apologize for asking him such questions. Another thing one of his brothers said was that he is entitled to 4 women.

I felt my world shatter infront of me. This is the man that I have sacrificed so much for so that our marriage can work. I have cried to the extent that I feel sick. Do I apologize for peace to reign? How many times will I have to apologize for what I didn’t do wrong? Should I still stand on my grounds to find out whose items I met in our home? I do not know what to do. Please advise me

There's your answer, a man that you dated and now married too doesn't know your cloth or underwear size smh

Just imagine the disrespect

My dear prepare for a rival for another wife is coming.

Make una Dy try marry someone whole day kind.

You wanted to surprise him
But now you ended up being surprised 😅

Fineman2:
She should beg her husband for forgiveness

For what reason please?

A man that quickly runs to his family during small altercations with his wife is not a real man and was never ready for marriage.

Him quickly running to his family proves that he's guilty of what you're accusing him of... That's a red flag right there.

Buy the ball is in your court.

Is your husband an URHOBO MAN😀



Your husband is a good man , I know him very well , the slim clothes you saw are for you … He said he wants you to wear those clothes once you slim down… Aunty now that you are around, go and register at the gym close to your junction 😎

Have you ever wondered why Shaggy sang that sony, "Wasn't Me"?
Your husband is innocent til proven guility.
Seek peace and get more closer to discover more fact and the girl that has been warming your bed.
Everything cannot be achieve through violent

everyone knows whats going on? who are they trying to fool? were the female panties in your house even new?!

sadly, many women out there have the ability to desperately believe any type of nonsense lies thrown at them from their cheating husbands.
here are few questions:
- if you removed my clothing for "renovation", why yours aint removed too?
- so "renovation" only matters if there are female clothing in the room?
- why is there no visible photo of me/us in the house any longer, is that for "renovation" purpose as well?
- so for "renovation" purposes, you remove everything that showed you were a married men, and left everything to pretend that you were a single man, abi?!
- is it also for "renovation" that there is female clothing scattered around the house?

pyyxxaro:
Is your husband an URHOBO MAN😀



Your husband is a good man , I know him very well , the slim clothes you saw are for you … He said he wants you to wear those clothes once you slim down… Aunty now that you are around, go and register at the gym close to your junction 😎

Urhobo men don't disguise biko.

RoyalBlu:


Urhobo men don't disguise biko.

She just gave birth na @ the gym jibe.

Who told you that , I know Urhobo men when their wife don turn to wateryam


I know urhobo man when e wife de slap normally 😀

Nor go dere oh




But the real ones are actors like ISHAN men

Marriage and them wahala. Just marry who you can tolerate.

I guess you weighed him by his financial, and romantic capacity instead of his character and relationship with God so enjoy his wealth! Say you’re sorry, look the other way, and await your future sister wives in peace. Just be smart and ensure you get the biggest cut of the cake by being the best wife of the bunch.

pyyxxaro:




Who told you that , I know Urhobo men when their wife don turn to wateryam


I know urhobo man when e wife de slap normally 😀

Nor go dere oh




But the real ones are actors like ISHAN men

Shuo. This is news to me ooo.

The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

Savedday2:
The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

You know this isn’t your village square, it’s the worldwide web and people from other races and countries can read your message. Your message speaks wonders about the 9ja woman who raised you.

That man is not a husband material. He belong to the street. Chaii...

Fineman2:
I am a 30year old lady. My husband and I got married in 2021 and I traveled to the UK earlier this year to give birth to our first child. My husband could not join me due to his work and businesses but he has been with me through the journey through communication and it never felt like he was not over there with me.

I decided to make my come back a surprise by arriving a week earlier than I told him. When I got back, he was not home. All clothes and traces of me were gone in our room and home. I later found out that my items were locked in one of the other rooms. In our matrimonial room, I met some ladies clothes and underwears. I am a plus sized lady while the items I met belong to a slim lady. When he got back that day, I confronted him and questioned what was going on.

He said that he wanted to renovate our room and that he mistakenly bought the wrong size of clothes and underwears for me. In my continuous attempt to make sense of the situation as his own clothes were still in the other side of the wardrobe and only his pictures are all over the house, he started shouting, called me all sorts of name and stomped off.

He has since turned everything on me. His friends, brothers and mother are in support of him. They asked that I apologize for asking him such questions. Another thing one of his brothers said was that he is entitled to 4 women.

I felt my world shatter infront of me. This is the man that I have sacrificed so much for so that our marriage can work. I have cried to the extent that I feel sick. Do I apologize for peace to reign? How many times will I have to apologize for what I didn’t do wrong? Should I still stand on my grounds to find out whose items I met in our home? I do not know what to do. Please advise me

You know what, just gather yourself and take the things you value in that house and go back to your base

Allow the dust to settle down

Then with time, we will know who will apologize to each other

Your sanity is the most important thing for you now because of your child

Are you ready for divorce? if you are ready, stand your ground.

Fineman2:

aaa

Do you have a home for her? if yes, escalate it.

RoyalBlu:


Say what

Are you the lady? Or this is just 'from my DM story'?

Cos I'm lost at this your response.

Some people can be irresponsible. His wife is going through the rigors of childbirth and he's parading himself as a single man. Too bad.

Since he's ran to his people for support, let her involve her family too, so family meeting can be set up. Let him explain why he had to take down all her pictures and stuff.

Marriage should not be a kalo kalo affair biko.

If you ask now, she sacrified pussy

mymadam:

The same annoying old story, IMHO

you cant stop a polygamous man, he is going to do what he wants to do

Westerhoffe:
I know them who believe they're entitled to 4 women.
Just keep your cool and let it all go.
Don't stress yourself. If he was going to take another wife, you can't stop him. So don't harm yourself.

He is obviously guilty! he cheated!
On the second thought the woman should let it slide and know that her days are numbered, if she escalate it, I'm sure she is would be out sooner than she thought.

Samantha124:
A man that quickly runs to his family during small altercations with his wife is not a real man and was never ready for marriage.

Him quickly running to his family proves that he's guilty of what you're accusing him of... That's a red flag right there.

Buy the ball is in your court.

Fineman2:
I am a 30year old lady. My husband and I got married in 2021 and I traveled to the UK earlier this year to give birth to our first child. My husband could not join me due to his work and businesses but he has been with me through the journey through communication and it never felt like he was not over there with me.

I decided to make my come back a surprise by arriving a week earlier than I told him. When I got back, he was not home. All clothes and traces of me were gone in our room and home. I later found out that my items were locked in one of the other rooms. In our matrimonial room, I met some ladies clothes and underwears. I am a plus sized lady while the items I met belong to a slim lady. When he got back that day, I confronted him and questioned what was going on.

He said that he wanted to renovate our room and that he mistakenly bought the wrong size of clothes and underwears for me. In my continuous attempt to make sense of the situation as his own clothes were still in the other side of the wardrobe and only his pictures are all over the house, he started shouting, called me all sorts of name and stomped off.

He has since turned everything on me. His friends, brothers and mother are in support of him. They asked that I apologize for asking him such questions. Another thing one of his brothers said was that he is entitled to 4 women.

I felt my world shatter infront of me. This is the man that I have sacrificed so much for so that our marriage can work. I have cried to the extent that I feel sick. Do I apologize for peace to reign? How many times will I have to apologize for what I didn’t do wrong? Should I still stand on my grounds to find out whose items I met in our home? I do not know what to do. Please advise me

I don't even think you know the meaning of what you said about your world shattering before your eyes,you married a loving man that trusted and financed you to go abroad just to give birth,which means the man is a wealthy and loving , in your naive mind you think a wealthy and healthy Nigerian man will stay months alone in a duplex without misbehaving,stop thinking like a child and face reality,just scold your husband and shame him,he will apologize and let it go,mange your home,a man will love his wife very much but can be fvcking another woman,fvcking and loving are two different things.

Styluss:
Do you have a home for her? if yes, escalate it.

No na.
He's already done so by involving his family.

Hmm
Step 1: apologize to him
Step 2: pretend to forget and start petting him
Step 3: manipulate your way to get another opportunity to travel out
Step 4: leave with your baby and never come back

let sleeping dog lie, cheaters dont care

RoyalBlu:


No na.
He's already done so by involving his family.

Leave the marriage, divorce that bastard.