I’m on the verge of proposing marriage to my girlfriend whom have been dating for 2years now, but the issue is the frequent quarrels we do have over everything.

She disrespects me a lot and this sometimes lead physical confrontations .

This is making me contemplate to secretly call her dad to inquire why he’s separated from my girlfriend's mother, because she was raised by her mother alone alongside two other sisters and the man is happily remarried with other grown up kids.

I really would love to inquire why he left her because they are really bitter against him due to the fact that he neglected them according to what the mother once told me.

Farthing02:
I’m on the verge of proposing marriage to my girlfriend whom have been dating for 2years now but the issue is the frequent quarrels we do have over everything(she disrespects me a lot and this sometimes lead physical confrontations)is making me contemplate secretly calling her dad to inquire why he’s separated from my girlfriend mother because she was raised by her mother alone alongside two other sisters and the man is happily remarried with other grown up kids. I really would love to inquire why he left her because they are really bitter against him due to the fact that he neglected them according to what the mother once told me.

Pay him a visit in secret and make your findings and not through calls, that's disrespectful

The mama fit don brainwash the girl to hate men, na so some old people for nairaland been they talk about that jul matter.
All the same u have to becareful.

Farthing02:
I’m on the verge of proposing marriage to my girlfriend whom have been dating for 2years now but the issue is the frequent quarrels we do have over everything(she disrespects me a lot and this sometimes lead physical confrontations)is making me contemplate secretly calling her dad to inquire why he’s separated from my girlfriend mother because she was raised by her mother alone alongside two other sisters and the man is happily remarried with other grown up kids. I really would love to inquire why he left her because they are really bitter against him due to the fact that he neglected them according to what the mother once told me.

How sure are you your supposed father-in-law is happily married. Don't be moved by public show of affections.

Thank you for listing her weaknesses. Now, can you list yours as well or should we consult your fiance to know?

Farthing02:
I’m on the verge of proposing marriage to my girlfriend whom have been dating for 2years now but the issue is the frequent quarrels we do have over everything(she disrespects me a lot and this sometimes lead physical confrontations)is making me contemplate secretly calling her dad to inquire why he’s separated from my girlfriend mother because she was raised by her mother alone alongside two other sisters and the man is happily remarried with other grown up kids. I really would love to inquire why he left her because they are really bitter against him due to the fact that he neglected them according to what the mother once told me.

Farthing02:
I’m on the verge of proposing marriage to my girlfriend whom have been dating for 2years now but the issue is the frequent quarrels we do have over everything(she disrespects me a lot and this sometimes lead physical confrontations)is making me contemplate secretly calling her dad to inquire why he’s separated from my girlfriend mother because she was raised by her mother alone alongside two other sisters and the man is happily remarried with other grown up kids. I really would love to inquire why he left her because they are really bitter against him due to the fact that he neglected them according to what the mother once told me.

Just on boy friend and girl levels sef she no respect you,
And you still dey prepare for proposing too?
This guy you mumu.
No just only waste time propose ooo,
Go do wedding straight shap shap.
Olodo.

Some of una guys for this forum ,just dey provoke me. Honestly

Many men just want to learn the hard way, a woman who don't respect u in relationship stage and he is here talking about marriage.
I believe that girl they follow the steps of her mother.
No wonder their are divorce cases everyday.

Fidecoo:



Just on boy friend and girl levels sef she no respect you,
And you still dey prepare for proposing too?
This guy you mumu.
No just only waste time propose ooo,
Go do wedding straight shap shap.
Olodo.

Some of una guys for this forum ,just dey provoke me. Honestly

Run bro, Run!

Why would you want to marry a woman who disrespect you?

Ya all like to married for only love and suffer later.
Smh.

you saw a potential big waving red flag and you're still talking about love and marriage?

I love men like you..., it shows you see beyond the dangers... you'll go far in life boss man...

What will you accomplish if you call her father.

I know why you wn marry her despite the insults and disrespects where she dy heap on you, na because say she get big nyash and succulent breast na em make you no wn leave her, you prefer to die on top her matter than leave and live comfortable life.
I pray say I no go login nairaland one they just to see your agony and pain filled text.

Una go learn the heard way since una no wn they set standards for una self.

Farthing02:
I’m on the verge of proposing marriage to my girlfriend whom have been dating for 2years now but the issue is the frequent quarrels we do have over everything(she disrespects me a lot and this sometimes lead physical confrontations)is making me contemplate secretly calling her dad to inquire why he’s separated from my girlfriend mother because she was raised by her mother alone alongside two other sisters and the man is happily remarried with other grown up kids. I really would love to inquire why he left her because they are really bitter against him due to the fact that he neglected them according to what the mother once told me.

Hello bro, good morning. Hope you are fine.
Let me be of help to you
First of all, you are starting your own family so whatever happened to their family is not really the main business. The main business is the you the new generation you are starting. Focus your energy on your work, liberate yourself from poverty and get it straight. The lady doesn't have problem. Ladies are human, not robots, so they too can be confrontational just as you. As long as life is in any thing, man or animal, action and reaction are equal and opposite.

Do you care for her ? Do you pay her bills ? Do you constitute emotional strain in her brain ? Some of these will make her go crazy if not done. So make up to assist her. That's the first assignment.

Farthing02:
I’m on the verge of proposing marriage to my girlfriend whom have been dating for 2years now but the issue is the frequent quarrels we do have over everything(she disrespects me a lot and this sometimes lead physical confrontations)is making me contemplate secretly calling her dad to inquire why he’s separated from my girlfriend mother because she was raised by her mother alone alongside two other sisters and the man is happily remarried with other grown up kids. I really would love to inquire why he left her because they are really bitter against him due to the fact that he neglected them according to what the mother once told me.

None of your business, if you can't cope with her attitude let her go.By the way , what will you be doing with the information when he tells you.
No respect or what so ever, is exactly what you trying to do.

If you are responsible in your first assignment, bery good, next is does she reciprocate your responsibility with submission occasionally ? If yes, then give in to her. Love her and make it your priorities.

Secondly you need to realise that pain is defined as when someone leave their responsibility undone, the other people who are affected will nurse the grief for years. That pain is what they have towards the Father, he left them alone. But you cannot know the truth from both parties because then cause of the incidents may not be let out of the bag. So breath your breathing and pray to God to help you make the right decision. Give the lady a chance if you left her you might regret it that's a possibility though. So sit down, take your time and do the calculation

O fe ba ebi je?

Aside oo....Bro, RUN, HIDE , TELL (better story on how u dodged bulllet) Red 🚩 Flag oo

My 3 years in that kind of marriage set me back into 10 yrs, took me 3 years to gather n had to leave the country to have sanity n begin a new home.

The 3 years of marriage is indeed more than 30yrs experience for people I met in Marriage... spiritually, I set back, financially, I rupture.

Bro no enter the MARRIAGE OO, people like me who never spoke up during the ordeal are much! I Was a VICTIM, no friends to share with (she pursued the lil circle of 2 friends) my immediate family went far in distance (only call once a while to know if I still breathe), until the saw Death marks , inflicted body marks, knife scar etc. Before the joined me to WiN the battle.. u will be MENTALLY, MORALLY, FINANCIALLY ABUSED. no be all will come out alive like ME, my one Cent to you.

Call him (FAther inlaw) no matter his update or Gist, Run.. u know why ? Na u go dey not him. But u need alibi to excuse from the awaiting loom.

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No. You're a man. If you can't handle your woman at this stage then there are 2 options for you.

1. Go ahead and marry her. If you can tolerate the insults and arguments. But you might lack peace in your home.

2. Abort mission now. It's left to you to decide. You can't see that much red flag and jump into marriage. If she won't change, run o.

Point of correction!
Real men no dey date!
We pick Nikah date!

If one bloke call me potential father in law when I never give him my daughter na police go carry everybody!

Farthing02:
I’m on the verge of proposing marriage to my girlfriend whom have been dating for 2years now, but the issue is the frequent quarrels we do have over everything.

She disrespects me a lot and this sometimes lead physical confrontations .

This is making me contemplate to secretly call her dad to inquire why he’s separated from my girlfriend's mother, because she was raised by her mother alone alongside two other sisters and the man is happily remarried with other grown up kids.

I really would love to inquire why he left her because they are really bitter against him due to the fact that he neglected them according to what the mother once told me.

Pele oo detective.,.. you seems not to value your own life... And at least pity your own mother....

You Saw the warning signs... That is only good for Girl Friend relationship... And yet you want to sign up your own death warrant...

Since she is not ready to subject to your leadership, why are you still planning to propose again .

You can play shaaa....

Naught boi

Fake stories will be the d.e.ath of Nairaland.

Tufia!

larryking78:


Hello bro, good morning. Hope you are fine.
Let me be of help to you
First of all, you are starting your own family so whatever happened to their family is not really the main business. The main business is the you the new generation you are starting. Focus your energy on your work, liberate yourself from poverty and get it straight. The lady doesn't have problem. Ladies are human, not robots, so they too can be confrontational just as you. As long as life is in any thing, man or animal, action and reaction are equal and opposite.

Do you care for her ? Do you pay her bills ? Do you constitute emotional strain in her brain ? Some of these will make her go crazy if not done. So make up to assist her. That's the first assignment.

This advice get k leg o

Run before you destroy your life except you are ok with your wife to be disrespecting you


Choose your battles wisely

How will this enquiry change the girl behavior...

I am tired of all these fools we have as men. She's already showing you shege now that you are just lovers, and you want to marry her like that. Don't worry, we will be here when you open another thread to lament over the shege promax you're going through after marriage.

Some of you don't value your peace of mind at all.

Stupid move to ask stupid question.

Any woman without Father be very careful, some times the way the mom treat their Dad without respect that is how she might treat u after wedding. Marriage amplify people character. What you can not take in dating run oo. God don open your eye Oga run oo. Don’t be a Mumu man.

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And be telling him WHAT exactly.??

Farthing02:
I’m on the verge of proposing marriage to my girlfriend whom have been dating for 2years now, but the issue is the frequent quarrels we do have over everything.

She disrespects me a lot and this sometimes lead physical confrontations .

This is making me contemplate to secretly call her dad to inquire why he’s separated from my girlfriend's mother, because she was raised by her mother alone alongside two other sisters and the man is happily remarried with other grown up kids.

I really would love to inquire why he left her because they are really bitter against him due to the fact that he neglected them according to what the mother once told me.

Abort any marriage mission! Do not marry from a broken home. She has shown you what you will see later. This is a sign from God, bro! No jokes.

Count your loss and move on. Whatever you see now will quadruple in future.

See the father one on one, don't even call him to complain about his daughter's behavior.

MARRYING A GIRL RAISED BY A SINGLE MOTHER IN THE FATHER IS STILL ALIVE IS RISKY OR VERY VERY DANGEROUS.

Most of them would have been groomed by their useless and irresponsible mother to have resentments with men and their father. They have irreconcilable difference with their baby daddy and refused to agreeable with him...

They will always tell their girls how irresponsible and wicked their father is.

They will hold this message and pass on the punishment and revenge to any man that associate with them.

I'M VERY SURE THAT GIRL IS NOT A VIRGIN AND YOU DON'T KNOW HER TRUE BODYCOUNT.
THIS INFORMATION IS VERY IMPORTANT AND MOST GIRLS WITH BODYCOUNT MORE THAN 2 ARE BAG OF BAGGAGES. THEY ARE EMOTIONALLY BROKEN AND DAMAGED AND ANY MAN THAT PICKS THEM AS A PARTNER WILL SURELY SUFFER.