Good day…
First of all, my friends aren’t saint… they’re not the most good looking, nor the richest, but I feel very comfortable with the kind of friends I keep. Im not perfect either.
Also, my girlfriend is very loving, like, she calls me more than I do her, and even wants to spend on me which I deny most times. But the saying: “you can only be sure of the love you give, not what you receive” always kicks in and I’m also ready to love her to the moon and back.

Now this is the problem:

My friends are into tech. like we’re all into tech, and you’ll agree with me that at some time we should have a meet up and spend time together, developing a concept or designing a system.
My babe would always say she doesn’t like this person or that out of my crew and she wouldn’t give any credible reason when I ask.

I got to find out from her after a while that one of my friends made advances towards her before I met her… that’s probably why she’s uncomfortable towards him. But what of the rest? Why doesn’t she like them?

It’s even worse that she invites me over to her place and all or most of her friends are there. Meaning, she wants me to relate with her friends, but she hates mine.

And did I mention how most of my acquaintances and colleagues know who my babe is, or they’ve had an encounter at least once?

Im confused guys, I’ve started giving her space for now. I want to break up, but I don’t want a situation of later regrets… please help

Without any tangible reason(s)? She's beginning to measure you to know what you can tolerate or not.

She's the kind of Girlfriend that'll hate your family members, wouldn't like them to visit,

But would want you to be very comfortable with hers.

Try doing same to her by telling her to cut-off some of her friends that you simply don't like them too and you'd be shocked of her response/reaction

She's already beginning to dictate to you who to be in your life or not. It won't end here, the ball is in your court,

Small issue breakup mtcheww. Go and cheat in peace and stop stressing yourself unnecessarily. Shebi you've had sex with her, it's the reason you making this quick decision of breaking up else you would have still stuck no matter the shege she's showing you. I didn't lie with this comment, it's the bitter truth

How useful is your babe compared to your friends?

AJS used to say Humans are God's greatest assets cuz he uses them for his own Glory. and if God will bless you, he'll use humans.

Now you have a career and these people are helping your career and also helping you grow and it's not as if they're making you go wayward, now someone wants to detach you from them, if you ask me, those are the antics and nature of "A Witch" and the Bible says "Suffer not a Witch to live." OP you know what to do

IconicR:
Small issue breakup mtcheww. Go and cheat in peace and stop stressing yourself unnecessarily. Shebi you've had sex with her, it's the reason you making this quick decision of breaking up else you would have still stuck no matter the shege she's showing you. I didn't lie with this comment, it's the bitter truth

Hmm not everyone wants to cheat… I have
Few female friends which bothers my babe, but they’re either just friends or colleagues…
If I want to have several women at my disposal, that wouldn’t be a problem for me.
I needed something real, cos I wouldn’t want to develop the habit now and continue to adultery.

I don’t know how she’ll react if she gets to meet my siblings, that’s if I finally want to tie the knot… I just can’t tolerate the attitude of having someone who can’t bear the presence of my friends

IconicR:
Small issue breakup mtcheww. Go and cheat in peace and stop stressing yourself unnecessarily. Shebi you've had sex with her, it's the reason you making this quick decision of breaking up else you would have still stuck no matter the shege she's showing you. I didn't lie with this comment, it's the bitter truth

Can you read at all

ThatrealestApex:
Without any tangible reason(s)? She's beginning to measure you to know what you can tolerate or not.

She's the kind of Girlfriend that'll hate your family members, wouldn't like them to visit,

But would want you to be very comfortable with hers.

Try doing same to her by telling her to cut-off some of her friends that you simply don't like them too and you'd be shocked of her response/reaction

She's already beginning to dictate to you who to be in your life or not. It won't end here, the ball is in your court,

I was thinking she might have a problem with my siblings too if I take things far… but should I really tell her to cut off her friends?

Fuckallmods:

Hmm not everyone wants to cheat… I have
Few female friends which bothers my babe, but they’re either just friends or colleagues…
If I want to have several women at my disposal, that wouldn’t be a problem for me.
I needed something real, cos I wouldn’t want to develop the habit now and continue to adultery.

I don’t know how she’ll react if she gets to meet my siblings, that’s if I finally want to tie the knot… I just can’t tolerate the attitude of having someone who can’t bear the presence of my friends

Is her attitude towards all your friends or just a particular one? If it's all your friends then talk to her about it and tell her where you stand but if it's about just a particular one then she must have her reasons and it shouldn't warrant a breakup. The way you people are quick to break a relationship/marriage these days is worrisome

Offpointng:
AJS used to say Humans are God's greatest assets cuz he uses them for his own Glory. and if God will bless you, he'll use humans.

Now you have a career and these people are also helping your career not as if they're making you go wayward and someone wants to detach you from them, if you ask me, those are the antics and nature of "A Witch" and the Bible says "Suffer not a Witch to live." OP you know what to do

I’m getting emotional lol… breaking up is really difficult, especially for what we’ve shared

ThatrealestApex:
Without any tangible reason(s)? She's beginning to measure you to know what you can tolerate or not.

She's the kind of Girlfriend that'll hate your family members, wouldn't like them to visit,

But would want you to be very comfortable with hers.

Try doing same to her by telling her to cut-off some of her friends that you simply don't like them too and you'd be shocked of her response/reaction

She's already beginning to dictate to you who to be in your life or not. It won't end here, the ball is in your court,

You are right…

She is just gauging him. She might turn out to be a control freak.

My advice to OP is don’t break up with her if that is her only fault. If she feels uncomfortable then let her do the breaking. But don’t bulge either by submitting to her will. And make it clear you won’t succumb. By being firm.

Don’t start what you cannot finish… except you be finidi.

Disclaimer: I am no relationship expert. My advice… your risk!

Nonsense ! Your friends can make or mar you. She already told you to be careful of this/that but u are here threatening hell/brimstone. Bia ! If u leave her,she'll get a listening guy to marry

IconicR:
Is her attitude towards all your friends or just a particular one? If it's all your friends then talk to her about it and tell her where you stand but if it's about just a particular one then she must have her reasons and it shouldn't warrant a breakup. The way you people are quick to break a relationship/marriage these days is worrisome

it’s not just one of my friend she has a problem with, it’s just she has a reason for one of them… so what’s your honest advise, cos I’ve spoken with her regarding this countless time. Her attitude towards them still won’t change

Fuckallmods:
it’s not just one of my friend she has a problem with, it’s just she has a reason for one of them… so what’s your honest advise, cos I’ve spoken with her regarding this countless time. Her attitude towards them still won’t change

There's always a good and bad side in every human, it's best to know the bad side and see if it's something you can cope with, so weigh your options and take your decisions. Men/women who are truly good and not faking it are not much in this world again. What guarantee do you have that the next person won't come with her own wahala.

Fuckallmods:
I’m getting emotional lol… breaking up is really difficult, especially for what we’ve shared

I'm not actually asking you to break up with her but you gotta make sure you put yourself in a place no lady can't just be deciding for you what to do. be firm and make your stand known to her that she can't decide who to be and who's not to be your friend

From the look of things, you seem to be a gentle and a quiet typa guy

First orientation matters alot.....

The first orientation I instilled on my banny when we first met was that--"She must respect my friends,as much as she respects me and my family members". That's if she wants our relationship to grow,she mustn't depart from it,and of course, I'll equally respect hers too.....

And trust me,it's been going well between us.....

Is her toto still tight?

Your answer to this question will determine my advise to you

RED FLAG

If you want to have a smooth relationship, better keep your relationship away from all your friends. Only your inner circle should have any business with your partner.

Any sensible person shouldn't have more than 3 people in their inner circle. It's kids who take their partners around to meet every acquaintance.

Offpointng:


I'm not actually asking you to break up with her but you gotta make sure you put yourself in a place no lady can't just be deciding for you what to do. be firm and make your stand known to her that she can't decide who to be and who's not to be your friend

From the look of things, you seem to be a gentle and a quiet typa guy

You don’t understand… I’ve made it clear that she can’t have a say towards the kind of friends I keep. It’s non negotiable…
when she decides to neglect everything I say do I raise my hands on her? She’s not yet a wife, yet she won’t even let me relate with my friends like I want to… I’ve done everything within my power, to no avail… I really don’t understand what u mean by gentle… but if gentle is someone that doesn’t raise his voice or beat his woman, then I’m gentle

Sonnobax15:

First orientation matters alot.....

The first orientation I instilled on my banny when we first met was that--"She must respect my friends,as much as she respects me and my family members". That's if she wants our relationship to grow,she mustn't depart from it,and of course, I'll equally respect hers too.....

And trust me,it's been going well between us.....

congrats my gee… people wish for what you have and I respect the first impression u instilled on her. Im taking notes

When a 9ja girl is behaving dramatic, know that there is something she is up to.

I believe one of your guy have knack her or have seen her in a way she doesn't want you to know. Hence she fear her secret will be out.

Or

You know 9ja girls are all ashawo, she may be having eyes for some of your friends and she is afraid she may lose guard.

Let me tell you the truth, most times when she meet some of your guys, her kpekus do raise, if you are very observant, you will notice.

zed7:
If you want to have a smooth relationship, better keep your relationship away from all your friends. Only your inner circle should have any business with your partner.

Any sensible person shouldn't have more than 3 people in their inner circle. It's kids who take their partners around to meet every acquaintance.

so as I get babe na make I discard all my friends Abi?

Fuckallmods:
Good day…
First of all, my friends aren’t saint… they’re not the most good looking, nor the richest, but I feel very comfortable with the kind of friends I keep. Im not perfect either.
Also, my girlfriend is very loving, like, she calls me more than I do her, and even wants to spend on me which I deny most times. But the saying: “you can only be sure of the love you give, not what you receive” always kicks in and I’m also ready to love her to the moon and back.

Now this is the problem:

My friends are into tech. like we’re all into tech, and you’ll agree with me that at some time we should have a meet up and spend time together, developing a concept or designing a system.
My babe would always say she doesn’t like this person or that out of my crew and she wouldn’t give any credible reason when I ask.

I got to find out from her after a while that one of my friends made advances towards her before I met her… that’s probably why she’s uncomfortable towards him. But what of the rest? Why doesn’t she like them?

It’s even worse that she invites me over to her place and all or most of her friends are there. Meaning, she wants me to relate with her friends, but she hates mine.

And did I mention how most of my acquaintances and colleagues know who my babe is, or they’ve had an encounter at least once?

Im confused guys, I’ve started giving her space for now. I want to break up, but I don’t want a situation of later regrets… please help

This one don carry olosho do girl friend..kontinue

Fuckallmods:

You don’t understand… I’ve made it clear that she can’t have a say towards the kind of friends I keep. It’s non negotiable…
when she decides to neglect everything I say do I raise my hands on her? She’s not yet a wife, yet she won’t even let me relate with my friends like I want to… I’ve done everything within my power, to no avail… I really don’t understand what u mean by gentle… but if gentle is someone that doesn’t raise his voice or beat his woman, then I’m gentle

I can see that this gentle of a thing is giving you some issues take a chill pill here bro cuz obviously you can't raise your hand on someone who don't like your friends but I'm simply saying you create some standard, if that standard is in place you shouldn't be having this problem.

Savedday2:
When a 9ja girl is behaving dramatic, know that there is something she is up to.

I believe one of your guy have knack her or have seen her in a way she doesn't want you to know. Hence she fear her secret will be out.

Or

You know 9ja girls are all ashawo, she may be having eyes for some of your friends and she is afraid she may lose guard.

Let me tell you the truth, most times when she meet some of your guys, her kpekus do raise, if you are very observant, you will notice.

God bless you reaaaaaaal good, it is what it is....you are the real niggar bro✌

ThatrealestApex:
Without any tangible reason(s)? She's beginning to measure you to know what you can tolerate or not.

She's the kind of Girlfriend that'll hate your family members, wouldn't like them to visit,

But would want you to be very comfortable with hers.

Try doing same to her by telling her to cut-off some of her friends that you simply don't like them too and you'd be shocked of her response/reaction

She's already beginning to dictate to you who to be in your life or not. It won't end here, the ball is in your court,

Exactly! 💯

anthonyuncle:
RED FLAG

what’s that

What’s her attitude like towards your friends?

When a woman wants to deal with you. The first step is to isolate you from your friends.
Your family comes up second.

After that your idiot meter will go off the scale!

It's a trap. You cut your friends off, you become emotionally dependent on her and you become blind to everything. When she leaves you will be emotionally destabilized.

Dem dey set traps for you
This was how a girl told me that if we date she was going to take me away from my friends both male and female, that she won’t let them be too comfortable around me until they get the drill that she doesn’t want her man’s atte stain divided

I told her straight up I am not an object to be taken just like that by anyone for no reason, she better drop such crazy idea or she would be the one to be dropped, because these are friends I have know for a long time and have impacted in my life in different ways and you now want to separate me and them, bexause of pussy,Dey play

So op stand your ground and not let her remove you from your guys oo, even if I get betrayed by my fellow guy I still feel more comfortable to relate with him again in a guy man level, but if a girl betray me, that’s the end of it, so your real guy are the one oo, the girl may meet another man she consider better than you and dump you without thinking twice, but most times your guys, especially the ones you make money with, share productive times with etc won’t dump you, give your self brain