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The providers only exist on NL!

1Sharon:
Are you kidding me?

Most Nigerians are poor! The women marry poor men all the time.

The hardworking wives that are hawking bread, roasting corn, farming, sometimes while pregnant and backing a second.

Do they look like they have a rich husband?

Alot of Nigerian men are not providers! The women are out there hustings just as much as they are.

If those women were not working the finances of home will suffer. Abeggg

cococandy:
The providers only exist on NL!

Lmao...Exactly.

Because not having a man to call your own is too embarrassing. So, ladies just endure the betrayal

It's not considered normal.....

talented321:
1. He house u
2. He paid ur pride price
3. He feed's u
4. He pay all bills
5. He feed the children
6. He pays the children's school fees.
7. When your mother/father dies he is the one to spend money also when his mother/father dies he is the still the one to make all expenses
8. He walk all day to make sure u and the kids live a better life.
9. He sells his happiness for the family
10. He will be only regard as man when he produces something' but you as a woman can go into marriage without nothing
11. He know the worst u can do is to leave his house.
12. I don't like cheating but there is a different between cheating in men and cheating in woman'' the earlier u accept it the better for u
Modified :when a woman cheat it is a shame to the husband and his/her family'' while when a man cheat it is normal in the eyes of land.
A woman can become pregnant where as a man can't
13. WITH MY HANDSOME WEED'' WHILE LUCKY DUBE KEEP THE VIBE CALLED '' IT IS NOT EASY''' GOING

I owe you a bottle of orijin bro.

If they can't accept it, they should remain in their father's house.
We will continue to cheat, whether married or unmarried.

One love bro'' u don't expect women to accept truth.

Fuckyoumod:
I owe you a bottle of orijin bro.

If they can't accept it, they should remain in their father's house.
We will continue to cheat, whether married or unmarried.

adebayo987:
Tradition caused it. Women are treated like properties such that a man must buy her in the guise of dowry. Why wouldn't men see cheating as normal when they paid for their wives?

Why do most Nigerian women divorce their Nigerian husbands once they get to the Europe or America? It's simply because they're treated equally as men. Here, a woman is seen as a house maid whose duties lies in the kitchen and the other room. This is the bitter truth. I love Korean and Japanese people so much because they're so honourable, their women honour their bodies and are in charge of their homes more than their men as they're respected, which made cheating almost impossible in those countries.

They are properties once a man pay bride prices and do all the traditional stuffs. What is the meaning of paying all the moemy self??.
If you look closely in Europe, women are more respected cos no one pays millions to have them.

Because one toto dey kill prick

UnusualEmissary:
Ask the people that consider it normal

EOD.

Who considers cheating normal for men? My father, uncles, and other male figures in my life never gave me this impression. Tufiakwa that this is considered normal.

Kobojunkie:
Correction.. Adam did not choose Eve. Rather, Adam was given no other choice but Eve, his clone.

1Sharon:
If she is female, how is she his clone.

Good point... clone would be genetically the same. Alright, so maybe his word choice wasn't the best, but I get the gist.

But still, I think the problem is that our society, influenced by Judeo-Christian ideology, imposes on men a monogamy that is not natural - and we know that.

Men are biologically predisposed to be polygamous - a man can make babies with many women in a given period, and is disposed to sharing his seed. The opposite is not true (i.e. a woman can only get pregnant once in a given period), and would be more disposed to forming a bond with a single partner that can provide for that seed. You can even see this in preference: generally men look for clues of child-bearing; women look for clues of child-rearing (status in society, ability to provide/protect).

Socio-economically, a woman has been (fairly or not), seen as a dependent to transfer from her father's house to her husband's house. It is not ok for a dependent to cheat. On the other hand, a man is seen as a independent agent, able to accommodate as may dependents as his strength allows.

I will get some flogging for this line of reasoning, but the truth is: those who control the finances get to call the shots. Women as a group are unlikely to be able to devote the same amount of time and energy to advancing in their careers as men if they want to also carry and nurse multiple young. In societies where women are choosing careers, there are fewer babies being born. Not saying that's good or bad, but I'm just pointing out that - given the same mental capacity - a woman over her lifetime would have to share her time and energy in a way most men don't. And the consequence of that is ability to control finances.

Druss:
Who considers cheating normal for men? My father, uncles, and other male figures in my life never gave me this impression. Tufiakwa that this is considered normal.

I dunno dude... every wife after the first came in as a form of cheating...

Nonexisting1:
Adam chose Eve and not vice versa. Men always have choices but women should stick to the one that chose them. My comment is logical, one without brain will find it difficult to understand it.

How u tey know Adam Choose Eve

U dey There ?

SmartPolician:
■ This is the display of madness with guts.

People like you take your wives abroad and think it's okay for you to continue cheating on her while she prays for you to repent. Unfortunately, that never happens.

When she unleashes their marital laws on you, the authorities will deal with you. Afterwards, you come online and start wailing and advising men not to bring their Nigerian wives abroad.

Jovialjune1, you need to pay attention to this.

cococandy:
You dey mind them?

Instead make witch dey relieved na so so gurls she dey born

DonroxyII:
How u tey know Adam Choose Eve

U dey There ?

When God brought Eve to Adam, did he mandate the mumu to accept her as his wife? Why didn't he reject her if it wasn't his choice? The fool saw kpekus and screamed she was his bone and flesh. That day, he used his hands and put himself and all of us into the trouble we are in today. Kai, the Eve gender has really messed up this once sweet world.

The Animal Kingdom should tell you why.

Kobojunkie:
Jovialjune1, you need to pay attention to this.

But it's not tradition, it's a mentality, most Nigerian men's mentality not all, the Nigerian guy you quoted doesn't have that mentality.

Jovialjune1:
■ But it's not tradition, it's a mentality, most Nigerian men's mentality not all, the Nigerian guy you quoted doesn't have that mentality.

Driven largely by culture and tradition aka societal ideologies. You cannot run away from this connection at all.

Truvelisback:
The Animal Kingdom should tell you why.

So cheating men are animals niyen, and if we call you dogs una go dey cry, dogs are animals.

Men this days be like He-goat roaming around Looking 4 where to put prick

Kobojunkie:
Driven largely by culture and tradition aka societal ideologies. You cannot run away from this connection at all.

Kobo it's a mentality, a flawed trait that cannot be found in all men.

I think Christianity brought about cheating. Cheating is a term used to describe having sexual relationship outside of a defined union.

Naturally, women prefer sexual exclusivity with a man who is capable of taking care of her financially. They don't practice sexuall exclusivity with poor man. On the other hand, poor men practice sexual exclusivity while rich men don't like sexual exclusivity. It is evidently clear by this analysis that women originated the term cheating.

If I'm broke as a man, my women would prefer to sleep around with men who are more financially stable than I'm, then what gives her the right to prevent me from sleeping with more women when/if I have the means to do that?

This is nature, there is nothing like cheating. Women call it cheating because they don't want men to practice polygamy. In reality, every man wants polygamy, it is the women folk who want monogamy because they want to monopolies the resources a man has all to themselves.

Here is the analogy, A woman would want a man who is worth 100 million dollars because she knows the whole money would be spent on her and that translates to a good life. On the other hand, if a man is worth 100 million dollars and he has 4 wives, automatically, each wife may only be entitled to 25 million dollars and that is less that what each of them would get if they are the sole wife. Separate a man from his wealth and women would care less how many concubines or wives the man decides to marry.

Shalom

pretydiva:
Are these the reasons it is considered normal for men?

Yes.

Jovialjune1:
■ Kobo it's a mentality, a flawed trait that cannot be found in all men.

Cannot be "found" in all men? Why is it "found" in women, particularly African women? Are African women born with this mentality while their European counterparts aren't? Why are African women supposedly born with this mentality able to abandon it once they leave the shores of say Nigeria?

Nonexisting1:
When God brought Eve to Adam, did he mandate the mumu to accept her as his wife? Why didn't he reject her if it wasn't his choice? The fool saw kpekus and screamed she is his bone and flesh. That day, he used his hands and put himself and all of us into the trouble we are in today. Kai, the Eve gender has really messed up this once sweet world.

Laughingson

AlphaHakimi:
I think Christianity brought about cheating. Cheating is a term used to describe having sexual relationship outside of a defined union.

Naturally, women prefer sexual exclusivity with a man who is capable of taking care of her financially. They don't practice sexuall exclusivity with poor man. On the other hand, poor men practice sexual exclusivity while rich men don't like sexual exclusivity. It is evidently clear by this analysis that women originated the term cheating.

If I'm broke as a man, my women would prefer to sleep around with men who are more financially stable than I'm, then what gives her the right to prevent me from sleeping with more women when/if I have the means to do that?

This is nature, there is nothing like cheating. Women call it cheating because they don't want men to practice polygamy. In reality, every man wants polygamy, it is the women folk who want monogamy because they want to monopolies the resources a man has all to themselves.

Here is the analogy, A woman would want a man who is worth 100 million dollars because she knows the whole money would be spent on her and that translates to a good life. On the other hand, if a man is worth 100 million dollars and he has 4 wives, automatically, each wife may only be entitled to 25 million dollars and that is less that what each of them would get if they are the sole wife. Separate a man from his wealth and women would care less how many concubines or wives the man decides to marry.

Shalom

No sir. You're not totally wrong, but it's alot more complicated than that.

Jovialjune1:
So cheating men are animals niyen, and if we call you dogs una go dey cry, dogs are animals.

Is that what you think? Men cheats, women cheats too. So, Cheating women are animals too, bitches to be precised.

nextstep:
Good point... clone would be genetically the same. Alright, so maybe his word choice wasn't the best, but I get the gist.

But still, I think the problem is that our society, influenced by Judeo-Christian ideology, imposes on men a monogamy that is not natural - and we know that.

Men are biologically predisposed to be polygamous - a man can make babies with many women in a given period, and is disposed to sharing his seed. The opposite is not true (i.e. a woman can only get pregnant once in a given period), and would be more disposed to forming a bond with a single partner that can provide for that seed. You can even see this in preference: generally men look for clues of child-bearing; women look for clues of child-rearing (status in society, ability to provide/protect).

Socio-economically, a woman has been (fairly or not), seen as a dependent to transfer from her father's house to her husband's house. It is not ok for a dependent to cheat. On the other hand, a man is seen as a independent agent, able to accommodate as may dependents as his strength allows.

I will get some flogging for this line of reasoning, but the truth is: those who control the finances get to call the shots. Women as a group are unlikely to be able to devote the same amount of time and energy to advancing in their careers as men if they want to also carry and nurse multiple young. In societies where women are choosing careers, there are fewer babies being born. Not saying that's good or bad, but I'm just pointing out that - given the same mental capacity - a woman over her lifetime would have to share her time and energy in a way most men don't. And the consequence of that is ability to control finances.

Wrong!

1Sharon:
This is a better response than what that idiot said.

By his logic, women that are breadwinners and pay their own bride price are free to cheat.

Why do y'all take things so personal?
I feel for your mental health.

True sha. U re right

advanceDNA:
A man that doesn't provide will lose the respect and love he gets from his woman...it's proven fact.

We already know u women don't love us.....u only love how we care for you....
so yeah... while it's not morally or religiously right a woman is technically free to cheat if the husband is useless... Ur penîs cannot be stronging when u are not a feeding ur family and paying the bills

kkins25:
Wrong!

Hah! I love these kind of responses that have no content... no context... no insight... just the sound of croaking: "wrong!"