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Please is virginity your major concern, just marry an obedient girl and the rest is history. would you prefer arrogant primary virgin to obedient secondary virgin.

Honeybadgerxx:
There's this church girl I'm currently dating, I love her so much and she loves me too. She claimed to be a virgin and insisted on no sex till marriage, I really do not have a problem with that cos I'm not a virgin and I told her about it and she said she's cool with it.

Now this is where the issue is, suddenly one day she chatted me up and asked if I know about hymen in ladies, I said yes and she popped another question asking if the hymen of a lady can be broken without penetration, I told her yes that sometimes the thickness of the hymen varies amongst ladies, some are very light that too much of heat and stress can make a lady discover a little discharge of blood underneath her thereby breaking the hymen ( I actually learnt this during school days). But the question got me curious and forced me to ask her if hers was still intact, she replied me by saying she doesn't know, that she only saw it online and decided to ask me cos she knew I'm knowledgeable, like how possible is this? Why shouldn't you know? We fought about this for days and she still insist that she's isn't aware, she was nearly crying saying this. Well, I noticed some innocence in her statements and let go of it.

Now my question is, is it possible for a lady not to know if her hymen is still intact or not? Ladies in the house please help me out.

Note: I'm not a simp, I be correct OG but decided to give love a chance and trusted this girl not because she's a church girl, not because she claimed to be a virgin, but because everyone tends to vouch for her including those kiss and tell guys around, none of them fit play her tape like they talk about other ladies around. Even in her uni days, I was opportuned to have a friend in her school hostel area of which he's unknown to her and the comments he gave about her are very impressive.
Even when I stylishly engage her in some sex topics, she tends to ask me the meaning of some erotic words.

She's a good girl, never billed me before, though I do send her funds atimes, she dresses moderately and hates going out.

But considering how ladies pretends and how some good girls turns bad, I still have this doubt within me, what could make her asked me such question?

Please I need answers as I'm planning towards our marriage soon, she's in her mid 20s and now a grad

Lazyreporta:
You just said the same thing I said. Either of this is a yes..

But I was saying incase she didn't do any of these, she may no give a straight answer especially if shes not knowledgeable like the ops girl

ok back to the basis of the op story or her girl.

Are you aware she’s the one that initiated to op about the hymen talk. That’s deception. Assuming it’s op that raised the topic, that’s when he will not get disturbed about it.

But she raised the topic herself(manipulating and checking ops knowledge about it) indirectly and psychologically telling op she’s not intact. So it’s left for op to puzzle in confusion if it’s either she lost it through exercise or masturbation, when they will eventually have sex.

And she perfectly succeeded.

Ikpeabujo:
storytelling, go and sit down

You're obviously a kid.

Ikpeabujo:
storytelling, go and sit down

Woman wrapper, that's what I can glean from the topics of your threads.

You're indeed a kid.

Honeybadgerxx:
There's this church girl I'm currently dating, I love her so much and she loves me too. She claimed to be a virgin and insisted on no sex till marriage, I really do not have a problem with that cos I'm not a virgin and I told her about it and she said she's cool with it.

Now this is where the issue is, suddenly one day she chatted me up and asked if I know about hymen in ladies, I said yes and she popped another question asking if the hymen of a lady can be broken without penetration, I told her yes that sometimes the thickness of the hymen varies amongst ladies, some are very light that too much of heat and stress can make a lady discover a little discharge of blood underneath her thereby breaking the hymen ( I actually learnt this during school days). But the question got me curious and forced me to ask her if hers was still intact, she replied me by saying she doesn't know, that she only saw it online and decided to ask me cos she knew I'm knowledgeable, like how possible is this? Why shouldn't you know? We fought about this for days and she still insist that she's isn't aware, she was nearly crying saying this. Well, I noticed some innocence in her statements and let go of it.

Now my question is, is it possible for a lady not to know if her hymen is still intact or not? Ladies in the house please help me out.

Note: I'm not a simp, I be correct OG but decided to give love a chance and trusted this girl not because she's a church girl, not because she claimed to be a virgin, but because everyone tends to vouch for her including those kiss and tell guys around, none of them fit play her tape like they talk about other ladies around. Even in her uni days, I was opportuned to have a friend in her school hostel area of which he's unknown to her and the comments he gave about her are very impressive.
Even when I stylishly engage her in some sex topics, she tends to ask me the meaning of some erotic words.

She's a good girl, never billed me before, though I do send her funds atimes, she dresses moderately and hates going out.

But considering how ladies pretends and how some good girls turns bad, I still have this doubt within me, what could make her asked me such question?

Please I need answers as I'm planning towards our marriage soon, she's in her mid 20s and now a grad

I once had a lady like this, a very pretty lady met her in first year in uni, I swear she was everything I wanted in a wife, but I wasn't ready to settle down down, slightly took her for granted, years after I haven't found anyone like her, if she ticks 70-90 percent of the box then she is okay for you, provided she has the capacity to learn, mine then wasn't even a virgin I suppose but she was still the best I have ever been in a relationship with.

Jeromestarks, the nairaland virgin expert may have one or two things to say concerning this. Over to you bro.

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blackgold2018:
ok back to the basis of the op story or her girl.

Are you aware she’s the one that initiated to op about the hymen talk. That’s deception. Assuming it’s op that raised the topic, that’s when he will not get disturbed about it.

But she raised the topic herself(manipulating and checking ops knowledge about it) indirectly and psychologically telling op she’s not intact. So it’s left for op to puzzle in confusion if it’s either she lost it through exercise or masturbation, when they will eventually have sex.

And she perfectly succeeded.

Can I ask you a direct question? Is the girl a virgin? Based on what op said.


Bro, we judge alot of times until we are in the same position, then we will see things clearly.

She initiated the gist doesn't make a non virgin or lair. She may read about it out of curiosity, especially if she's truly a virgin.

I dated a girl who was a virgin, she also raised this issue, exactly like ops case. I never thought she was lying. When we had sex, there was also no blood. Still, I dint doubt her. Guess what? She brought the hymen and no blood issue up by herself, and I also research and I found out there maybe no blood even as virgin. She does ride bicycle anyways.


The issue is, we already have a mindset and that's what's wrong with the world.

This issue is a 50/50 case. Neither you or op can tell us she's lying.

fabuloz1:
Guy, you don talk am finish. My own is that, I want a decent girl that won't cheat in our marriage. Whether she get 10 body counts before marriage, I don't care, just remain faithful and loyal in marriage. Simple!

As long as her character dy ok nd she never do runs before whether she be virgin or not no really matter

Ganjafama:
Jeromestarks, the nairaland virgin expert may have one or two things to say concerning this. Over to you bro.

I read the Op's post earlier. I didn't say anything because:
1. He was stupid to have agreed to "no sex before marriage"

2. He knew the girl is a novice to the sexing world but he still came out here to disturb people. Shame on him.

3. He has fought with the girl over the issue and they have resolved it. So what's the fuss about?

4. The op said he is OG. Like, a dummy like him said he is OG but he couldn't tell by a girl's word and actions if she's a virgin or not? Like what stupid OG is he? Idiotic OG I guess.


5. The most annoying thing about the Op and his post is that he trusts a church girl? Church girls that are chronic masturbators? Church girls that are practice for choirmaster? Church girls that pastor release "holy sperm" inside them before they get married? Church girls that are not different from muslim girls- alpha fvcks them for free.

No matter how you skin it, the Op can not have peace marrying that girl.

Honeybadgerxx:
Hmmm! I was actually bewildered when she said she doesn't know too, but the truth about this girl is, she's not exposed, I knew this from our conversation, I'm a psychologist, I can actually tell if she is pretending. Before she got comfortable discussing sex issues with me, it took her time, I had to reorientate her mentality. She's was shy. Trust me on this, no pretence, she was real

Bro if she is. Gud for you go ahead and marry her ..but you saying you be OG I disagree coz the babe don de use ur head...Do u know how female feels in their pussy? How can she be telling you she doesn't know if her pussy is now open or not ..and u call ursef OG and what is stopping you from checking her pussy out vividly since you both agreed no sex then you can spread her legs and check her pussy out ..It shouldn't be a problem since you both love each other .. Abi u don place her one salary? Lol coz it seems love don blind u o

Honeybadgerxx:
Exactly what I'm thinking. But this girl swore with her life that she hasn't even kissed a guy before not to talk of sex, I guess she masturbates.

Now bro, what do you think, let's assume she hasn't been penetrated by anyone before and she lost her virginity to masturbation, should one go on with the wedding plans with such lady? Since the whole reason behind this virginity stuffs is to avoid fornication. I really don't care about her masturbating provided she will stop it after getting married, my problem is her having sex with someone else. Should I go on and marry her, I really love her and she loves me more than I do to her, she's respectful, she's beautiful, she's educated and sensible at least for a lady.

And I also want to know if masturbation is same thing with fornication?

Masturbation is the same thing as fornication because you can’t masturbate without lust and a guy some either in real world or in a video on your phone is the target of that lust and the Bible say he that lust after another have committed fornication.

So if your whole goal is to remain pious and reap some blessings from God, that is not going to happen plus the risk outweighs the benefit.

Do not underestimate the importance of sex in marriage, both of you have to be compatible. If she is masturbating now, she will masturbate when you guys get married. You would not be able to satisfy her as her masturbator plus she is now familiar with masturbation which will be a fall back place for her.

Do not go into marriage with blinders on, you were suppose to put the blinders on after the marriage but not before.

For starters both of should go and run many medical tests, eg STD, Genotype, fertility and someone mentioned virginity.

Many have taken this ‘no sex until marriage’ highway in the past and are regretting it today, don’t be a statistics, this is your life, be serious about it and don’t walk into it with blinders on.

Xpol:
lol real men doesn't believe those fairy tales if at all I will be manipulated by a woman not in those aspects coz even though she's saying the truth truth I hear the opposite.

Lol naso

Lazyreporta:
Can I ask you a direct question? Is the girl a virgin? Based on what op said.


Bro, we judge alot of times until we are in the same position, then we will see things clearly.

She initiated the gist doesn't make a non virgin or lair. She may read about it out of curiosity, especially if she's truly a virgin.

I dated a girl who was a virgin, she also raised this issue, exactly like ops case. I never thought she was lying. When we had sex, there was also no blood. Still, I dint doubt her. Guess what? She brought the hymen and no blood issue up by herself, and I also research and I found out there maybe no blood even as virgin. She does ride bicycle anyways.


The issue is, we already have a mindset and that's what's wrong with the world.

This issue is a 50/50 case. Neither you or op can tell us she's lying.

i no some doesn’t bleed. Sometimes it can even be two drops of blood that will be out. Sometimes it will be later some hours she will bleed.

But aleast you will still experience if she was actually a virgin at her first sex. And It’s never a 50/50 case. Girls take advantage of good or nice men. And how sure were you, you actually dated a virgin?? And tell me how old were you?

As for the op narration. That girl is no virgin.

jeromestarks:
I read the Op's post earlier. I didn't say anything because:
1. He was stupid to have agreed to "no sex before marriage"

2. He knew the girl is a novice to the sexing world but he still came out here to disturb people. Shame on him.

3. He has fought with the girl over the issue and they have resolved it. So what's the fuss about?

4. The op said he is OG. Like, a dummy like him said he is OG but he couldn't tell by a girl's word and actions if she's a virgin or not? Like what stupid OG is he? Idiotic OG I guess.


5. The most annoying thing about the Op and his post is that he trusts a church girl? Church girls that are chronic masturbators? Church girls that are practice for choirmaster? Church girls that pastor release "holy sperm" inside them before they get married? Church girls that are not different from muslim girls- alpha fvcks them for free.

No matter how you skin it,the Op can not have peace marrying that girl.

Be calming down and stop forming Mr know it all, you are so wrong with your logic. I swear you no fit stand with me head to head onto street matters, forget faceless forum, if me and you meet for real, you go pay homage bro, no lies... Once again, be calming down, you don't judge people you don't know

Op na wenkule broda ..aluku man ...there is Notting you will gain from marriage before sex ... Love & money with understanding keeps marriage , even though una no Bleep before marriage ,it doesn't guarantee a lifelong Union ...haha Baba Bleep the girl ..it's of no benefit waiting till marriage ...

you dont attache anything to marriage otherwise you will be disappointed. if you like her marry her just forget about whats ever

yankison:
Bro if she is. Gud for you go ahead and marry her ..but you saying you be OG I disagree coz the babe don de use ur head...Do u know how female feels in their pussy? How can she be telling you she doesn't know if her pussy is now open or not ..and u call ursef OG and what is stopping you from checking her pussy out vividly since you both agreed no sex then you can spread her legs and check her pussy out ..It shouldn't be a problem since you both love each other .. Abi u don place her one salary? Lol coz it seems love don blind u o

you vividly have a point. An OG will check if she’s telling the truth.

Or perhaps she doesn’t let him to confirm🤣. If so, then the op’s girlfriend is highly manipulative.

advanceDNA:
Weda its virginity issue, or age, or not having kids, or wateva....Oga dont enter any marriage blind....
Women are very deceptive...... she's already showing signs that she's lying by creating excuse in ur mind so that when u reach there and its a free slope...she can have an excuse

free slope.some of you are wired differently.

Abeg, stop monitoring girls up and down. Marry her if you want to. Why are you asking her hostel people about her? It's childish

Honeybadgerxx:
Be calming down and stop forming Mr know it all, you are so wrong with your logic. I swear you no fit stand with me head to head onto street matters, forget faceless forum, if me and you meet for real, you go pay homage bro, no lies... Once again, be calming down, you don't judge people you don't know

Pay homage? I paid homage to children on the street sef. The smaller you're to me, the more respect you get from me.
Don't worry, come back and read this same post next year and you will surely regret saying you're bigger than me.

blackgold2018:
i no some doesn’t bleed. Sometimes it can even be two drops of blood that will be out. Sometimes it will be later some hours she will bleed.

But aleast you will still experience if she was actually a virgin at her first sex. And It’s never a 50/50 case. Girls take advantage of good or nice men. And how sure were you, you actually dated a virgin?? And tell me how old were you?

As for the op narration. That girl is no virgin.

The first bolded is the reason for the second bolded.

I was 23 while she 18.

By the way I still know at least 3 women who are still virgins. But they do all except sex

Honeybadgerxx:
Be calming down and stop forming Mr know it all, you are so wrong with your logic. I swear you no fit stand with me head to head onto street matters, forget faceless forum, if me and you meet for real, you go pay homage bro, no lies... Once again, be calming down, you don't judge people you don't know

no bro.. you are not.

A girl can not tell you she’s a virgin without you confirming.(even if she vows with her life, that’s even suspicious)

But instead you are even trying to cover her that it will be through masturbation or normal other circumstances she lost her virginity, if eventually she’s not.

Infant this is a minor issue you are supposed to solve by yourself than bringing it to social media

Peterpanny:
free slope.some of you are wired differently.

Baba...forget...we are all wired differently

If you like take wrong advice here, na you sabi.

Don't be a fool boy.the deal day you will discover the SLUT as a BOREHOLE in between her 🦵🍗 legs why will a girl not no if her HRN is intact.That is how they behave when they want to lie, looking for excuse to givewhy are you even bother about if she is VIRGIN or not.You are not a VIRGIN you they find VIRGIN what of all the small girls you spoilt who will marry them.You better go marry one of those girls you spoilt and leave that girl alone before you find out what will make you go crazy and confused rest of ur life truth been told take or leave it.who quotes me advising him hug transformers

Honeybadgerxx:
There's this church girl I'm currently dating, I love her so much and she loves me too. She claimed to be a virgin and insisted on no sex till marriage, I really do not have a problem with that cos I'm not a virgin and I told her about it and she said she's cool with it.

Now this is where the issue is, suddenly one day she chatted me up and asked if I know about hymen in ladies, I said yes and she popped another question asking if the hymen of a lady can be broken without penetration, I told her yes that sometimes the thickness of the hymen varies amongst ladies, some are very light that too much of heat and stress can make a lady discover a little discharge of blood underneath her thereby breaking the hymen ( I actually learnt this during school days). But the question got me curious and forced me to ask her if hers was still intact, she replied me by saying she doesn't know, that she only saw it online and decided to ask me cos she knew I'm knowledgeable, like how possible is this? Why shouldn't you know? We fought about this for days and she still insist that she's isn't aware, she was nearly crying saying this. Well, I noticed some innocence in her statements and let go of it.

Now my question is, is it possible for a lady not to know if her hymen is still intact or not? Ladies in the house please help me out.

Note: I'm not a simp, I be correct OG but decided to give love a chance and trusted this girl not because she's a church girl, not because she claimed to be a virgin, but because everyone tends to vouch for her including those kiss and tell guys around, none of them fit play her tape like they talk about other ladies around. Even in her uni days, I was opportuned to have a friend in her school hostel area of which he's unknown to her and the comments he gave about her are very impressive.
Even when I stylishly engage her in some sex topics, she tends to ask me the meaning of some erotic words.

She's a good girl, never billed me before, though I do send her funds atimes, she dresses moderately and hates going out.

But considering how ladies pretends and how some good girls turns bad, I still have this doubt within me, what could make her asked me such question?

Please I need answers as I'm planning towards our marriage soon, she's in her mid 20s and now a grad

She has had sex and lost her virginity.
Don't mind her tears and crying. She just want an alibi when you later discover that she is not a virgin.

Now, I had this girl. We were friends, not serious. She told me she was a virgin.
Later as we went on, I decided to take the relationship serious and even proposed to marry her.
She refused the proposal and I then wanted to leave her and move on. She didn't want me to go.
The day I insisted, she cried bitterly that she didn't want to lose me.
I was like what? You didn't want to lose me but you don't want to marry me and you are crying that I shouldn't leave you. I knew something was amiss and there's a truth I need to know.
I was meditating one day and it just dropped into my spirit that she lied about her virginity and she doesn't know how to handle it now that I am talking marriage.
Anyway it was me that riggled the truth out of her mouth and she had to admit that she has had sex but was ashamed to admit it.

blackgold2018:
no bro.. you are not.

A girl can not tell you she’s a virgin without you confirming.(even if she vows with her life, that’s even suspicious)

But instead you are even trying to cover her that it will be through masturbation or normal other circumstances she lost her virginity, if eventually she’s not.

Infant this is a minor issue you are supposed to solve by yourself than bringing it to social media

Oga rest, you are a kid. It's smells all over your comments

Honeybadgerxx:
Oga rest, you are a kid. It's smells all over your comments

lol.. I laugh at you. I’m telling you from experiences.

But you don’t wanna hear.. because you are blinded by love.
I have seen you Downgrade your other fellow in this your topic. Simply because you spoke to you, telling him who you are. That’s speaks more like your kind of a person.

People more of with pride are shallow minded and poor. And are more often kids. Moreover boy, I’m 35..

talented321:
My concern is why do u choose marriage before sex' as OG way u be.
Fine she may be a virgin or not but that is not enough reason to wait till marriage for this present age.
What if after marriage u discovered she don't have a kpekus or she is not a virgin' but with a borehole
Oga if her claim of virginity is real' then she is masturbating.

And there you go openly encouraging fornication. I hope you realize one day that this world isn't about short minute pleasure.

Honeybadgerxx:
Exactly what I'm thinking. But this girl swore with her life that she hasn't even kissed a guy before not to talk of sex, I guess she masturbates.

Now bro, what do you think, let's assume she hasn't been penetrated by anyone before and she lost her virginity to masturbation, should one go on with the wedding plans with such lady? Since the whole reason behind this virginity stuffs is to avoid fornication. I really don't care about her masturbating provided she will stop it after getting married, my problem is her having sex with someone else. Should I go on and marry her, I really love her and she loves me more than I do to her, she's respectful, she's beautiful, she's educated and sensible at least for a lady.

And I also want to know if masturbation is same thing with fornication?

Come off it dude, no one will tell you whether to marry someone or not, you have to make that decision yourself. Stop being petty. Make serious inquiries about her from those that know her and will give genuine information about her. Pray over things. Evaluate whether you see a future together with her, be real and avoid being manipulated. If all patterns align accordingly, then go for it.

My people will say "he is who is wise enough to seek counsel from others , must be willing to hear his as well" it baffles me when you guys bring up your relationship and private affairs for online judicial panel (please no insult to anyone sincerely) bro, If you trust yourself enough to make key decisions for yourself , then I think you have the answers you truly want. Let the months or years been with her, let your love, let the Lord God Almighty help you through and bro, there are good girls out there, if you seek, you shall find but I want you to ask yourself this one question?

What am I really and truly looking for in wife?

My sincere prayers are with you, good sir, find the answer and find your peace.