Angelfrost:


So, what makes a man single at 30 and above??! Too much Shakara??!... Because most men today, even at 40 are nowhere prepared to be husbands or heads of families.

It's not always enough to make these things about gender.

In this case, the gender differentiation is justifiable.

Fiscus105:
I pity single lady from age 28- 35, Even lady of 25 today already putting pressure on themselves wen they are not into serious relationship, many of female students in 300level already consign about the man they would Marry, when they will be totally less concerned about how they would get job after school.
I imagine pressure that family and friends would be putting on lady at age 30 to 35.

By 36 ,even family members would start giving up and leave her alone for her destiny.

-My second wife was 32 when I married her, and she was a virgin (the most important marriage criteria). If a woman is 35 but still have her god-of-marriage intact, then you can give her a go. A virgin woman in her 30s have something in her personality that will be valuable for your matrimony. However, 40 and above is not for me except for partnership.

-Good luck to young people looking for a wife/husband, you will all need it.

Towncrier007:
Too much shakara will make them single at 30

Unfortunately, like in the US where they have the "American Dream", Nigeria also has "The Nigerian Dream".
Job, house car, marriage...
It's the men that should get the Job, house and car... Then pick the woman and marry.
The women are not seeing this happening from the men they know.
In fact the men are all hustling and just barely managing.
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The solution is just to lower expectations and accept that we live in shitty times, despite all the internet and computers.
And just marry a decent hardworking guy regardless of what property he has or not.

Kemadealadire:
You will cope fine if you don't live to please society.

Encouragement comment of smiling outside but feeling the heat inner.

Everyone wants good things of life, wen it's not forthcoming, u re bound to feel the pressure, unless the person is inmbecile , not even a marriageble single or couple looking for fruit of womb.

Sonnobax15:

If you like,lose yourself and die of depression sue to pressure from the society......

Everything good will surely happen when it's time comes....

Personally,I don't let society pressure to have an advantage over me...Cuz I know I'm unique in my own way......And no need to over push things,cuz las las everywhere go stew.

For some people, las las they get killed by herdsmen or Bandits.

[quote author=blessingnenye post=125136816]A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.

[/https://loveonet.com/5-strategic-ways-to-handle-a-cheating-partner/]

zed7:
Do women still marry under 30? I haven't seen any in a long while. Seems the average age of marriage for a woman is now 30 to 35 and men is between 35 to 40.

The modern woman doesn't marry as early anymore, most women want to graduate and settle in their career before getting married. This has also caused an increase in the birth of special needs children. All my opinion and observations.

Pls how does it cause giving birth to special children? Thanks

Onefornaija24:


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Is the VIP advert package worth paying for on Jiji?

I'll advice you to post your ads on Facebook Marketplace and other Facebook "Buying & Selling" groups.


These Jiji people will frustrate you after making payment, and might not eventually activate your ad(s).


I give you my piece based on my recent experience with them.



P.S: I've sold a couple of phones via Facebook Marketplace.

extol1:
Who societal pressure help? Live and let's live.
Let the single ladies above 30 breathe

What will Siofra and Jennyclay that are above 40 do now?

Fiscus105:






Encouragement comment of smiling outside but feeling the heat inner.

Everyone wants good things of life, wen it's not forthcoming, u re bound to feel the pressure, unless the person is inmbecile , not even a marriageble single or couple looking for fruit of womb.

It's relative, I have so much to say but don't have the energy to type. Tell Seun to add voice.

EconomistXplain:


all graduate ladies marry above 30

The danger of generalisation.

Luckysbab:


In this case, the gender differentiation is justifiable.

Actually, it's never justifiable in any case...

Whenever a man marries late (or early), it's his choice and preference, but for a woman, it has to be down to her poor character (mostly arrogance). Such thinking is beyond archaic and obtuse.

Whether for biological (mostly child-bearing) or otherwise, no one (man or woman) should be age-shamed or blackmailed into matrimony.

Marriage is too serious and complicated a matter for anyone to jump into out of peer or societal pressure.

A lady @30 and not married? You're a failure; a failure you're; and a failure you'll remain.

You're neither beautiful nor have good manners. Your family probably has a history of mentally unstable people. Kiss the truth.

If you like commit suicide after reading my comment. It will only get this beautiful world rid of one social failure.


Failures everywhere.

Yes, I concur.


https://zodiacpsycho.com/love/my-boyfriend-is-always-on-his-phone/


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Sonnobax15:

If you like,lose yourself and die of depression sue to pressure from the society......

Everything good will surely happen when it's time comes....

Personally,I don't let society pressure to have an advantage over me...Cuz I know I'm unique in my own way......And no need to over push things,cuz las las everywhere go stew.

Exactly .

You need to read this, if you are still pressurized at 30. There's more to life than just getting married. Many women are suffering today because they didn't prepare themselves adequately for the task ahead. They thought marriage is a bed of rose, where relaxation comes, after the struggles in their single years.
https://loveonet.com/5-strategic-ways-to-handle-a-cheating-partner/

Tinubu pressure no go allow any other pressure pressure me

Sanguine:
You cannot pressure the unpressured.

If you cower under one nonsense pressure and end up marrying a 'horseband' (as a woman), or a 'knife' (as a man)... Na you go cry taya! And that society or whoever that pressured you, na them go still come back begin dey blame you, even mock you on top.

Wisdom demands that you choose your battles and pressures right.

Men no wan marry una sef. Dem just want to dump una cuz una dey useless.
Why should I be rearing a woman that should be in the street hawking kpekus?

obembet:
I don tired o... Pray for us o

How old are you

PDJT:


-My second wife was 32 when I married her, and she was a virgin (the most important marriage criteria). If a woman is 35 but still have her god-of-marriage intact, then you can give her a go. A virgin woman in her 30s have something in her personality that will be valuable for your matrimony. However, 40 and above is not for me except for partnership.

-Good luck to young people looking for a wife/husband, you will all need it.

Ur second wife? U said it all! You think she is* happy with choice she made eventually?

When u re the one at the center of controversy, you feel the pressure the most.


Ask her how she felt before she finally agreed to settle less with you. I biliv she would have almost cursed almighty for good decision she made about herself.

Though, I still thank God for the life of ur 2nd wife ooo.

A woman preserves herself but eventually ended in hand of poligamist.

Angelfrost:
Most educated ladies nowadays, get married when they are over 30... This seems to have become the norm these days.

I don't see any big deal in it... In several years to come, cohabitation will largely replace marriages.

A lot of the ones in marriage are either enduring or considering Divorce.

African culture is fast degrading in most areas including the areas of matrimony and home-making.

Yeah, right.


A woman attaining spectacular career success increases the probability of her divorcing her husband.

Why?

Because when her status in the macro hierarchy rises, it increases the probability that she will attain status higher than her husband‘s, thereby cause her attraction to her husband to die because he no longer appeals to her hypergamy.


Men, if your wife suddenly gets a promotion at work, that increases the probability of her divorcing you.


If a husband‘s income is higher than his wife‘s income, the probability of divorce is low.


If a husband‘s income is lower than his wife‘s income, the probability of divorce is high.


Income is a proxy for ‘Status in the Macro Dominance Hierarchy‘.

There's no cut off age in marriage. Ignore them

blessingnenye:
A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.

At 30, hardly you see a girl who uses condom...

Especially when the guy is single, has a car and his rented apartment... the intention is to get pregnant...while the guy is busy cumming inside thinking she will take contraceptive, she will be busy with pregnancy test kit every morning

harryboyng:
Seriously…over 30 and still single and having no kid..that worries more..e good to hustle everyday and still have someone to call family. Having everything and no one to call family at over 30 is worrisome

You are making sense my brother... D joy of goin home to see ur kids running to welkum u mks u feel special nd happy..

IconicR:
At 60+ I'm still not feeling any pressure
We move

I'm still older than you.

Anyone who wants to feel pressured should go ahead.

IconicR:
At 60+ I'm still not feeling any pressure
We move

Taaa make i hear say you dey 60 plus

frankson1:





I'm still older than you.

Anyone who wants to feel pressured should go ahead.

Seriously? How old are you then?

jackmrandy:


don't be scared of your age. i can see the fear in you, you are going to 31 now now man coming for your hand in marriage or relationship, thinking about the old days you dished those who came for you, how you rejected them. you wished God can turn back time so you can say yes again. but guess what, nope. enjoy your single life.

Bitter truth @bold
A lot of ladies always think there is this perfect man waiting for them, not knowing they just rejected their husband. Mothers seriously need to guide their daughters btw ages 22 to 28 yrs. That is the age range most females miss their husband & once they miss it, it is very hard to find a replacement, 35 yrs will hit them within the blink of an eye.

Kemadealadire:

It's relative, I have so much to say but don't have the energy to type. Tell Seun to add voice.

Though, some people they know their past and already aware of consequences of how they leaved in the past , such people would be undeterred, no matter the pressure, because every rational human beings feel pressure on his/ her when she gets to certain age yet ,what is expected of her not forthcoming.
He shouldn't wait for family or Friends to feel pressure.

Fiscus105:



Ur second wife? U said it all, you think she is* happy with choice she made eventually?

When u re the one at the center of controversy, you feel the pressure most.


Ask her how she felt before she finally agreed to settle less with you. I biliv she would have almost cursed almighty for good decision she made on herself. Though, I still thank God for ur wife ooo

-I knew her when she was 20 but I let her finish her education and get some life experiences. She wasn't hungry or desperate. However, she is a proper African woman, not an Euro-wanabe woman.

-She is here beaming with smiles 😃 to your questions. She said to tell you that; she is happy with her choice, thank you.

[quote author=blessingnenye post=125136816]A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.

[/https://loveonet.com/5-strategic-ways-to-handle-a-cheating-partner/]

ednut1:
Opening a topic like this shows you are also scared . Regardless of all the wishes and prayers. Reality is fewer men will be able to afford marriage these days. With the western world influence on southerner Nigeria via media and internet . Many ladies will also have unrealistic expectations. They want weddings of 10m to 15m in a country where many earn less than 50k. Nothing like its not my portion. It can be your portion. Just live ya life if husband comes fine, if he no come find alternatives like linda ikeji run am or adoption

The sad reality😂