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Poten111:
I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Built2last:
Be careful.

Do not sow what you can't reap in the future

In the eyes of God if both parents have met and agreed to exchange their kids in marriage. That marriage has been concluded.

Every other thing is tradition or church ceremonies which is secondary

It should also disturb you that she gives you that level of attention. After being engaged.

There are 4.5 billion women on earth. Why will i settle with someone who is engaged and someone will be cursing me somewhere.

Some people's wahala is self inflicted

Poten111:
I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Farid24224:
I know your situation OP. My advice to you is to try concealing your feeling because you are are to be the other guy, you won't be happy if another guy try to take away your girl.. Just remain as friends till maybe something happens...

Olumaeme:
Why do you people take every act of kindness as invitation to f*'k? That's why girls don't like been friends with guys because the Jroid must just stand.

She's probably just a good person and maybe you are a good person too and leave it at that.

She has a boyfriend and she has made it very clear to you. Do you want to snatch someone else's girlfriend and you'll now trust her right?

Let her be, enjoy the support and you guys should move on and be good and don't ruin a good friendship.

Shalom.

Poten111:
I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Poten111:
I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Poten111:
I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Poten111:
I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Poten111:
I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Freelancerr:
What do you do?

Bleep her that's what she wants from you, no be everything them dey tell person noa

MISTAICEY02288:
Lol.. You're obviously the problem MR. I am a Man too and I will tell you the truth. Since that lady has told you she is in a relationship and she stands by her words, why not let her be and keep it moving? Also, You don't have to be bitter towards her all because she turned down your advances. If you are to be the other guy she is dating and wants to get married to, would you be happy someone, especially your soon to be Wife's Colleague snatches her away from you? Do you know how much the guy has invested in the relationship and how far they've gone together? Leave that lady alone and look for your woman elsewhere! It's not even advisable to get involved in Workplace romance. I find it cringy and believe me, most of such relationships don't end well. How do you have relationship with someone you see at home daily and still see each other at work? Na wah!

Since she has made it clear she doesn't want you, you don't have to be cold to her for her nice gestures towards you. Its fine if you reduce your closeness with her a bit, at least for you to get over whatever you're nursing in your mind towards her, but don't be harsh or cold to her regardless, especially when she still tries to be nice around you. You should balance the situation...

opicgif:
chief,
in everything you do, be true to yourself
don't lie to yourself

you have been friendzoned. you know it.
deep in your heart, you know she doesnt love you. she was only nice to you and you mistook it for sexual interest.

you couldn't have been close to her, talking morning and night, and didnt know that she has a guy who has met her parents
deep in your heart, you know she said that to keep you away without breaking your heart



stop making excuses for women. did they tell you they love to keep their options open? are you a woman?
she is telling "YOU", if it were another man that she likes romantically, she would go ahead and have sex with him
the problem is "YOU"



STOP!!! stop reemphazing anything. this is how you got friendzoned in the first place!




my brother, you have not moved on. you are pained. And its perfectly alright. so many guys have gone through this. its alright.
don't cut off communication with her. you are colleagues. don't deceive yourself

you are not fucking her, if not you wouldn't have been this pained. you are pained because you have invested time, effort, attention, money,, emotions on her, and YOU ARE NOT GETTING ANYTHING BACK. this is the truth.

in life, you win some, you lose some. its not bad. its not the end of the world



move on, pursue other sexual interests, have more friends, dont show her you are jealous when you see her playing with other guys in the office, join them and laugh and play. play with other girls too, in church, at work, in your neighborhood,
this is the most important: DONT SPEND ANY SINGLE RESOURCE ON HER AGAIN.

not time, effort, attention, money, don't do anything for her!!!
dont gist with her for hours at night, you are not a counsellor
dont escort her anywhere, you are not a bodyguard
dont make her laugh, cheer her up at work, you are not a clown
just do your work, smile with her, as you smile with others
laugh with her as you laugh with others
and go home alone

LIVE your life bro
live
we have all been there before

women make rules for people they don't want (i did not say love), and break rules for people they want (again, i did not say love)

EconomistXplain:
simply turn her sexual patner... that's what sh wants not relationship...u are the one needing something very serious..sh can never leave an abroad based man for u...women can kill demselves for abroad based guyz

Built2last:
Be careful.

Do not sow what you can't reap in the future

In the eyes of God if both parents have met and agreed to exchange their kids in marriage. That marriage has been concluded.

Every other thing is tradition or church ceremonies which is secondary

It should also disturb you that she gives you that level of attention. After being engaged.

There are 4.5 billion women on earth. Why will i settle with someone who is engaged and someone will be cursing me somewhere.

Some people's wahala is self inflicted

Poten111:
I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Poten111:
I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Poten111:
I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

opicgif:
chief,
in everything you do, be true to yourself
don't lie to yourself

you have been friendzoned. you know it.
deep in your heart, you know she doesnt love you. she was only nice to you and you mistook it for sexual interest.

you couldn't have been close to her, talking morning and night, and didnt know that she has a guy who has met her parents
deep in your heart, you know she said that to keep you away without breaking your heart



stop making excuses for women. did they tell you they love to keep their options open? are you a woman?
she is telling "YOU", if it were another man that she likes romantically, she would go ahead and have sex with him
the problem is "YOU"



STOP!!! stop reemphazing anything. this is how you got friendzoned in the first place!




my brother, you have not moved on. you are pained. And its perfectly alright. so many guys have gone through this. its alright.
don't cut off communication with her. you are colleagues. don't deceive yourself

you are not fucking her, if not you wouldn't have been this pained. you are pained because you have invested time, effort, attention, money,, emotions on her, and YOU ARE NOT GETTING ANYTHING BACK. this is the truth.

in life, you win some, you lose some. its not bad. its not the end of the world



move on, pursue other sexual interests, have more friends, dont show her you are jealous when you see her playing with other guys in the office, join them and laugh and play. play with other girls too, in church, at work, in your neighborhood,
this is the most important: DONT SPEND ANY SINGLE RESOURCE ON HER AGAIN.

not time, effort, attention, money, don't do anything for her!!!
dont gist with her for hours at night, you are not a counsellor
dont escort her anywhere, you are not a bodyguard
dont make her laugh, cheer her up at work, you are not a clown
just do your work, smile with her, as you smile with others
laugh with her as you laugh with others
and go home alone

LIVE your life bro
live
we have all been there before

women make rules for people they don't want (i did not say love), and break rules for people they want (again, i did not say love)

shedy03:
Can't woman be friendly to a man without the man reading wrong meaning to it?

BlueAir:
Good advice because the last guy that disturbed my babe and even tried to downgrade me without knowing me from anywhere by asking her which job I was doing,and yet the werey dey live for inside face me I face u house and I live in a self contain flat,na squad I use go beat am for him mama shop. A 27years old brainless niqgar. I beat am finish with his blood across tiles and told him to go call police . Just make money in this life and you'll realize that u can even dare d police sef

Caspry5:
Comrade except you are still interested in shifting pants, i don't see why this is a bother to you. You can't be sexual with every woman..There are other ways to make her useful

Built2last:
Be careful.

Do not sow what you can't reap in the future

In the eyes of God if both parents have met and agreed to exchange their kids in marriage. That marriage has been concluded.

Every other thing is tradition or church ceremonies which is secondary

It should also disturb you that she gives you that level of attention. After being engaged.

There are 4.5 billion women on earth. Why will i settle with someone who is engaged and someone will be cursing me somewhere.

Some people's wahala is self inflicted