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Rainbow10:
OP
Did you marry your wife as a virgin?
Give me an answer
Got a remedy for you..............

Yes...but i'm exactly in the deep fuckin mess op is..its crazy

U marrying urself...

Offpointng:
Dont be unwise. Dint you read where he wrote he has discussed and discussed and now he's tired? Nothing is gonna work for em both mate, and nothing will work until he put her in her place

No mind that Guy! Person wey something dey disturb tell you as e dey worry ,you say , no be so. .... I no know if na over sabi dey worry some people

Take it slowly on her . Treat her well and pretend she does not exit in that house . Pretend as if you are having an affair . Pls I say pretend . When you enter the house greet her and walk straight to your room and be operating your phone , laugh to youself . Doing for two weeks . Treat her well , ignore her . Sometimes dont eat her food . Pls dont quarrel with her , dont fight , wake up in the go to work with out saying good morning to her. Spend 100% time with the children. Ignore her conversations. TRUST ME YOU WILL WIN THE BATTLE. PLS DONT CHEAT ON HER

addmole:
2 days ago, it was the day set for the 1 round we were supposed to make love, she just said, something is on her face. I wish I can describe it. I was like, why Is it that anytime its when we want to make out is when you must have en excuse, she just shouted at me, that I should go that i dont care. I was like, this was the same person who was jumping and telling me she wants to fix a nose ring. Very healthy and bouncing all over the place, but when it comes to my usual 1 round on the old timetable. She would look for an excuse. Her mother shouted at me that if I want to divorce her, I should go ahead that she's tired of settling our differences.

Oya divorce na... Her mother sef nor dey try...Shuooo

Your wife is gaslighting you and you would run mad someday. There is no need having all this quarrel over sex. Even if she increases it to 4 times a week, it wouldn't be worth your time anymore. Not with all the drama that preludes the sex.

Get a second wife. I didn't say sidechic. Reason being that you are in a loveless marriage and you can't keep changing women every other year. So just find another one for yourself. Hopefully you have better luck this time.

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

Oga, you talk too much. You no know weti be summary?

Evilstorm:
I suggest you discipline your sexual urge to the minimum. Don't pressure her consigning sex and be mysterious with where u go and the things u do.
Secondly, take good care of ur personal hygiene and focuss on building a more attractive version of ur self.
Buy new clothes and put expensive colognes.
Ignore most of her existence and also flirt with young ladies around.

The reason why women loose attraction of their husbands sometimes is because of the above mentioned.
You became less attractive, less mysterious, unhygienic, and u make her position look too secure.

You are talking rubbish... Absolute rubbish.. you no get sense... Na this rubbish dey make her Mumu... Common sense no dey your head..

[You typed rubbish, i see you as a narcissistic person, from your write up, you said she was not like this before , so what went wrong? that is what you should be asking your self.

All you talk about is sex sex sex, , Hello sex is nothing to women, without a caring attitude from her man.
You want her to chnage , have you changed? I am sure there are things she is complaining about in that marriage , and you failed to do them, but you are fast to come here and shout she is not giving me sex,

You said she complain about stomach pain, did you take her to hospital to know what is the cause or what she is going through?


You said she focus on her business, let me tell you before a woman can focus more on her business, than her man it means the man is not providing or taking Care of her.


You said you threw remote on her and she fainted , you are a lier, it was not remote you beat her and she fainted , you need win her trust back here . This might have made her have some dislike here ..


All I see in your write up, is a man that is not taking care of his wife, but keep shouting sex sex sex.

Seex kill you there .


Do you help her to do do domestic chores to reduce stress?

Do you take care of her needs , or give her money and gift

Maybe you are the type of man that is use to cursing her or emotionaally abusing her , and she has develop dislike for you.

Oga you need to check your self first and work on.your bad habits , and see if she will not change .

You people will be maltreating your wife , and still be asking for sex, who does that.

Sex is not food for woman, especially the married women,

Married women need care love more .







She is even giving you three times a week she is overtrying,

I join.the family to call you a dog, you are indeed a dog.

You know get work?


Three times a week is more than a enough, oga put that energy into making money to provide for your house hold .


Allowed some frustrated men who's heart has been damaged to advice you here , you will regreat it.

larryking78:
About the Sex time table.....

Bros 2ce a week SEX is Okay. Which means in a whole year you will open her legs for 96 times. Bros, Don't kill her na, mind you you need your health too.

Sex is not Food. She really tried with 96 times of Sex a whole year. Your wife is a good woman, you too should be romantic and don't be selfish and self centered. She has children she is nursing taking care of the home and everything up and down. She s not a robot, don't kill her o.

You are not married yet!! You don't know anything about what the OP is goiñg through with the woman he called his wife.

Lifeomann:
Divorce or cheat 😒

As simple as ABC.
Woman wey loyal, submissive and great Bleep sef person dey cheat on her talkless one badly raised, damaged, lacking in home training kind of woman.
If na me, I for don born pickin outside. Only thing is that I won't bring the side chic and baby to my home

Na the country 's situation that delaying me to marry a second wife

Your wife is a Narcissist. Her mother is most likely one too.

Go to YouTube and watch all the videos you can find on the subject . You would be taught how to handle such people ( male or female)

The spirit of Narcissism is the bane of most troubled marriages in this era. We also have male narcissistics too.

They are usually attracted to people who are emphatic. They drain these people till they succumb to their will and wish.

Only if you are well informed about this disorder would you be able to handle them .

It is spiritual and psychological so it must be addressed from those 2 stands.

Find someone you feel she respects to explain your dilemma to. Arrange with that person to invite her for a church programme which must be a powerful deliverance programme.

Arrange for the deliverance pastor to attend to her, then you would be amazed at what you would see . Only then can any psychological therapy thereafter work on her to completely heal her.

Sometimes these narcissistics people do things that is influenced by another force so be very careful before you go for a side chick. If you are not strong enough spiritually, that strong force following them can render your finances useless so that you won't be able to finance your escapades . It would make you to be stuck to their knowing or unknowing human agent ( wife or husband) through whom they make your life miserable till they render their victim a vegetable .

If you really love her and want to fight for her , then follow my advice if not, then pretend to follow her lead while you ball outside.

Be very careful, we live in dangerous times .

Itnis you that do not have sense , some of you men, we wear dirty boxers , with smelling mouth, and be looking for a woman to kiss you like that that is why side chic will eat your money and run away..









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You are talking rubbish... Absolute rubbish.. you no get sense... Na this rubbish dey make her Mumu... Common sense no dey your head..[/quote]

Na why side chick dey important

NOwazobia:
Advice for him to beat his wife is a foolish advice.


Only fools beat their wife.

Some people frowns at beating kids, let alone your wife, equal with you as an adult.

I'll rather be a fool and use the appropriate means to keep my family in order and be respected in my home than be a wise man that'll be dying of emotional maltreatment and heart attack...in my own home...
Look I know that violence is not a good option but remember...THE END JUSTIFIES THE MEANS... Carry on wise one...

Itnis you that do not have sense , some of you men, we wear dirty boxers , with smelling mouth, and be looking for a woman to kiss you like that that is why side chic will eat your money and run away.

henrimoto:
You are not married yet!! You don't know anything about what the OP is goiñg through with the woman he called his wife.

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quote author=Poisonousman post=125338790]

You are talking rubbish... Absolute rubbish.. you no get sense... Na this rubbish dey make her Mumu... Common sense no dey your head..[/quote]

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

From all this statements you made It is only your wife that can help herself to make her marriage to work.

Your wife doesn't love you because if she does she wouldn't disrespect or be offensive to you or let you suffer all this.

In the sex part it might be that your wife is circumcised that is why she doesn't like it.

My advice for you try to hold your sexual urge, don't ask her for sex and don't romance her then take your time and show her love like be very nice to her without demanding for anything you see that she will change for good. Thank you

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

She needs deliverance, she probably have a spiritual husband.

[Yuou do not have sense , what is the op going through? He should go and work on high libido, sex twice a week is ok, especiallly if he is not taking care of the woman, or assisting her in doing domestic work










quote author=henrimoto post=125338906] You are not married yet!! You don't know anything about what the OP is goiñg through with the woman he called his wife.[/quote]

suckmedownthere:
She is the provider that's why else as man you are the one that makes the rules

She doesn't love you, biologically women have high oxytocin hormones which is referred to love hormone. Women love sex more than men but they won't show it till the male initiates it. Am a medical doctor and am vigorously telling you that your wife doesn't love you! I had this nurse in our hospital then that we both do have sex everywhere and everyday at work , we do also have sex in my car but I was dumbfounded when I realized that she was married and deny her husband of sex!. I accosted her and she told me that her husband isn't good at sex but after first sex experience with me that night in the hospital on night duty, she felt I touched her center of gravity. Well am very good at sex, I am a pro. Though I felt so bad sleeping with a married woman, I visited my priest and did confession and avoided her before she was transferred to another hospital. @op, just know your wife is fucking another man!

thunderbabs:
If I were this guy. I would let herr be and get constant action where I find pleasing

Then contract a disease and pass on to the wife and mother of his kids right.

Always thing of all the possible consequences of your actions before indulging in them.

That will be like jumping from frying pan to fire or turning an unbearable condition to hell.

Lets be guided.

He needs to sit his wife down for a deep heart to heart conversation.

At some point in my marriage, At some point in my marriage, I was in the same shoes as the op but was able to turn things around.
You have to market yourself to your wife and make sex an absolutely fun and desirable experience for your wife in instances like this.

Lastly, your wife may be circumcised as a child.

Belcon:
My dear man and brother just close the door of your heart towards having sex with her and enjoy your sex life outside jejely before she kills you some days with quarrel.

I lost an uncle last month with this same issue exactly like yours. I knew it will turn out this way from the first day she reported my uncle to my mom about sex. Live your life and love your kids that way you will live long

@addmole. You better go through this comment over and over.
You are in love with the wrong person.
I understand the kind heart trauma you dey experience just because of the "disrespect" part alone.

See, when a woman loves a man, when a woman has a certain man at heart, she showers the man with respec. She treats the man like a Queen.

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

Have you made your wife cum before?
Does she also have orgasm or it's all about you satisfying your libido.
There is no frustration as that of a woman who never experienced sexual satisfaction. I don't mean you staying hours unending.
When you satisfy her, she will be begging for more.

Go for counseling with her. She seems to have a problem. You don't know why she refuses sex and since you don't communicate well, she might never tell you. Counseling will help the both of you overcome this.

Go n get a new wife... Very obvious you're d only one in that marriage...She does not love ya at all...Take this advice n move on peacefully with ya life...There are better loving ladies out there looking for romantic husband's like ya...

illicit:
Do what you have to do

look outside ??

This is exactly what am going through in my marriage. Apart from where you said you people make love thrice a week. This means my own case is even worst than yours. Most time I can only play with my wife once in a month without sex. It up to a year now I have not been able to penetrate my wife. It get to a point that she no longer attract me anymore. I don't have feeling for her anymore. The most painful aspect of it was that she was very religious. As am typing now she has gone to vigil. Could you believe that it's only two of us that are home for more than a week now because our children go for holiday in her elder sister's place and I have not even play with her not to talk of sex. Honestly I used to think how to solve the problem but can't just figure out any possible solution.

A problem like this might be spiritual. Some woman have spiritual husband. Men also do have spiritual wife. My wife went to pray from white garment prophetess on different issues that not even related to our marital matters. Lo and behold, the prophetess said she had spiritual husband that prevented her from allowing me have sex with her. This is because when I move closer to her my joystick will just became flat. Whereas if I stay alone in the parlour I will have erection to the point that it will start paining me. I also do have morning erection.

So all what you said about your wife are exactly what am passing through if not even worst. Am the kind of person who wants to be playing with my wife, but she hate it alots. If she is cooking I don't go near her because we must argue that will led to disagreement. I love cooking alot but because of her character I don't near her in the kitchen.

Am just fed up but keep enduring the marriage. So just keep on endure it. Marriage is not a child play. This experience is the worst part of "for better for worst" in a marriage. God will turn it around for good.

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.



What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

She's a Lesbian. Lesbians hate sex with men that's how they're created

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

Oga marry a second wife and live your life, make sure she's prettier and younger, I promise you she'd be fighting for your favor and trying to outdo the other wife, competition go tight, women need psychological warfare, the mind games get to them more than anything else.

Nothing to discuss here, Oga women are more than men, go marry another wife u are am African man....

U no date this woman before u marry her... Oga go look for another wife. ASAP