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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by YUSTECH3(m): 7:59pm On Aug 24, 2023
Omo! You try o
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Obasempiree(m): 8:05pm On Aug 24, 2023
addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.
I think single people need to leave this marriage/romance section, else with stories like this some people might never get married lol.
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by ItisWell22(f): 8:05pm On Aug 24, 2023
brain54:

You and OP sopose sit down and discuss…
Over a bottle of beer or something.
Share help full tips to each other.
Cry on each other’s shoulders- that kind of stuff.
You just found your partner.
You both are comrades!

🤣

Craziest part is rather than learn from the op and take precautionary measures, e be like sey him wan use him legs enter him misery full time! 😩
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Image123(m): 8:08pm On Aug 24, 2023
addmole:
THANK YOU SIR.
God Bless you.

Sorry to hear about your situation. Two things are suspect from her end though hopefully your end is clean/clear as this is a one sided story.
One, it's possible she had an unpleasant sex experience in Italy that changed her attitude to sex. You may want to check that out.
Second and most importantly is her business. Her business has overfilled space. She probably has to quit it for the marriage to still work. Probably you can talk close to her best friend since she doesn't open up to you.
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Dybala11(m): 8:08pm On Aug 24, 2023
larryking78:
About the Sex time table.....

Bros 2ce a week SEX is Okay. Which means in a whole year you will open her legs for 96 times. Bros, Don't kill her na, mind you you need your health too.

Sex is not Food. She really tried with 96 times of Sex a whole year. Your wife is a good woman, you too should be romantic and don't be selfish and self centered. She has children she is nursing taking care of the home and everything up and down. She s not a robot, don't kill her o.
You definitely didn't take your time to read through the OP's write up. She even complained and doesn't want the 2 times sef as she came up with an excuse to run away from the sex time table she set. Inasmuch as twice a week is okay, OP's issue has deteriorated far beyond what you can comprehend. You're talking about selfish with regard to a woman that OP said is bitter and always angry. Even if she doesn't want to have sex at all with OP, what of the accusations that she hates even kissing or hugging??
If your spouse can't hug you, who should??
I pray not to have a spouse like that o, or maybe did something that he's not telling us about. Cos everything OP wrote up there shows that the woman actually loathes him.

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Immorttal: 8:11pm On Aug 24, 2023
SenecaTheYonger:


They don't respect him because he doesn’t have the balls to cheat, he doesn't have the balls to walk away. They know anytime they beg him, he will come back like a cow.

Get a side chick for one year to relive your tension. Treat your wife like a room mate.
It works.
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Stjims: 8:16pm On Aug 24, 2023
addmole:


2 days ago, it was the day set for the 1 round we were supposed to make love, she just said, something is on her face. I wish I can describe it. I was like, why Is it that anytime its when we want to make out is when you must have en excuse, she just shouted at me, that I should go that i dont care. I was like, this was the same person who was jumping and telling me she wants to fix a nose ring. Very healthy and bouncing all over the place, but when it comes to my usual 1 round on the old timetable. She would look for an excuse. Her mother shouted at me that if I want to divorce her, I should go ahead that she's tired of settling our differences.
I don't think you're serious with your life. Do you still call that marriage? Someone who doesn't allow you to kiss her, do you think you're attractive to her? You're more like a log of tree to her. No feelings at all
She can never change, involving family's will get her angry the more you do that since she's not ready to love you and she can't force herself on you. keep waiting till eternity if you believe she can ever change.
Marriage is beyond having kids, your mental health is more important. Maybe she's the one feeding you cause you didn't mention anything related to that.

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Dybala11(m): 8:17pm On Aug 24, 2023
advanceDNA:


Nor be everybody like to dey exchamge saliva and cuddling.... i nor like kissing and cuddling
What about the no discussion or talking part??
Do you hate talking or having a discussion with your partner too??

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by soccerlite: 8:17pm On Aug 24, 2023
Offpointng:
Reason why I tell young men like myself, Dont allow Love becloud your senses of reasoning. Trust me the sign were always right there, you were just blind to it

I used to have what you'd call an Ex then, Same way OP describe his wife was exactly who she is. Twinkling annoys her and she immediately changes it for you, hugs from the back esp when she's in the kitchen immediately changes her mood and get her so angry, Simple romance like hugging (common hugging) she'd push you away, You can't have a healthy and Intelligent talk with her, Always defensive and hardly apologises, Any Play other than the use of mouth to call each other Big head is a No No for her, Loves sleeping like some descendants of Koala, So boring and everything bored you can think of. Firstly, I thought all these happened cuz she's still a Virgin at that age, but I've got Virgin friends that we play and have lotta fun without having sex and are not so boring like she is. Later Got to find out that's just who she was, not cuz she's a virgin or something

So that faithful night we were all loved up on chat and we chatted till she wanted to sleep and told me we'd chat the next day, so we said the lovers Good night and went to bed. But before I got to sleep, I told myself I'm so done with this girl. Normally, she always expects I do the Good morning text first or the Good morning call all the time. But this time, woke up and din call her or text her Good morning, I went bout my normal day activities like she never existed. All those time till in the evening she never call or texted until I uploaded a picture of Myself and my guys chilling bfr we replied the status and of cuz some Rude Bullshit text, I read and din reply.

She called me that night bout twice and I din pick nor returned the call, of course she took to WhatsApp again forming boss lady, I made sure i read and din reply and went to sleep putting my phone on flight mode incase she wanna disturb my sleep with calls.

Oooboy I dabaru that girl head cuz we had no fight the night bfr, we chatted so cool and was even talking bout marriage plans grin next day she kept calling and calling, pick for where. took her sis phone to call me unknown to me I picked, my people come see cool broken voice that I've not heard in months. I immediately cut and blocked. Any she took to crying on VN telling me if she's done anything forgive me bla bla, But nigga man's mind was made up. She got into depression and every effort her, her friends, her family made to reach out to me, I blocked em all. I moved on. Well after so many months I'm glad to let y'all know she's still single cool cuz I doubt any guy can be patient with her like I was

So Op the signs were always there, you just turned blind eyes to em.

You escaped if you not this op situation would have been same

Some gals are witches

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Arrahman39: 8:17pm On Aug 24, 2023
You are a man double your hustle and make yourself comfortable, source for what makes you happy safely and interligently or else your high libido without sex might lead to postrate cancer...
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by hopeforcharles(m): 8:18pm On Aug 24, 2023
addmole:


2 days ago, it was the day set for the 1 round we were supposed to make love, she just said, something is on her face. I wish I can describe it. I was like, why Is it that anytime its when we want to make out is when you must have en excuse, she just shouted at me, that I should go that i dont care. I was like, this was the same person who was jumping and telling me she wants to fix a nose ring. Very healthy and bouncing all over the place, but when it comes to my usual 1 round on the old timetable. She would look for an excuse. Her mother shouted at me that if I want to divorce her, I should go ahead that she's tired of settling our differences.
embarassed shocked shocked shocked
U are a correct simp.
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by ghettochild(m): 8:18pm On Aug 24, 2023
Wait ooo how do people get married without knowing so much about their partners.
Any woman wey no go Like sex..na from relationship u go know..
This man, so u didn't observe all this when you were courting..
Anyways here's the solution.....
If u really want ur mental health at par....
U both shd divorce in peace...
My brother u r going true hell o. If we come add naija problem join am...
I'll say u r living in hell.
Woman wey suppose help u relax after the day's job....na im Com dey add stress to your life..
Just divorce in peace...
And marry a woman whose sexually compatible with you.
Marriage no be do or die ooo.
If u die... that woman go live her life..
I doubt she'd even cry.
So kukuma divorce then u r free to get another woman o.
Cos ur wife is manipulative.
Before u go get side chick n she go turn the whole blame on u cos of sidechick.
I repeat.... marriage no be do or die oooo
And nobody swear for u say if u leave...e no go better.
So leave...
You both will take care of the kids..
When they grow older they'd understand.
Na from small I don know say no be my papa fault say my mother no gree to live with am under the same roof....
So no fear ontop ur kids..
Just be responsible..
This children will know the truth when they are old enough to

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by ufotunang: 8:23pm On Aug 24, 2023
addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.
...when both of you were dating you knew that she did not like sex when you were dating her...so you knew this and you married her...so in marriage it will be difficult for you to change her and force her to like sex...so you have to manage her like that
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Abifarin16: 8:24pm On Aug 24, 2023
Offpointng:
Reason why I tell young men like myself, Dont allow Love becloud your senses of reasoning. Trust me the sign were always right there, you were just blind to it

I used to have what you'd call an Ex then, Same way OP describe his wife was exactly who she is. Twinkling annoys her and she immediately changes it for you, hugs from the back esp when she's in the kitchen immediately changes her mood and get her so angry, Simple romance like hugging (common hugging) she'd push you away, You can't have a healthy and Intelligent talk with her, Always defensive and hardly apologises, Any Play other than the use of mouth to call each other Big head is a No No for her, Loves sleeping like some descendants of Koala, So boring and everything bored you can think of. Firstly, I thought all these happened cuz she's still a Virgin at that age, but I've got Virgin friends that we play and have lotta fun without having sex and are not so boring like she is. Later Got to find out that's just who she was, not cuz she's a virgin or something

So that faithful night we were all loved up on chat and we chatted till she wanted to sleep and told me we'd chat the next day, so we said the lovers Good night and went to bed. But before I got to sleep, I told myself I'm so done with this girl. Normally, she always expects I do the Good morning text first or the Good morning call all the time. But this time, woke up and din call her or text her Good morning, I went bout my normal day activities like she never existed. All those time till in the evening she never call or texted until I uploaded a picture of Myself and my guys chilling bfr we replied the status and of cuz some Rude Bullshit text, I read and din reply.

She called me that night bout twice and I din pick nor returned the call, of course she took to WhatsApp again forming boss lady, I made sure i read and din reply and went to sleep putting my phone on flight mode incase she wanna disturb my sleep with calls.

Oooboy I dabaru that girl head cuz we had no fight the night bfr, we chatted so cool and was even talking bout marriage plans grin next day she kept calling and calling, pick for where. took her sis phone to call me unknown to me I picked, my people come see cool broken voice that I've not heard in months. I immediately cut and blocked. Any she took to crying on VN telling me if she's done anything forgive me bla bla, But nigga man's mind was made up. She got into depression and every effort her, her friends, her family made to reach out to me, I blocked em all. I moved on. Well after so many months I'm glad to let y'all know she's still single cool cuz I doubt any guy can be patient with her like I was

So Op the signs were always there, you just turned blind eyes to em.
Could she have been a victim of one form of abuse or the other that made her so uptight?
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by yemi1504: 8:26pm On Aug 24, 2023
addmole:


2 days ago, it was the day set for the 1 round we were supposed to make love, she just said, something is on her face. I wish I can describe it. I was like, why Is it that anytime its when we want to make out is when you must have en excuse, she just shouted at me, that I should go that i dont care. I was like, this was the same person who was jumping and telling me she wants to fix a nose ring. Very healthy and bouncing all over the place, but when it comes to my usual 1 round on the old timetable. She would look for an excuse. Her mother shouted at me that if I want to divorce her, I should go ahead that she's tired of settling our differences.

Why not just go ahead and divorce? When a man doesn't have peace of mind anymore, he has to do everything in his power to restore it. Just make sure to be in your children's lives, they will be fine.
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by yemi1504: 8:27pm On Aug 24, 2023
Samakus:
The demerits of marrying a woman who obviously is the one providing for the family


She was 30 when you married her. You guys are probably age mates or within the same age bracket.

I don't see her respecting you in the nearest future.

Do what you have to do

Abi
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Offpointng: 8:28pm On Aug 24, 2023
djon78:


I love this
The best way to deal with the difficult ones
Treated one like that She couldn't believe it because I was there at her neck and call
One day I said it's enough
Boned up no calls, read her message No reply
Had actually deleted all about her from my consciousness
Her people tried reaching out No Bobo
That's how it went They couldn't believe it
That's the right way to go bro honestly
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by yemi1504: 8:29pm On Aug 24, 2023
SenecaTheYonger:


They don't respect him because he doesn’t have the balls to cheat, he doesn't have the balls to walk away. They know anytime they beg him, he will come back like a cow.

Get a side chick for one year to relive your tension. Treat your wife like a room mate.

Exactly!
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Abifarin16: 8:30pm On Aug 24, 2023
brain54:
I suspect your wife is going through some sort of childhood trauma…


Maybe rape.


Counseling might help.

Since she gave you the okay to have sex outside… maybe you should take it up.

Something in your wife’s childhood/growing up really messed her up.

But you should have noticed before marriage too.

You dated 2 years before marriage.

Follow her timetable patiently or cheat!



That's what stuck out to me too from a I read. She could be holding tightly to a trauma from. Her past. Nobody resents human touch from
loved one excerpt something is fundamentally wrong, they really need to have one last talk to find out what's really wrong before he steps out on her and break the marriage. I have divorce, but this is not a situation that one continues to give time and hope the person changed. Changes are hard as age progresses.
That mother in law is not serous make she park one side.
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by femicyrus(m): 8:32pm On Aug 24, 2023
Ex0rrcist:

See you talking about no woman marry without love in the poorest nation on earth 😂 😂 😂. I laugh in 3d, people marry for a lot of reasons, a lot. Tell me all the young widows of alaafin loved him. 😂
Who told you they don't?
Except those who are forced, they all love it being a queen until the carnival is over.
Who among them will love to be a 2nd wife to a nobody? A king is ageless to them in love which was why they consented
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Abifarin16: 8:33pm On Aug 24, 2023
addmole:


2 days ago, it was the day set for the 1 round we were supposed to make love, she just said, something is on her face. I wish I can describe it. I was like, why Is it that anytime its when we want to make out is when you must have en excuse, she just shouted at me, that I should go that i dont care. I was like, this was the same person who was jumping and telling me she wants to fix a nose ring. Very healthy and bouncing all over the place, but when it comes to my usual 1 round on the old timetable. She would look for an excuse. Her mother shouted at me that if I want to divorce her, I should go ahead that she's tired of settling our differences.
Abbiiiii spiritual husband join for the matter
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by NOwazobia: 8:34pm On Aug 24, 2023
Yomit71:
If you're not a Christian, just get like two side chic.
Don't even initiate anything sex with her for a whole year. She will come begging you.

Advice only applicable if you're not a child of God.
Na the disclaimer weak me 🤣

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Offpointng: 8:35pm On Aug 24, 2023
Abifarin16:

Could she have been a victim of one form of abuse or the other that made her so uptight?

Yeahh actually. While growing up, She was this girl her mum usually beat at every slightest provocation,so many injury scars on her body and would always do most of chores and stay in the shop

I'll say she's not exposed cuz she did not grow up knowing what a Zoo looks like, have never been to an Airport or seen a plane, Amusement park and all these things or places we go while we were young, she never did any of them. So Yeah I believe her harsh, unexposed growing up took a toll on her. But I'm not responsible for her misfortune and I'm not gonna bear the brunt of her ill luck. Use to tell her the only man that can happily marry her with her lifestyle is dem type of Ned nwoko who's either rich and old, always busy or have done love taya and just need a woman to supply him kids.

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by favour32(m): 8:36pm On Aug 24, 2023
Dem don brain wash una tire.
Like you dey run other ladies and come wife another...na she go dey beg you with sex.
Na man wey dem program not to get another, nai woman dey suffer.
I hail ya mugu.

Her libido dey very low, perhaps medical or psychological.
May be she dey deficient for some hormones.
Seek medical help if you wan help her.
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by sphinixs2: 8:36pm On Aug 24, 2023
Women love attention and jealousy is a part of their dna. way out:- look good and starve her of attention. Seems you dote on her and she is too use to it. Kindly restore her to factory settings, enjoy yourself as you fiddle with her emotional buttons.... Edo girls are strong willed and stubborn
P. S... I am a lady wink

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Abifarin16: 8:36pm On Aug 24, 2023
SenecaTheYonger:


This has nothing to do with dream man. Many women don't marry their dream men, because their dream men don't even consider them as spec. That's why there are so many baby mama's because most of them try to trap their "dream man" with pregnancy, but end up finding out the man doesn't want them in his future.

@OP, it could be hormone, especially if it happened after she had kids. Pregnancy can really mess up a woman. Go to a hormonal doctor let them tell you the test to run.
Ashewo get plenty dream men be that.
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by BLoomfrancs(m): 8:37pm On Aug 24, 2023
Send that bitch packing.

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by yemi1504: 8:38pm On Aug 24, 2023
ikeno:
I can't imagine myself being in a sexless marriage where my wife will dictate where, when and how I will bleep her.i will make sure I have a side-chick and cut off anything that has to do with se*x with her.

Me too!
Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by olaodun: 8:38pm On Aug 24, 2023
Oga u really poured out you mind , I am in the same shoes with you but your own is better
solution
1 Be patient with her and change your strategy
2 You are compounding the issue by telling her you will get a side chick pls apologize to her about that that you were just joking
3 show love to her buy her gifts often based on her likes no expensive thing according to your ability
4 Let a counselor talk to her who she trusts pastor or any others
5. Above all show maturity focus on your children , make more money invest for future and put your mind away from this challenge and only give to her according to her time if she will not complain, get various books to read and pls dont allow any distractions focus on making more money for future investment because no body will give u money

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by BRATISLAVA: 8:39pm On Aug 24, 2023
Abagworo:
Some women and men as well have lower than average sex urge but this your case is different. Your wife suffered from childhood sexual abuse which her mum knows but asked her to manage and get married to you. Most victims of abuse suffer from a trauma that each sexual experience acts more as a negative pain reminder than as pleasure. She didn't open up to you before marriage and has still not opened up to you .

He's violent and probably cheats on her. He also said that he twisted facts. Boldly. Read his tale. If he hasn't gone to change those parts.

It's the same template a man who claimed he was being emasculated by his wife used, and his wife later came to bust him after all the insults and millions of pages to it.

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by yemi1504: 8:40pm On Aug 24, 2023
rickleye:


Ok, I am not going to sugarcoat it.
You are not compatible and she doesn’t love you anymore .
She very likely is having a side relationship and is finding it very hard to fake her love for you.
Dude, don’t be stuck with her for the next 50 years in a loveless relationship.
You have sought counsel opened doors of communication and yet things are not improving means that her heart is dark and made up.
LEAVE ! You deserve better.

Abi

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Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by Smoothtalkerfnb: 8:42pm On Aug 24, 2023
Shame on you



Sex sex sex sex nah food .,’. She go give you missionary you Dey complain..’ you go drink Agbo.,take Tm for which person body..she is your wife just sexx a little and cum inside for reproduction.


I’m a man I don’t like sexual active women because they are LovePeddler .. once is ok bro for a day sexxx no be foood...

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