I saw some Comments above which seems Interesting

Emmadoet I sight you Honorable.

In as much as I understand that Most Nigerian men and boys are kinda of Lowlifes, Irregardless Of Their Caliber Sorry No Apologies. I'm not really a Fan of Most Nigerian men/boys because of their Lifestyle. It is the reason why the country is the way it is.

But People who were Lucky & Fortunate to have good parents who were an Altruist, Achievers, Disciplinarian et all don't really have A SAY in this Matter. People whom their Parents made life very easy for them. Just be Grateful, Humble and Keep the Legacy going On.

I am from an Average Background and once surrounded with close Rich Relatives. But along the way, Shiiiit happened when i was young and the rest they say is history. I wouldn't want to go into details but honestly i detest most Nigerian men. My Mother is the only one whom I forgave and only love to an extent.

I'm not trying to be Bitter or Whatever. But if you are benefitting from the Proceeds of what other people had tolled day and night for, Please just be Humble and Relaxed at one Corner.

Everything I owned today and where i am, I got everything with Pains, Blood & Sweat. I have Looked Death In the Face many times.

I'm very Fortunate and i know i'm not an ordinary Human Being. My experiences in Life have Shaped me into who i am today and i am very happy being myself.

Personally I don't usually have much Regards for Lads who are from Rich/Wealthy Backgrounds except for the Few Ones who are Humble. I only Acknowledge their PARENTS because those are the people who knows WhatsUp.

falcon01:
To anyone reading this, any mistake you make withing the ages of 20 to 30 will follow you for the rest of your life!

Oga always be Specific.

In as much you made a Point.

There are Mistakes you make in your 20's which can still be Corrected in your 30's once the Person has learned the Realities of Life.

Yugoslavia247:
Start combing your friends and seeing what they do.

Look for skills to learn from them except fraud.

If I become president I will make a law that fraud will land you in 5 years jail term and no option of fine and also the forfeiture of all your wealth.

We can not build a nation where youths will see fraud and hook up as way.


I will be like peter Obi.

No stealing or any form wealth under in guise or loophole.

Peter Obi na another major fraud and hook up politician, wey dey jump from one party to another like ashawo. Better say u be like Tinubu.

Evolutionlove:


Oga always be Specific.

In as much you made a Point.

There are Mistakes you make in your 20's which can still be Corrected in your 30's once the Person has learned the Realities of Life.

mistake like

Nazgul:

@ bolded.
Without any sustainable income, they wouldn't be able to maintain the car or the house they rented.

I used to know a guy (about 28 years of age) In the former area where I lived in 2021.

One Sunday morning as I was going to church, I saw him in the midst of a crowd of guys, they were throwing him up, I slowed down and asked someone close by what the problem is and he told me that this guy just won a bet of about 9m from bet9ja.

That was the last day I saw him in that area until last year when I ran into him. He was looking so haggard and unkept, I couldn't even believe that this guy who had 9m just last year is practically broke a year later.

Most young guys have no plans for themselves, so even if by some miracle, money finds it way to them, rather than set up themselves and become financially buoyant for life, they'll just squander it on women and clubbing and remain poor.

This is why Yahoo boys are always broke.

You have said it all bro.
I believe many youths will die of depression or commit suicide in this era.
Most have not prepared themselves for life in 30s. They are really going to be a big burden for their immediate families

falcon01:
mistake like

So for example, if you didn't learn a Trade or Skills in your 20's, You can't learn it in your 30's right lol..

I understand there are some Lifetime Mistakes which can never be UNDONE.

I give thanks to the Most High i didn't made such Mistakes🙏

I don't know about your own Mistakes though.

Its 40 to 60 when your kid’s school fees need to be paid plus other expenses

Evolutionlove:
I saw some Comments above which seems Interesting

I hail you too bro.

Salute

emmaodet:
You have said it all bro.
I believe many youths will die of depression or commit suicide in this era.
Most have not prepared themselves for life in 30s. They are really going to be a big burden for their immediate families

This is the problem most have not prepared themselves for life in their 30s. And this Tinubu's era isn't helping matters at all.

I went through @Evolutionlove post and your original post I agree that most Nigerian males are low lifers. They have nothing upstairs. Aside sex, alcohol and the zeal for quick money without sweat, many are just empty.

I was discussing with someone and I told him that Nigeria is the only country on this planet where hookup is more expensive than minimum wage and the average salary of a university graduate.

In USA their minimum wage is about $4700. Imagine paying that kind of money to a girl for hook-up? But Nigerian men wouldn't mind paying the salary of a graduate to a girl for sex.

Most young people lack the ability to create and sustain wealth, this is why there's so much poverty and hunger in the land.

squash47:


Peter Obi na another major fraud and hook up politician, wey dey jump from one party to another like ashawo. Better say u be like Tinubu.

Talk for yourself without being so ste..wpid

One thing I will Always tell people for free is that; MAJORITY OF FAILED PEOPLE ALWAYS FOLLOW SOCIETAL STANDARDS!

For Christ sake, Everyone on Earth operates on a different frequency, that means; THERE IS NO EXACT AGE to acquire anything in Life.
I left home and started staying on my own since 20yrs and I have a friend that still stay with his parents @ 29yrs. But this guy can comfortably chest a bill of 3million why I can't!. Different human; Different Time and Frequency.

While I spent Only less than 6 months Job hunting; my same friend is still @ home jobless, doing business. I also have a lot of very intelligent class mates that have and still jobless for more than 7yrs now, I have a lot that are dead too, a lot that dropped out of school and still doing very well till date.

My Childhood friend's Grandfather was and still the MOST successful King in the history of my community. The man suffered till about 90yrs before he finally made it in Life and I can bodily tell u that; IT WORTH IT because; this man removed his entire lineage from extreme poverty, SOME ARE TO PAVE THE WAY FOR OTHERS TO ENJOY, Such is Life!

Study the Adeleke's, Otedola's and Dangote's and u would know that not EVERYONE CAME TO LIFE TO SUFFER. Always accept ur fate and sacrifice to change the tale.

The day we know that there is No age to attain ANYTHING in Life, is the day we truly unlock our door to TRUE HAPPINESS.

emmaodet:


You are totally right.
Most youths are not prepared for the future that awaits them.
All they know is flexing, banging, clubbing etc
Tell a youth between 24 to 30 years what they will do with 3m and most will tell you to rent an apartment and furnish it or get a nice ride because the 3m is not enough to japa (which is virtually what is in their head).
No other thing. Nothing

Nazgul:

This is the problem most have not prepared themselves for life in their 30s. And this Tinubu's era isn't helping matters at all.

I went through @Evolutionlove post and your original post I agree that most Nigerian males are low lifers. They have nothing upstairs. Aside sex, alcohol and the zeal for quick money without sweat, many are just empty.

I was discussing with someone and I told him that Nigeria is the only country on this planet where hookup is more expensive than minimum wage and the average salary of a university graduate.

In USA their minimum wage is about $4700. Imagine paying that kind of money to a girl for hook-up? But Nigerian men wouldn't mind paying the salary of a graduate to a girl for sex.

Most young people lack the ability to create and sustain wealth, this is why there's so much poverty and hunger in the land.

I can see how you conveniently excused the government, the elderly breeding like cockroaches and put all the blames on young Nigerians.

Well done sir! Keep it up!

Hmmmmmm

God as if this time.....I'm confused and lack what to do.
God help me
This case is worst on me
#depressedsoul

Karleb:
I can see how you conveniently excused the government, the elderly breeding like cockroaches and put all the blames on young Nigerians.

Well done sir! Keep it up!

My dear, Nigeria has never been good. I was listening to a song fela sang in 1983 (40 years ago) and the whole lyrics of that song was how bad Nigeria has deteriorated.

The title is Look and Laugh you can check it up on YouTube.

As for elderly breeding like cockroaches, so many millionaires and billionaires in Nigeria (Dangote inclusive) came from polygamous homes, and struggled with life to get to the top.

Life is about you, and how willing you are to separate yourself from distractions and focus on your goals. Cos you can never achieve those goals if those distractions keep pulling you back.

Bunkbars:
A friend of mine, his dad left him, 100m in the bank. This guy just fixed the funds in the bank and was earning about 10m per year.

This guy just sleeps, wakes, gym, eat healthy, flex and date women.

He lives in a three bedroom apartment, that is well furnished. And has a clean venza. He drives only at close proximity.

I have told him to invest in real estate, or airbnb, the guy is afraid to risk.

tell him to use part of the profit he makes from the bank returns to invest in other schemes. Most like digital stuff. Less risk

Truly an insightful piece u got there OP. I believe Your 20s should be meant for adding substantial values to yourself as a man , learn skills , learn to solve problems , network , work smart.

Forget about love in your 20s , be ruthless . No woman loves an unsuccessful man tbh , stop blaming yourself , stop blaming your parent , stop blaming your Government , take charge of your life and stop swimming in pity parties . No one is coming to save you in this life.

Once you prepare well in your 20s , your 30s would become soft work. Also learn from men who has made mistakes. One of the mistake I can never make in my 20s is to get a girl pregnant or get married , Am I mad ? Even if I have the funds it’s still a no no for me, cause marriage in your 20s is a huge distraction fr.
Work with God side by side , let him direct your path. You have to work very smart and hard in this life ,especially in this Nigeria.

MikeofKd:
Truly an insightful piece u got there OP. I believe Your 20s should be meant for adding substantial values to yourself as a man , learn skills , learn to solve problems , network , work smart.

Forget about love in your 20s , be ruthless . No woman loves an unsuccessful man tbh , stop blaming yourself , stop blaming your parent , stop blaming your Government , take charge of your life and stop swimming in pity parties . No one is coming to save you in this life.

Once you prepare well in your 20s , your 30s would become soft work. Also learn from men who has made mistakes. One of the mistake I can never make in my 20s is to get a girl pregnant or get married , Am I mad ? Even if I have the funds it’s still a no no for me, cause marriage in your 20s is a huge distraction fr.
Work with God side by side , let him direct your path. You have to work very smart and hard in this life ,especially in this Nigeria.

Last paragraph is the biggest Lesson any guy should hold

God just saved me

When you start making small money in your late 20s
Pressure from your gf and family be like you should get married.
Your gf starts making it look like you're using her and you are not serious asking you to come and meet her parents

You see other young people pretending like they are happy getting married young

Let your child grow with you etc
Give birth early etc

But when you realise by 35yrs old as a successful man you're just hitting your own prime as a 18yrs old lady

You can get married by 40 and above if you wish

The only exception to this is if you become rich before 30

If you're still struggling

Pls break up with your gf if she ask for marriage
No matter how fine she is
The fear of another man being with that girl you love so much shun it
Don't get married to her

Go out and be a beast
Be the guy that Can't be bothered about Loosing your girl to another Rich man because of lack of money

ideamonster:
The most difficult age for any man born in Nigeria should be between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to succeed- to be something, to be someone is so immense. When you look around you everyone seems to be doing something for themselves, people seem to be living a life you only dream of. You have applied for jobs and the results have been more disappointing than Yakubu Aiyegbeni goal miss at the world cup.


Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it because the disappointments become too much and you find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few people you studied with have been lucky enough to land jobs. Soon your circle of friends gets thinner – mostly they don’t even cut you out but you will be real with yourself and cut yourself off. I mean what will you do when you are in a WhatsApp group of friends and they are discussing about last week’s trip in Dubai and planning another trip to South Africa while you are not sure of what your next meal would be?


Most times you follow the conversation silently, all alone like a cross on the grave. Soon you realize this is no longer your kind of crowd because the more you keep around, the more the pressure to be something, takes a toll on you. You know when stories about house parties
come up and you act deaf because you don’t know where an extra 5 guys would fit in your house. Have you ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone on the market or how British Airways offers poo services and you can feel your heart whisper to you "boss this is chest pain hour, can we just go and find a group that talks about GMAT, SHL, Dragnet, jobberman or job vacancies sites". But you sit there as these people are lost in their lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary taking minutes in meeting.


After a few years of job hunting, you are now ready to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as long as it pays, so you end up as an office messenger in one blue chip company in town. To imagine that 4-5 years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the employees when they are broke and they can’t order with fast food. This is when conversations about where people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of any use to say you also reached University, it doesn’t matter – you have resorted to surviving.


Once in while you will bump into your now well to do classmates, they would offer you lunch, but not even eating the meals at Eko Hotel or Sheraton will make you feel better about yourself, because in your mind you wish instead they would give you the 30k and you sort your meals for the next 5 weeks. As it is the norm you will have photos taken, and uploaded on Facebook, but always it’s your face that would look the odd one out – not even the best filters can hide a face which has suffered the city's dust and sun but survives on boiled beans.


The worst mistake you can do is to try and date at this point – there is nothing that a person going through such times can offer in terms of love. How are you going to do evening romantic walks when you are tired from walking delivering letters in offices around town? What are you going to tell your lady when she says she wants to go for relaxation at the bar, pool or love garden sites that are in town? That your financial religion doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age when you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to date are dating or getting married to guys 10 years older than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s only that your life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in life. Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28, and if by then your life is still in disarray, then my friend be prepared for a walk out.

In this video: the pressure to succeed, everyday Nigerians like you share their heartfelt experiences facing the pressure to succeed and how to hack through this stage of life. Their conversation exposes a lot about handling disappointments, friendships, love, career growth and personal responsibility as well as persevering and appreciating each day's small wins,


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iQXlcflI1D4

If you've ever felt alone, realize that there are several folks like you who are dealing with difficult times. How you live your life in the 30’s is determined by how you handled your life in this phase. Do not Give up. Do not Be Depressed. remain focused and create a Strategy. Be consistent, you must Surely Win. Peace

spot on op. Spot on

Chhiiibuuezzeee:
God as if this time.....I'm confused and lack what to do.
God help me
This case is worst on me
#depressedsoul

Don't worry. God will help you

Chhiiibuuezzeee:
God as if this time.....I'm confused and lack what to do.
God help me
This case is worst on me
#depressedsoul

God will show up for you. Amen

Painfully true

Thazard:
Painfully true

spot on

Nazgul:

@ bolded.
Without any sustainable income, they wouldn't be able to maintain the car or the house they rented.

I used to know a guy (about 28 years of age) In the former area where I lived in 2021.

One Sunday morning as I was going to church, I saw him in the midst of a crowd of guys, they were throwing him up, I slowed down and asked someone close by what the problem is and he told me that this guy just won a bet of about 9m from bet9ja.

That was the last day I saw him in that area until last year when I ran into him. He was looking so haggard and unkept, I couldn't even believe that this guy who had 9m just last year is practically broke a year later.

Most young guys have no plans for themselves, so even if by some miracle, money finds it way to them, rather than set up themselves and become financially buoyant for life, they'll just squander it on women and clubbing and remain poor.

This is why Yahoo boys are always broke.

depends on the kind of ...