If my own wife has all these qualities that you mentioned above and is faithful, oga, THUNDER FIRE SEX. I will be ok.

ADURA123:


I am not divorcing to remarry, I want to be alone and be free. Thank you

which kinda man b dis, you have a woman that is everything but sex.. your head no Dey tell you say you need get chick.
If you like go divorce, you go regret ahm.

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Senior man no divorce. Try been seductive for sex na the romance stuffs if possible lick her so wet before you get into the panties.. have you tried that? I bet she will come begging for more.🤔

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Don't sort out your problems offline. Bring them to little boys, so they can spit on your wife for you and give you terrible advice.

ADURA123:


I am not divorcing to remarry, I want to be alone and be free. Thank you

If you let that woman go, you will regret it.
Trust me.


All women of nowadays are the same, you'll never find a better woman than your wifey.


All you will get after divorce is rubbish and nonsense women.

Think twice my brother.

Since sex is the problem, kindly get a Side chick to get the job done.

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Wrong approach, she has a reason which from what I can see it has to do with exhaustion from her role you mentioned.

Take a moment before you jump into conclusions.

Take a vacation with her and you alone try reconnecting with her and see if she doesn't change.

Not all like sex but when you add exhaustion expecially mental exhaustion it can make sex unattractive.

Find out 'the why' and try resolve the why(employ domestic staff, buy gadgets that make house choas easy, Just reduce her domestic work load.)

You should tackle tendency and not jump out a beautiful Home. This issue can be addressed if it's just sex.

Divorce is not an option.

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Devil is dragging you to early grave. U better fix your marriage.
Meet a marriage counselor for counselling.
Don't go into 2nd marriage, speaking with experience.

ADURA123:


You dey M*D ni? did you not read the part I said I am investing on a project she is aware of? Does that not tell you it was our agreement to give her that?

Mod: This project is costing me over 7-8 by end of 2024 where the dividend will start flowing in?

You even dey curse? E no go better for you, walahi! Ojuelegba Thunder strike you fast.

ADURA123:


I am not divorcing to remarry, I want to be alone and be free. Thank you

Free from what in particular?

Free to sleep with other women? becos that wont be cheating anymore.?

My brother take your wife both of you see a counselor .

Divorce is not the answer it is a no no.


On lighter note book will be written about you, the man who divorces his wife becos of kpekus

My ten kobo advice.

Who come dey hold you not to dey alone?
You're free to live your life the way you want...
For this reason will i dedicate to you "freedom" by Akon

Hmmm...

Side chicks have been saving marriages for so many years. Your Dad has refused to tell you the truth because he doesn’t want you to know he cheats. Your wife is a good wife you should learn how to manage your home if it means getting your satisfaction outside. The only problem is don’t keep side chick abreast with your family affairs and learn to create distance. Also learn to use protection. Don’t divorce here because when you ready to remarry again you might meet the worst woman.

ADURA123:


I am not divorcing to remarry, I want to be alone and be free. Thank you

Bobo yi just want to be nawo-ing ni sha!!!

You dont want to remarry, but you want to take your dad’s advice…

cococandy:
They ask you your qualities and you say you work . Bro really? 😩

His own qualities are that he works like every adult and is a decent human being like every sane human should be.

No spec at all. Na only money e carry come the marriage. That's all.

Women dey marry nonsense o.

seunjungle1:
Who come dey hold you not to dey alone?
You're free to live your life the way you want...
For this reason will i dedicate to you "freedom" by Akon

Dedicate Akon Lonely to him

ADURA123:


My dad hates cheating, but support divorce...my mum is late

Haa. I said it. You want to be like your dad. Just nawo-ing but while your wife is still alive.

Acidosis:
You no try, sir. You earn 700k and all you have to spend on your family with kids is 100k every month, leaving your wife to cook, clean, wash, do nanny work and market runs, and probably still do her regular job, and you expect her to give you hot sex? With which energy, please? The same energy you could have preserved by spending extra 50k on a good cleaner or cook?

Give yourself a heavy knock on the head.

c'mon guys, he indicated that he is involved in project that the wife is aware and approved of, it's the wife that should complain about inadequacy of what she gets and not you that is merely commenting

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

There is something called shock therapy. u see its like a reality check that can give u an opportunity to learn. We all need shock therapy at some point in our stubbornness or stupidity.

U wife needs a shock therapy sadly u delayed it until now cos u don't understand the mode of communication for women. They can be lackadaisical, incentive and even arrogant so u must apply a stimulus.

it is mandatory.

There is no reason why a good man should endure what u have gone through for 4years? Bt a good men is nothing if he isn't smart also.

I'm very sure divorce isn't the answer here bt shock therapy to wake her up from slumber.

He can have sex with other people without being tied to one person.🤷‍♀️

Living alone doesn’t mean he’ll stop taking or relating with women. It just means no more entitled woman in the house.

mariahAngel:


So, what is the point?

ADURA123:


I am not divorcing to remarry, I want to be alone and be free. Thank you

AND THE CHILDREN?

descarado:


You are assuming he has.
A man that earn 700k in naija na big man.
Wifey should have her own car.
House fully equipped with modern kitchen gadgets to ease in housework.
Fully functional gen( cos of electricity wahala),then, even though you work, should help when you are at home eg weekend.
Your wife is no slave.

Our low mentality give birth to these skewed thinking and reasoning.
You guys should grow with the world cos you have been left behind.

Not, this is Africa mentality.

Africa that is synonymous with poverty and wretchedness.

Oh!! Mentality dey very important. I see you listing liabilities to own just because he earns 700,000 naira a month, Do you really want him to remain at 700,000 naira when he can get more revenue by investing in assets. I see you as someone who never delays gratification. Good luck with your 15 cars🤣

Acidosis:
You no try, sir. You earn 700k and all you have to spend on your family with kids is 100k every month, leaving your wife to cook, clean, wash, do nanny work and market runs, and probably still do her regular job, and you expect her to give you hot sex? With which energy, please? The same energy you could have preserved by spending extra 50k on a good cleaner or cook?

Give yourself a heavy knock on the head.

👏

Oga, the simple truth is that she is not enjoying your love making! Go and learn how to make love to your woman and i bet you will be the one running away from your wife. Love making is not just to ram your shaft in and out of a pussy...if you know, you know.

Peace be unto your home.

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

You are just a mad man, this small 700k earnings dae blow ur head so and make you feel like you have arrived. Remember as you are out there to find your new love life you may meet one demon who will crushed you to dust and end you miserable. If it's love making, talk to your wife and seek guidance and counseling from marriage counselors out there. Don't divorce ur wife cos of sex, at least think about your children. Finding a go woman these days is rare like finding a diamond.

I don't know why some women deny their husbands sex. It is so annoying and unfair
If you will deny your husband sex, don't bother to marry.
Meanwhile, these are women who are very eager to do it when they were still single o.
I'd you are in that shoes, adjust. You will regret it if your husband cheats o.
As a husband, you really tried.
You can also try not eating her food if she denies you sex. If she really loves you, e go pain her and she will adjust.
She needs psychological checkup.

Why sex is now an issues in family these days
🙄

[quote author=ADURA123 post=125671601]Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...
[/quote

Could you vouch for her in terms of faithfulness just like yourself ?
Did you make any attempt to monitor her activities, like some follow-up on her or so?
There is definitely no need to continue with her if she sees someone else. If you are certain that she doesn't need see someone else, then you need to give her more time.
In the event that she doesn't change, you can let her know your intentions , there is no need taking her by storm when you are sure she is a faithful wife.

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Mumu man!
Simple thing is to threaten your wife and tell her say if she no open her wide yansh for you, before the end of this month you go see weti go happen to her if you no find another woman out make she know weti cause am.
This thing go make her fear, then when she later won open yansh for you, no fvck her ohh. Just leave am her for two weeks.
Double fear go catch her.
Then next no chop her food. Go friend house keep late at night.
Triple fear go enter her.

Then watch how things play.
Them no dey play nice with naija women ohh. Na the mistake you do so.

Acidosis:


You're the du m.b one, clearly. Your earning is useless if it doesn't reduce the burden and workload in your home.

Stingy criminal.

hahahaha

Super story

jaxxy:


There is something called shock therapy. u see its like a reality check that can give u an opportunity to learn. We all need shock therapy at some point in our stubbornness or stupidity.

U wife needs a shock therapy sadly u delayed it until now cos u don't understand the mode of communication for women. They can be lackadaisical, incentive and even arrogant so u must apply a stimulus.

it is mandatory.

There is no reason why a good man should endure what u have gone through for 4years? Bt a good men is nothing if he isn't smart also.

I'm very sure divorce isn't the answer here bt shock therapy to wake her up from slumber.

You are in the spirit, that shock therapy gan gan ni mon plan lasun...Omo yoruba ni mi....i don try for 13yrs 3months, i no misbehave