Mhizzard:

move on bro
it is an excuse;is that how she ask for money from you before now?
don't let her waste your precious time you have got many things to do.there are many girls outside there that is best for you

I will do that..thanks a lot

mariahAngel:


Now, I understand what her problem is.
Dude, just focus on your hustle.

Nah that be the next level now

Gentlesoul2021:


Bro, don't look desperate. Don't call her infact u don't need an explanation or whatsoever. What u need is total silence ND move on.

Modified:
I saw the part of ur chat with her where she ask u of 20k ND u were unable to give her of which u said if u are already making money you would av been more supportive. Bro, this is what u need, focus on ur life and leave this girl alone. The more u force things, the more u loose ur respect and self-worth.

I feel so much relieved already..thank God I brought up this matter here...May God bless you bro

advanceDNA:


Knowing u don't work ??...
she nor say make u cough 20k for am?
She nor know say u nor dey work??

That's why I dey very confused...because she have had financial issues before but never disturbed me and we still talk and communicate well..mehn!!! I really feel relieved from getting advice here

Mhizzard:

if truely she loves the guy,it could be that the girl don't want to stress him.from what he said,she do give him money.that could make her think that the guy may not have the ability/source to provide the money.

But why is she not talking to me again or being caring like before 😔😔😔

There's problem in ur relationship with her, the best thing now is to respect urself, worry less, shits happen and you have to accept your fate.. Give her time while looking for other options..

omejeb:

.she did it after I came to spend time with her and she locked me out of her room telling me to go away that she needs to be alone and think things out..but later she was apologizing and still told me it doesn't have to do with me..

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But why is she not talking to me again or being caring like before

You're broke and you want her to keep chatting with you Or give you attention??


Send her 50k and see how all that will change

OSDD:
You're broke and you want her to keep chatting with you Or give you attention??


Send her 50k and see how all that will change

But before dating I told her clearly I am still in school and have no work yet..shoe openly told me its not a problem as long as I remain loyal and faithful to her

omejeb:


But before dating I told her clearly I am still in school and have no work yet..shoe openly told me its not a problem as long as I remain loyal and faithful to her

That's what my ex said to me too. Unlike yours, things got better along the line, but like every love story, as money no dey come again, she told me she wanted to go and hustle🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

Back to your issue, ignore her and count her as a loss, the fact that she doesn't want to talk to you shows she's not willing to allow you stay in her bubble. The party is over! Leave!

Bro u messed up big time, first of all you are too available for her and you are crowding her and invading her space, give her space and now that the said she needed space, give her space, don't call, text, chat or even reply to her chat.

Move on , she's fvcking another d!ck, and that d!ck is giving her money, now u can't give her money and if you are not good with your bed game, u loose both side, she won't think twice before dumping your sorry ass

Finally, if u love anything, let it go and if it comes back done treat her any special, treat her the way u treat your regular female friends, and watch her crack

Baba just go hustle, leave her alone.

OSDD:


That's what my ex said to me too. Unlike yours, things got better along the line, but like every love story, as money no dey come again, she told me she wanted to go and hustle🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

Back to your issue, ignore her and count her as a loss, the fact that she doesn't want to talk to you shows she's not willing to allow you stay in her bubble. The party is over! Leave!

Damn!!!! I still find it difficult to believe she is acting this way to me now

Sucre6:
Bro u messed up big time, first of all you are too available for her and you are crowding her and invading her space, give her space and now that the said she needed space, give her space, don't call, text, chat or even reply to her chat.

Move on , she's fvcking another d!ck, and that d!ck is giving her money, now u can't give her money and if you are not good with your bed game, u loose both side, she won't think twice before dumping your sorry ass

Finally, if u love anything, let it go and if it comes back done treat her any special, treat her the way u treat your regular female friends, and watch her crack

Baba just go hustle, leave her alone.

The sex was the major thing that made her feel insecure..i was like a porn star to her..though she isn't a sex type because I would demand for more rounds while she would keep running away from the bed..i thought good sex could make her stay..but opps!!! now I am beginning to think women can never be satisfied in both ways 😔😔😔

The worst part is everything keeps reminding me of her..once I see a lady with her kind of body( big butts and big breast I would start missing her.. abeg how do I move on? How do I cope??what techniques should I aply in order to move on very fast ?

From the chat, it's clear what the issue is,
The day you can't meet their needs, they stop loving you. She is looking for a rich guy now. Take it or leave it.

As a man you need to be stable first before thinking of relationship if not... The disrespect you will see ehn, no be here o and she go still leave.

A chapter in Ubunja's miseducation comes to mind, he writes about that silly fight she initials for no reason, is normally her way of cheating on you without feeling guilty ( she might not be cheating but the Nigerian in me tells me she is)

Don't contact her for now, move on with your life, make new female friends to take your mind off her. When she is done she might come back on her own.

Make money my guy then, you can even marry a younger and more beautiful girl. You are the price

omejeb:


I am already affected...no more gym , no more doing well in school and my professional exam is coming up too..God help me

Since you don't want to listen to her advice on moving one, oya go and fail because of one yeye skpekus .
Nonsense boi.
Focus and forget about that shit of lady.
Why do you want to mess up your dream? The only one that can love you perfectly is yourself... Allowing such a thing to disturb you shows high sense of irresponsibility from your side .

omejeb:


The sex was the major thing that made her feel insecure..i was like a porn star to her..though she isn't a sex type because I would demand for more rounds while she would keep running away from the bed..i thought good sex could make her stay..but opps!!! now I am beginning to think women can never be satisfied in both ways 😔😔😔

If u ever call that girl again, nah there u go see real see finish, let her go

omejeb:


and she told me severally that she is not doing anything bad at my back that she just needed to put things in order..i am as confused as hell right now

I was wondering whether anyone will tell you if they were doing bad things behind you

Newdawn30:
From the chat, it's clear what the issue is,
They day you can't meet their needs, they stop loving you. She is looking for a rich guy now. Take it or leave it.

As a man you need to be stable first before thinking of relationship if not... The disrespect you will see ehn, no be here o and she go still leave.

A chapter in Ubanja red pills miseducation , comes to mind, he writes about that silly fight she initials for no reason, is normally woman way of cheating on you without feeling bad( she might not be cheating but the Nigerian in me tells me she is)

Don't contact her for now, move on with your life, make new female friends to take your mind off her. When she is done she might come back on her own.

Make money my guy then, you can even marry a younger and more beautiful girl. You are the price

Matured word bro...kudos for your advice and I am going with what you said..thanks a lot

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Since you don't want to listen to her advice on moving one, oya go and fail because of one yeye skpekus .
Nonsense boi.
Focus and forget about that shit of lady.
Why do you want to mess up your dream? The only one that can love you perfectly is yourself... Allowing such a thing to disturb you shows high sense of irresponsibility from your side .[/quote

] this is a real fact..and I am doing everything possible to let her go...that was why I consulted Nairaland for help

Sucre6:


If u ever call that girl again, nah there u go see real see finish, let her go

I am never gonna call her or text her again...anyways she is on the loosing side...cuz she is already of age and desperate for marriage..i really thank God for letting me out 🤓🤠

DestinedForGrea:
Omejeb, in addition to the suggestion to move on, I'd suggest that you really move on and don't expect her to call you. Don't move on partially, force your whole heart out of it. Be deliberate.

Don't try to get back at her. Don't wish her bad. Don't wish for her to regret the decision to subtly ditch the relationship. Move on, by the real sense of the phrase.

Don't hate her, because she does not exist. You can't hate what doesn't exist. Don't look for someone else to fill the void, it will make it worse. You have a worth, and it does not depend on who stays, who leaves or how anyone perceives you.

Take this mindset with you, and you'll be a few inches close to what peace really is. If you want real peace, then give Jesus attention.

Thank you so much my brother..i will do exactly as you have said I am going to ghost her full time

omejeb:
I am 31 years old male nurse in my finals and we met 5months back and started dating she is 28years though she look much older than I do
our relationship has been going well but lately she stopped giving me attention and calls and chats diminished but when I complain she would tell me nothing is happening and we are good..now last last 2weeks I called her two times at night but she didn't pick and she later called back once that was the following day ij the evening..but I didn't pick later i called her and she was telling me everything is fine again.but to cut the long story short I chatted her and complained why she is giving me a silent attitude she told me she needed to be for now and wouldn't want to talk to anybody but just want to be alone 😔😔

Up till now she never replied my last chat never cared to call nothing nothing..
Please what does she really mean by that statement cuz I am already worried since she told me it has nothing to do with me that she needs to put somethings in order 😪

Nigga, girls hate boys that act desperate (simpy). Bruh focus on your life, studies and other bitches for now, be happy on your own first, have other options, she will be the one to check you act.


Someone one is feeding her and she is still weighing her bitchy options and confused now.

Nigga focus, have other options and never act desperate.

Someone somewhere is singing marriage to her ears 😂😂😂😂😂

Download Grindr and thank me later

.

You're welcome

omejeb:


Matured word bro...kudos for your advice and I am going with what you said..thanks a lot

omejeb:
we met 5months back
lately she stopped giving me attention and calls and chats diminished
she told me she needed to be for now and wouldn't want to talk to anybody but just want to be alone
Up till now she never replied my last chat never cared to call nothing nothing.

she told me it has nothing to do with me that she needs to put somethings in order.

She doesn't want to break your heart by telling you pointedly that ITS OVER.

if you keep PESTERING HER, she will be forced to tell you that you guys are not compatible or something else that will make it CLEAR TO YOU.

Just move on, concentrate on your final year exams, look for a hobby or something engaging that will take your mind off her.

If you are like me who does not memorize any ones phone number (including mine) , I would say just delete her number from your phone, avoid social media and when she eventually gets disappointed by the other guy she is obviously seeing or when she needs you for something and calls you, because you have deleted her number, you will pick her call and ask her "who is this" and then she will get the message that you have moved on too.

omejeb:

to be honest she has been giving me money knowing I am still not working yet..

Maybe she thinks you are a financial liability.

As a man, never collect money from your woman. She will see you finish in the end.

She’s 28 years old and probably wants to settle down and get married. You’re a 30 year old student who can’t give her what she needs. Release her with love and allow her to find her husband. You need to focus on your plans and move on otherwise you guys will be right back here in a few weeks or months because you are not compatible. She’s not evil and you’re not evil for needing different things. Break up with her and move on with no hard feelings so that you both can attract what you need.

Bro she doesn't have anything to say neither is anything wrong with her, the simple truth is when a woman puts up such attitude it means she found someone else and my advice is cut all contact with her, make her feel less important and move on to something more important and productive, even if she calls or chat you take time before responding better still don't even respond only then you will be valued.

the moment you keep calling and texting then you are heading for Doom trust me she will show you the other side of HELL FIRE.