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Once again, thanks to Justwise & Lexusgs430.
I have already used my clipper 8 times now. By every standard, I have saved over £80 already - and still have the clipper.

Na so I come ‘vex’ buy more as Souvenir for my pals.

If you save £30 a month......... The multiplier over the year's, nah massive savings....... 🤣

Thank you

hayesconcept:
Be ready to talk extensively about your experience using STAR techniques. Read the civil service behavior success profile very well. All the best

noted, thanks

Gift7428:
Hello NL’s I need you to help me.

So I moved here for my masters with my daughter, she is 11 now, will be 12 in December.

Straight to the point, I leave her for some hours alone at home when I am working.
Sometimes I drop her off at a friend who doesn’t work.
If I am going out for the night and returning same day I leave her alone till I return. For example a friends birthday starting 8pm and finishing 12 am.
I have a camera in my flat that I monitor her with and prompt her on what to do like wee and go to bed.
She doesn’t cook when I am not around, she only microwaves cooked meals.
This is how we have lived our lives for about a year.
Now my neighbor on my right is a Nigerian family with two young kids while the flat on my left is sometimes used as Airbnb.
The camera is quite loud so I suppose the neighbors can hear me.
There is a CCTV in front of the apartment for safety reasons I believe is monitored by the letting agent.
The people who live downstairs don’t even know me.
So one night I went out with course-mates to have a drink around and got back same night.
On Monday of that week my letting agent said police came looking for me and asked if I was in any trouble.
I wasn’t home, my daughter was in school
I said everything was fine I believe.
The next day while I was home they came again, got into my flat and said they got an anonymous call that it seems I left my daughter alone at home. They checked my bathroom, my fridge, was asking what my daughter eats and how much I cook for her. So I told them the truth that I was out for few hours. They said I can only leave her alone when she is 14. They asked to speak with my daughter when she gets back from school. They came back later to speak with her in private and they asked that I excuse them.

After some minutes they came up to me saying my daughter seems happy and well looked after and she seems to have a good relationship with me. They asked that I shouldn’t leave her home alone and contact them if I needed help.
To be honest it’s not easy for me asking for help in a place I don’t have relatives.
So Sunday I was out for few hours and they checked in this Monday again saying they needed my details to pass it to social welfare. I asked the police if everything was okay they said yes but they have to refer to social services.

I really don’t understand or know what to do.
Is anyone monitoring my movements or am I been watched from the CCTV outside my apartment? I am thinking if this is what I cannot cope with then I might have to send her to my mum in December then she returns to the UK when she is 14 years ( if I am still in the UK)
I don’t have extra cash to pay for child minders, I have a minimum wage job and sometimes the people who help are not always available.

Thank you 😊

Oh no! I don't like reading about self inflicted problems. Why did you leave her alone again after escaping the first time with a warning? Just hope this wouldn't escalate.

I was just trying to be detailed
I cannot confirm if it was my Sunday trip that warranted the police visiting me to ask for my details
They said it wasn’t documented when they visited the first time.

Kenn55:


Oh no! I don't like reading about self inflicted problems. Why did you leave her alone again after escaping the first time with a warning? Just hope this wouldn't escalate.

Hello NLs
Please has anyone stayed in Dubai with visit visa (tourist visa) who applied for UK dependent visa, were you able to get the Dubai police clearance certificate? Please if yes how were you able to get it from outside Dubai because I’m no longer in Dubai now, I received a message from UKVI to provide that but I don’t know if Dubai (UAE ) issue that to visitors.
Mind you I’m the dependent not the main applicant, main applicant has a Dubai resident and we provided for own police clearance.

Gift7428:
I was just trying to be detailed
I cannot confirm if it was my Sunday trip that warranted the police visiting me to ask for my details
They said it wasn’t documented when they visited the first time.

Count yourself lucky to still have your daughter. I think the officers were being reasonable to allow that to pass. Please do not leave her alone again else you will spend that child care money and much more trying to get your daughter back.

Gosh. I would take the child back to Nigeria till i can afford a childminder rather than risk jailtime or a criminal record. Your childs doctor, nurses , teachers are all mandatory reporters
and attend yearly safeguarding training.I m not sure how long the child can go before letting something slip.

Gift7428:
Hello NL’s I need you to help me.

So I moved here for my masters with my daughter, she is 11 now, will be 12 in December.

Straight to the point, I leave her for some hours alone at home when I am working.
Sometimes I drop her off at a friend who doesn’t work.
If I am going out for the night and returning same day I leave her alone till I return. For example a friends birthday starting 8pm and finishing 12 am.
I have a camera in my flat that I monitor her with and prompt her on what to do like wee and go to bed.
She doesn’t cook when I am not around, she only microwaves cooked meals.
This is how we have lived our lives for about a year.
Now my neighbor on my right is a Nigerian family with two young kids while the flat on my left is sometimes used as Airbnb.
The camera is quite loud so I suppose the neighbors can hear me.
There is a CCTV in front of the apartment for safety reasons I believe is monitored by the letting agent.
The people who live downstairs don’t even know me.
So one night I went out with course-mates to have a drink around and got back same night.
On Monday of that week my letting agent said police came looking for me and asked if I was in any trouble.
I wasn’t home, my daughter was in school
I said everything was fine I believe.
The next day while I was home they came again, got into my flat and said they got an anonymous call that it seems I left my daughter alone at home. They checked my bathroom, my fridge, was asking what my daughter eats and how much I cook for her. So I told them the truth that I was out for few hours. They said I can only leave her alone when she is 14. They asked to speak with my daughter when she gets back from school. They came back later to speak with her in private and they asked that I excuse them.

After some minutes they came up to me saying my daughter seems happy and well looked after and she seems to have a good relationship with me. They asked that I shouldn’t leave her home alone and contact them if I needed help.
To be honest it’s not easy for me asking for help in a place I don’t have relatives.
So Sunday I was out for few hours and they checked in this Monday again saying they needed my details to pass it to social welfare. I asked the police if everything was okay they said yes but they have to refer to social services.

I really don’t understand or know what to do.
Is anyone monitoring my movements or am I been watched from the CCTV outside my apartment? I am thinking if this is what I cannot cope with then I might have to send her to my mum in December then she returns to the UK when she is 14 years ( if I am still in the UK)
I don’t have extra cash to pay for child minders, I have a minimum wage job and sometimes the people who help are not always available.

Thank you 😊

missjekyll:
Gosh. I would take the child back to Nigeria till i can afford a childminder rather than risk jailtime or a criminal record. Your childs doctor, nurses , teachers are all mandatory reporters
and attend yearly safeguarding training.I m not sure how long the child can go before letting something slip.

For once, we seem to be on the same sheet ....😜

I was on a twitter space, a couple of weeks ago, it was a space dedicated to African parents, that SS have snatched their kid's away.......

It was a truly terrifying space ........

So they just take kids away for the first time when they get an anonymous call? Have you experienced this in person or just making assumptions 😂

dustydee:

Count yourself lucky to still have your daughter. I think the officers were being reasonable to allow that to pass. Please do not leave her alone again else you will spend that child care money and much more trying to get your daughter back.

Nigeria is best option now for me. I just want to know if other people passed through this and how they scaled through

missjekyll:
Gosh. I would take the child back to Nigeria till i can afford a childminder rather than risk jailtime or a criminal record. Your childs doctor, nurses , teachers are all mandatory reporters
and attend yearly safeguarding training.I m not sure how long the child can go before letting something slip.

Gift7428:
So they just take kids away for the first time when they get an anonymous call? Have you experienced this in person or just making assumptions 😂

If you neglect your child, maltreat them or put them in danger then yes they will take them away. Search for NIUK on twitter and listen to horror stories of Nigerians and other Africans who have had their children taken. The stories are terrifying such that I shudder at the thought of my child being taken away. There was someone who had their children taken the first week or so after they arrived the UK.
If you love your kid, please take her home until you sort yourself out.

Hi. My wife is a social worker, and after reading your story, she suggests you take the child back to Nigeria, as there is a significant likelihood that you will be subjected to parental assessments or potentially lose the child to the government.

Gift7428:
Hello NL’s I need you to help me.

So I moved here for my masters with my daughter, she is 11 now, will be 12 in December.

Straight to the point, I leave her for some hours alone at home when I am working.
Sometimes I drop her off at a friend who doesn’t work.
If I am going out for the night and returning same day I leave her alone till I return. For example a friends birthday starting 8pm and finishing 12 am.
I have a camera in my flat that I monitor her with and prompt her on what to do like wee and go to bed.
She doesn’t cook when I am not around, she only microwaves cooked meals.
This is how we have lived our lives for about a year.
Now my neighbor on my right is a Nigerian family with two young kids while the flat on my left is sometimes used as Airbnb.
The camera is quite loud so I suppose the neighbors can hear me.
There is a CCTV in front of the apartment for safety reasons I believe is monitored by the letting agent.
The people who live downstairs don’t even know me.
So one night I went out with course-mates to have a drink around and got back same night.
On Monday of that week my letting agent said police came looking for me and asked if I was in any trouble.
I wasn’t home, my daughter was in school
I said everything was fine I believe.
The next day while I was home they came again, got into my flat and said they got an anonymous call that it seems I left my daughter alone at home. They checked my bathroom, my fridge, was asking what my daughter eats and how much I cook for her. So I told them the truth that I was out for few hours. They said I can only leave her alone when she is 14. They asked to speak with my daughter when she gets back from school. They came back later to speak with her in private and they asked that I excuse them.

After some minutes they came up to me saying my daughter seems happy and well looked after and she seems to have a good relationship with me. They asked that I shouldn’t leave her home alone and contact them if I needed help.
To be honest it’s not easy for me asking for help in a place I don’t have relatives.
So Sunday I was out for few hours and they checked in this Monday again saying they needed my details to pass it to social welfare. I asked the police if everything was okay they said yes but they have to refer to social services.

I really don’t understand or know what to do.
Is anyone monitoring my movements or am I been watched from the CCTV outside my apartment? I am thinking if this is what I cannot cope with then I might have to send her to my mum in December then she returns to the UK when she is 14 years ( if I am still in the UK)
I don’t have extra cash to pay for child minders, I have a minimum wage job and sometimes the people who help are not always available.

Thank you 😊

Gift7428:
Hello NL’s I need you to help me.

So I moved here for my masters with my daughter, she is 11 now, will be 12 in December

You mentioned that one of your neighbours is a Nigerian family with young children. Are you (can you be) friendly with them? Perhaps they would be happy to have your daughter come round when you're out in exchange for a nominal amount or something. There's nothing wrong with asking for help - people are generally willing to help if it is a sincere request.

In any case you need to tread very carefully and avoid leaving your daughter at home especially at night. Can you rearrange your shifts so you work day time? This isn't scaremongering - you are already on the police and SS's radar and you dont know who is watching and shopping you to them. Personally, beyond the threat of SS, I would also be concerned that someone out there seems to be aware of when my daughter is at home alone.

I can’t use my neighbor for personal reasons
We only just say Hi.
I am more worried that someone knows too much about when I am home with my daughter or not.
I will work on my night shifts but I drop her off at my friend that lives close to me. It’s 30th s a week

Thank You

Zahra29:


You mentioned that one of your neighbours is a Nigerian family with young children. Are you (can you be) friendly with them? Perhaps they would be happy to have your daughter come round when you're out in exchange for a nominal amount or something. There's nothing wrong with asking for help - people are generally willing to help if it is a sincere request.

In any case you need to tread very carefully and avoid leaving your daughter at home especially at night. Can you rearrange your shifts so you work day time? This isn't scaremongering - you are already on the police and SS's radar and you dont know who is watching and shopping you to them. Personally, beyond the threat of SS, I would also be concerned that someone out there seems to be aware of when my daughter is at home alone.

Thanks to your wife

Nemie:
Hi. My wife is a social worker, and after reading your story, she suggests you take the child back to Nigeria, as there is a significant likelihood that you will be subjected to parental assessments or potentially lose the child to the government.

Gift7428:
Hello NL’s I need you to help me.

So I moved here for my masters with my daughter, she is 11 now, will be 12 in December.

Straight to the point, I leave her for some hours alone at home when I am working.
Sometimes I drop her off at a friend who doesn’t work.
If I am going out for the night and returning same day I leave her alone till I return. For example a friends birthday starting 8pm and finishing 12 am.
I have a camera in my flat that I monitor her with and prompt her on what to do like wee and go to bed.
She doesn’t cook when I am not around, she only microwaves cooked meals.
This is how we have lived our lives for about a year.
Now my neighbor on my right is a Nigerian family with two young kids while the flat on my left is sometimes used as Airbnb.
The camera is quite loud so I suppose the neighbors can hear me.
There is a CCTV in front of the apartment for safety reasons I believe is monitored by the letting agent.
The people who live downstairs don’t even know me.
So one night I went out with course-mates to have a drink around and got back same night.
On Monday of that week my letting agent said police came looking for me and asked if I was in any trouble.
I wasn’t home, my daughter was in school
I said everything was fine I believe.
The next day while I was home they came again, got into my flat and said they got an anonymous call that it seems I left my daughter alone at home. They checked my bathroom, my fridge, was asking what my daughter eats and how much I cook for her. So I told them the truth that I was out for few hours. They said I can only leave her alone when she is 14. They asked to speak with my daughter when she gets back from school. They came back later to speak with her in private and they asked that I excuse them.

After some minutes they came up to me saying my daughter seems happy and well looked after and she seems to have a good relationship with me. They asked that I shouldn’t leave her home alone and contact them if I needed help.
To be honest it’s not easy for me asking for help in a place I don’t have relatives.
So Sunday I was out for few hours and they checked in this Monday again saying they needed my details to pass it to social welfare. I asked the police if everything was okay they said yes but they have to refer to social services.

I really don’t understand or know what to do.
Is anyone monitoring my movements or am I been watched from the CCTV outside my apartment? I am thinking if this is what I cannot cope with then I might have to send her to my mum in December then she returns to the UK when she is 14 years ( if I am still in the UK)
I don’t have extra cash to pay for child minders, I have a minimum wage job and sometimes the people who help are not always available.

Thank you 😊

Next time buy your drink and shayo indoors.

Jeff0983:
Hello NLs
Please has anyone stayed in Dubai with visit visa (tourist visa) who applied for UK dependent visa, were you able to get the Dubai police clearance certificate? Please if yes how were you able to get it from outside Dubai because I’m no longer in Dubai now, I received a message from UKVI to provide that but I don’t know if Dubai (UAE ) issue that to visitors.
Mind you I’m the dependent not the main applicant, main applicant has a Dubai resident and we provided for own police clearance.

Anyone has an idea 🤷‍♂️

No
There are other ways to solve a problem.
Thanks

lavida001:


Next time buy your drink and shayo indoors.

Lol, you no want make she find man for this Ukay

@OP Gift 7428
E get things wey gats give as single mother or father. Na so life be

If you wan commot stay that kain time make sure say your pikin dey with person

Police no dey collect details keep for pocket oh

Anyway good luck to you

lavida001:


Next time buy your drink and shayo indoors.

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Yes .The police can do this if a child is in immediate danger. Without going to court. Its called an Emergency Protection Order.

Gift7428:
So they just take kids away for the first time when they get an anonymous call? Have you experienced this in person or just making assumptions 😂

Hello everyone,
I just have birth 10 days ago. I got a letter to regularize my child's status or the baby won't be able to use the NHS after 3months.
How do I go about this? My current visa will expire next year February. (I already got a sponsorship with the NHS but my letter can. Only be given 3 months to my current visa expiry)
Do I apply for enter clearance or new visa? I don't know. Anyone that has experience with a newborn please

ToshoTosin:
Hello everyone,
I just have birth 10 days ago. I got a letter to regularize my child's status or the baby won't be able to use the NHS after 3months.
How do I go about this? My current visa will expire next year February. (I already got a sponsorship with the NHS but my letter can. Only be given 3 months to my current visa expiry)
Do I apply for enter clearance or new visa? I don't know. Anyone that has experience with a newborn please

My wife gave birth few months ago and she got the same letter, I can’t remember the exact wording but I think they are trying to know the immigration status of the parent so as to know if you need to pay for NHS services you used. If you are on student or work visa then you have nothing to worry about. Follow the instructions on that letter.

You seem to be adding more to my story and I am not surprised 😂
Where are you getting the idea of man or single mother from? Is being sociable always about man? My fellow Africans will never stop to amaze me 😂
Good luck to you too

Greenpeasants1:
Lol, you no want make she find man for this Ukay

@OP Gift 7428
E get things wey gats give as single mother or father. Na so life be

If you wan commot stay that kain time make sure say your pikin dey with person

Police no dey collect details keep for pocket oh

Anyway good luck to you

Gift7428:
Hello NL’s I need you to help me.

So I moved here for my masters with my daughter, she is 11 now, will be 12 in December.



Thank you 😊

UK is Different from Nigeria my sister, please be very careful. Avoid anything that would progress into the police 👮‍♂️knocking to your door.

My landlady messaged my wife couple of weeks ago saying she would like to visit us at the our home, and only gave 48 hours or 72 hours notice.

She asked us to choose which one works. We chose 48 hours, she came smiling (fake). My wife opened the door and she greeted us, asking us if we were surprised to see her, my wife responded “ Yes, we are not expecting you since you came for inspection around August 28 and that’s just a month difference, we are private family and we don’t expect you coming every now and then, and she had to cancel a shift”.

She responded by saying she was sorry to have bothered us and also sorry my wife had to cancel her shift, BUT a neighbor who didn’t mention his name had rung the letting agent saying there has been a lot of people coming to our house, and the neighbor specifically mentioned our house address. So the agent sent her an email about it, that was why she had to come and ask us if we are having trouble with any of our neighbors? We said NO..

I mentioned to her that I had graduated couple of weeks ago and had invited my parents to witness their child’s success and we don’t think that’s a bad thing to have our parents come visit us, SHE replied of course we can have visitors and families can visit, saying she has a daughter in Spain and she does visit time to time.

In her words, “ The person that called didn’t mention their name, and the person must have been a coward for him to not have knocked on our door and tell that to us if they are concerned, thereby ringing the letting agent.

She apologized for coming because of that and left…

I’ve just been wondering how can neighbors busybody be that much to the extent of calling the agent to report another tenants visitors…

😊😊😊😊

You really think that was an anonymous call? They just told you that so you don't ask more questions or them revealing identity. Truth is you shouldn't leave your daughter alone to go socialising at night. It's even more understandable if it is for work but to attend birthday or drink out with friends... No no and it doesn't sound good to the ears dear. Kids lives have been lost due to issues bordering around their parents living them unattended to go drinking.

The police telling you your daughter seem well cared for might just be sarcasm and they have you on camera saying you left her for few hours to go out. It's no joke but they have enough evidence on you already. Better you watch it than be sorry later.

Gift7428:
So they just take kids away for the first time when they get an anonymous call? Have you experienced this in person or just making assumptions 😂

ToshoTosin:
Hello everyone,
I just have birth 10 days ago. I got a letter to regularize my child's status or the baby won't be able to use the NHS after 3months.
How do I go about this? My current visa will expire next year February. (I already got a sponsorship with the NHS but my letter can. Only be given 3 months to my current visa expiry)
Do I apply for enter clearance or new visa? I don't know. Anyone that has experience with a newborn please

They send letters ? Gave birth in December and i never received such till date.

It is the reality of many student immigrants the only difference is that they (students) come with their partner and take turns in minding their underage kids or they use child minders or friendly neighbours. Some take their kids to the school library or lecture theatre to sit out with other kids and they are fine. All the best though.

Gift7428:
Nigeria is best option now for me. I just want to know if other people passed through this and how they scaled through

I always tell people this but trust Nigerians, they will tell you they don't want to lose validity on their passport so they'd apply when it expires. The earlier you begin the process the better.

SamReinvented:


Applied around March and got biometric appointment for early May. I did biometrics early May. Got my passport back early September.

There’s no fast track anymore. The people that I know that pulled the “long leg payment” ended up wasting money, cos they still waited like everyone else . Maybe fast track can help with biometrics date sha.

Your best bet is to start your passport processing as soon as your passport clocks 6 months to expiry, so you don’t run out of validity.

Sounds like an ego problem? I would advise that you try to amend and make friends with them. They might be the ones ratting you out just to pepper you. They also might not be the ones but trust the authorities they would've been interviewed about your personality in the neighbourhood. Make that call and try to get them on your side if your personal reasons allow that though.

Gift7428:
I can’t use my neighbor for personal reasons
We only just say Hi.
I am more worried that someone knows too much about when I am home with my daughter or not.
I will work on my night shifts but I drop her off at my friend that lives close to me. It’s 30th s a week

Thank You