You showed too much weakness like the marriage survival means a lot to you, thats why. Tell her if she's not ready to perform her conjugal duties, you'll have to seek for divorce.

You married a woman that doesn't love you. Why did you get her pregnant for the second time when you have unresolved issues?

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

cornelboy:

The bible doesn't support cheating of any kind

You will not understand until your husband start denying you sex when you need it.

Deny me sex ah will fuvck olosho.
And if you are not happy you go.

Live is too short.

Men dey suffer sha..

You bought goats and cows, paid bride price of millions and you pay all bills in the house and still get denied?

She even said....he has to do enough to arose her in the morning. A woman weaponising sex should be dealt with early enough but will men learn how to do it? When we try to teach them, they label us bad and call us names.


I just dey Waka pass

KillahPriest:
there's a high probability that you don't have doings my brother. Work on your physique, your looks and your toiletries. Also work on your romance game but don't bring up matter of sex again, just leave her and be coming home late sometimes

It's like you didn't read the post. He works two jobs to provide...what is the issue with his physique and looks na? You know na before ni?

Una go just dey give half baked advice on this forum

Polygamy is the way the truth and the life.

cheat?African Men dont cheat we have a right to take as many wifes as we want.na simple Men,dey there they allow women control them.
I remember when my first wife start all those rubbish talk,I warn am,she no hear.as I take second wife her eye clear real fast,I tell am,you pack out no come back.now na she dey beg me chief come do now,I go tell am your second done handle am,and truly her second no dey use me play,every morning she must come check,if i need food.

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

Marry another wife

Her will surely clear am sure

In other news, she's getting it elsewhere

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

What do you think, they tell you to get marry if you cannot keep your body, you finish getting marry, wife still dey deny you sex, using all sort of tricks to avoid sex. Then they will say men will always cheat.

Op is not the only one, Many are facing this problem.

kestolove95:
Hmmmmn some men sef, wey women full outside na him one tin call wife go do mi yang...

I tire o,I really feel for the man.upon the 2 night shifts .she still dey form for you.chai.i trust myself sha.sharply I do get backup.i wont even complain again.will never bother her

bentenny:

OP you are the cause of your problem!
Your wife knows your weakness is sex hence she has weaponized it to her advantage!
Sorry ohh
However,you can do something to change that!
Sex is to a man what attention is to a woman!
Deprive her of attention and she will assume you are getting the s.ex outside which will make her jealous!
This will make her get suspicious and she will try to know who the imaginary woman is!
At the end,she will be the one to arouse you for sex!
Never beg a woman for se.x!

All you just said doesn't work that way unless you haven't married such a woman!

The lady played on the man's intelligence and judgement so he could conclude they were compatible and activate marriage.

However, once married she began to bring up certain conditions for the man to meet his sexual needs. There is nothing to suggest that the man is not a responsible husband and father in the submission.

That's why some marriageable singles still refer to marriage as a scam. I will not be surprised to see the man engage in extramarital relationships to satisfy his sexual urge.

Don't be a simp! hit the streets bro.

She even said he needs to earn it...mogbe.she get luck say she no jam person like me. .My Ex can testify

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

Sorry dear, I wonder why women do this ,if you start an affair now na wahala, try make her see reasons with you

Guy, go get better things to do than sex. Na she go come dey beg you with the punna las las when you no even send am again.

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

Yes ....... Only this type of wife OP mentioned.

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

The wife denying him of sex is already cheating him on what outrightly belongs to him. If the guy never manipulated her for her to earn marrying him in the first place, I see no reason why he has to earn having sex. He should just do what makes him happy.

Toktee:
You will not understand until your husband start denying you sex when you need it.

Deny me sex ah will fuvck olosho.
And if you are not happy you go.

Live is too short.

The guy I quoted mentioned the bible. The bible doesn't support literal cheating and denying one's partner se.x.

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

Dey Play my fans

BlackhatMentor:
Side chicks were designed and created for me like yourself.

Trust me, if your wife sense there's someone else.

Her legs will start spreading wider than a woman in labor room

You nailed it OG!!!

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

Don't blame her. These things happen. Probably because of the pregnancy and childbirth, her mood swings a lot.

She's overburden by taking care of your baby and the chores at house with her pregnancy.

Find a way to always make her happy. Take over that washing and cleaning of the house whenever you are around. Help with chores whenever you are around, and watch her change. Come back and thank me later.

kestolove95:
Hmmmmn some men sef, wey women full outside na him one tin call wife go do mi yang...

I can bet you are not married

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

He's not married

lonelydora:


Don't blame her. These things happen. Probably because of the pregnancy and childbirth, her mood swings a lot.

She's overburden by taking care of your baby and the chores at house with her pregnancy.

Find a way to always make her happy. Take over that washing and cleaning of the house whenever you are around. Help with chores whenever you are around, and watch her change. Come back and thank me later.

Thanks but I already do this and more. I think she is just manipulating me

GodHimself:
Pele. Pour all your sexual energy into improving yourself instead.

Thanks, while i try to improve myself, I run a succesful business , I graduated with a distinction and trained myself through school and have added 4 Professional qualifications in the last 7 months. Same applies to my spirituality

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

The wife cheated the husband by denying him his rights.

It's only fair if the husband cheated on her to satisfy himself.

Fahvvy:
Your wife told you to your face that you have to earn s.ex? ...

So all you're doing (working multiple shifts per day and helping out in house chores), still hasn't "earned" you a night with your wife? Wawu! ...


I understand that child birth comes with a lot of changes, however, her choice of words (earn se.x) sounds really offensive in my opinion ...

Women need to understand that your body according to scriptures no longer belongs to only you when you get married ...

So depriving your hubby of his body is cheating, so don't get upset when he goes outside and find relieve somewhere ....


I'm not encouraging cheating, however, whatever can be avoided should be avoided - depriving your hubby of s.ex for no tangible reason is a very big mistake ....

A word is enough for the wise ...

You quoted scripture to justify his right to his marital sex, but you didn't help him quote the sake scripture to condemn the fact that they have had premarital sex before they got married. They have always had transactional sex, the wife in question used sex to hook him into marriage and continues to use the same sex as a weapon against him in marriage. The foundation upon which their marriage is built is whatis becoming evident to him now. The problem with his marriage like so many others lies in the foundation upon which the marriage is built.

tete7000:



You quoted scripture to justify his right to his marital sex, but you didn't help him quote the sake scripture to condemn the fact that they have had premarital sex before they got married. They have always had transactional sex, the wife in question used sex to hook him into marriage and continues to use the same sex as a weapon against him in marriage. The foundation upon which their marriage is built is whatis becoming evident to him now. The problem with his marriage like so many others lies in the foundation upon which the marriage is built.

This is an interesting perspective ...
Thanks for sharing ...

What then would you advice he does, seeing that the foundation of their marriage wasn't laid properly?

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

Tell her if she wants the marriage to continue, she has to earn it.


What fuckery is this?

If she can look you in the face and say this, it simply means she has no regards for you. Na see finish cause am
She's calling the shots. She's the man while you're the woman. Call her husband.

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

....

Two year old marriage,you already have a baby and she's currently pregnant yet you are still complaining that she's denying you sex?

Did your child and the pregnancy fall from sky?

Brimstone77:
....

Two year old marriage,you already have a baby and she's currently pregnant yet you are still complaining that she's denying you sex?

Did your child and the pregnancy fall from sky?

You don't get it, maybe they have it twice a month. Is it normal?
That will even be when she wants it as gift for the husband for maybe buying her things.

That's olosho vibe.