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Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by bentenny(m): 5:47am On Oct 25, 2023

smasher1:

All you just said doesn't work that way unless you haven't married such a woman!

This says a lot about the erroneous and skewed narrative most guys have about a woman!

Your approach to a woman now will determine how she will treat you in the future!

What you permit is what will persist!

If you know your value and worth as a man,no woman will joke or mess around with you let alone deprive you of something as basic as sex!

But if you simp to the point of begging for sex,she will not only use that to her advantage but will ensure she controls you with it and subsequently lose respect in you in the future!

Its called 'see finish' in local parlance!

No woman messes around with a guy whom she feels has options!

Attention is a woman's oxygen...if you starve her of your attention,she becomes desperate and will insinuate that you are giving it to another lady which will provoke jealousy and a challenge to her!

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by benzion72(m): 5:55am On Oct 25, 2023

Lol, 😂😂😂😂😂😂. She is helping you from over work. Two shift already. Honestly that is women for you. Now if you jump out and the union is threatened she will start praying all over the world. Bro na your cross, me self I dey carry my own

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by zedegit: 6:01am On Oct 25, 2023

3ice9ce:
Don't stress your wife.
Tinder, Bumble, Bigo Live, Badoo

Download any of them. Whatever you decide to do with it, my hand no dey.

Those girls infested with every disease and call money as if they can produce it?

This is not the solution. He can't be married and yet a single gets more action than him.

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Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by daddyxavier: 6:04am On Oct 25, 2023

I just feel that women who don't want sex with their husband are chronic masturbators. My thoughts sha.

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Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by opera1(m): 6:08am On Oct 25, 2023

victorclean:
Divorce her straight away

You will not make heaven

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by newoffer: 6:10am On Oct 25, 2023

A simp spotted. If you belleful shey u go need food again. Don't rush into any arms cause lioness plenty out there. Look for a soft landing. Though all of them get chin chin for head.

felong:
Stop giving her money.

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by opera1(m): 6:13am On Oct 25, 2023

Mimiranky:
In other news, she's getting it elsewhere

Not really, it's hormonal changes. He should give her time as you can see that the wife is pregnant.

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Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by victorclean(f): 6:13am On Oct 25, 2023

opera1:

You will not make heaven

You are judging me already?. Remember bible says"Judgement is for God only"

Kwontinue, no problem

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by ABIKEM: 6:18am On Oct 25, 2023

kestolove95:
Hmmmmn some men sef, wey women full outside na him one tin call wife go do mi yang...

hmmmm calling ur wife one tin means u can never b a responsible husband if at all..I dnt think u re married yet anyway

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Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by ogundeleai(m): 6:23am On Oct 25, 2023

Yugoslavia247:

Naso marriage be

The promise of endless sex is the greatest scam that was preached.

At the end your marriage was transactional.

Now she has a child.
I enjoy Transactional and leverage you mention here.. I enjoy the submission.

She has leverage.

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by daddyxavier: 6:23am On Oct 25, 2023

lonelydora:

Don't blame her. These things happen. Probably because of the pregnancy and childbirth, her mood swings a lot.

She's overburden by taking care of your baby and the chores at house with her pregnancy.

Find a way to always make her happy. Take over that washing and cleaning of the house whenever you are around. Help with chores whenever you are around, and watch her change. Come back and thank me later.

Stop it please. It doesn't work anymore. Men should stop accepting this excuse. Should he cut off his head to make her happy? What is she doing also to make him happy? We have been allowing this incorrect reasons to cloud our judgement and hence encouraging more wives to behave this way. Even wives who do nothing but eat and sleep deprive their husbands. Plus is their husband not also stresses with bills and other stuff? I wonder why they don't do all these as girlfriends but after giving the man a child (which they use as leverage).

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Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by Nobody: 6:34am On Oct 25, 2023

1 Corinthians 7: 2-5

But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

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Your Bible is very clear on that. Don't negotiate. When the desirable is not available, the available becomes the desirable. The availability of willing farm tools cannot be overemphasized. Don't get attached to a particular farm tool else you get more conditioning. One touch. USE CONDOM.

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Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by KillahPriest: 6:37am On Oct 25, 2023

luminouz:

It's like you didn't read the post. He works two jobs to provide...what is the issue with his physique and looks na? You know na before ni?

Una go just dey give half baked advice on this forum

get away from my mentions Mr Mumu Over baked advise. Have you seen the op before ? Can you predict when a woman's skoi skoi will start to manifest ? Do you know if she has another love interest somewhere ? You sef obviously no get doings too if not you'll know women get extremely jealous and territorial immediately they suspect their men are getting some attention outside hence my advice for him to get new clothes , toiletries and stay out late more frequently to raise that jealousy into a confrontation where he'll state his frustrations with her behavior, she'll state her own side and then, they'll hopefully settle their differences. Everything na strategy but no be all we suppose dey talk

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by Marynwachukwu21(f): 6:44am On Oct 25, 2023

lanre316:

The wife cheated the husband by denying him his rights.

It's only fair if the husband cheated on her to satisfy himself.

Waow

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by Psoul(m): 6:45am On Oct 25, 2023

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

What you're saying here is that she did not give it to you as many times as you want. Not that she denies you sex. If she denies you sex, she wouldn't be pregnant for the second child. Or you would question how she becomes pregnant when no dey give you.

Well, that side. Let me give you advice here which is a very sorry and effective one.
My may, go and make money. Jee chuba ego. Hustle and make money and more money and sex will never be your problem. She will give it to you every moment and you'll even start avoiding it cause you'll have more money you'll like to chase then sex. Have a great day.

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by Artzdanielsz(m): 6:45am On Oct 25, 2023

This is why our forefathers have multiple wives.

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by nwayioma: 6:51am On Oct 25, 2023

Changes in hormones

After giving birth, your body's hormone levels need to readjust to their pre-pregnancy state. This readjustment can reduce your sex drive and sexual response. For instance, women who breastfeed have lower estrogen levels, which can lead to vaginal dryness. So don’t be harsh on her whenever you come around, you could help her out with some of the things you see her do and I bet you, you guys may end up having it as you do the chores with her.

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by ceeceeuwa: 6:59am On Oct 25, 2023

You said you have been married in under 2 years
She currently has a toddler and is pregnant again. That means in that less than 2 years she has been pregnant all through. I just hope you are being realistic here with the scenerio you just painted?

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by maasoap(m): 7:05am On Oct 25, 2023

Yugoslavia247:

Naso marriage be

The promise of endless sex is the greatest scam that was preached.

At the end your marriage was transactional.

Now she has a child.

She has leverage.

Not in every marriage

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Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by Basiljoe: 7:05am On Oct 25, 2023

Do dna test on that child. Mumu.

"In I detailed the increasingly more common situation of Beta husbands discovering that their seemingly sexually disinterested wives were far more sexually adventurous w/ the Alpha men of their Party Years. The money quote was this: 'I married a slut who bleeps like a prude'." RM

"On some level of consciousness, women understand that, were the ignorant Beta she’s decided to marry (start a family with) to become aware of what she’d done in her sexual past, he too might expect that same degree of sexual performance." - Book 3, Positive Masculinity

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by maasoap(m): 7:06am On Oct 25, 2023

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

What do you expect? To be simping around?

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by maasoap(m): 7:08am On Oct 25, 2023

Fahvvy:
Your wife told you to your face that you have to earn s.ex? ...

So all you're doing (working multiple shifts per day and helping out in house chores), still hasn't "earned" you a night with your wife? Wawu! ...

I understand that child birth comes with a lot of changes, however, her choice of words (earn se.x) sounds really offensive in my opinion ...

More like sounds degrading and insensitive

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by thunderbabs: 7:12am On Oct 25, 2023

Marriages these days is just about the wedding ceremony for ladies, and to be seen as getting out of the single status.

The rest, na suffer and frustration for the man. All those pre wedding feelings expires shortly after the wedding or after birth.

Diminishing returns

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by benqo01(m): 7:13am On Oct 25, 2023

Your wife isn't doing her marriage good at all OP go find one girl knack outside

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Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by Asebaba1(m): 7:16am On Oct 25, 2023

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

No o! On his mother

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by REALretep(m): 7:23am On Oct 25, 2023

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

I don't really see any big deal here.
Though your wife denying you her body is outrightly wrong.
But she has already clearly told you that she's not getting sufficient attention and affection from you. Attention and Affection are for women what sex is to a man.
This means you are not doing well in your husbandly duties... maybe you don't even know how to show affection and give attention to a woman. Ask questions and read books about them.

Give your wife what she wants from you

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by SaLongs1(m): 7:31am On Oct 25, 2023

Marynwachukwu21:
That means you fit cheat on your wife🙄

Or be frustrated for life.

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by SaLongs1(m): 7:32am On Oct 25, 2023

benqo01:
Your wife isn't doing her marriage good at all OP go find one girl knack outside

Fully supported.

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by ottersberger(m): 7:38am On Oct 25, 2023

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

Have you considered having her "earn" every extra expense to her person beyond the mandatory responsibility?.

Making hair is an extra.

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by josite: 7:40am On Oct 25, 2023

she has evolved into an emotional expensive woman and she is asking u to pay more emotionally in order to earn the emotional income that already belongs to you.

if solution is really your quest,why not be extra nice and extra caring to her ,sing love songs to her,buy her small small gifts .

Re: My Wife Constantly Denies Me Sex by Sibbb: 7:52am On Oct 25, 2023

If I can’t get you aroused it means someone else is getting you aroused, if na my wife na better gbese she don buy, u go explain tire

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