I I just want to say that no matter what is going on in your marriage you should try and see how you both can be able to sort it out.i know some marriages are not bed of roses,there are usually ups and down in marriage but nevertheless you guys should try and work things out for the sake of your children cause they mean a lot to you and as a father they need a father figure in their life even though you don't want to be with your wife again at least be a part of your children's life.you both can seek the help of a marriage counselor

also the amount you said you will send for the upkeep of your children is too little depending on how much you earn as a salary,the cost of living in Nigeria is high especially foodstuff try to increase it to 30,000 or 35,000.
That's just my take

kevwemike:
bros u try, in my own case i collect my children, and I have been the one taking good care of them bços my x wife vow to mk my life miserable but now I have move on and I and my 2 children we have great peace

Collecting them from her is impossible because my daughter is 3 and my son is 2 months old I don't trust my mum or my siblings with my children anymore and their mum is the only one who can take better care of them

kevwemike:
bros u try, in my own case i collect my children, and I have been the one taking good care of them bços my x wife vow to mk my life miserable but now I have move on and I and my 2 children we have great peace

Congratulations 👏

Handsomejok:



Yes for 3 children aside from the 15k I will also be paying their rent, school fees for 2 children one is my stepdaughter plus Nepa bills I don't think that 15k is small

I understand you but I guess u don't really have a higher income that's why u are thinking 15k is fine because if u guys are living together u should know u will spend more than 15k for them before d month runs out 🤔

Please think about it

LadyG05:



You must be a wicked man to think that 15k for 2 kids is sufficient a month. Even if you stock the house with foodstuffs, there is no where 50k will be sufficient.


You expect this woman to feed each child with #250 daily ( morning, afternoon and night)

You said one of the children is not yours so her mom should fend for her.


If you continue in this wickedness, Go.d will send help to them but your end will be miserable.

Don't call me wicked man you don't know my financial states if I had a lot of money I wouldn't have been sleeping in my shop I can only give her what I have by cutting my coat according to my size

Tayorshd87:

I understand you but I guess u don't really have a higher income that's why u are thinking 15k is fine because if u guys are living together u should know u will spend more than 15k for them before d month runs out 🤔

Please think about it

Yes I don't have a higher income and I cannot even rent a room for myself because I have put them as my top priority

ahnie:
What in the hell is wrong with you?why forcing him staying in a marriage he's fed up with?

When are you leaving your own marriage?? just this morning you complained about your husband choking you!

Handsomejok:
■ I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

I hope you have informed her of your desire to end the marriage as well. Sending a woman who has your kids 15k in this economy is ... anyway, the woman too is to blame for having more kids knowing what is known.
If say this woman serious, she for demand things be made official so she can be assured you will pay your part towards the upkeep of the children every month or face legal consequences.

Handsomejok:


Yes I don't have a higher income and I cannot even rent a room for myself because I have put them as my top priority

..

heya exactly I feel your pain .

Marriage is only sweet and mostly florist if there is fund/money but without that many things can erupt like divorce/broken home or domestic violence etc .

Just handle the suituation with care..

Handsomejok:


Don't call me wicked man you don't know my financial states if I had a lot of money I wouldn't have been sleeping in my shop I can only give her what I have by cutting my coat according to my size

Exactly how many kids do u have if I may ask?

And she suppose to find something doing too at least to cover up some loop holes in the marriage

being:
■ I think d devil wants to destroy your life, your marriage. And you also know you have taken very seriously wrong decisions before which at the time you thought was right.. I think this is another wrong decision. REBUKE those evil dreams, they will stop. The devil is playing píng pong with u. Don't become game for him

Stop rambling abeg! The marriage was destroyed by OP and not some ghost called the devil. According to Op, after he got his senses back, he put it on life support but it seemed to have all been too little too late.

Stop blaming ojuju for what is probably a result of your own foolishness in life.

Kobojunkie:
Stop rambling abeg! The marriage was destroyed by OP and not some ghost called the devil. According to Op, after he got his senses back, he put it on life support but it seemed to have all been too little too late.

Stop blaming ojuju for what is probably a result of your own foolishness in life.

Let's assume you don't know anything... Who do u think gave those false prophets those sọ called vision they had about d OP & his wife?

being:
■ Let's assume you don't know anything... Who do u think gave those false prophets those sọ called vision they had about d OP & his wife?

Lol... see this one. Ordinary men lied to OP about receiving visions --- men with delusions of grandeur probably--- yet you would rather confuse yourself by believing someone else was to blame for the lies they fed OP? Una need help!

Nice2023:
I can see ur wife is really going through alot.

Are u sure u are taking care of ur family?

Bros, wetin happen nau? Shey you wan frustrate the young man join?

#Let_The_Divorced_Man_Breathe

On a more serious note, I see most marital problems as a failure of parenting. It's like both men and women of nowadays don't know what to expect from marriage anymore. You cannot put a woman (assistant devil) in the house and expect to have peace. Those creatures were moulded with a different clay.

Handsomejok:



Collecting them from her is impossible because my daughter is 3 and my son is 2 months old I don't trust my mum or my siblings with my children anymore and their mum is the only one who can take better care of them

You don't trust your own mom or siblings to take care of your kids?

Which kind family you grow up from?

Handsomejok:



Collecting them from her is impossible because my daughter is 3 and my son is 2 months old I don't trust my mum or my siblings with my children anymore and their mum is the only one who can take better care of them

mine was two boys 6 and 4yrs, they are so attached to my soul dey sees me as their mum and dad even wen their mum was still staying with us, Even till today dey if I ask them do u want ur mother to come back home dey say no oooo she shouldn't come here . That's how bad she was to her children.

I don't understand why people bring children into this world and will still not take good care of them.. what will 15k do

Shey the mother is handicapped or what?? He'll be paying house rent and school fess, and other bills, and still add 15k.. but Chinedu,osas and kunle who are still living under their parents house are complaining that the money is too small.


The mother of those kids can't work too??

All those Men with half cooked stories.
Op,you haven't told us what you did to your wife that made you to be a monster in her eyes. You are just complaining .

Jeon:
All those Men with half cooked stories.
Op,you haven't told us what you did to your wife that made you to be a monster in her eyes. You are just complaining .

His tale is a long one ... check out his history to learn the story from his side.

LadyRosa:
■ You don't trust your own mom or siblings to take care of your kids? Which kind family you grow up from?

His mother carries part of the blame for why OP's marriage fell apart.

Kobojunkie:
His tale is a long one ... check out his history to learn the story from his side.

Oh, so he called his wife a witch?.
😮

Jeon:
Oh, so he called his wife a witch?.
😮

And the baby too... continue reading.

His tale is a serious cautionary tale. It should be turned into a book for all gullible folks out there to make sure to read..

He dreamt about his wife wanted to kill him.

Kobojunkie:
And the baby too... continue reading.

His tale is a serious cautionary tale that ought to be turned into a book to warn other gullible beings out there of such traps set by so-called prophets and mogs.

So he was also told that the wife sent the baby on a killing mission.


If that's the case, he should enjoy the harvest.

Jeon:
He dreamt about his wife wanted to kill him. So he was also told that the wife sent the baby on a killing mission.

After accusing his wife of being a witch, he also accused the baby ...1 and a half years old at the time ... of being a witch. Later on, he went to get them all back, but things haven't been the same as the damage has been done. He even had another baby since then, but no peace with him as the wife is there like a shadow in the marriage, according to him. I believe his dreams are a result of his subconscious dealing with him.

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

You sent your wife away with the children? How was she going to raise them? gist us some more, what exactly did you do that drove her nuts, and what did you do in an attempt to reconcile? The dreams is your guilty conscience telling you "you f-ed up.." Let's be honest. Better have a talk with her, maybe split the responsibility of caring for the kids between you two.

Gadafii:
Every single day, there is always a an wailing about marriage/wife


What do men really enjoy from marriage these days, can someone just mention five things a man will benefit from marrying a woman in this present day and time

I think for the illusion of sex nothing more and social validation

15,000 dollars is very benevolent of you.
God bless u

LadyG05:



You must be a wicked man to think that 15k for 2 kids is sufficient a month. Even if you stock the house with foodstuffs, there is no where 50k will be sufficient.


You expect this woman to feed each child with #250 daily ( morning, afternoon and night)

You said one of the children is not yours so her mom should fend for her.


If you continue in this wickedness, Go.d will send help to them but your end will be miserable.

...
the man don try.
the woman should do the remaining..

Your topic history is catastrophic. Is your daughter still a witch?

Troll.

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

Didn't read your post but Congratulations bra. Marriage is death sentence for men. Is like bringing problems into your life

Handsomejok:



Collecting them from her is impossible because my daughter is 3 and my son is[b] 2 months old [/b] I don't trust my mum or my siblings with my children anymore and their mum is the only one who can take better care of them

It is inhumane to leave her at this point. With a 2 months old baby, she is probably not working and will struggle returning to the workforce without help.

Stay with her till the kid is at least 1 years old.

Also 15k is rubbish. Have you checked the cost of pampers and baby food?

Lastly, take time to read about postpartum period. She needs all the support she can get and show her more love. Put your family first in any decision you make, that is true fatherhood.