If he is not happy in a marriage, why stay married just to endure? Life is too short to waste it on unhappiness.

Men do not have the resilience of women, thats why men easily develop HBP if they stay in an environment thats not peaceful for too long.

Why will a man deal with a dramatic person?

ahnie:
Op majority of those addvicing you to divorce your wife are bunch of frustrated lots.


If you follow their advices your name na sorry.

Kindly keep correcting your wife
Women are dramatic,always keep that in mind.

perryy:
Is this even an issue? She doesn't have atom of love for you and she may poison you in the near future. Solution: kick her ass out of your life now or never. I talk from experience. Kick her out and save yourself . You will thank me later.

SHE IS ONLY PUTTING HIM UNDER MANNERS.

OP, ALTERNATIVELY, WHEN U CATCH HER IN THE BEDROOM, SHOW HER WHO IS BOSS.

What’s wrong with women of nowadays?

Threaten her with divorce and see her reaction and attitude towards you. Tell her that you can't stand this anymore. Tell her if there is any other man she wants to be with she can go and meet him. Enough of the game.

Why do women advice men to remain in unhappy marriages?

mariahAngel:


Keep talking to her, and keep praying for her to come to an understanding, so that you both can understand each other better.

I saw a video where someone said couples should help their spouses understand and love them better (the way they want), and I agree with that.

Also, those things you do (or say) that she says she does not like, try as much as possible to avoid doing them.
It's as simple as that.

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

See finish may be one of the reasons. Try any method of short term separation with effective communication while you and her parents/ family keep on advising her. Separation, I said not divorce Thereafter, she may start missing you, and have develop more feeling for you.

ANY WOMAN THAT DONT WANT US DOING SOME CRAZY SHIT IN THE OTHER ROOM, BETTER RECOGNIZE WHO IS THE BOSS.

OTHERWISE, WE WILL GO DOWN THE ROAD OF ABSURD AND INSANITY CHALLENGE IN THE OTHER ROOM.


KPEKUS VERSUS KOBOKO/KONDO BULALA/BULLDOZER
RESPECT!

SIXTEENTH:
If you are working with a firm that has another branch interstate please apply for transfer to another state, I think with this method you can be able to evade some of her threat.

Only visit maybe 2-3 times a year can solved half of the nagging and quarrelling couple with confrontation going on in your households.

wrong advise

The kind advice wey dey my mind ehn, make I no just talk am since I still dey single.
But I wouldn't go for the divorce or separation advice because she isn't cheating on you so it's definitely not an option.

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

You would be a fool to not knpw that she is tired and done with you. She has no iota of love for you and also she does not respect you. Your cross to deal with

Just how you handled her before you got marry,I guess what's she's doing now is not new.

Ignore her. When she starts you can go out to some where and relax. Don't respond to her.
You will win her

Well,me .I dey give dem as e dey hot.

Let me listen and learn, nairaland is a Library

I can't say you should divorce her but look beyond stubbornness. She might have met a new man that has money and everything more than you and she is regretting marry you. I'm passing through the same thing now. The moment woman start compare you with another man, problems has started in that house. Give her distance, she will value you.

evangmx:
Ignore her. When she starts you can go out to some where and relax. Don't respond to her.
You will win her

No dat is not good for her health to be talking by herself.

U respond however unreasonable she maybe.

Then u declare war in the other room.


Something must to correct for her head for peace to return.

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

Better to dwell in the quiet corner of a roof than in a house with a quarrelsome woman. The first thing you need to do is to stop letting it affect you.

TheGift:


Better to dwell in the quiet corner of a roof than in a house with a quarrelsome woman. The first thing you need to do is to stop letting it affect you.

Lazy man talk, just look at her and remain silent.

In you r mind this bitch is very disrespectful.


No tell am anything, she will know what is wrong later.

You too begin to dey carefree. She'll adjust.

I've noticed one thing with human beings in general. If you're trying to act nice and always want to be the one seeking their face for friendship, they'll take you for granted and you LL become worthless to them. The moment you too start giving them tit for tat, they too will be saying ah... The mumu don wise o and before you know it, your due respect will be accorded to you.

Use this tips.
Give her space.

Don't strike a conversation first and if she does, answer with a few words. No be say she talk small you go come open all your teeth waaa... fall for ground dey laugh again.

Give her instructions on what you need done in the house with a straight face and walk away before she gets the chance to argue or talk back.

Make yourself scarce but don't overdo it or use it as opportunity to cheat on her.

By the time you give her this attitudes, she'll be the one looking for your face. Then she'll cherish you.

Ignore her don't talk to her

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.



How can I deal with this?

It's simple

Just during those rants, just tell her you are getting tired of her attitude and might send her to her parents or you will pack out and go somewhere quiet enough

Den start acting like you don't care anymore, stop eating her food and watch her, if she doesn't stop, then know someone wants to opt out or is there to frustrate you, high blood pressure na silent killer

Know this

Coronavirus1:
Ignore her don't talk to her

until the other room, make first move.

If she run, catch am, ask her y u dey run.

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

give her good seks

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

Marriage, more reason I tell my self that marriage is not for me, the institution of marriage have been destroyed by modernization. This wasn't how our mothers treated our fathers. Well OP I think first of all she lacks respect for you and you are doing or have done absolutely nothing about it in the past, hence she see you as someone below her.

Argument all the time means you don't have anything original to say as a husband. Have you ever put your feet down once on an issue in this marriage? Seek a marriage counsellor, you need peace of mind please.

emmanuelbrown26:
Sometimes I feel so ashamed of sharing dis generation with some idiots parading themselves as men.
For ur wife to raise her voice at u at any slightest discussion shows how weak u are, then it also shows that she's d one doing u favour by marrying u
Men suppose to create boundary in marriage bcs d generation of women we hv dis day is totally different from what we had back then.
We hv women that wants to eat their cake and still have it.
OP ur forefathers must be so disappointed in having somebody like u in their lineage bcs u don't deserve to be a man at all

It's not his fault,she is suffering from border line personality disorder,it also affects men.He should seek professional help.

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

is either ua caught cheating or ua cheating on her.

legitnow1:



Lazy man talk, just look at her and remain silent.

In you r mind this bitch is very disrespectful.


No tell am anything, she will know what is wrong later.

Insecure and purposeless-less man talk. The first thing you need to deal with is yourself and how it is affecting you, this applies to all kinds of relationships.

nairalanda1:



First, tell us the whole story from start to finish, then we can help you.

gbam

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

In life, you need to learn how to balance between making peace and taking the battle to your opponents door step.

Sometimes, making peace is considered weakness.

OctavianAC:


See finish may be one of the reasons. He should try any method of short term separation with effective communication while you and her parents/ family keep on advising her. Separation, I said not divorce Thereafter, she may start missing him, and have develop more feeling for him.

Best words so far, your last paragraph sounds good 👍

Are you sure you're not cheating on her?