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Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Gwin007: 9:43pm On Nov 09, 2023
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Tojan: 9:58pm On Nov 09, 2023
Man my only advice is be careful

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Gwin007: 10:09pm On Nov 09, 2023
Tojan:
Man my only advice is be careful
please how?

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Kobojunkie: 10:23pm On Nov 09, 2023
Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes Thanks
What job or business does your wife do? If you head abroad and are unable to send money him for a period, will your wife and kids be OK? undecided

2. Do you already have a job idea or are you going their hoping something will somehow work out? Do you at least have rent for a month or two in hand? Or are you somehow expecting to find some folks to mooch off of until you find your way? undecided

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Gwin007: 10:29pm On Nov 09, 2023
I don’t have any job idea to do there, planning when I get there I will look for something doing
Kobojunkie:
What job or business does your wife do? If you head abroad and are unable to send money him for a period, will your wife and kids be OK? undecided

2. Do you already have a job idea or are you going their hoping something will somehow work out? Do you at least have rent for a month or two in hand? Or are you somehow expecting to find some folks to mooch off of until you find your way? undecided
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Kobojunkie: 10:32pm On Nov 09, 2023
Gwin007:
■ I don’t have any job idea to do there, planning when I get there I will look for something doing
If you don't already have a plan on how to hit the ground running when you get to the other side, then I suggest you back in Nigeria and wait for when you do. undecided

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by ojun50(m): 10:41pm On Nov 09, 2023
My guy
Stay back, invest in you yr business.


No ask me for reason

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:43pm On Nov 09, 2023
Tourist visa of what, 6 months? And after that you'll become an illegal immigrant? Why do you people like to invite problems for yourselves? Why can't you go there the right way legally then invite your family and live happily ever after? You want to become an illegal that will always stay under the radar so as not to be detected and deported, spending decades without physically seeing your family then expect your wife to remain faithful and loyal while you do countless shenanigans over there,

Oga stay in naija and hustle, you are not ripe to travel out yet.

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Gwin007: 10:48pm On Nov 09, 2023
Thank you.. please which other processes can I use to travel legally but my budget is 5m naira
Fountainofyouth:
Tourist visa of what, 6 months? And after that you'll become a illegal immigrant? Why do you people like to invite problems for yourselves? Why can't you go there the right way legally then invite your family and live happily ever after? You want to become an illegal that will always stay under the radar so as not to be detected and deported, spending decades without physically seeing your family then expect your wife to remain faithful and loyal while you do countless shenanigans over there,

Oga stay in naija and hustle, you are not ripe to travel out yet.

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:50pm On Nov 09, 2023
Gwin007:
Thank you.. please which other processes can I use to travel legally but my budget is 5m naira

There are work and student visa, you can go through any of those route if you have the necessary requirements.

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Dogalmighty17: 10:53pm On Nov 09, 2023
Dem go run your wife o! Who you dey leave her for?

But on a serious note, you struggled with business over here. What gives you the confidence that you can make head way in where you intend going to? Have you considered how long it may take to bring your family over?

If you had a business that failed and somehow you have raised money to sponsor yourself abroad, why should you abandon that source? Going out is not what you think it is.

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Gwin007: 10:58pm On Nov 09, 2023
Okay thank you
Fountainofyouth:


There is work and student visa, you can go through any of that route if you have the necessary requirements.

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Gwin007: 11:00pm On Nov 09, 2023
Dogalmighty17:
Dem go run your wife o! Who you dey leave her for?

But on a serious note, you struggled with business over here. What gives you the confidence that you can make head way in where you intend going to? Have you considered how long it may take to bring your family over?

If you had a business that failed and somehow you have raised money to sponsor yourself abroad, why should you abandon that source? Going out is not what you think it is.

thanks you

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by CoronaVirusPro: 11:12pm On Nov 09, 2023
Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks


Let me tell you the bitter truth!

Don`t leave without your family!

With a visitor`s visa is a no no. That route is unpredictable and comes with different unplanned circumstances. You could get stuck for longer than you expected, and your wife and kids would lose patience, if not forget you.

If you want to embark on such route, move wit your family so you can be mentally stable.

Don't let anyone sweet talk you about how easy you could legalize your stay, it is an unpredictable route

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by stacyadams: 11:55pm On Nov 09, 2023
grin grin na another man go dey salvage your wife toto when u no dey carry that one for mind first

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Sirianese: 12:00am On Nov 10, 2023
CoronaVirusPro:



Let me tell you the bitter truth!

Don`t leave without your family!

With a visitor`s visa is a no no. That route is unpredictable and comes with different unplanned circumstances. You could get stuck for longer than you expected, and your wife and kids would lose patience, if not forget you.

If you want to embark on such route, move wit your family so you can be mentally stable.

Don't let anyone sweet talk you about how easy you could legalize your stay, it is an unpredictable route

Ogbeni stay back and take care of your young family o, shebi you talk say money for business don dey

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by ghettochild(m): 12:03am On Nov 10, 2023
Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks
Take the risk

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by xavuv: 12:43am On Nov 10, 2023
Tourist visa undecided
Pls don't take that risk. Stay back and invest. diversify.

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Yankee101: 2:23am On Nov 10, 2023
Not to Europe

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by AyobamiIsaac12: 2:38am On Nov 10, 2023
Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks
I'll advise you stay back and invest in your business because there is no guarantee that things will go smoothly with a tourist visa.

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Gwin007: 6:11am On Nov 10, 2023
CoronaVirusPro:



Let me tell you the bitter truth!

Don`t leave without your family!

With a visitor`s visa is a no no. That route is unpredictable and comes with different unplanned circumstances. You could get stuck for longer than you expected, and your wife and kids would lose patience, if not forget you.

If you want to embark on such route, move wit your family so you can be mentally stable.

Don't let anyone sweet talk you about how easy you could legalize your stay, it is an unpredictable route
okay thank u

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Dikastan: 6:31am On Nov 10, 2023
Do a legit paper and go. If you have a reliable agent, you can travel and make it even if it takes a little time. You can go over there and acquire a skill to boost yourself. I have a similar plan with you . Don't go with your family now and don't worry about wife's infidelity,any woman that wants to cheat will cheat even under your nose.
1. Make sure you use a reliable agent
2. You need to do a serious spiritual work, especially through prayer to clear your way spiritually so that forces of darkeness won't frustrate your plans.
3. Be positive and strong,life is about risk. Take it and make it

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Aaaaarghmed(m): 6:33am On Nov 10, 2023
Tourist visa.. not adviseable.the gamble wey you wan enter too much.abort mission

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Aaaaarghmed(m): 6:34am On Nov 10, 2023
Tourist visa.. not adviseable.the gamble wey you wan enter too much.abort mission.If you were a single guy without kids.i for say make you forge ahead.but a married man with 3 kids.abort mission.re-invest in your biz

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Olumighty123(m): 7:43am On Nov 10, 2023
Gwin007:
Thank you.. please which other processes can I use to travel legally but my budget is 5m naira

Now that you've revealed how much you've got, expect plenty emails from hyenas (Travel agents) trying to devour you. Be watchful and careful in your dealings.

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Bedwetter: 8:04am On Nov 10, 2023
Where are you running to




Stay back and enjoy what you started




Forking Yellowbar folks be doing the most after voting in my moniker
You expect everything to be alright



You're going nowhere


We die here Omo igbo
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by RajahBaltazar: 8:38am On Nov 10, 2023
You have a profitable business that needs capital but you would rather waste the money with you on a fool's errand.
My advice is to invest in your business and devote all your time to building it. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Nobody: 9:07am On Nov 10, 2023
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Your community service skills will soon be required... grin grin grin
Dikastan:
Do a legit paper and go. If you have a reliable agent, you can travel and make it even if it takes a little time. You can go over there and acquire a skill to boost yourself. I have a similar plan with you . Don't go with your family now and don't worry about wife's infidelity,any woman that wants to cheat will cheat even under your nose.
1. Make sure you use a reliable agent
2. You need to do a serious spiritual work, especially through prayer to clear your way spiritually so that forces of darkeness won't frustrate your plans.
3. Be positive and strong,life is about risk. Take it and make it
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Gwin007: 9:38am On Nov 10, 2023
Okay thank u so much
Olumighty123:


Now that you've revealed how much you've got, expect plenty emails from hyenas (Travel agents) trying to devour you. Be watchful and careful in your dealings.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by bouncin04(m): 3:12pm On Nov 10, 2023
Be it tourist , school , work permit visas , if you have a trustworthy agent please don't look back my man , as naija don turn Malawi of those days .

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by JamParkMe: 3:12pm On Nov 10, 2023
Traveling overases with just a tourist visa is like voluntarily hopping into a slave ship during the times of slavery. If you were a young and single guy, I can understand the risk vs reward but as a married guy with children, I don't think it's very wise.

You will basically have to start afresh, working menial jobs for less than minimum wage because anyone hiring an illegal immigrant will exploit them as they have no legs to stand on and are desperate for work. Your best hope of eventually getting papers would be to do a fake marriage with a citizen but that comes with very high costs, abuse from the citizen and risk of the immigration services denying such marriage after all the money and years spent.

How about your wife and kids? How is your wife supposed to get intimacy when you are gone for years? Don't you realize, intimacy like food and shelter is a basic human need? You will likely be cheating on your wife but woe betide your wife if she sleeps around. How about your kids, who will be the father figure they need at such tender age? Most of these cultists and armed robbers you see today had no responsible fathers in their lives.

I will say you should sit down and think outside the box for ways to improve your business or for new business ideas. Don't let the pressure of japa syndrome make you make a move you will ultimately regret. I too have felt the urge to abandon it all and relocate overseas, but the risk vs reward doesn't make any sense and there are no guarantees in life.

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