NdubisiCharles:
Good day pals, I have a sister whose husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now,
with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl.
She single handedly took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening.

Yesterday, I received a call from my young sis, saying that her forgotten husband just called and was pleading for her return, that what will she do, that she needs my advice as senior, for me not to fall into conclusion I gave her 48 hours to reply to her, .....

Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids, that he paid my sis bride price, he has visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke, "that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis, and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when asked my sis she confirmed it.

Please friends advice me on what to do

At least, he admitted to being broke which your is your sister's issue. Therefore, once you see he is comfortable them no problem.

After all of hunger returns again your sister can always return too.

osazsky:
if it's nnewi men,my bro ensure with ur life that she doesn't return to him..igbos are cheat..dangerous killers.she may end up in a body bag it's a death trap run run run all igbos are murderers

You mean tarpaulin or wrapper. No body bag here.

NdubisiCharles:

Am afraid if is he for real or did he have any evil thing on mind, u know all this nnewi, Anambra men

What do you mean by anambra men?

That man is even a a mumu for considering going back to your sister who left him when he was broke. Now that he seem to have something going for him, he wants her back after other guys must have used and damaged her completely.

What a foolish man. No wonder it was easy for the greedy woman to leave him.cos na mumu him be.

Namaster:
Your sister acted like a fool for breaking up her home because of momentary poverty. She deprived the kids of their father's presence.

If she could train them herself while away from her husband. She could have trained them WITH the husband in the picture.

That said, the man is equally MAD for abandoning his kids for 8 years. Especially, given the fact that one of them was a newly born infant.

He's massively delusional for asking them to return to him. He knew your family house and never bothered to check on his kids for almost a DECADE.

He's insane.

Tell your sister to NOT return to him. The trust in their marriage is dead. Your sister acted like a gold digger who jumped ship when she realized there was no gold. The husband demonstrated his irresponsibility by failing to connect with his kids in 8 years.

Now that he's conquered poverty, he can support his kids with money. Pay for their upkeeps, medical and other bills.

He'll only pay for his KIDS. NOT your sister.

Then, he can spend time (maybe holidays and weekends) with his kids. But as for the marriage, it's dead.

Advise your sister in this way.

So what are you trying to say, what will he do in this case

Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

Go and read all his post before typing this garbage


The sister is the gold digger that left because the man was broke. Now the man has some money and wants them back.

IMO he is a foolish and weak man..who wants to go back to a woman that have been ran through by other men after she left him for being broke.


Get sense

Curiouscity:


Your 1st paragraph and last paragraph are contradictory.

1. When your sister told you or your family 8 years ago, that her husband abandoned her/children, did you verify? Did you or anyone within the family ask the man? Or you just believed your sister?

2. According to your last paragraph, did the man make any effort to reunite with the wife/kids? If yes, when? 8 years ago or recently?

3. Your sister confirmed that the man is not violent or diabolical, he was only broke. Does this sound logical that a broke man will abandon his loving wife and kids?

My take: Your sister painted the man as evil, you guys believed her without verification. Many families have been ruined by lies from women who couldn't stand by their husband during economic hardship. Except there are more to this story than you have shared.

he have visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke,"

Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

ha! Weyrey talk

You need to correct your first paragraph. Your sister left him instead. For the man's safety, your sister should reject going back. It's obvious she lied to you when she left and you never cared to verify. You just finding out the reason she left. I guess the man is doing so well for you to think he may be into some unclean deals, that's why your sister is considering going back.
Leaving because the husband was poor which she confirmed showed that your sister was into the marriage for the wrong reason. And with your myopic mindset, it's best they stay their separate ways. The man of course should've spent time with his children from time to time. Being poor is no reason to leave children for that long. No matter what, he has lots of responsibilities and care to provide to the children.

Although I am not married yet but below 👇 is what I feel

No matter how long they have been separated and weather rich or not her baby daddy will still be her baby daddy and It is not good for couples to be apart. If she make up her mind to go back to him, I suggest she first pray about it o. (Only God knows what is in the secret) We have been hearing stories here and there let it not be that after eight years Baba want to ...

Peace

NdubisiCharles:

Am afraid if is he for real or did he have any evil thing on mind, u know all this nnewi, Anambra men

Your sister left because the man is poor.. She confirmed that to you, didn't she?

Absuchat:

What is wrong with Nnewi men?

Anger is normal if you had sacrificed a lot to keep it together, but peace and daily thanksgiving follows. With maturity, you'll even celebrate your friends' successful marriages & if it's called for you gladly share your experiences. Being separated or divorced takes nothing from you if it gives you peace.

I just realized I posted this on a wrong thread

It's the ownership for me..

frndfghtr:

Am a nnewi man, we love our families, you are a liar
My advice to you is to hurry and beg the man, even if it last for thirty years, you just help the man to train his children, am a igbo man, once bride price is been paid, in our custom, the the man is [/b]the owner[b] of your sis and the kids

Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

Read the story again @Beremx

Am a woman too, I know what I pass through, I'm my own time, but God take control of everything, I want ask the man, if the woman sold the children nko, or those children died of hunger nko, why is he coming back, is it for the children or for the family, he should be investigate properly, let the woman go back to man and stay with him at least 6months, by then she will know the man's mind, withing that six month they will fix white wedding, court wedding and other things that complete marriage

NdubisiCharles:
Good day pals, I have a sister whose husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now,
with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl.
She single handedly took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening.

Yesterday, I received a call from my young sis, saying that her forgotten husband just called and was pleading for her return, that what will she do, that she needs my advice as senior, for me not to fall into conclusion I gave her 48 hours to reply to her, .....

Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids, that he paid my sis bride price, he has visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke, "that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis, and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when asked my sis she confirmed it.

Please friends advice me on what to do

If what you said was true, then it was your sister that wronged the man by spreading a false narrative against him in other to justify her leaving him because he was broke.
You have should be given commendation for finding out the true story and getting the clear picture of things.
Now you know the clear story, let wisdom, justice and equity guide you.

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NdubisiCharles:
Good day pals, I have a sister whose husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now,
with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl.
She single handedly took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening.

Yesterday, I received a call from my young sis, saying that her forgotten husband just called and was pleading for her return, that what will she do, that she needs my advice as senior, for me not to fall into conclusion I gave her 48 hours to reply to her, .....

Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids, that he paid my sis bride price, he has visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke, "that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis, and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when asked my sis she confirmed it.

Please friends advice me on what to do

Let him be providing for the children from afar.

vincenteger:
Your sister was the one who left in the first place on the basis that there was hunger in the house.
When she came back from her husband's house, what excuse did she give?
Did you guys call her husband to confirm her story?
Did her husband made any effort then to bring them back?

If you sister is not going back to him for reasons of hunger since 8yrs, then I think she's not telling the truth of why she left in the first place perhaps if she's not going back to the husband she should send the children to him; he didn't send her parking neither was the bride price returned.

it baffles me so much, if you can take care of your 2kid's as a woman u can still take care of the man too for the main time, my mom was the bread winner of the family for over 4 years before my father bounce back, the down fall of a man is not the end of his life

Namaster:
Your sister acted like a fool for breaking up her home because of momentary poverty. She deprived the kids of their father's presence.

If she could train them herself while away from her husband. She could have trained them WITH the husband in the picture.

That said, the man is equally MAD for abandoning his kids for 8 years. Especially, given the fact that one of them was a newly born infant.

He's massively delusional for asking them to return to him. He knew your family house and never bothered to check on his kids for almost a DECADE.

He's insane.

Tell your sister to NOT return to him. The trust in their marriage is dead. Your sister acted like a gold digger who jumped ship when she realized there was no gold. The husband demonstrated his irresponsibility by failing to connect with his kids in 8 years.

Now that he's conquered poverty, he can support his kids with money. Pay for their upkeeps, medical and other bills.

He'll only pay for his KIDS. NOT your sister.

Then, he can spend time (maybe holidays and weekends) with his kids. But as for the marriage, it's dead.

Advise your sister in this way.

Did you also not read where it was stated and confirmed that the man went to his wife's family for reconciliation but she insisted on not returning to the man because there is hunger in his house. Read to understand even if it takes more than one or two attempts.

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NOC1:


Nnewi against the non-Nnewi, your sister should be careful, if you people are nwa dianni no problem.

But your sister looks like the case here, she confirmed that the man was cool only problem was the lack of money.
Probably the man is financially okay now and needs his family back, an average Nnewi man does not allow his kids to be raised outside.

I like Nnewi people be that😀

NdubisiCharles:

Am afraid if is he for real or did he have any evil thing on mind, u know all this nnewi, Anambra men

I'm a Yoruba man working with a top shot from Nnewi makes me realized that that an Nnewi man never jokes with his immediate family especially if his extended family is involved..yes , they can be egotistical, put their hands in anything as long as it pays their bills but they always put family first...nothing is wrong with an Nnewi man from Anambra

Mhizzard:
In one word your sis is a gold digger.she can't be a supportive wife to the man.before she married him she didn't know that he is not quite doing well??it left for your sis to decide what she will do.

is the man we should be should be talking to. He should forget your sister. Sue her in court for shared custody.. a woman that can't build with u would definitely kill u.

NdubisiCharles:

Am afraid if is he for real or did he have any evil thing on mind, u know all this nnewi, Anambra men

Madness dey ur oblongata, wetin Nnewi do u

NNEWI MEN ?. @Ndubisicharles, since it was ur sister that carried her 🎒 🛄 🧳 and 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♀️ away from the husband house due to 💰/financial condition..Let him go and sign undertaking @ nearest Police station.FEAR NOT

Mhizzard:
In one word your sis is a gold digger.she can't be a supportive wife to the man.before she married him she didn't know that he is not quite doing well??it left for your sis to decide what she will do.

Good answer

PLEASE I NEED MORE ADVICE ON THIS ISSUE I AM NOW LIKE THE MADIATOR HERE I DON'T WANT TO BE ESCAPE GOAT HERE OR SHOULD I SAY ON MY OWN

Absuchat:

What is wrong with Nnewi men?

When you hear "I paid bride price..."
If you know, you know.

Joy002:
■ Am a woman too, I know what I pass through, I'm my own time, but God take control of everything, I want ask the man, if the woman sold the children nko, or those children died of hunger nko, why is he coming back, is it for the children or for the family, he should be investigate properly, let the woman go back to man and stay with him at least 6months, by then she will know the man's mind, withing that six month they will fix white wedding, court wedding and other things that complete marriage

Op tell you say the man na rich man?

With the reasons provided, she better stay in her own if she's living a comfortable life.

A man abandoned by his wife and kids because he was broke won't call them back because he's now rich 8 years later. He would rather look for a youngling or slayqueen to live out his fantasies.

He's not rich, he's simply looking for a support mechanism and he will parasitize her once again.