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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by frog12: 9:03pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
this is a very DIFFICULT problem. you have to find out exactly why she left. Try to know the exact story! the fact that the man did not call to know how is children are doing all these years is a very big problem. did he even try to reconcile when she left and what did your family do all these years with him? did you try to reconcile them? |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Ndidi2: 9:04pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:The issues is not domestic violence naw. I believe if you truly love someone you stand by them in trying time not quitting like a weakling 1 Like |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by candygist: 9:05pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
NdubisiCharles: Are you not a guy man, can't you check the guy on behalf of your sister as a senior brother ?That's why it's good to have money as a man. Make nobody come dey suffer my sister God abeg o. |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Ndidi2: 9:09pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
3ice9ce:o obele ezi? |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Kobojunkie: 9:12pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Ndidi2:Define love? We all use that word as though it has the same exact meaning across the board when it never has. And why do we use love as a reason to shun commonsense? Look at Osinachi's case for instance. Did love keep her from being used as a punching bag in marriage? Did love keep starvation from ravaging OP'S sister and her children in the marriage? The love keep the man from eventually abandoning her and her kids for 8 solid years? Does love even have a real value if it one-sided? 1 Like |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Ndidi2: 9:16pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Midastorch:God bless you jare We are d best in Anambra Not bragging. The wife is a weakling.. 1 Like |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by ExudeLoveToAll: 9:18pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Beremx: Why don't you read and comprehend before allowing your fingers to type? |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Ndidi2: 9:19pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:The issue in question is not domestic violence d woman chicken out bc he is broke. 1 Like |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by galantjoe(m): 9:20pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Ask your brother in-laws if he has gotten enough wealth that can sustain him and your sister should your sister decides to come back. If yes. Let him give one evidence to showcase his claim. If the evidence is okay, let your sister go back to him. But if he hasn't gotten adequate wealth, your sister will stay put, let him keep acquiring it is enough. |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Kobojunkie: 9:21pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Ndidi2:I don't understand. Is domestic violence the only reason that exists out there for why a woman would want to leave a marriage or something? When you were dating... assuming you did... did you only leave a relationship only in the case of violence? 2. Wow.. so leaving a marriage when there is no money to sustain it means one is chicken? Yikes! 1 Like |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by frozen70(f): 9:27pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
NdubisiCharles: That man never shown any sign of seriousness for the fact that up till now he can't fix up himself He is expected to sound calmly because he is looking for a way to come back since he is not different from a wonderer Now he said he never chased his wife out, that she is the one that packed out Ok it that's the case, what efforts did he make to bring them back Maybe nothing, then he relax and enjoyed his freedom and hope to start another half marriage life with another unlucky woman Ok, at the end, he just woke up one morning and realize that he has been lost and wants to find his root that's why he is seeking to come back as a *chaff not a wheat* Your sister must have given heart out to another person but keeps the relationship coded Will he be able to be the slave of the house while your sister remains loyal to that person that kept her going all these while she was in trauma Will your sister shelter him and feed him?, of course he will pretend he is looking for a job, but so far your sister can afford to feed the family, pay rent and school fees, what makes you think the man will ever hustle He will say to himself that, there is no need for him to stress himself since she is capable Is he coming back to her to monitor her life and eves drop on all her calls to know when she is speaking with other people who stood by her during those past difficult times, there by suspecting all her movements and calls Is he now coming back as a liability or as a father, who the children already knew that he abandoned them and has no impact in their lives and was never there for them Or he thinks the children doesn't understands because they are kids Then tomorrow, when the children remains loyal to their mother, he will twart it by saying that, their mother taught them to disrespect him I think that man should fix himself up, Pay there school fees upfront for a whole session Get accommodation for them and come back properly for them to reunite with him Alternatively, if she wants to accept him back and continue carrying her cross *Na she Sabi* |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by GoodRocks: 9:33pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Beremx: You must be a 🤡 Keep hating on men until menopause catches up with you. I hope you don't have a guy servicing your kpekpus? |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Ndidi2: 9:36pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:when you are having headache do you cut your head off? Are you kidding me here? don't leave your spouse bc he is broke Biko. |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Kobojunkie: 9:38pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Ndidi2:That is a silly question to ask. 2. What law says you can't do that though? Who says you should not or can't do just that? So you would rather women tie themselves down to deadbeats in marriage? |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Curiouscity(m): 9:42pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Ndidi2: I guess you are just encountering the moniker (Kobojunkie) for the 1st time here. My advice is, leave our Kobojunkie to do his/her spin. Come back tomorrow with this exact story, s/he will give an opposite spin. 1 Like |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Ndidi2: 9:43pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:it silly for u to insist a woman should leave her marriage bc the husband is temporary broke O daro Done.. Everyone does what is best for them. I can't leave my husband bc he is broke We de grindam together SHIKENA |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Ndidi2: 9:45pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Curiouscity:my dear l am aware of his.......... Thank you. |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Kobojunkie: 9:48pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Ndidi2:"Temporary broke" for 8 solid years? He literally shunned the welfare of his children for 8 solid years and you call that being Temporarily broke? Wow! 1 Like |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by number2016(m): 9:51pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
She should go back to her husband and put everything in God's hand |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by jubrilELsudan: 9:53pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
YOUR SISTER IS VERY STUPID
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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Justkatty(f): 9:59pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
I don't think you know the real reason (s) why she left him. You people should better don't force her Allow her to make her decision. If truly he cared about his kids, there's no way he wouldn't have looked for them all these years. 1 Like |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Lee99: 10:58pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Beremx:Stop talking like a fool, did you not read the write up where the man said it was the sister who abandoned him because he didn't have money? And when Op said he asked the sister and she confirmed it was true, this is a public forum it's not a place for you to show your stvpidity |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by MrSly(m): 11:07pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Zooposki:Then never get married so that you won't be tools. I dont know why some deprived women have wierd mentality. |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Kobojunkie: 11:17pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
number2016:Because na God go come down feed, clothe and pay school fees, hospital bills, and house rent for she and her kid, right? |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by ahnie: 11:23pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
iwe di oku Beremx: |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by sandygechy(f): 1:21am On Nov 15, 2023 |
I’m Igbo too and a man does not own a woman because he paid bride price.Bride price is paid as a traditional rite and does not mean u own the woman. The so called bride price can be returned in event of divorce and underage children stay with their mother until they come of age.The man does not own the children alone either. Chigozie321: 1 Like |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by ahnie: 1:24am On Nov 15, 2023 |
Most delta state culture too are woven like yours ....but I kinda love the Igbo culture on some marital stands. sandygechy: 1 Like |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by sandygechy(f): 1:26am On Nov 15, 2023 |
I’m Igbo too and a man does not own a woman because he paid bride price.Bride price is paid as a traditional rite and does not mean u own the woman. The so called bride price can be returned in event of divorce and underage children stay with their mother until they come of age.The man does not own the children alone either. frndfghtr: |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Gajagojo: 1:55am On Nov 15, 2023 |
frndfghtr: What does owner of kids mean practically How does one own a grown up child that has become an adult What does this ownership look like? When the child starts working he will give his father his salary or what? What is the benefit of owning a child |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Gajagojo: 2:00am On Nov 15, 2023 |
Carcholce: Sorry if you read clearly you would have seen OBVIOUS CONTRADICTION in the story He claimed the man abandoned sister after daughter born and then said the opposite |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Tzar(m): 2:49am On Nov 15, 2023 |
For the sake of the kids, she needs to go back to her husband. As long as he is making sincere efforts to provide for the family, and he doesn’t abuse her or the kids. Statistically, single mothers don’t raise kids well. |
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by eepeepook: 3:04am On Nov 15, 2023 |
The thing that chased her away the first time will surely chase her away again. Give her your blessings to remain single since she’s doing well without the man. When the children grow up, they’ll look for their father. |
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