Gajagojo:


What does owner of kids mean practically

How does one own a grown up child that has become an adult

What does this ownership look like?
When the child starts working he will give his father his salary or what?

What is the benefit of owning a child

Odin13:


Nnewi men are nevee know for rituals or quick money..
Any one can verify this statement..

Talk more of using ones blood..

Nemesis0147:
go back and read the post again..
This time,,slowly.

Gajagojo:


Sorry if you read clearly you would have seen OBVIOUS CONTRADICTION in the story

He claimed the man abandoned sister after daughter born and then said the opposite

Carcholce:


No the contradiction in the story is that the OPs sister left her marriage and the OP and her family did not bother to know the real reason why She left. Some men are very cultured to the point that when a woman leaves her matrimonial home with her bag. The men would not move an inch trying to beg her to return because it is abominable for a woman to leave her marriage without any serious issues.


OP got to know why her sister left because her sister involved him by asking for his opinion. And the OP (I think for the first time) got in touch with the said man to find out from him. The OP even had to confirm the man’s account from his sister and his sister confirmed them to be true.

NdubisiCharles:
Good day pals, I have a sister whose husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now,
with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl.
She single handedly took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening.
, .....

Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids, that he paid my sis bride price,

sandygechy:
I’m as surprised as u are! A man goes to another family and MARRIES a woman and pays a token as part of the traditional rites and it now translates to OWNING her!
The token paid as bride price is not even up to the amount spent on feeding the woman for a month!!!
U can imagine how delusional and stupid some men are…

NdubisiCharles:
Good day pals, I have a sister whose husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now,
with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl.
She single handedly took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening.

Yesterday, I received a call from my young sis, saying that her forgotten husband just called and was pleading for her return, that what will she do, that she needs my advice as senior, for me not to fall into conclusion I gave her 48 hours to reply to her, .....

Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids, that he paid my sis bride price, he has visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke, "that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis, and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when asked my sis she confirmed it.

Please friends advice me on what to do

Gajagojo:


He said it is Igbo culture and custom

sandygechy:
And u believe it
It’s a big lie cos I’m Igbo too.
Nowhere in the world does any human OWN another human!
Women are not commodities that are owned.Bride price is a traditional rite.

mrmachine:
Let her go back. That's her husband. Don't let her deceive herself thinking she would just see another man that would just come from the moon to come and marry after 2. It's rare o. And those children still need fathe figure.

Gajagojo:

I believe it based on my interaction with them
That is how they reason.
Women cannot inherit land in their tradition and are generally blocked from inheriting from their father's property

Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

sandygechy:
We are talking about a man OWNING a woman! This is not a land matter.Don’t digress…

NdubisiCharles:

Am afraid if is he for real or did he have any evil thing on mind, u know all this nnewi, Anambra men

Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

frndfghtr:

Am a nnewi man, we love our families, you are a liar
My advice to you is to hurry and beg the man, even if it last for thirty years, you just help the man to train his children, am a igbo man, once bride price is been paid, in our custom, the the man is the owner of your sis and the kids

Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

Gajagojo:


You need to open a dictionary
I am not digressing just providing collateral evidence and cultural background about the status of Igbo women in their culture to emphasise the point that Igbo women have minimal rights and no say in governance which is corroboration to the idea that they are chattels.
The person who made that claim is according to him,from Nnewi. He would know Igbo culture well and I believe him
An Igbo woman has no inheritance rights in her Umunna and is an acquisition of her husband s umunna.

Maobichek:


"Owner," such word is derogatory. The man is not the owner of his sister; use more appropriate word, thank you.

frndfghtr:

Am a nnewi man, we love our families, you are a liar
My advice to you is to hurry and beg the man, even if it last for thirty years, you just help the man to train his children, am a igbo man, once bride price is been paid, in our custom, the the man is the owner of your sis and the kids

Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

Rushna27:
If its true that it was the woman who left,and now the man is begging, I think it's better to reconsider cos the truth is mistakes can be amended.If the marriage wasn't life threatening before she can still give it a try but this time with both eyes opened ...Wishing her well

Maobichek:


Good morning dear, you got it wrong ok, the sis confirmed that the man is not a womanizer, doesn't cheat, doesn't lay his hand on her; she packed her things and left because the man was poor.

sandygechy:
U seriously pray and wish a man owns a woman he married because he paid stipend as bride price!
Chaiii……i know it’s heartbreaking and a deep pain to ur entire body to hear that it’s not true!!!
I understand ur frustrations and the pressure u are applying on the matter.Did u notice how stupid u sound
U really think so highly of yourself.
Empty vessel!!!
Your mates are busy with their lives endeavor and u are here displaying your stupidity.
U mentioned that women have no say in governance in Igboland. So Stella Oduah,Uche Ekwunife,Joy Emodi and even the first female Governor in Nigeria; Dame Virgy Etiaba are all Yoruba women abi? Your brain is leaking obviously.
U need the dictionary more cos u are DAFT!
Bleep off my mentions!!!

Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

Ndidi2:
comot there
Them use you?