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I will try and make this story short and I need your advice please...


I lost my dad March this year... His death was not natural but I won't bore you with details.

We did the burial rights and I move back to school.before I left, I noticed my brother who is 14yrs have this spiritual paranoia...he suspect many who came for condolences as if they were coming to attack...

I calm him down during those period and let him know that nothing is after him or us.

I left, only for my mum to call me that something is not right with my bro... He talks to himself, seems lost sometimes and have little to no regards for anyone.

They have taken him to many spiritual house and they still point to the person responsible for my dad's death- a neighbor.

This boy hates mum for no reason and often said she is not her mother.he sometimes threatened to kidnapped his immediate Younger brother or slap his elder sister.

He becomes aggressive and most painful part of it all right now is that he steal.

Meat, money.he just develop the habit of stealing. I have not visited home since I left but I need your advice. As the first born, I need to take some drastic step.

How do I handle thia?spiritual, psychological and any way possible to retrieve my Lovely lad, such advice is most welcome.

Thanks...

He becomes aggressive and most painful part of it all right now is that he steal.

is your brother Erekere?

Amotolongbo:
is your brother Erekere?

what is that please?

Adasun:
what is that please?

Okeremesese earpiece meje leti kan

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They have taken him to many spiritual house and they still point to the person responsible for my dad's death- a neighbor.

Your brother is suffering from mental health illness, not spiritual.
if it was in the UK, your brother would be in the mental health hospital

Adasun:
what is that please?

What was his relationship with his/your dad like before his death?

There is need for him to be urgently seen by a Psychiatrist whose specialty is in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (though they are few in Nigeria).

I know families are more reluctant in bringing their young ones to a Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Clinic but the earlier, the better.

I know what the diagnosis will be, based on what you have shared, so there is urgent need for a diagnosis so treatment can start immediately.

First does he smokes, goes out and come back late, or is he chasing women?

Whenever you go home, buy like 6 canes. Tie him to a pole or something and pieces the canes on his body. He would change for the
Best.

What was his behavior like before your father's death? It's possible that the death is affecting him; hence his strange behavior.

Kill him b4 he kills ur mum ND junior ones...

Adasun:
I will try and make this story short and I need your advice please... I lost my dad March this year... His death was not natural but I won't bore you with details. We did the burial rights and I move back to school. before I left, I noticed my brother who is 14yrs have this spiritual paranoia...he suspect many who came for condolences as if they were coming to attack... I calm him down during those period and let him know that nothing is after him or us. I left, only for my mum to call me that something is not right with my bro... He talks to himself, seems lost sometimes, and has little to no regards for anyone. They have taken him to many spiritual house and they still point to the person responsible for my dad's death- a neighbor. This boy hates mum for no reason and often said she is not her mother.he sometimes threatened to kidnapped his immediate Younger brother or slap his elder sister. He becomes aggressive and most painful part of it all right now is that he steal. Meat, money.he just develop the habit of stealing. I have not visited home since I left but I need your advice. As the first born, I need to take some drastic step. How do I handle thia?spiritual, psychological and any way possible to retrieve my Lovely lad, such advice is most welcome. Thanks...

Please find the nearest professional mental health hospital and make sure your brother gets assessed there by a professional abeg!

You bro is surely taking drugs and the only way he can sustain the habit is to steal so he can have the money to buy more drugs

Kobojunkie:
Please find the nearest professional mental health hospital and make sure your brother gets assessed there by a professional abeg!

Kobojunkie!

henrimoto:
Kobojunkie!

No be me cause am make the boy get mental problems abeg!

Take him to a psychiatric hospital.

Classic case of schizophrenia,take him to a psychiatrist asap.
The death of ur father might have triggered it

It is quite unfortunate. However, having him checked by a Psychiatrist is the way to go.

2goodbobo:
You bro is surely taking drugs and the only way he can sustain the habit is to steal so he can have the money to buy more drugs

at 14?

Amotolongbo:
Okeremesese earpiece meje leti kan

I am not yoruba ma... type in English please

Amotolongbo:
Your brother is suffering from mental health, not spiritual.
if it was in the UK, your brother would be in the mental health hospital

but we are not in UK...


How do I go about this please

SIXTEENTH:
First does he smokes, goes out and come back late, or is he chasing women?

no, for a 14year old?

Gbadugbakun:
Whenever you go home, buy like 6 canes. Tie him to a pole or something and pieces the canes on his body. He would change for the
Best.

for real? Or u just playing around?

We4all:
What was his behavior like before your father's death? It's possible that the death is affecting him; hence his strange behavior.

he was a normal child, nothing...all this started all of a sudden

2goodbobo:
You bro is surely taking drugs and the only way he can sustain the habit is to steal so he can have the money to buy more drugs

that may not look possible,but I will look into that aspect when I get home

Adasun:
no, for a 14year old?

Why I asked such questions is because once a boy is approaching puberty age he turns out to be rude whenever he's been scolded of his sudden behavior but for now just maintain silence rill you return home maybe him seeing your present could lead him to be calmed or change

SIXTEENTH:
Why I asked such questions is because once a boy is approaching puberty age he turns out to be rude whenever he's been scolded of his sudden behavior but for now just maintain silence rill you return home maybe him seeing your present could lead him to be calmed or change

you are right, I believe seeing my manly presence could help him too... except it is spiritual

Adasun:
you are right, I believe seeing my manly presence could help him too... except it is spiritual

It's not clinically spiritual for now until proven so, sometimes our younger male one's tend to derived the habits of thinking "they now arrived and can do nasty things unchallenged" because no one to challenge him about his attitude, this are reasons why fatherly roles is relevant training and cautioning a male child once he's approaching the puberty status but unfortunately and sad to say your Dad is late before his time but for now try and reached out to him then leave the rest till you're home before you can confirm your instincts and from there you can decide what's next actions to take.
Wish you well

Bro, it's a spiritual case, don't mind those people saying mental or whatever, they know nothing about the inner life.
Same thing happened to my younger bro, my mum tackled it spiritually and it was resolved, evil people use that habit to torment a glorious child, so I'll advise you to go the spiritual way before it turns to something else.
Peace

Samuelojonla123:
Bro, it's a spiritual case, don't mind those people saying mental or whatever, they know nothing about the inner life.
Same thing happened to my younger bro, my mum tackled it spiritually and it was resolved, evil people use that habit to torment a glorious child, so I'll advise you to go the spiritual way before it turns to something else. Peace

Where is your younger brother today? How old was he when the same thing supposedly happened to him? And how old is he now? Is he still a child or is he a grown man now?

Samuelojonla123:
Bro, it's a spiritual case, don't mind those people saying mental or whatever, they know nothing about the inner life.
Same thing happened to my younger bro, my mum tackled it spiritually and it was resolved, evil people use that habit to torment a glorious child, so I'll advise you to go the spiritual way before it turns to something else.
Peace

I have that in mind bro, couple with other attacks the family face...



Bro I need guidance on where to go...