I thought as much coming from someone like you.

Namaster:


Marriage is for suckers.

For a marriage to be successful both parties needs to align as one only then will things move smoothly.

The sister in-law of this said oga contributed to this problems this couples are currently dealing with.

EEIA:

I am thinking of only having a baby mama..
Marriage now na like to go pay for problem come put am for house.



As for me, marriage no be by force oh!

You do anyhow, you leave. You cannot be the reason why I will not have peace.
After all we are supposed to avoid toxic people and places to be at peace with ourselves and the environment.

Why do these entitled gender of this generation feel that all power lies in their tears and in between their legs?

This question you asked @bolded is a $1b question.
From my little experience...
*Most of these unadventurous, unexposed, SU ladies naturally believe they're doing you a huge favor marrying you!
*Being a Nice/weak guy actually reinforce my first point - Since you aren't taking charge, they feel short-changed for stooping low to your level - the female subconscious mind is programmed to only dominate babies and kid-siblings; Unfortunately, weak/nice men fit in a the same bracket!
*Coincidentally, these Naive ladies seeking advice from their exposed friends is just the last straw... they tend to take whatever advice, no matter how inimical to their own well-being/marriage, from such friends as the gospel of truth to be followed to the last letter!

Biisola:
For a marriage to be successful both parties needs to align as one only then will things move smoothly.

The sister in-law of this said oga contributed to this problems this couples are currently dealing with.

You are omitting the real problem. If the sister in law contributed to the problems, who gave the sister in law the leeway?

Carcholce:


You are omitting the real problem. If the sister in law contributed to the problems, who gave the sister in law the leeway?

The OP n his wife.

@OP does your sister in-law son look like his dad or mom?

My sister's son and my son have a striking resemblance if not for d age difference you did mistake them to be twins. These two kid are a complete carbon copy of my dad their (grandad) even in character and behavior.

Please check where d resemblance is coming before you start creating enemies here and there.

MumEmdy:
@OP does your sister in-law son look like his dad or mom?

My sister's son and my son have a striking resemblance if not for d age difference you did mistake them to be twins. These two kid are a complete carbon copy of my dad their (grandad) even in character and behavior.

Please check where d resemblance is coming before you start creating enemies here and there.

OP said his last child looks like his sister in law's husband

Oga,forget that cheating thought.You cheated and now suspecting your last child looks like his cousin because you think your wife was doing the same thing you werr doing.
My 1st son and my sis 2nd son could pass for twins。
Same age,same names,same face.
It is blood .
HOW WAS I EVEN ABLE TO RRAD THIS EPISTLE

Op your writeup too long, gave up at some point

Carcholce:


You are omitting the real problem. If the sister in law contributed to the problems, who gave the sister in law the leeway?

THE OP BECAUSR HOW DOES SHE KEEP RRAPPEARING AS THEIR ADVISOR.

Op, what kind of business are you into.

Go for DNA test

Omo .

Carcholce:


Let me summarize it:

OP married his long time girlfriend and taught her how to fish, She started fishing and started being disrespectful and not submissive. The thing vex OP. OP that was once a church boy was forced to start doing hookup and bending doggy inside his car. The wife noticed but She nor send OP. After OP have had his fill of hookup, he came to his senses and gave his life to Christ. It was after his eyes has cleared that he realized his last born resembles his sisters in law last born.

Did the OPs wife mistakenly fell on her sisters bed and rode her brother in law till he came inside her? OP is confused. So am I.

The question OP is asking now is “Who get the pikin”

But sincerely I no too do hookup oo, haba. Had normal girls and hookup was 10% and mostly at earlier stages when I never blend.

Well sha for about 6months I've stopped all that. Thanks to God

Wahala too much like diz.

Just confusing

Beat round the whole bush and ending up with Paternity question

Go do a DNA test when you are ready to accept the results

EEIA:

You wife na entitled Ashawo oooooooooh!

Wururururururururuuuuuu



Kick her out.

And you had to quote the entire post, guy u deserve to be sent to sambisa

Namaster:
You made so many mistakes in your relationship.

First of all, VIOLENTLY delete the "I don't believe in divorce" mentality. It's nonsense. It's why both men and women suffer terrible things in marriage.

Back to your wife:

You married a DEMON. While virginity is VERY important in choosing a wife, it should be taken as ONE part of the vetting process.

For instance, you claim she's a HOTTER Christian than you but she keeps malice for extended periods of time.

Also, the fact that she made a lot of money but REFUSED to contribute towards family expenses is pure wickedness.

"You married me" is an excuse so lame that you should have called it quit in that moment.

It's one thing to marry a liability or a trophy wife, it's another thing to marry a woman who has a THRIVING business raking in a boat load of cash and still REFUSING to contribute to household expenses.

The former is on you. The latter is the stuff of devils and demons.

One other thing:

No married man should ever "allow peace to reign. Not if he wants to remain happily married, anyway.

Women are full of sh1t. They will manipulate, cajole and threaten and weep and wail. They do these to test your boundaries.

If you want to continue to "allow peace to reign", you will need to keep shifting your boundaries until they are completely ERODED.

You don't want to see what women are like without boundaries. They make demons look like cute, little cherubs.

Finally, on INFIDELITY.

YOURS:

You are a TERRIBLE person for fucking around while still married. You are a CHEAT that acted irresponsibly.

The fact that you are worried that your wife might have fuc.ked your brother-in-law and is having you raise a bastard makes you a hypocrite.

You f.ucked around while married and you expected a loyal partner. Joker!

Divorce before you start hoeing around. That way, you can f.uck around with a clean conscience. Also, why are you surprised that your wife is hurt by your infidelity?

YOUR WIFE'S INFIDELITY:

Obviously, she's bleeped someone else. Most likely, she's f.ucked the person you suspect her of f.ucking.

You wrote that she's been taking advice from her sister. So, she's probably been visiting her as well. That means she's had ample opportunities to take pieces of advice with a side of DICK on multiple occasions.

WHAT YOU NEED TO DO:

1. Do a DNA test for ALL your kids.

Even the ones that look like you. Do it for ALL of them.

2. END the marriage.

Regardless of the outcome of the DNA test, you must divorce your wife. First, she has no respect for you despite setting up a business for her and even managing it. She makes decisions that would IMPACT both of your lives based on advice from a THIRD PARTY rather talking it out with you. Plus, she's verbally abusive.

Also, you are BOTH terrible people who pretend to be good christians. You are a slow-burning ass.hole while your wife is an incendiary.

3. Do a comprehensive STD test.
Needs no explanation.

Ok sir/ma

But did you read where I said she verbally pushed into that life? Literally saying she wouldn't care if I got someone else! With the less than a man talk down. Me being a Christian I do know faithfulness isn't promised outside Christ because at that time I wasn't even identifying with being Christian as am no hypocrite.

Dogalmighty17:
Technically, you don't have a wife. What you have at home is a bi(t)ch. You are also a fool! What are you confessing to your wife for? You want her to poison you? Oga this cheating thing plenty men dey run am. If everybody start to confess like this no be burn dis country go burn down?

Forget about your wife o! Those her tears are a trap. That woman will deal with you badly. I hope your stupid love didn't allow you put her names on the documents of the house? It is time you start keeping money aside for yourself. You will need it.

Why does your wifes sister seem to have so much say in your home? Can't you see that they have put you in the middle and playing kalu-kalu on your head? And in all you said I'm shocked your mother is still alive and watching all this nonsense unfold.

Your epistle is painful to read. And inside hangover wey I dey manage I still read all of am. The only thing that will reset your wifes brain is when she knows you have fallen in love with another woman. So go out there and look for that woman. You owe your wife nothing so long as she keeps serving you disrespect.

And about your child that you doubt the paternity of, what is the use of your money if by now you haven't done a DNA test? Be there whining like an efulefu. No just allow me insult you this morning o.

The money isn't as much there again. But just enough to get by. Her sister's influence was as a result of her insubmissive nature because I was always telling her what was right.

I'd say she is currently more well behaved but this is after we have lost so much because even when I beckoned on her to have us run a business to get right back up she said I wanted to use her head and that was over a year ago. Only managing to get by in meeting up with expenses. I can only say I have some properties, landed and and few things to my name now

Chairman, please do dna in both of your child.

MumEmdy:
@OP does your sister in-law son look like his dad or mom?

My sister's son and my son have a striking resemblance if not for d age difference you did mistake them to be twins. These two kid are a complete carbon copy of my dad their (grandad) even in character and behavior.

Please check where d resemblance is coming before you start creating enemies here and there.

For me to have pitched somewhere, it means I've done that. That child is very well said to look like her dad and I know she doesn't resemble her mum. They even say it that she looks like her dad's mum. How my own child take go jump within close range like that nai I wan know.

WilsonBright935:


OP said his last child looks like his sister in law's husband

Read again, he said his second son look like his inlaw's last son. The two kids are cousin!!

Ulunne777:
Oga,forget that cheating thought.You cheated and now suspecting your last child looks like his cousin because you think your wife was doing the same thing you werr doing.
My 1st son and my sis 2nd son could pass for twins。
Same age,same names,same face.
It is blood .
HOW WAS I EVEN ABLE TO RRAD THIS EPISTLE

Why D child no pick from my mother in-law like her sister's son looks and why from her husband's side? Na so he hard to read and understand?

Whatever anyone says doesn't matter, because I am not of the opinion that when one goes through toxic affairs you remain sane, something your partner caused with all literal manners, except God helps. Let's be realistic.

Then didn't you read the part I talked about the child's conception which was when I was still faithful and well behaved. Who knows if it was part of the reasons she pushed me out

You couldn’t tame her and you’re collecting wotowoto

It’s good you tame your woman so she knows the importance of authority, it’ll put her in her place

Religion makes people extreme Hippocratic, I’ll beat my chest and tell you she fvcked him, if it smells like sh!t then it definitely sh!t

Bad women disgust me really bad, really really bad.

Ulunne777:



THE OP BECAUSR HOW DOES SHE KEEP RRAPPEARING AS THEIR ADVISOR.

Woman you're being silly and unnecessarily supportive of your gender. Did you for once get where I personally approved of my sis inlaw as advisor?

That she advised during investment doesn't count because I am thoughtful and knew when I was getting good advice. I'm not silly to hate on someone because I just don't wanna hear from them when it's a good advice given that these people were living in their own houses in said area.

U have the money,do a DNA

MumEmdy:


Read again, he said his second son look like his inlaw's last son. The two kids are cousin!!

And the cousins look like their father... OP's sister in law's husband 🙄🙄🙄

"I was so far gone playing churchy All these years I never knew the age had turned around and ladies were now so much for sale"

Eeya. This Bros is a nice guy.

Now I understand why some Men treat their wives like animals. Cos that's exactly what they are. Animal's. The only Way to control a woman is by being cruel to them. If not they will take you for granted.
But don't start by being wicked, at first play Mr Nice guy like this Op. Then after you must have gained control over her, financially, mentally, spiritually and sexually, you change to your true color. Just turn cold and heartless towards her and make her Life miserable.

That's the mistake op made, he's too nice, showering the lady with endless Love and affection. They will manipulate you if you do these and turn you to a weakling. And their most deadly weapon is to control you through sex.

But Op did one thing that gave me Joy, that's when he started having extramarital affairs outside. Women have their ways of bringing out the beast in you, and when they do, make their Life miserable. Don't ever say "Sorry" to a woman even if you're at fault, you can just buy her a gift to show remorse. That's all.

A simple thing in some many words.....
Since you have confessed your inadequacies to her, tell her to do same so you can start afresh.

You have money. Run a DNA test

deewhydoski:
@Unproudlife., the post is too lengthy try to summarize it. I read it to a certain point and I stopped. Nobody get that previous time to be reading long story. No offense pls

Modified
Well as a husband you tried you best in teaching your wife how to fish rather than giving her fish....You know when some women start getting small money it enter into their head...
The day she told you that she regretted marrying you, you should have stood your ground that if she is tired of the marriage that she should end it rather than disrespecting you.

Another thing is that, you are just endangering your life with sleeping with numerous women, if you haven't caught your wife cheating on you, you don't have the moral right of cheating on her. There are many ways in which you can discipline your wife if she disrespect you, cheating is not one of it. Put her in your shoes, if she is d one cheating on you how will you feel.

On the paternity of your last born, do DNA test on all your children. If the paternity test prove that you are not the father of one of your children...Pls divorce her because that's the only ground I can say both of you can go on your separate ways for now. But if not try to work things out with your wife and let her know that if she disrespect you again you will not take things slightly with her.

In conclusion both of you need to see a marriage counselor you both need it

You didn't have the time to finish his write up, but you had time to write 5 paragraphs for him??
Nawaoo

Your sister in law is a bad influence on your wife and unfortunately you allowed it. At this point, you need to cordon her involvement in your home as fast as you can

liveyourlife007:
"I was so far gone playing churchy All these years I never knew the age had turned around and ladies were now so much for sale"

Eeya. This Bros is a nice guy.

Now I understand why some Men treat their wives like animals. Cos that's exactly what they are. Animal's. The only Way to control a woman is by being cruel to them. If not they will take you for granted.
But don't start by being wicked, at first play Mr Nice guy like this Op. Then after you must have gained control over her, financially, mentally, spiritually and sexually, you change to your true color. Just turn cold and heartless towards her and make her Life miserable.

That's the mistake op made, he's too nice, showering the lady with endless Love and affection. They will manipulate you if you do these and turn you to a weakling. And their most deadly weapon is to control you through sex.

But Op did one thing that gave me Joy, that's when he started having extramarital affairs outside. Women have their ways of bringing out the beast in you, and when they do, make their Life miserable. Don't ever say "Sorry" to a woman even if you're at fault, you can just buy her a gift to show remorse. That's all.

Sicko. Don't start by being wicked indeed.