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Quitmast:
LOL…Make I use this medium, to ask for help. Guys, can you give me any tips, advice on how to quit masturbation?

OliverTwistJr:
Guys, please I need help, I don't know what to do right now

I'm a 300 level student in A federal university in Nigeria, I've never dated anyone before because I've been this guy that like book a lot

But during last semester, there is the babe near my house that has been showing interest in me, she do visit me a lot and spend the whole day with me, though I also have a crush on her but because she has a lot of guys with her, I did not bother with asking her out though she do use my things but I don't feel it at all because I have a business I'm running.

But early this week, she told me boldly that she has showed me every signs that she loves me for more than 5 months but I did not do anything. Then I told her that I noticed it but I can't do anything because she has a lot of guys already and I don't like girls like that. So the following day I asked her out but told her there is this particular guy that she is very close to, that I want her to choose among us. So she told me that he is just a friend.

For the past 3 days now, she has been lying to me and I know everything because my guys in her hostel do update me, even till this morning, the guy came to her house and slept overnight but she denied it. So I shocked her this morning and visit her and met the guy in her room only on briefs but she was accusing me and defending the guy in my presence.

After 30 minutes, she came to my place and started lying to me again that there is nothing, but I told her it is okay. But within me, I'm not feeling okay because this is the first time of loving a girl. She knew I am naive about anything relationship.

I will really appreciate advise because I've been simping too much. Within this months alone, I've given her more than 10k but she has never let me taste her food before.

Please I don't know what to do and how to handle her

Uptheante:
Thank God your eyes don open now.
That guy is definitely fuccking her, same as most of the other guys you see her with.
She's more experienced than you, so a relationship with her will only open more ways for her to use you & manipulate you. You are still too naive & inexperienced about the ways of women.
Your 10k that you wasted on her is gone with the winds, probably the guys fuccking her also enjoyed part of your 10k
It will shock you to realize that those guys fuccking her, most probably have never done anything remarkable for her.
You were probably brought up with the erroneous mentality that treating women nicely & doing them favours is the right way to get into their heart, but reality is opposite

As for being a hard guy, you don't need to go into fighting, violence, smoking, hard drugs, cultism, etc just to get back at such a lady or even other women & show them you are a bad guy. You will only be doing more harm to yourself.
If you are relating with a woman, be very selfish.
If there's anything you are giving her, you must also be benefiting something reasonable from her. If not, don't agree.
Also pursue your dreams & take good care of yourself, your parents & family.
Finally, ignore this girl completely & don't reply any of her messages or pick her calls

OliverTwistJr:
I'm sorry for the lengthy post but right now, I'm just shaking, I want to be a hard guy

OliverTwistJr:
I don't really agree with this because I don't know what to do, what I plan on doing is just to ignore her but I don't think that will be enough

DieRich5:
u just need to have sex more, I think most people do it cus dem rarely have sex and dem love sex too

Some boys I know will say this: I rather pay for sex than for me to do masturbation nd u will spend a lot on it I think dat mindset can reduce it a little bit

The more u see sexy girls the more u wanna do it nd picture dem, Even tho u have the mind to talk to her most of dem are doing hookup as side hustle

The way the country dy go so just focus on money and live the life u dream of nd secondly sex will never be Ur issue, fam

Its way easy for a guy who's doing okay to fvck many girls without spending on dem than a guy who don't have enough
Put Ur energy on something meaningful nd fvck for fun at the end, if u wanna be a player

But being a player ain't fun tho to me.......DR5 sign out

OliverTwistJr:
Guys, please I need help, I don't know what to do right now

I'm a 300 level student in A federal university in Nigeria, I've never dated anyone before because I've been this guy that like book a lot

But during last semester, there is the babe near my house that has been showing interest in me, she do visit me a lot and spend the whole day with me, though I also have a crush on her but because she has a lot of guys with her, I did not bother with asking her out though she do use my things but I don't feel it at all because I have a business I'm running.

But early this week, she told me boldly that she has showed me every signs that she loves me for more than 5 months but I did not do anything. Then I told her that I noticed it but I can't do anything because she has a lot of guys already and I don't like girls like that. So the following day I asked her out but told her there is this particular guy that she is very close to, that I want her to choose among us. So she told me that he is just a friend.

For the past 3 days now, she has been lying to me and I know everything because my guys in her hostel do update me, even till this morning, the guy came to her house and slept overnight but she denied it. So I shocked her this morning and visit her and met the guy in her room only on briefs but she was accusing me and defending the guy in my presence.

After 30 minutes, she came to my place and started lying to me again that there is nothing, but I told her it is okay. But within me, I'm not feeling okay because this is the first time of loving a girl. She knew I am naive about anything relationship.

I will really appreciate advise because I've been simping too much. Within this months alone, I've given her more than 10k but she has never let me taste her food before.

Please I don't know what to do and how to handle her

DieRich5:
u just need to have sex more, I think most people do it cus dem rarely have sex and dem love sex too

Some boys I know will say this: I rather pay for sex than for me to do masturbation nd u will spend a lot on it I think dat mindset can reduce it a little bit

The more u see sexy girls the more u wanna do it nd picture dem, Even tho u have the mind to talk to her most of dem are doing hookup as side hustle

The way the country dy go so just focus on money and live the life u dream of nd secondly sex will never be Ur issue, fam

Its way easy for a guy who's doing okay to fvck many girls without spending on dem than a guy who don't have enough
Put Ur energy on something meaningful nd fvck for fun at the end, if u wanna be a player

But being a player ain't fun tho to me.......DR5 sign out

PureFace1:
Look at the kind of advice being given to our men on Facebook, advice on how to live a very miserable and pathetic life for women that doesn't worth it.

Men must always be the one responsible and tolerating the excesses of women according to the bastard that post this nonsense online, he said if you can't it mean you are not ready for marriage as if marriage is heaven on earth.


https://www.facebook.com/100000561894805/posts/pfbid0A6kM6MVdmesYpVCGG4jNx8icKx5g1GjgrhgU5SibxztBkbNzvscDFnyV2GFhBP7Wl/?app=fbl

Smartb0y:
No matter how you advice a simp they'll still go back to their old ways like dogs to their vomits.

it's deeply ingrained in them to simp.

Simping is like breathing in air,they just can't help themselves.

The only way through for them is the hard way.

Only the actions of a woman can bring a simp back to reality.

Most importantly,try to understand the men around you.
Be weary of those that simp,they can be very dangerous.

OliverTwistJr:
Guys, please I need help, I don't know what to do right now

I'm a 300 level student in A federal university in Nigeria, I've never dated anyone before because I've been this guy that like book a lot

But during last semester, there is the babe near my house that has been showing interest in me, she do visit me a lot and spend the whole day with me, though I also have a crush on her but because she has a lot of guys with her, I did not bother with asking her out though she do use my things but I don't feel it at all because I have a business I'm running.

But early this week, she told me boldly that she has showed me every signs that she loves me for more than 5 months but I did not do anything. Then I told her that I noticed it but I can't do anything because she has a lot of guys already and I don't like girls like that. So the following day I asked her out but told her there is this particular guy that she is very close to, that I want her to choose among us. So she told me that he is just a friend.

For the past 3 days now, she has been lying to me and I know everything because my guys in her hostel do update me, even till this morning, the guy came to her house and slept overnight but she denied it. So I shocked her this morning and visit her and met the guy in her room only on briefs but she was accusing me and defending the guy in my presence.

After 30 minutes, she came to my place and started lying to me again that there is nothing, but I told her it is okay. But within me, I'm not feeling okay because this is the first time of loving a girl. She knew I am naive about anything relationship.

I will really appreciate advise because I've been simping too much. Within this months alone, I've given her more than 10k but she has never let me taste her food before.

Please I don't know what to do and how to handle her

Ethology is basically the psychology of animals.

Writing about animals gives me peace. This is because the madness that goes on almost every week within the Nigerian public narrative space, most especially the cybersphere can be draining for people with very low energy for drama. That is why I wait until the embers are down before getting to know what actually happened.

So when I read that allegation, my antenna twitched...and I shouted, welcome to the animal world. But I knew writing about it then may defeat the teachable purpose as many would read it from the lens of the treading issue and learn nada from it. That's why I waited...

I have watched countless documentaries where Kleptogamy played out without me knowing there was a term for that. The term "sneaky fvckers" was coined by evolutionary biologist John Maynard Smith to describe subordinate males who take advantage of the opportunity to mate with females while dominant males are otherwise occupied, leading to their reproductive success.

Animals like Cheetah have naturally evolved to accommodate Sneaky Fvckers such that more than two males can fertilize their eggs. And like most cats, the female can choose which sperm to fertilize her eggs, and which one to flush out.

Unlike Lions, where the dominant male rules the pride and has exclusive mating rights to conserve his genes to the next generation, a right that also comes with lots of responsibilities such as protection, and to some extent provision (when a big prey is encountered), and mentorship because he literally raises the cubs and watches after them when the lionesses go hunting.

But inspite of this, Lionesses can, and do engage in sneaky copulations, either to divert aggressive roaming males from attacking the pride and killing of their cubs, or to ignite a pride takeover if they do not like the alpha male they have.

Mostly displayed among animals that keep harems, the sneaky guys always tiptoe into the harems whenever the alpha male is distracted either fighting, or attending to other of his females. This sly guy gets him, hobnobs with the females, sow his oats, and sneaks out. But he could pay the ultimate price if caught.

Nature is deep.

Primates are also well known in this game. The beta males organise kidnapping gangs that swoop on females and kidnap their babies as ransome to lure the mothers.

Others like deers sneak in to sow their oats of mixed multitude and find their way before the alpha male takes notice.

But Zebras are smart. They know about this, that's why they conduct DNA tests at birth.

Reading up Peter Linberg some time ago, he wrote that within the pick-up artist literature, there are alpha males and beta males, and this delineates those who are successful in the sexual marketplace and those who are not. Those who are not, according to him often engages in concealed mating strategies, such as: being a nice guy, getting friend zoned, and being a “white knight,” which is the manosphere term for when a man jumps to a woman’s rescue for disingenuous reasons.

He quotes copiously from Alan Roger Currie’s book, “Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're Really Thinking,” where the author describes the sneaky fvcker strategy. The author graphically depicts the mindset of those who adopt this strategy: when you hide, deny, and/or ‘camouflage’ your true, honest needs, desires, interests, and intentions from women. Your behavior is usually phony, hypocritical, wimpy, deceitful, and ‘wishy-washy.’

We learn so much from animals, including human animals. The Sneaky-Fvcker mating strategy is a natural trait that occurs in animals, as well as humans.

©Kelechi Decca /FB

AyoII:
ABORT MISSION!!!!!!
DANGER AHEAD!!!
DO YOU COPY

Quitmast:
I am not surprised at your list, I am completely baffled by them. It like You want me to replace a bad habit with habits far worst.

Seriously, I should go into prostitution and at the same time pickup my Bible and read?

Anyways, thanks for your advice. I appreciate it.

codedgalaxy:
I did not expect you to understand.
The red Truth is that in life bad habits abound, many are just good in hiding theirs.
The trick is choosing the one you can manage yourself rather than having it choose you, which in my opinion is worst.
Nothing is free in life, to giveup on something something must be giving in exchange. If you were spiritual you will know this.
Lol, you said that i am dishing more bad habits instead of help, lol again.
So i will ask you this question," since God is almighty, wouldnt it be easier to just forgive mankind and let by gone be by gones " but No, he had to give his son's life in exchange.
Dont you think gruesome? lol.
Iife is all "exchange", man
.

ezechi24:
Stop simping, stop calling her, stop any contact with Hershey would want to know why and curious girls gets bleeped and immediately u dig her, do am with no emotions.....IL teach my son to be a beast, a very loving and caring beast not all these simps we having all around .

teebagy:
Broh u dont know what u are saying we know bad habits ard bound. It is just like advicing a robber to start stealing. If u cant give good advice it is better u keep silent than let people think u lack wisdom.

Uptheante:
Thank God your eyes don open now.
That guy is definitely fuccking her, same as most of the other guys you see her with.
She's more experienced than you, so a relationship with her will only open more ways for her to use you & manipulate you. You are still too naive & inexperienced about the ways of women.
Your 10k that you wasted on her is gone with the winds, probably the guys fuccking her also enjoyed part of your 10k
It will shock you to realize that those guys fuccking her, most probably have never done anything remarkable for her.
You were probably brought up with the erroneous mentality that treating women nicely & doing them favours is the right way to get into their heart, but reality is opposite

As for being a hard guy, you don't need to go into fighting, violence, smoking, hard drugs, cultism, etc just to get back at such a lady or even other women & show them you are a bad guy. You will only be doing more harm to yourself.
If you are relating with a woman, be very selfish.
If there's anything you are giving her, you must also be benefiting something reasonable from her. If not, don't agree.
Also pursue your dreams & take good care of yourself, your parents & family.
Finally, ignore this girl completely & don't reply any of her messages or pick her calls

Smartb0y:
You just wasted your typing energy for nothing.

He already knows what to do.
He already knows she's bad news.
He already knows she's a hoe.

But also he already knows he's fallen deep into the lagoon of a hoe's affection.

What is going through his head is how to rationalize the simping mode.

I have seen this over and over again.

The more you advice them,the more they rebute actual reality.

Like I said,the only way through is the hard way.

They always learn,one way or the other.

luminouz:
Bros, I got you!!!

That girl is fuqin that boy. I can swear with my left testicle. She is using you for free things you gave her and maybe your intelligence. While you are busy lifting her with love, the other dude is shifting her pussy with diick. She knows you are naive and is playing on that.


You want help?

Do these:

1. Never talk to her again. She is ran through and not for you. She will eat you up

2. Kill whatever feelings you have for her. She will ruin your life. Trust me on that

3. Never let her come to your house or use your things or give her attention. No matter her pleas and manipulation, don't listen to what she says and never give her audience again. She is not worth it.

These three things won't come easy but do it for two weeks and you will come to thank me. If you continue with that girl, she will get you killed!!!

chariisGRACE:
Since you said you're running a business of which she knows about, and with your benevolence of letting her take your stuffs without bothering to ask her to return them.

Gee, she wan pitch her tenth. She wan chop money with authority (as your GF) instead of begging for it.

Learn to be stingy with stuffs, bro. It will keep leeches far from you.

OliverTwistJr:
Bro, I'm not like that, I've learnt my lesson and I've blocked her on every social media
She even came to my hostel this evening but I did not allow how to come inside my room. I just told her that I'm busy. I have decided to cut off every communications from her finally

ezechi24:
Stop simping, stop calling her, stop any contact with Hershey would want to know why and curious girls gets bleeped and immediately u dig her, do am with no emotions.....IL teach my son to be a beast, a very loving and caring beast not all these simps we having all around .

AyoII:
WHY ME bro? No be dey simp, why quoting me

OliverTwistJr:
But is there still a good lady at all

I'm almost at my final year and I have not had a girl to call mine all through my life, should I be worried about it.