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Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Exceed15: 10:42pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
Absolutely right. Never marry someone raised by a single mother. U will surely regret it. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Stonecoldstare1: 10:43pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
Olarewaju89:Whether her fellow gender or not, it's wrong to demonize all single mothers 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Exceed15: 10:49pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
Jennyclay: |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by azpekuliar: 10:52pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
Jennyclay: Shut up and read books you won’t. Something Obama dedicated an entire chapter to in his 2006 book “The Audacity of Hope” If my memory serves me right that chapter was titled “Family” 2 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Exceed15: 10:54pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
GO0DHardDick: Hmm especially those raised by grand mothers .. u r right bro 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by VULCAN(m): 10:55pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
Grow up and stop being a victim. 80% of divorces in the US are filed by the wife. So she chose to be a single mother. Boondocxs: 2 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Exceed15: 10:56pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
Jonathan: |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Exceed15: 10:57pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
tommy589: Marry first . That's when you begin to exhibit those traits. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Princewill1(m): 10:58pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
Men performs the best policing in the family. It's near impossible to raise a responsible child in the society without strict discipline. We only have few children that are self-disciplined by nature who don't really need too much talking to get them in line. No matter how a single mom tries to discipline her kid, it won't work on the long run because emotions will eventually set in. Women are naturally emotional. You can't cheat nature. Women pamper their child to a fault without even realizing it. A child who is raised with no detterent or father-figure presence in his life tends to be deliquent, many of them end up in the prisons. For instance, a child of a single mom who went to party and is returning home late at night, can cook up an emotional story to the mom of how he was attacked on the way and eventually gets away with that. The presence of the pampering mom won't even be a enough detterent. But same child dare not try such when a strong father figure is at home. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Exceed15: 11:02pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
pretydiva: Abegii.. they are bittered and filled with regret. They teach their daughters to hate men. 3 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by 1Sharon(f): 11:03pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
dominique: Let's face it. Some of these women got pregnant for men that told them they never wanted to be there from the start. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by tommy589(m): 11:04pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
Exceed15: Tell me the traits that is going to manifest when I already have adult children Not sure you've started raising a family yet |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Exceed15: 11:04pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
ceede2: They are nurtured and raised with bitterness 2 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Birdbyrde440: 11:29pm On Dec 01, 2023 |
Jennyclay: Correct your mindset. You can't swallow Eba without soup. So think towards the direction of collaboration instead of competition and you will start seeing changes in your life. |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Blitzerz: 12:08am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Jennyclay:U don turn statistics to demon now now. Thats why the problem no wan finish Una no dey take correction 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by ojonugba2014(m): 12:26am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Even if I am mad, there are two things concerning woman that I can ND wl never do. 1. Date or marry a single mother irrespective of the reason for her singleness. 2. Marry a lady brought up by a single mother. If una like make una come cry over this my comment, na Oyo una dea. It's my life ND my choice. 2 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by okewumi: 1:19am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Some mumu will be giving instances. She is talking based on percentage |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Gerrard59(m): 1:50am On Dec 02, 2023 |
The statistics prove her correct. Across the world, children from single parent homes tend to be poorer than their counterparts from two-parent households. It is why I laugh when some alfa meils say they will marry baby mamas. They write/speak out of ignorance. In Japan, the poorest families are headed by single mothers. In the US, the same applies. Children from single mother-raised families tend to be poorer than their counterparts from single fathers. It is why most Japanese women would rather remain single than have a child out of wedlock, as that is the surest and fastest route to poverty. On the other hand, most Japanese men will not touch a single mother with a pole. They dread the situation. In Singapore, it is even worse because the government will not be interested in your well-being, and considering that public housing is tied to the cohesion of the family unit, it means a single mother stands the risk of never being allocated a public housing unit. All over East Asia, the rates of wedlock are very low, and this has led to better-raised children with high educational attainment and respect for rules and society. This has resulted in the top three safest cities in the world being in Asia. That said, there are nuanced differences between a widow and a single mother regarding raising a family. Also, I would say the positive outcomes of some children raised by "single mothers" in Nigeria were because of the communal and shaming culture of Nigeria. But as Nigeria, especially southern Nigeria, gets increasingly westernised, we will begin to see the outcomes exemplified by African-American families. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Gerrard59(m): 1:53am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Boondocxs: Men should also get the blame, but it is important women know the situation they are entering. It is why both parties, especially women, since they get the sticks more, should be extra cautious regarding who they have babies for. It is not pick-me, but statistics. Statistics all over the world prove her right. In fact, the foundation of poverty in a child's life in the US is increasingly tied to being raised by a single mother. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Gerrard59(m): 1:56am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Juoflife1: 1 or 2 out of 10 is not a majority. People work with the majority, aka norm, not the minority, aka exception. I have been accused publicly and privately of being a simp, but this is a topic I make it clear that single mothers raise the most societally disadvantaged children. It is statistics. Please respect numbers. 2 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Gerrard59(m): 1:58am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Dennisochampa: Research studies generated historically to date prove you wrong. Why should a random a Dennisochampa be believed when there are research studies on the same topic dating as far as 100 years ago? 2 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Dennisochampa: 2:08am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Gerrard59:.... Who force u believe anything?? Believe what you want to.. It's a free world.. |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Gerrard59(m): 2:16am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Gajagojo: The prevailing notion is a woman who got divorced, intentionally or out of marital circumstances. A single mother could be defined as one whose father of her children is alive but is not involved in the raising of the children, either emotionally, behaviorally and financially. Let us assume they are different e.g . The father died ? Does it matter if he died when the mother is pregnant,the child is aged 2, 6 10 or 14 The first bold, while the woman can be described as a widow, she effectively becomes a single mother due to the situation. Second bold, some of those male professionals still play a role when they are physically available. In the topic of discussion, the men DON'T play a role. It is perfectly standard to expect irresponsible children from a family where the father is a deadbeat, alcoholic or a chronic gambler. I categorise children from such families as raised by single fathers. The man's presence is minimally felt. It is intellectually lazy to make such sweeping generalisations. You are the one intellectually lazy because you are using exceptions to judge the situation. Statistics across the globe - cultures, religions, country-specific laws - show that children raised by single mothers are the most disadvantaged. Why should that be disregarded because IBB or Obama became presidents of their respective countries? All those girls doing hook up today ,the guys doing rituals were they all raised by single mothers? In the US, most porn stars were raised by single mothers. The hookup situation in Nigeria is majorly tied to poverty, and even at that, the probability of being in poverty is higher in a single-parent setting, especially single mother, than in a two-parent household. If you are born in Ajegunle you are already disadvantaged compared to someone born in Ikoyi While that is true, in the US where the OP is based, children raised by single mothers are more disadvantaged than those raised by two parents in the same environment. And if you know your environment is worse, why exacerbate the situation by raising children as a single parent? The positive outcomes you see from single-mother families in Nigeria can be attributed to religion, the culture of shame and communal living. However, as southern Nigeria gets more westernised, we will begin to mirror the African American community. There is an antecedent. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Gerrard59(m): 2:18am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Dennisochampa: No. Readers should know that statistics from all over the world show the same result. So, it is not subjective because one random Dennisochampa said it was so. You win debates with statistics, not I no fit lie. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Gajagojo: 2:28am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Gerrard59:Thanks You are entitled to your opinion |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Airboom: 3:07am On Dec 02, 2023 |
ghettochild:permit to say this. I have seen like three single mothers whose children ended up impregnating and getting pregnant out of wedlock.that single mother syndrome is hard to break once it enters a family.its just like a curse. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Globetroter(m): 3:57am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Boondocxs: Are you sure you have a good understanding of English Language? How does this your response relate to the subject she is discussing? The subject been discussed is not whether it's a single mother's fault that she is a single mother. Watch that video again, this time watch it slowly. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by tete7000(m): 4:54am On Dec 02, 2023 |
ghettochild: Women are emotional by nature and the chances are high that they will always leave their children to spoil. Aside this, raising a mail child will always be an herculean task for a woman. A boy child needs a strong, responsible and resolute man to raise him, not a woman or he ends up effeminate. Generally I don't believe children are meant to be raised by one parent, be it man or woman. Every child raised by one parent will aleays have something lacking in him/her, except of course such child have the benefit of support from another complete family around. We human are products of social conditioning. We learn both by watching what others do,and by directly being taught by someone. A child that grows in a complete family with responsible father and mother has advantage over the one raised from a single parent. Such a child can see his/her two parents interact as father or mother and also as couple and from them he gets the idea of what a father or mother ought to look like and how both parents ought to interact in a marital life. When you see many young people of nowadays growing averse to marriage, viewing it with suspicion, it is a reflection of the home they grew up in. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by tete7000(m): 4:55am On Dec 02, 2023 |
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Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by Johnthesuccess: 5:20am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Jennyclay: Why would a man leave you,if not because of your bad behavior. Smh. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers' Household Produce The Worst Kids — American Lady(vid,pix) by BabbanBura(m): 5:29am On Dec 02, 2023 |
Jennyclay: No body says all single mothers are so because of bad reasons. However, it is impossible to raise a balanced child by a single parent be it the father alone or the mother alone. This goes beyond just the child turning out success or morally upright, but their is a psychological balance that will not be attain which will definitely show up in certain areas of the child's life or it could go as far as his/her marital life or upbringing of the the child's children. Hope you get the point? It is not a desirable thing to raise a child by a single parents, apart from the stress on the single parent, the single parent can not meet all the emotional and psychological needs of a balanced child. No matter how bad, be it a mentally deranged parent, it is better than single parent upbringing and I have seen multiple extreme cases in my life and how the children turn out to be vs those from single parents |
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