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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Agunesinjaweola: 4:13am On Dec 23, 2023 |
A good friend should be able to confide in you in order to inspire or push you for the same glory. However, if you're doing well too, just do same project and treat him with the same juice and let's see how he react. Then you can know your best friend and draw a line. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by marienl: 4:21am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Candidlady: When an ingrate and bastard talks you know with ease 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Ay04z(m): 4:22am On Dec 23, 2023 |
I did same...... .... Alaye. Move on.. but in my own case na him dey Scot with me..... He later hear from an outsider... But kept mute.. later told him and he said he knew already. And. We just settle and drink two bottle day day..... He is pretty doing well financially.. just dat he is a G boy ... While me on the other hand is a legit hustler. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by loswhite(m): 4:31am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Peter532:I understand the feeling but it is what it is....Next time you don't tell him anything about your private life again. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by gabbrri(m): 4:53am On Dec 23, 2023 |
just know that the police is a better friend than this your friend |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by okoroemeka(m): 5:02am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Peter532:you are not overreacting because you are betrayed by your supposedly close friend,to tell you the house is a surprise is a cover up,he definitely do not trust you,deep in his mind he will think you will scuttle the house project by any means left to you,that is why he decided not to tell you,I am sorry a friend with such mindset is not your friend because there are more things you don't even know about him,he will now see your reaction. as jealousy but if you can mask your emotions and show him less of your own intentions and future plans, 2 Likes |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by PapaFejiro: 5:11am On Dec 23, 2023 |
1. It will definitely hurt. You should feel sad about it. Everyone will. However, don't take it too personal else you are labeled an enemy of progress. You must withdraw smartly from this so called friend, he is or never was a friend. Reduce your engagements with him, focus on yourself and family. 2. You need to understand that so many children are here, teenagers and the rest...they don't really understand lifes intricacies at least yet. So they will always give their opinions naively. 2 Likes |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Algold: 5:15am On Dec 23, 2023 |
You be basket mouth, or you go cast am to his village people. Na make am he nor tell you. Nor vex for him 2 Likes |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Raxxye(m): 5:17am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Candidlady:You sound bitter and you're insulting the guy. Why? 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by YoungBlackRico(m): 5:21am On Dec 23, 2023 |
He doesn't owe you that though. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by ogawisdom(m): 5:45am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Peter532: What is the problem here You see him as a close brother, are you going to force him to do the same? This is same problem we have in marriage, men love a woman who only cares about what he can provide and later cry. Op for you not to see any clue he doesn't treat you the same up till now means you are not smart but a needy attached fo.ol 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by ogawisdom(m): 5:51am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Jones90: It is his choice respect that. What should worry us is that op didn't see any clue of him not being a close friend up till now which shows that op is a dull thing. We should all wise up |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by ogawisdom(m): 5:58am On Dec 23, 2023 |
ItisWell22: Op is the problem, he doesn't have sense. It's not about what you call or take someone as it's about what he calls or takes you as. I am glad he just learnt his major life lesson. No sensible person shares personal things in the name of friendship that can change with weather. The friend is wiser and he should learn from him 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by izibili44: 6:00am On Dec 23, 2023 |
My brother give him space. I have a close friend like that. We do everything together. When i was leaving the country he knows everything. I even travel from is house. He never told me about is own travel plan. I got to know after 1 month on social media. We do chat every day he never told me he was no longer in the Nigeria. Now me too don learn 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Maxcollins042(m): 6:29am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Candidlady: Your comment just reeks of STUPIDITY 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by NigerianAngelo(m): 7:04am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Peter532: You are not overreacting. God is just showing you "one or two mistakes in your goodness". Like always buying/paying for the food. You should have allowed him to do likewise. Jokingly tell him from time to time, "Enyi na you go feed us today as fellow big man -- you think say we no know?" 1. To be truly good, influence others to replicate your goodness. "Be not overmuch good" - Ecclesiastes But for the past, forget it. Just better in the future. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Kavod: 7:19am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Candidlady:No.... A friend is ride or die, why he is hurt is because he would have done anything for that same guy. He just found out the guy has no love for him and Envy's him. When people envy you they become very secretive about their affairs and relations with you. The loser here is the friend.... Nor vex i just see say you be lady.... you nor go understand sha 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by karkinase(m): 7:31am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Nebes:Shut up ur mouth |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Snowx: 7:53am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Candidlady: Exactly what Op made mention of.. everything is not all about entitlement mentality..you dey here dey shout it..imagine been a very very close friend to someone one and embarked on such project he didn't tell you. That means you ain't a freinds to him you re just a frenemies to him..he is afraid of you |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by edunaragold(f): 7:57am On Dec 23, 2023 |
brain54:I support u bro. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Thinktwicemybro: 8:09am On Dec 23, 2023 |
brain54:Sometimes telling people your plan can ruin the plan. Some opinion can discourage your destiny. God created secrets for a reason. Not telling your parents your plans does not make you foolish. I know many people that completed their house before telling their parents. I know people who told their parents and friends they bought land but never built the house, instead they end up selling the land. Life is deeper into than you think. 3 Likes |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Thinktwicemybro: 8:11am On Dec 23, 2023 |
izibili44:Telling him your plan was stupid. I thank God you have learnt. Don't expect people to open their plans to you. 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by fesdo(m): 8:11am On Dec 23, 2023 |
If your conscience is true to you, it won’t let you attend For me, I will not attend not because I envy him, never! He is simply not a friend Do you know how long it takes to build? That’s how long he kept it away There may be more secrets he is yet to post 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by horgarzer(m): 8:29am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Going through comments here, you can see men's opinion defers from women's own. If the op is a married many then I will suggest his wife was the architect of this. She might have advised the op to keep it as a secret from his friend. Women and selfishness are 5 and 6 |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Clinghton: 8:39am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Instead of being angry, just stop telling him things make your life private. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by freddie009(m): 8:53am On Dec 23, 2023 |
I use to have a good heart like you. Experiences like what happened to you change my mindset few years back. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by theamazonguru(m): 9:00am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Englishisamust: My sentiments exactly. I am just like the OP friend. I don't tell people my moves. Though in my case,,I don't have close friends like that. I am more like a lone ranger. The day I moved to my house, I just told my pastor who was going to pray on the house that I want to take him somewhere. Till he got there he never knew he was going to pray on my house. It was when we got there that he knew what he was following me to do. And this is someone we work hand in hand in church. If he likes make he vex, not my problem. As long as my joy is intact. My joy is never dependent on how others feel about me. And that's why, me self no dey expect nothing. How about when we moved to the house from the previous house we were living in. I only dropped a notice in our group chat. That was my way of informing them. Yes THEY WERE ALL ANGRY. In fact the whole estate carried our news for as long as they could. Some of them no even greet me to wish me congratulations, as in they just read my notice and moved on. Hahahahahaha I no send anybody. I am not Into competition with anyone. If you are happy, good for you. If you are not, better, your headache. Aiye yi ole. Na we dey make am hard. What I want is what I want. I won't do what you want in the name of making you happy. So OP, just wish him well and move on. Of course, this means you also have to decide the information you release out there. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by justmondris: 9:27am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Jones90: Some people always prefer to pipe-low and keep their plans secret until they have achieved their success and that does not mean they are evil or not your friend. They may even be better friends than those who always tell you everything about themselves. He not telling you maybe as a result of the fact that he knew if he had told, there would be someone you would tell which he is not comfortable with. Maybe you can ask him why he did not tell you. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Hardcore11: 9:32am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Honestly I don't believe one sided stories like this anymore. If you don't hear from the other guy don't believe this very dude. Believe me you must have done same thing to him way back because from your own story line you are doing well for long even when he doesn't have anything. Believe me you must have offended many times. Any story you see online about 2 friends living together and one has been doing well before the other one get up on his feet. believe me that first guy must have hurt the other guy numerous times. Asked yourself if all the properties the first guy bought was know by the second guy. Never judge or conclude on any stories without hearing from the other partner. 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by justmondris: 9:33am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Some people always prefer to keep a low profile and keep their plans secret until they have achieved success, and that does not mean they are evil or not your friend. They may even be better friends than those who always tell you everything about themselves. Maybe he did not tell you because he knows that if he had shared, there would be someone you might tell, and he is not comfortable with that. Some people also prefer to keep their plans secret and only announce their results because it gives them the motivation to achieve their plans. Maybe you can ask him why he did not tell you. 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by gemini35(m): 9:47am On Dec 23, 2023 |
That is the world for you, I, was in my junior bro,s house on Sunday he never told me that he want to buy land, next week Sunday my mum told me he bought a land,my brother that I, love so much how does that sound to you. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Bamijoko1(m): 9:54am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Peter532: Dey play, my blood brother completed his house and still no tell me, u are here complaining about ur friend. U better hustle up man. 1 Like |
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