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This is not totally correct.

Regardless of the situation. A bad wife will always be a bad wife.
Some men provide ALL and still have no peace with their wives

saasala:
The major reason the marriage of our parents lasted till eternity is because our fathers were the sole or major breadwinners of the family.

The reason marriages nowadays crash easily is because women now bring something tangible to the table. This is the major reasons marriages in Western countries don't last because women now have a say.

I just laugh when I see Nairaland guys saying "Nigerian women don't bring anything to the table" Like can you handle them when they start bringing something to the table?

I will rather not want my wife to bring anything to the table or bring something very small to the table. I only need her to be a good wife, take care of the home, the kids and be submissive. That's all a woman needs to do.

Nature has not designed a woman to be a leader. The moment they earn more than you, then they become the leader which is abnormal, and since they are not wired to lead, they will crumble the ship and scatter the building.

As much as people get divorced in Nigeria, we are still among the least divorced countries in the world but the numbers are climbing up because a lot of men are asking "What is she bringing to the table?"

I understand that the economy isn't helping matters and the make up of the 21st century generally has made it possible for both men and women to work and anyone can earn more than the other, and this is a pandemic.

Women are designed to worship their men, respect them, take care of the home and the kids.

As a man, you are a king and your wife is the Queen. Queens don't work, they only look beautiful for the king to admire and they don't have any say in the house. And they dare not question the king for having concubines or taking more wives.

Men, work hard, work very hard so you can take care of your home and stop waiting for your wife to bring something to the table. You can't handle that table.

My wife is just here enjoying herself. She is respectful and takes care of the home and when she catches me cheating, she can only cry. I will pet her and beg her and go back to my cheating. And the day she cheats, she is going back to her father's house while I take another wife.

saasala:
The major reason the marriage of our parents lasted till eternity is because our fathers were the sole or major breadwinners of the family.

The reason marriages nowadays crash easily is because women now bring something tangible to the table. This is the major reasons marriages in Western countries don't last because women now have a say.

I just laugh when I see Nairaland guys saying "Nigerian women don't bring anything to the table" Like can you handle them when they start bringing something to the table?

I will rather not want my wife to bring anything to the table or bring something very small to the table. I only need her to be a good wife, take care of the home, the kids and be submissive. That's all a woman needs to do.

Nature has not designed a woman to be a leader. The moment they earn more than you, then they become the leader which is abnormal, and since they are not wired to lead, they will crumble the ship and scatter the building.

As much as people get divorced in Nigeria, we are still among the least divorced countries in the world but the numbers are climbing up because a lot of men are asking "What is she bringing to the table?"

I understand that the economy isn't helping matters and the make up of the 21st century generally has made it possible for both men and women to work and anyone can earn more than the other, and this is a pandemic.

Women are designed to worship their men, respect them, take care of the home and the kids.

As a man, you are a king and your wife is the Queen. Queens don't work, they only look beautiful for the king to admire and they don't have any say in the house. And they dare not question the king for having concubines or taking more wives.

Men, work hard, work very hard so you can take care of your home and stop waiting for your wife to bring something to the table. You can't handle that table.

My wife is just here enjoying herself. She is respectful and takes care of the home and when she catches me cheating, she can only cry. I will pet her and beg her and go back to my cheating. And the day she cheats, she is going back to her father's house while I take another wife.

Your heartless ooo , this your last paragraph funny die

BRATISLAVA:
The comments are disturbing.

Especially that guy who said he pets his wife and goes back to cheat.

So if it is in reverse they can't eat what they dish out.

Evidence that most of these males we love and interact with don't even consider us to be human beings like them.

Tonytonex:
you are neither here nor there. I no understand wetin you type.

I support fairness to all humans.

Also, I was being sarcastic. Indirectly stating my opinion. If you understand sarcasm, you'll understand what I said.

purples25:
Especially that guy who said he pets his wife and goes back to cheat.

So if it is in reverse they can't eat what they dish out.

Evidence that most of these males we love and interact with don't even consider us to be human beings like them.

But the evidence is everywhere, women just choose to stay blind and deluded.

adexbols:
This is not totally correct.

Regardless of the situation. A bad wife will always be a bad wife.
Some men provide ALL and still have no peace with their wives

This one is another topic entirely bro and its a broad one. We are only talking finances and earnings here and how it affects the family.

purples25:
Especially that guy who said he pets his wife and goes back to cheat.

So if it is in reverse they can't eat what they dish out.

Evidence that most of these males we love and interact with don't even consider us to be human beings like them.

Extreme!

You're overthinking it. 🙂

It depends. Lady that suffers from insecurities or any form of anxieties or any form of shortcomings that is known to them always submissive.
Marriage as I always believe, talking about the few that works, is more of reasonable compromise than love.
Love comes auto if you think someone is doing that thing you can't for you and they're always around you.

The question about women having better financial muscle ought not to be a question, if not for western education it will be impossible. There's no way it can be possible in Nigeria particular if you reduce it to the ideas of Culture, tradition and religion.
The thing is if a problem is attached to education/science it's like talking about multiverse it keeps evolving without anybody telling you where it's coming or going.
You only know it keeps moving and changing with time

This Topic is Multifaceted, because there’s no one size fits all. But when it comes to a woman earning more than the man we hardly get ladies that earn more and be submissive but it doesn’t mean we don’t have ladies that are not submissive even when they earn more. Know your woman and have this conversations before marriage that’s one of the best ways. A man can start with earning more and later the wife earns more.
Both income should be treated as income streams (revenue) but the man should play a major role in multiply this resource or income stream. Don’t be a lazy man and expect to be respected.

This is a loaded with uncommon common sense.

CaveAdullam:
The average person lacks self-awareness, knowledge, and wisdom. Because building these virtues and values takes a long time.

A woman earning more than her man in the process of a relationship ought not to be a problem. But the average woman doesn't think beyond the first layer of her head. Hence, many become obnoxious and treat their husbands with disdain and disrespect.

Women want to be with men higher and better than them. Once a woman senses that she's better than you in one or two areas, resentment and disrespect start breeding in her heart.
Because she sees you as a leader, and expects you to operate from a higher dimension. You operating below her scares her evolutionary wiring - that you are a man who can't protect and provide for her kids in dire moments.

These challenges men face with women have led men into the field of innovations and different wonders. The burden of performance is always upon the man. The woman wants that assurance that she is with the right man.

Relationship isn't a competition. It ought to be two people working together to achieve a particular goal.

However, in sexual relationship, men must be ahead of their woman in all ramifications. It breeds respect, ensure the stability of the relationship, and gives the woman an assurance.

Men that have their women ahead must work hard to pass them and maintain first position. It isn't by pulling her down, treating her badly, subtle jealousy, subtle hate, and acting macho.

It is him going back to the strategy board to plan better ways and win his game. After all, it is his duty to lead his family, and by so must remain at the forefront.

It's easier to tell women to maintain submissions, modesty, and humility when they are on top and earning more than their husbands than for said women to deliberately act that same way.

Only advice for this women is to help stimulate their husbands in getting to the top. Not by anger, henpecking, nagging, subtle jabs, and negligence. But by love and humility.

It will not be easy. But it is possible. Because a woman wants to see her man at the top and it gives men joy to be at the top.

Thanks.

hotspec:
100%. Even the ones that are not earning up to you are mis having. It only take grace for a woman making money that can feed her to be submissive in marriage.

100%

CaptainAyub:
Nigerian women na just bag of trouble.
If she’s earning more than you,na disrespect u go d chop.
If she no de earn at all,na more wahala

That gender!

Blitzking:
For women who love their husband it doesn't matter but u see those ones who were forced or moved with money it affects..my wife initially earned more that me.. but she choose to marry me. Now we have businesses that take care of our needs and wants. What women that have sense want are men that are up and doing. Not loafers. If no job he should get himself busy with learning a skill..tiling...plumbing...electrician...furniture making...pop and wall screeding...painting...aluminium work..transportation...dry cleaning...barbing....bakimg /making small chops..tailoring..the list is endless..

You are lucky

AmazingELixir:


A woman will be a woman anyway...what they earn doesn't matter to them....the husband money is always sweeter.

My own almost earn thesame amount with me....madam still dey ask me to give her money for her clothing, I just dey look her with red eyes.

Hahahaha

Frederick2017:
If she's not the proud, controlling and immature type

Every woman at one point in time will feel that ego boost. Na make God no shame man

Especially this age where they are increasingly disrespectful and lacking of understanding

saasala:
The major reason the marriage of our parents lasted till eternity is because our fathers were the sole or major breadwinners of the family.

The reason marriages nowadays crash easily is because women now bring something tangible to the table. This is the major reasons marriages in Western countries don't last because women now have a say.

I just laugh when I see Nairaland guys saying "Nigerian women don't bring anything to the table" Like can you handle them when they start bringing something to the table?

I will rather not want my wife to bring anything to the table or bring something very small to the table. I only need her to be a good wife, take care of the home, the kids and be submissive. That's all a woman needs to do.

Nature has not designed a woman to be a leader. The moment they earn more than you, then they become the leader which is abnormal, and since they are not wired to lead, they will crumble the ship and scatter the building.

As much as people get divorced in Nigeria, we are still among the least divorced countries in the world but the numbers are climbing up because a lot of men are asking "What is she bringing to the table?"

I understand that the economy isn't helping matters and the make up of the 21st century generally has made it possible for both men and women to work and anyone can earn more than the other, and this is a pandemic.

Women are designed to worship their men, respect them, take care of the home and the kids.

As a man, you are a king and your wife is the Queen. Queens don't work, they only look beautiful for the king to admire and they don't have any say in the house. And they dare not question the king for having concubines or taking more wives.

Men, work hard, work very hard so you can take care of your home and stop waiting for your wife to bring something to the table. You can't handle that table.

My wife is just here enjoying herself. She is respectful and takes care of the home and when she catches me cheating, she can only cry. I will pet her and beg her and go back to my cheating. And the day she cheats, she is going back to her father's house while I take another wife.

Wow..

saasala:
The major reason the marriage of our parents lasted till eternity is because our fathers were the sole or major breadwinners of the family.

The reason marriages nowadays crash easily is because women now bring something tangible to the table. This is the major reasons marriages in Western countries don't last because women now have a say.

I just laugh when I see Nairaland guys saying "Nigerian women don't bring anything to the table" Like can you handle them when they start bringing something to the table?

I will rather not want my wife to bring anything to the table or bring something very small to the table. I only need her to be a good wife, take care of the home, the kids and be submissive. That's all a woman needs to do.

Nature has not designed a woman to be a leader. The moment they earn more than you, then they become the leader which is abnormal, and since they are not wired to lead, they will crumble the ship and scatter the building.

As much as people get divorced in Nigeria, we are still among the least divorced countries in the world but the numbers are climbing up because a lot of men are asking "What is she bringing to the table?"

I understand that the economy isn't helping matters and the make up of the 21st century generally has made it possible for both men and women to work and anyone can earn more than the other, and this is a pandemic.

Women are designed to worship their men, respect them, take care of the home and the kids.

As a man, you are a king and your wife is the Queen. Queens don't work, they only look beautiful for the king to admire and they don't have any say in the house. And they dare not question the king for having concubines or taking more wives.

Men, work hard, work very hard so you can take care of your home and stop waiting for your wife to bring something to the table. You can't handle that table.

My wife is just here enjoying herself. She is respectful and takes care of the home and when she catches me cheating, she can only cry. I will pet her and beg her and go back to my cheating. And the day she cheats, she is going back to her father's house while I take another wife.

Wouldn't you love Nairaland?

purples25:
I support fairness to all humans.

Also, I was being sarcastic. Indirectly stating my opinion. If you understand sarcasm, you'll understand what I said.

now I get.

omooba969:
Extreme!

You're overthinking it. 🙂

Ha, what men normally do to women and call normal, is called disrespect when reversed, and you say I'm overthinking it?

Why is it good for women, but bad for men then?

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CaptainAyub:
Nigerian women na just bag of trouble.
If she’s earning more than you,na disrespect u go d chop.
If she no de earn at all,na more wahala

Disturbing comments.
Very shocking.
Then again, comments like these are why Nigeria is where it is today.
Goodluck to you all

CaveAdullam:
The average person lacks self-awareness, knowledge, and wisdom. Because building these virtues and values takes a long time.

A woman earning more than her man in the process of a relationship ought not to be a problem. But the average woman doesn't think beyond the first layer of her head. Hence, many become obnoxious and treat their husbands with disdain and disrespect.

Women want to be with men higher and better than them. Once a woman senses that she's better than you in one or two areas, resentment and disrespect start breeding in her heart.
Because she sees you as a leader, and expects you to operate from a higher dimension. You operating below her scares her evolutionary wiring - that you are a man who can't protect and provide for her kids in dire moments.

These challenges men face with women have led men into the field of innovations and different wonders. The burden of performance is always upon the man. The woman wants that assurance that she is with the right man.

Relationship isn't a competition. It ought to be two people working together to achieve a particular goal.

However, in sexual relationship, men must be ahead of their woman in all ramifications. It breeds respect, ensure the stability of the relationship, and gives the woman an assurance.

Men that have their women ahead must work hard to pass them and maintain first position. It isn't by pulling her down, treating her badly, subtle jealousy, subtle hate, and acting macho.

It is him going back to the strategy board to plan better ways and win his game. After all, it is his duty to lead his family, and by so must remain at the forefront.

It's easier to tell women to maintain submissions, modesty, and humility when they are on top and earning more than their husbands than for said women to deliberately act that same way.

Only advice for this women is to help stimulate their husbands in getting to the top. Not by anger, henpecking, nagging, subtle jabs, and negligence. But by love and humility.

It will not be easy. But it is possible. Because a woman wants to see her man at the top and it gives men joy to be at the top.

Thanks.

"Treat their husbands with disdain and disrespect"


No lies detected.

Notfogotten:
Does a wife earning more than the husband affect the marriage institution?

While a lot of people believe it does as according to them most women in this category tends to disrespect the man; others believe it doesn't as there are women who earn more than the husband and the information is known only between the man and the wife.

What is your opinion, do you have real life
experience or know a family where marriage is suffers because the woman later turned out to be earning more?

What would your advice be for men who later in life earns less than their wives?

What would be your advice for women who later earn more than the husbands

Yes, it can. It does in most cases

loswhite:
Do you play chess? In a game of chess the queen work to protect the king so your analysis of queen don't work...lol I wonder where you got that from sha

And in real life? She does that too by becoming a prayer warrior, right?