Acidosis:

Maybe she spent the money on this baby rocker👇👇😄😄

Advise her to cut her coat according to her size. That money is enough for the essentials.

My wife also bought this rubbish, and our baby never liked it. It's a total waste of money

A lesson to the unmarried: look before you leap!A lesson to the unmarried: look before you leap!...

Enemyofpeace:
baby baby. Na me now. I was the one that boughted waste beads and underwears for you this last Christmas

mutewww I rebuke you.

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Don't give huge money to anyone especially a woman unless they have shown good financial accountability or work and earn good money themselves. if not tendency to abuse it is 70% high.

A good wife will get a list of things even if its from her mother and pass it across to her husband for his input b4 heading to buy whats not needed with his hard ended money.

Pecoleee345:


Guy baby wardrobe is 60k..

They are just extorting you cos you don't no about those things and you have enough money to spend.

I spent less than 200k to get everything I needed for my 2nd child last year October.

What you bought for 200k last year October cannot be less than 350k - 400k right now.
Also, buying things for your 2nd child, you will agree with me, is quite different from buying things for the first time.

ObaOfYorubaLand:


Don't you know road to the market?

By the time they finish with you, you'll get sense by force.

What's her mother doing in your house by this time when she never deliver?

Valoromega
Go and buy the things yourself as advised.
They'll dare not challenge you and if they do, just inform them that they are overspending and you can no longer afford it.
They'll most likely be too ashamed to confront you.

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Even tripplet list of things, 400k is too much

I think you should take the remaining list to your sister and both of you will go and buy them and you bring it home

Now taje note, it will definitely cause problem only if you reveal who bought it

If you dint start now to correct nonsense

You may never be able to correct it

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

I had the same issue with my wife when we had our first child, her brothers wife was playing a fast one on her I kept sending money every month yet nothing tangible from the list given to us both for the mother and child has been bought, I called her one day and requested for the form on Whatsapp she sent both. My guy without shame I went straight to lagos Island bought 80% of the items between mother and child I would sometimes order from jumia on my own. Within a month I bought everything and other things I felt my child would need. No need to fight her, go get the items yourself bring it to her, na you dey fight and sweat for the money not the mom.

LordIsaac:
A lesson to the unmarried: look before you leap!

Very true... Me i dey OP shoes, i doubt if i buy reach 200k sef and all is set...

I thank God for the wife he give me o

Prettygirl200:
mutewww I rebuke you.

na so love dey take start o

Hold extra money or cash Incase you may need to eventually have an emergency C.S.

Is your delivery pack ready?

Do you have extra money Incase the baby is admitted in the neonatal unit?

Hope you have extra money for miscellaneous?

Labour, delivery(either SVD or CS), and post delivery dey gulp money. That's what you should prepare for more. Wishing your wife a safe delivery!

fxexperts:
With most of the comment on the front page. including the ones i am quoting. it shows you should never bring your family matter to Nairaland, because there so any kids and so many broke people over here who do not know anything about running a home. a lot are still in their father's house that is why they are talking rubbish. my friend in 2017 i spent over that amount you are quoting for baby essentials and i did not even buy baby bed. talk more of now when thing are over 3 times their normal value. if you want to buy essentials for first time baby with the current value of the naira you should be looking at over 1 million naira. naira is currently a worthless currency. if you are doubting your wife, why don't you go to the market yourself. For your info Nan 1 that use to be like 2K in 2019 is now 6K in 2024. SMA Gold baby food that use to be just 3k is now about 9K. so you know.

So for your mind 400k is enough to train a child till he becomes an adult abi. most Nairalanders are just broke fellow. sha.

400k is a lot to buy done reasonable mother and baby stuff mumu

Op complain her wife is yet to buy tangible items the baby and mother will need after birth…nobody talked about training the child to adulthood

I bet if you have 40k in your available but you are already broke shamming someone q

Instead if you appreciate these women for for what they are doing to make the baby comfortable when he/she arrives. You don run come naira land make them advise you. Oya nah pursue your mother in law and collect the money for your wife hand go market whether you go fit buy any thing. That is women unit you have done your bit by providing the money leave them, them go sort themselves out.

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for babythings she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Bros u need to take control and act like a man in the house. Anything concerning your baby should be done with you and your wife alone. Involving a third party should never be tolerated.

You are pathetic for bringing your family issue to the social media. What exactly do you want people on social media to say to you" What is wrong with this Generation? every little thing they showcase in social media, can't you settle this little issue? why social media? they will only destroy your marriage instead of helping it. Please go and settle the little issue at home and stop talking in the social media.

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Sissi Good Morning.

You sef,, you can nag well well.

So, the hospital didn't give you guys the list of things to be bought (or “both”) - at the time when she started antenatal??

fxexperts:
With most of the comment on the front page. including the ones i am quoting. it shows you should never bring your family matter to Nairaland, because there so any kids and so many broke people over here who do not know anything about running a home. a lot are still in their father's house that is why they are talking rubbish. my friend in 2017 i spent over that amount you are quoting for baby essentials and i did not even buy baby bed. talk more of now when thing are over 3 times their normal value. if you want to buy essentials for first time baby with the current value of the naira you should be looking at over 1 million naira. naira is currently a worthless currency. if you are doubting your wife, why don't you go to the market yourself. For your info Nan 1 that use to be like 2K in 2019 is now 6K in 2024. SMA Gold baby food that use to be just 3k is now about 9K. so you know.

So for your mind 400k is enough to train a child till he becomes an adult abi. most Nairalanders are just broke fellow. sha.

You people will be supporting rubbish, dem for hear say poor man no dey born again. Didn't u read were he said the total things they bought is not up to that value. A good Wife would go to her husband and say look at what we bought. Look at how much it cost, "not the money is not enough we need more money" A good wife would also prioritise on essentials when she sees the money is not enough which was another point he raised.

What is after 6 is more than 7 oo. You still have so many things to attend to after she give birth. These people will milk you dry during naming ceremony, baby food and pampas are still there, baby drugs and so much more. Spend moderately please.

As bad as the economy may seem , 200k to 300k can still get something tangible for baby things.

The truth is if care is not taken , you end up buying things you don't need. I remember we bought carrier and breast pump we never used.

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Bro I can tell you for free that the two of the are scamming you.... My wife will be delivering our 3rd and 4th children later this month too and I haven't even spent 120k yet I have bought 98% of what is needed. Take noted of things I have said here.... We have are twins, I have bought 98% of the items with less than 120k and lastly I went to get this items myself..... Sometimes you just have to do it yourself in a bid to do it right and save yourself of so much stress.

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

She should start buying with Antenatal list..to avoid embarrassment...Then let her add few things that's not on the list for her own consumption..Every basic thing is on the list..Goya, spirit, confit pad- enough, panties, cotton wool, combs, breast pads, braziers, diaper change mat, coverall, baby cap, soaks,and clothes,cream, soaps, oil..Mackintosh..For home and hospital😉..Lochia may gush out unexpectedly, baby bed and nets., etc..

You guys should stock house with food too..Ọmụgwọ loading..

Don't quarrel her over the money now, try and get the list yourself and see how far she has bought..Things hv skyrocketed lately...Avoid panic buying!..Ensure basic things are sought out for first.

More over, clothes of 1month isn't bad for a newborn..In most cases, by the time baby starts going out for 6wks iand 10 wks mmunization, it's already his or her size perfectly. She should get more of cover all and few new born tops or gowns..Growth is rapid.

In 4months time..u would find out those clothes are for another baby😉 coming..

Get more sizes of midi diapers...Cos at 1month, some babies already outgrown the very smallest size of mini especially big baby with 3 plus kg at birth. My kids starts using midi few was after birth.
Ensure she exclusively breast feed the baby..It's more cost effective and reduces the chances of illnesses..

Una go dey alright las las!.
Congratulations in advance!.

The day that you will realised that women don't care about your struggles, you will sit up as a man.

Next time, tell her frankly to buy the most baby things with the money other preferences will be met later, and if necessary.

God forbid,

If you go broke, your marriage story will change again. She will frustrate you

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

You should have given them the money in tranches of say 100k, 50k and the rest. They are reaping you off. There are some mandatory things you will take to the hospital which don't cost much.
If everyone is buying baby stuff for over 400k, how about those that don't have the means? How did their baby survive and was given birth to and grew up? They are telling lies to you.

Pecoleee345:


Baby wardrobe is 1million

Those of us that spent less than 200k to buy baby things are poor nah.

Celebrating total wastage and bragging about it.

Abiiii.....over spending. If he has the means, he shouldn't be complaining.

larryUG:


You are right, It is my first. The baby is yet to arrive so I may not know all the things needed like the bed. Yes people advised against getting the court that he may not likely sleep in it but then, lets just get it. My wife went to the market to buy all these with her friend and she is a very prudent person. Like she bargains more than me. As for the pump, she ordered it so it was a fixed price, could have been the brand

Bed that you will put the baby and he wakes up immediately.

They ve not given birth to new baby madam have landed already.
WahLur

My dear try to call two of them, try to talk to them in politing and peaceful Mannar . Tell them that in this country right now is very scaring that everybody need to be managing things carefully. That this is the best time for you to save for your future children even the one you expecting this month . Try to convince them that things are very had now. Then if they fail to understand that , you need to act like a man . How , try to break the bond between your wife and the mother carefully .make your wife your best friend tell her your plan for your future kids in detail .this is a difficult task that you must continue reminding her anytime she misbehave ( your wife) but if you try your best to convince her and she fail to understand you. Try Blan B which is by fire by force ie anytime she go against your plan shout at her but later all you call tell that what you are doing is for better future for the family thanks

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Sit with your wife. Let her write out the expenses so far...


And write out the remaining things you need okay.
Please don't allow third party to divide you and your wife.


You can also just drive to the market and buy the remaining things.

Things aren't that costly tho.
Even in abuja 400,000 naira would get you all you need plus pay bills for normal delivery. Except, the target is to buy things for atleast 6monthe

Pecoleee345:


Guy don't waste money on buying babies things.....at the end you will dash it out.

Open an account for your baby and start saving up for him/her.

So make e no buy anything at all

Be wise! Do not go broke because you trying to meet up unnecessary demands. Google or make research on basics needed and follow your wife to market and buy. If you cant make sound decisions on what affects your finances and others, people who might not like you coming inform or inlaws or friends will help you make it, when you go broke or the decision fails they will drag you for the decision they help you make.
BE WISE!

Esthered:

I think it's your first hence the spending.
Why invest in a baby bed that the baby may not sleep in?
I'm comfortable stretching to reach my baby whom I share the bed with while husband puts up in another room.
Standing up can be so painful as it seems that my uterus and below wants to fall off let alone engorgement of my boobs due to excess bwest milk production. When baby wakes up, I reach out to her without leaving the bed to attend to her

and I delivered with no tear but the recovery pain no be here.
The breast pump of 50k, was it the best bargain for electric pump? I got for 35k or is it the brand?
Dear OP, please go to pregnancy thread and look up for a comprehensive list and go to the market yourself.
My husband assisted me to shop this time although mine is no 2.

Link to d pregnancy thread pls