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Should I Be Worried. by Gbadugbakun(m): 12:10pm On Feb 09 |
There's this girl I'm dating. So yesterday we talked about marriage and all that. She now told me that if we get married that she won't bear my name. That I should take note now. That she would continue to bear her father's name that all that name change things were for our parents that things have changed and the world has changed. She even called me an old school person who is still stuck in the past. That all over the world women no longer take the name of their husbands. I now asked her that who's surname would our kids answer. She flared up and told me to grow up stop disturbing her with childish questions. I decided to bring it here, because I want to know how the question I asked is childish? Because when I told my elder brother who is married he told me that it's an insult for a girl to reply me that way. What do you people think? Nlfpmod Seun Mynd44 rocktation nlfpmod help me with front page please. |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by Carcholce: 12:15pm On Feb 09 |
.. You need to be stripped naked and flogged for this post. .. 51 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by Gbadugbakun(m): 12:24pm On Feb 09 |
Carcholce:Has it become an offence to seek advise on Nairaland again? 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by Tallesty1(m): 12:30pm On Feb 09 |
Gbadugbakun:Nah you put am for table for discussion. Which kain yeye question is who's surname would our kids answer? Oga, if she can't take your name then let it go, I mean the relationship. 18 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by ogashman(m): 12:33pm On Feb 09 |
Gbadugbakun: The banny is subtly telling you that she would be the husband in ur marriage and u still never code 22 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by ogashman(m): 12:36pm On Feb 09 |
The girl doesn't regard u bro.... Ask her if she marry dangote or otedola, will she still maintain this her stand? 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by Coolsat(m): 12:58pm On Feb 09 |
Your elder brother was right 8 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by DaddyRochie1642: 1:04pm On Feb 09 |
You should be ashamed of yourself,.... It is very obvious that idiot of a girlfriend has no respect and regards for you, You are seeing it very clearly with your eyes and that your coconut head but you're here asking us stupid questions. If you marry that girl, you will regret marrying that girl, your marriage go dey very miserable. If she is not SUBMISSIVE and WILLING, kick her out... But I know you are afraid of her and scared of her. 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by MisterBanny(m): 1:06pm On Feb 09 |
Where una dey see all these kind girls from sef? Chai... Nawao.. that girl doesn't sound like someone who loves and respects you. I'm not even sure she is interested in marrying you in the first place. Just whiling time with you. Just be careful. If she can't completely change her surname, she could add your own name to her Names. This shouldn't be a problem. She insulted u by saying you asked childish questions 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by MisterBanny(m): 1:09pm On Feb 09 |
DaddyRochie1642: This is the comment I have been waiting for. You nailed it Bro. you just told him the Truth and God knows you have. That girl doesn't love her, no regards/respect whatsoever. It's saddening. How dare u say ur man asks childish questions? How dare you? I won't allow any girl try such with me. I don't even know where they get these kind of girls from 10 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by DaddyRochie1642: 1:22pm On Feb 09 |
MisterBanny: He is the type that does not want to offend his girlfriend, if I see any idiot that I call my friend that his woman controls and dictates to him, I will cut the baggar off because such men are very dangerous, all it takes is an order from their cursed wife/girlfriend to do something to you and he will do it inorder not to offend his woman. See the way the bloody idiot ran to nairaland to ask us stupid questions when the red flags are very obvious to his foolish eyes. I can bet you that his idiotic girlfriend probably has yansh/breast and he doesn't want to loose it I am waiting to see that woman that will come into my life to control and dictate to me how I should live, them no born that woman well. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by brain54(m): 1:37pm On Feb 09 |
Una dey ask question Sha... If it was in 1878 and I was in the village council I would have recommended you for flogging at the village square on a market day. Like 12 strokes for reset your thinking! 12 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by iLegendd(m): 1:43pm On Feb 09 |
People who create this kind of post on Nairaland always end it with, "I love her so much." Modify and add it. Lack of option is the reason she's treating you like that. 9 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by DiskJokeyManic: 1:44pm On Feb 09 |
Gbadugbakun: I feel like spitting on u๐๐๐๐ 5 Likes
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Re: Should I Be Worried. by Samuelojonla123(m): 1:53pm On Feb 09 |
Why will a girl be under my roof, I'm feeding her and footing her bills everyday and she says she can't bear my name.....Mr Man, you're a disgrace to the men. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by MisterBanny(m): 2:05pm On Feb 09 |
DaddyRochie1642: Thanks so much for this. I wish the OP would take this comment and counsel from you but trust me, he may not be a sensible and wise guy, so may not heed to this. |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by Blitzking: 2:19pm On Feb 09 |
Gbadugbakun:You children must bear your name alone..but if she is a professional she can bear her name and add your as the final like shukurat ADEYEMO BABANGIDA..SHE IS RETAINING HER FATHERS NAME ADEYEMO AND ADDING HER HUSBAND NAME BABANGIDA...IT CAN BE DIFFICULT TO CHANGE NAMES FOR AN EDUCATED WOMAN WHO IS WELL KNOWN AND HAS ACCOMPLISHED ALOT IN HER FATHERS NAME. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by talk2hb1(m): 2:58pm On Feb 09 |
Gbadugbakun: 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by superCleanworks(m): 3:07pm On Feb 09 |
Gbadugbakun:she thinks name change is OUTDATED but MARRIAGE is not outdated? Why can't she follow the NEW ERA TRENDS and be a baby mama? Your very own elder brother should have given you a nice slap before answering that question but you are still here asking questions. Na you be the woman for the relationship. She even flared up and called you childish at this stage over this? I am sure you even cried and apologised to her for ever suggesting such. seems we don't have up to 100 actual MEN in this world anymore. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by obinna58(m): 3:31pm On Feb 09 |
Sheโs a witch thatโll lead you to early grave If any woman refuses to act feminine, na witch she be 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by MEGA4BILLION(m): 4:13pm On Feb 09 |
Give her your own condition; All your properties will bear your name only and she has no right to it 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by zed7: 4:33pm On Feb 09 |
You're dating a teen or girl in her early 20's. Any mature girl saying this still has the mentality of a child. How long will you people keep being told that, nor be every woman dem dey marry. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by Therock5555(m): 5:04pm On Feb 09 |
Sometimes I wonder whether some people get brain or not, cause common sense suppose make you hide your shame small and not post this topic on NL. Now op what do you stand to gain being dragged around like generator rope? 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by alphaNomega: 6:36pm On Feb 09 |
Gbadugbakun: She was right when she told you things have changed. She should be ready to accept what comes with these new changes too. Most people lack the capacity to think that far which she clearly demonstrated by calling it childish questions. My argument is that this girl does not see you as a potential husband, if she does, she would change every letter of her names for that man. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by rocknation62(m): 6:39pm On Feb 09 |
Bringing this issue here is even childish 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by Aaaaarghmed(m): 6:57pm On Feb 09 |
Tell her to pay your grooms price and foot the wedding Bill's if that's what she wants.where una dey meet all this ode sef 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by Benbisco(f): 7:22pm On Feb 09 |
Gbadugbakun: This is not an issue na. When jungle mature........ My boss in the office was still bearing her father's name after more than 10yrs of marriage while the children were bearing the husband's surname. When Baba say him wan japa na then she begin ask how to go about name change so she fit apply for visa alongside the man and the children. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by MarketDispatch: 10:14pm On Feb 09 |
Gbadugbakun: Woman that is already giving you rules and regulations before you marry...seems you want her to turn you to Doormat....you better find another woman sharp sharp 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by DonroxyII: 8:16am On Feb 10 |
Therock5555:They Get Brain But Your Brain Could Only Process as Much as Her Civilisations Unfortunately if You ain't On Innovative Brain, You will Suffer cuz Your Civilisations can't have it all ! |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by DonroxyII: 9:58am On Feb 10 |
Gbadugbakun:It's not necessary she bear your surname that's the new school ... She is correct That your mental shores hasn't migrated to the new Civilisations.. you need to Upgrade bro & She has given you the Updates ... Otilor Niyen .... Men are Supposed to be Faster than their wife interms of Civilisations if not You already lose the home if she is more mentally Updated than You .... She will controlled the home with Feminine Instincts trust me ... Your home will run down on Emotions instead of Realities ! As for your Children, They will bear Your surname because Their Soul is Drawn from Your Ancestral Soul while Your wife only contributes parts of the Bodies ! 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by advanceDNA: 10:59am On Feb 10 |
Gbadugbakun: It's not a big deal to me.... It doesn't even mean anything but stress to be changing name on document, bank accounts, etc..... ..... Still u need to look out for other red flags ...is this name change issue an isolated case or she's someone that disagree with and challenge everything Then u will know she's not marriage material. A partner that will disagree and challenge everything just because they want to will give u headache in marriage 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Worried. by ProtonX: 11:08am On Feb 10 |
I don't see the problem? My wife now uses her father's name and mine together (hyphenated). It used to be just hers for the first decade in our marriage because it's incredibly challenging to do a name change when all your important documents carry a different name. She can bear whatever last name she so wishes. The kids bear yours. When we used to apply for visas, a marriage certificate was enough. 1 Like |
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