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Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by Pat081: 3:09pm On Jan 22, 2023
Shalommy:
This matter CHOKE!! What was the jobless man thinking when he entered the woman's kpekus? Let him carry his cross jare. Chairundecided
that is my point why it is that only the poor people always give birth to more children than the rich ones why can he or she do family planning to stop giving birth to children they all know that they can not take good care of them when they come 6 children b4 and twins are coming on the way that makes it 8 children with father and mother that is 10 in a family of a poor man and jobless wife

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Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by Lovelydaisies: 3:46pm On Jan 22, 2023
I don't have much experience yet but a lot of people seem to ignore natural family planning. If you don't go to your wife in her fertile period, she won't get pregnant. Period! Unless there are hormonal imbalances or something, for me, natural family planning is the best.

The woman and her husband can apply it and forget about contraceptives because they too can fail! Couples need to learn/practice abstinence in certain periods of the month - for avoidance of pregnancy and effective planning and child spacing. It's not always sex! It's not impossible to do it.

Now, she's getting 8 children on a whole. God will provide for them but what has happened, has happened. They have to look for ways to improve their income, enroll their kids in school or in trades, so as to keep them busy and educated.

Education is the way, it's power. If they knew about effective child spacing (since the one she tried caused her to bleed), this problem wouldn't be here.

May God bless and provide for them. And they shouldn't try abortion at all.
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by cliqtips: 3:51pm On Jan 22, 2023
gaby:


That was even an insult to monkeys because they are way smarter than you are.

Accept my apologies monkeys.

You are a numbskull.

Rest nau..
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by gaby(m): 3:53pm On Jan 22, 2023
cliqtips:


Rest nau..

Okay.
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by ekems2017(f): 5:15pm On Jan 22, 2023
Where is her location? If she's in Abuja I can help her with a little food stuffs.





UnfairLife7:
My pregnant neighbour has been so restless and sick having discovered she's carry twin


This neighbour of mine is pregnant with 6 other kids. She has been finding it difficult to feed her family including her 6 children. Her husband is an electrician and plumber but he hasn't been getting job inorder to take care of his family. The children had been out of school for several years

I live with my aunt who's a widow. I saw my aunt stressed out yesterday and worried and i was wondering what could be the problem. She was the one who told me about the woman predicament. My aunt has emptied her little foodstuffs because of this woman and her children. My aunt is just a poor widow who's managing herself and kids but she can't stand the sight of this woman and her children hungry.

My aunt told me the woman's friend advice her to inject the pregnancy through abortion. She's six months gone and according to those her friends even nine months pregnancy can be aborted provided she has the money and her state of mind is willing to not forceful

According to her friends, they felt that's the best decision she could consider due to her condition. She cannot even feed the ones on ground, they are not going to school and she's still carry twin right in her womb. She hasn't gotten any baby things. It was my aunt that took her for antenatal when the pregnancy was in 4 months stage. She has been so confused on what to do. My aunt wasn't in support of it though, same time she doesn't have money to support her and her children.

Nigeria isn't saner climes where government support the less privileges. She will be having 8 children in total if she chose not to abort it. What will become the fate of these innocent children? How will she survive with these children in Nigeria? She fainted yesterday and was rushed to the hospital. It was confirmed that she has been thinking so much and she doesn't eat well. This has affected her health conditions.

Her family and that of the husband had been so helpful according to her and it has really taken a toll on them. She even lost one of her uncle who has been supportive. This woman is sad, she's broken and shattered into pieces. I'm even scared of her life because she's not getting good medical attention for her condition. She doesn't eat well for herself and the foetus. I'm even bothered about her life, I sincerely hope all what she's going through wouldn't tell on her on the day of delivery.

Please what's your advice for this woman and her family
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by UnfairLife7(m): 5:16pm On Jan 22, 2023
ekems2017:
Where is her location? If she's in Abuja I can help her with a little food stuffs.





She's in Lagos
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by ekems2017(f): 5:23pm On Jan 22, 2023
Eya I can't help then. Am in Abuja and would have loved to help but the distance. God will send her help.


UnfairLife7:
She's in Lagos
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by omoharry(f): 6:58pm On Jan 22, 2023
UnfairLife7:
My pregnant neighbour has been so restless and sick having discovered she's carry twin


This neighbour of mine is pregnant with 6 other kids. She has been finding it difficult to feed her family including her 6 children. Her husband is an electrician and plumber but he hasn't been getting job inorder to take care of his family. The children had been out of school for several years

I live with my aunt who's a widow. I saw my aunt stressed out yesterday and worried and i was wondering what could be the problem. She was the one who told me about the woman predicament. My aunt has emptied her little foodstuffs because of this woman and her children. My aunt is just a poor widow who's managing herself and kids but she can't stand the sight of this woman and her children hungry.

My aunt told me the woman's friend advice her to inject the pregnancy through abortion. She's six months gone and according to those her friends even nine months pregnancy can be aborted provided she has the money and her state of mind is willing to not forceful

According to her friends, they felt that's the best decision she could consider due to her condition. She cannot even feed the ones on ground, they are not going to school and she's still carry twin right in her womb. She hasn't gotten any baby things. It was my aunt that took her for antenatal when the pregnancy was in 4 months stage. She has been so confused on what to do. My aunt wasn't in support of it though, same time she doesn't have money to support her and her children.

Nigeria isn't saner climes where government support the less privileges. She will be having 8 children in total if she chose not to abort it. What will become the fate of these innocent children? How will she survive with these children in Nigeria? She fainted yesterday and was rushed to the hospital. It was confirmed that she has been thinking so much and she doesn't eat well. This has affected her health conditions.

Her family and that of the husband had been so helpful according to her and it has really taken a toll on them. She even lost one of her uncle who has been supportive. This woman is sad, she's broken and shattered into pieces. I'm even scared of her life because she's not getting good medical attention for her condition. She doesn't eat well for herself and the foetus. I'm even bothered about her life, I sincerely hope all what she's going through wouldn't tell on her on the day of delivery.

Please what's your advice for this woman and her family
She can give the twins up for adoption. They will be better off with an Ok family that can take care of them rather than with them that cannot feed themselves.Adoption to me is the best at the moment . Tell her to think about it very well, then go ahead to discuss it with her husband. if he is ok with it ,then they can both make arrangements with a govt agency in Nigeria that is responsible for this kind of things.

As for the two careless neighbors.. next time they should apply measures to prevent this kind of expensive mistake .. The stupid man in question should try and apply withdrawal method during sex and the women should go for family planing.
Even normal middle class family with only two children are managing to keep head above water and one begins to wonder if these kind of men think of the consequences of having unprotected sex without considering the consequences of their actions .
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by achimendy(m): 8:14pm On Jan 22, 2023
UnfairLife7:
My pregnant neighbour has been so restless and sick having discovered she's carry twin


This neighbour of mine is pregnant with 6 other kids. She has been finding it difficult to feed her family including her 6 children. Her husband is an electrician and plumber but he hasn't been getting job inorder to take care of his family. The children had been out of school for several years

I live with my aunt who's a widow. I saw my aunt stressed out yesterday and worried and i was wondering what could be the problem. She was the one who told me about the woman predicament. My aunt has emptied her little foodstuffs because of this woman and her children. My aunt is just a poor widow who's managing herself and kids but she can't stand the sight of this woman and her children hungry.

My aunt told me the woman's friend advice her to inject the pregnancy through abortion. She's six months gone and according to those her friends even nine months pregnancy can be aborted provided she has the money and her state of mind is willing to not forceful

According to her friends, they felt that's the best decision she could consider due to her condition. She cannot even feed the ones on ground, they are not going to school and she's still carry twin right in her womb. She hasn't gotten any baby things. It was my aunt that took her for antenatal when the pregnancy was in 4 months stage. She has been so confused on what to do. My aunt wasn't in support of it though, same time she doesn't have money to support her and her children.

Nigeria isn't saner climes where government support the less privileges. She will be having 8 children in total if she chose not to abort it. What will become the fate of these innocent children? How will she survive with these children in Nigeria? She fainted yesterday and was rushed to the hospital. It was confirmed that she has been thinking so much and she doesn't eat well. This has affected her health conditions.

Her family and that of the husband had been so helpful according to her and it has really taken a toll on them. She even lost one of her uncle who has been supportive. This woman is sad, she's broken and shattered into pieces. I'm even scared of her life because she's not getting good medical attention for her condition. She doesn't eat well for herself and the foetus. I'm even bothered about her life, I sincerely hope all what she's going through wouldn't tell on her on the day of delivery.

Please what's your advice for this woman and her family


First of all the husband is very stupid, he doesn't have the financial strength to take care of the children on ground and he's still impregnating his wife.

As for the pregnant woman, she or her friends should reach out to her church or NGO's that can help.
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by achimendy(m): 8:17pm On Jan 22, 2023
Shalommy:
This matter CHOKE!! What was the jobless man thinking when he entered the woman's kpekus? Let him carry his cross jare. Chaii undecided

From the look of things you'll know the man is not financially responsible.

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Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by achimendy(m): 8:19pm On Jan 22, 2023
Zonefree:
As long as the husband is alive, you and your aunt should stop worrying and interfering.

When they were knacking, what are they expecting? Plasma TV
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by achimendy(m): 8:19pm On Jan 22, 2023
Zonefree:
As long as the husband is alive, you and your aunt should stop worrying and interfering.

When they were knacking, what are they expecting? Plasma TV


Hahahahahahahaha
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by moneymagnetca: 8:32pm On Jan 22, 2023
UnfairLife7:
My pregnant neighbour has been so restless and sick having discovered she's carry twin


This neighbour of mine is pregnant with 6 other kids. She has been finding it difficult to feed her family including her 6 children. Her husband is an electrician and plumber but he hasn't been getting job inorder to take care of his family. The children had been out of school for several years

I live with my aunt who's a widow. I saw my aunt stressed out yesterday and worried and i was wondering what could be the problem. She was the one who told me about the woman predicament. My aunt has emptied her little foodstuffs because of this woman and her children. My aunt is just a poor widow who's managing herself and kids but she can't stand the sight of this woman and her children hungry.

My aunt told me the woman's friend advice her to inject the pregnancy through abortion. She's six months gone and according to those her friends even nine months pregnancy can be aborted provided she has the money and her state of mind is willing to not forceful

According to her friends, they felt that's the best decision she could consider due to her condition. She cannot even feed the ones on ground, they are not going to school and she's still carry twin right in her womb. She hasn't gotten any baby things. It was my aunt that took her for antenatal when the pregnancy was in 4 months stage. She has been so confused on what to do. My aunt wasn't in support of it though, same time she doesn't have money to support her and her children.

Nigeria isn't saner climes where government support the less privileges. She will be having 8 children in total if she chose not to abort it. What will become the fate of these innocent children? How will she survive with these children in Nigeria? She fainted yesterday and was rushed to the hospital. It was confirmed that she has been thinking so much and she doesn't eat well. This has affected her health conditions.

Her family and that of the husband had been so helpful according to her and it has really taken a toll on them. She even lost one of her uncle who has been supportive. This woman is sad, she's broken and shattered into pieces. I'm even scared of her life because she's not getting good medical attention for her condition. She doesn't eat well for herself and the foetus. I'm even bothered about her life, I sincerely hope all what she's going through wouldn't tell on her on the day of delivery.

Please what's your advice for this woman and her family

Location of this family?
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by UnfairLife7(m): 8:51pm On Jan 22, 2023
moneymagnetca:


Location of this family?
Lagos, along Agbara
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by UnfairLife7(m): 8:55pm On Jan 22, 2023
achimendy:


From the look of things you'll know the man is not financially responsible.
he doesn't have the financial strength to cater for his family. He doesn't get job often
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by Jesterinjay: 9:07pm On Jan 22, 2023
Mindlog:


It is nothing new in some communities. Way back I had a coursemate in the Uni, his nephew is older than him and 2 years ahead of us in school. My coursemate's mother' was pregnant with him when she went for omugwo for her granddaughter/his niece. So both nephew and niece are older than their uncle. The shock that went through me! shocked shocked cheesy cheesy
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Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by Rechargeam247(f): 12:19pm On Jan 23, 2023
Richy4:


Those days have gone dear... It's now Good and well trained Children are God's gift...so many children nowadays are potential menace to the society If they were not well trained..

๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„Well God doesn't give bad children, if a child turns out bad, the parents didn't do their homework well.
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by DoingBetter: 9:11pm On Jan 23, 2023
It's good that people are offering help but there's also one โ˜๏ธ more thing. A kind person should help talk to the man about vasectomy. He should also be taught proper sex education other wise he's going to get her pregnant ๐Ÿคฐ again Before the six months period for the sperm test after the vasectomy.

Men can also take the step of being responsible For family planning, especially in this case when his wife has a negative reaction to it. Truth be told, it's actually easier and safer for him than for her. He can still enjoy sex but won't get her knocked up again. Win-win for them. Plus it's a 30-minute outpatient procedure.

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Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by Klass99(f): 9:18pm On Jan 23, 2023
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Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by achimendy(m): 11:52pm On Jan 23, 2023
UnfairLife7:
he doesn't have the financial strength to cater for his family. He doesn't get job often

Exactly.....
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by UnfairLife7(m): 5:32am On Jan 24, 2023
ekems2017:
Eya I can't help then. Am in Abuja and would have loved to help but the distance. God will send her help.


Amen
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by Davidnc92: 12:45pm On Jan 24, 2023
Give the kids up for adoption if possible in Nigeria instead of aborting them.
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by cocolacec(m): 4:21pm On Jan 24, 2023
UnfairLife7:
please how do i go about this?


Try make a video about the family's present situation tag bloggers,put on nairaland.Well meaning Nigerians and Govt might help the children with schooling and the parents with jobs.
Besides I can find someone to adopt the twins,if they want to give them up.The best way is to seek help first.
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by Kobojunkiee: 9:26pm On Jan 24, 2023
IamAsiri:
โ–  OP said the woman previously had family planning in place before she started bleeding and eventually had to remove it. I want to believe that it is the husband's fault as he did not protect her with condoms during the dangerous period till she could have found a safer family planning alternative.
1. If she had it removed, common sense would be she would need another one. At what point did she get this family planning? After 6 kids? The two of them are at fault abeg! undecided
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by IamAsiri: 5:34am On Jan 25, 2023
Kobojunkiee:
1. If she had it removed, common sense would be she would need another one. At what point did she get this family planning? After 6 kids? The two of them are at fault abeg! undecided

I guess you don't know how some Nigerian men think and act. Not totally absolving her of the fault but some women do get forced to have sex by their husbands even when they don't want to.

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Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by Kobojunkiee: 4:07pm On Jan 25, 2023
IamAsiri:
โ– I guess you don't know how some Nigerian men think and act.
โ– Not totally absolving her of the fault but some women do get forced to have sex by their husbands even when they don't want to.
1.Women are not mindless, brainless, bodies. They too are quite capable of thought and logic. undecided

2. If she was forced, the law is there to make sure the culprit does not get away with such acts of violation. Look, I know you think you are helping but you are not at all. That couple needs to be reported to the authorities and fast. Those children are humans โ€” mind, body, and soul โ€” just like you. undecided
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by IamAsiri: 4:20pm On Jan 25, 2023
Kobojunkiee:
1.Women are not mindless, brainless, bodies. They too are quite capable of thought and logic. undecided

2. If she was forced, the law is there to make sure the culprit does not get away with such acts of violation. Look, I know you think you are helping but you are not at all. That couple needs to be reported to the authorities and fast. Those children are humans โ€” mind, body, and soul โ€” just like you. undecided


Unfortunately, what is obtainable in the States and other developed countries is not obtainable, really, here in Nigeria. Many women to endure so many unspeakable things in the name of marriage.
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by Kobojunkiee: 5:06pm On Jan 25, 2023
IamAsiri:
Unfortunately, what is obtainable in the States and other developed countries is not obtainable, really, here in Nigeria. Many women to endure so many unspeakable things in the name of marriage.
Because many women choose to ignore the law. Go up to the Northern states and you will find that despite Sharia laws, women there actually have and take advantage of their rights in marriage. So, why can't I expect a woman living right in same Nigeria to stand up for herself? She is not brain-dead and not a victim in this at all. undecided
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by IamAsiri: 8:23pm On Jan 25, 2023
Kobojunkiee:
Because many women choose to ignore the law. Go up to the Northern states and you will find that despite Sharia laws, women there actually have and take advantage of their rights in marriage. So, why can't I expect a woman living right in same Nigeria to stand up for herself? She is not brain-dead and not a victim in this at all. undecided

Okay then.
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by Obierika(m): 3:41pm On Sep 26, 2023
Tk4all:
I think she should go with the abortion option.

6 children in our present naija no be small thing.

Abortion at 6 months?! shocked
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by henrimoto(m): 10:11am On Sep 27, 2023
@Unfairlife7. What's the update on this your neighbor's wife ? She go don deliver by now..
Re: My Pregnant Neighbour Has Been Restless Because She's Carrying Twin by UnfairLife7(m): 5:16pm On Mar 02
henrimoto:
@Unfairlife7. What's the update on this your neighbor's wife ? She go don deliver by now..
Yes. She put to bed last year December but lost one of the child.

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