Good day all, please I need ur advice

I’m the only bachelor in my neighborhood, three rented apartments. I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home. They always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs.

One of them, her husband is not always around. He goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me in conversation any little chance she finds me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too.

I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution.

The other lady is here with her husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally. It happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor's house to ask her if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives.

On our way going the husband was coming back home, he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she dares disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it.

A this point, I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s mwife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this)? The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action?

Matured advice please.

Guy be calming down ...
No need stressing yourself.


Everything will work itself out.

I believe you are a fine guy and you appear successful but pls be wise o, you may be on your right to go ahead with using legal actions against the husband but pls sir as a single guy you are quite a very ignorant person.... with all the sexcapades gist on the internet involving neighbours and such. Not every good deed is a favor, some do it to gain access to you.

LEARN TO READ YOUR ENVIRONMENT.... e get why o.

Is it that you don't know how to clean your own surroundings? or how to not answer when they come knocking? or how to end unnecessary conversations?

BECAUSE, AT THE END OF THE DAY, YOU WILL BE BLAMED.......... This is why most landlords do not like to give SINGLE FOLKS a chance to rent their house because of avoidable nonsense like these.

Is ANY HELP FOR FREE IN NIGERIA? Didnt you see the signs........ you just FELT they were being NICE? Nice? in this country? Pls have more wisdom next time, any married woman whose husband is not always available for her, is a walking risk. YOU HAVE TO BE CAREFUL....

It may be wise to get a GIRLFRIEND or your sister or someone whom everyone can see with you and they will have to back off.

or, you can as well move out of the house.

or go and get married.

Another one that works is GETTING A RING.... wear it when you are about entering the house or going out... or when you have to engage anyone there in conversations... if they ask, say you are married and she is a daughter of the native herbalist in your village, that she will soon come (sounds like joke but it works o) WATCH HOW YOU WILL BE AVOIDED....

But remember, the MORE YOU TRY TO EXPLAIN YOURSELF OUT OF SUCH STICKY SITUATIONS WITHOUT EVIDENCE..... the more guilty and unbelieved you will be in the eyes and ears of everyone.

Letuspray4niger:
Good day all, please I need ur advice I’m the only bachelor in my neighbourhood three rented apartments , I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home, they always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs, one of them, her husband is not always around he goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me on conversation any little chance she fines me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too, I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution.

The other lady is here with here husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally it happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor house to ask the if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives on our way going the husband was coming back home he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she there disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation ? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it, at this point I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s wife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this ??

The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action, Matured advice please.

Just bone the matter since you don already word am, just take precautions on how you relate with the lady going forward, anything more than the regular morning and night greeting should be cut off

Just pack out. From now on they will keep suspecting u.

Pack out if you love your life oh.

For the sake of your sanity, leave that place. Park!

1. Did you or did you not?
2. Why not stop / stay clear?

This is what you'll do . Go on a hunger strike and take a vow that you will neithr eat nor drink until you get a girl to live with you in your apartment and marry her in within 14days of that .

When they see this ,they will free you

Married woman couldnt describe barber's place for you, but prefare to walk you down to his place like Tommy & Jerry in the streets that you & the couple staying as neighbors.

The act rubbishes her husband's virtues as a man already, even if you didn't have ulterior motive.

I doubt if you guys normally thinking what people would be thinking and saying when dealing with someone husband/wife

The husband instructed her not to tell u, even with the threat of sending her out. And she still had the guts to come to ur door at 11:30 pm to inform u what the husband said? Ashawo dey una 2 eye!

just stop talking to them , including husband and wife. Don't even greet their children again.

luvgurl:
The husband instructed her not to tell u, even with the threat of sending her out. And she still had the guts to come to ur door at 11:30 pm to inform u what the husband said? Ashawo dey una 2 eye!

Don’t mind the two idiots. They are claiming ignorant of what they’re doing, but they’re acting like babies and luring eachother to bed. Idiots are what they are.

Women-whether single or married, hardly cook for a single man just for the fun of it.It's always a subtle greenlight of seduction.Believe me!

Those of you advising the op to pack out,i believe you think it's that easy.You seldom consider whether the op can afford to or not.Besides,there's no arguing that if you quit a rented apartment/property of your own volition,you automatically forfeits your balance and probably won't ever get a refund.Moreover,what is the guaranty that the op would not encounter a similar situation elsewhere.Best thing is for op to start minding his business henceforth.

Letuspray4niger:
Good day all, please I need ur advice I’m the only bachelor in my neighborhood three rented apartments , I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home, they always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs, one of them, her husband is not always around he goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me on conversation any little chance she fines me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too, I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution. The other lady is here with here husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally it happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor house to ask the if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives on our way going the husband was coming back home he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she there disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation ? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it, at this point I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s wife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this ?? The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action, Matured advice please.

..Guy you dey wrong..Of all the people you took someone’s wife to look for barber,be honest if it was you would you be ok seeing your wife in someone’s car while you walking home?..Don’t do that again and if no be longthroat dey do you Na married woman food you wan chop or you no get babe?When the man finds it you even dey chop food your own done finish.

Letuspray4niger:
Good day all, please I need ur advice I’m the only bachelor in my neighborhood three rented apartments , I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home, they always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs, one of them, her husband is not always around he goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me on conversation any little chance she fines me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too, I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution. The other lady is here with here husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally it happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor house to ask the if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives on our way going the husband was coming back home he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she there disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation ? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it, at this point I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s wife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this ?? The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action, Matured advice please.

Let me advice you as a married man and as someone who lives in shared compound with families, also as someone whose wife likes to cook and share for neighbors including the bachelor in our compound, this is what you should be doing from now henceforth, REDUCE ALL CONVERSATIONS TO GREETINGS ONLY, smile when u greet and try to be the one to greet first, the reason why u should smile, is so that nobody will ask you if you are keeping malice, joke with the kids in the compound occasionally, but dont let them get too close, and if you hear knock on your door or call from your neighbors decide when u feel like answering, follow you instincts from now on, save up build your house or leave that area when you can.

Haaa

OP, you should learn how to cook or invite your female friends to cook for you. Taking a legal action is also a dumb move to make.

Y'all suggesting he packs dey vex me.

Maka why? Packing gon make him look guilty.

I'm not friendly to my single female neighbours. Why should I be to the married female ones?

Detach yourself from the woman and man. And for the kids, you can still get them stuffs during children's day and birthdays...or better stay indifferent.

Wahala! The man is doing you a favour by advising you to leave his wife and go and get your own wife. Some men would have attacked you without warning. It's also obvious that you don't have a girlfriend. Try by getting a girlfriend so you can leave people's wives alone.

Tell him to provide evidence unless you will sue him....

Are you Yoruba or is she yoruba? I want to know what really happened. If yes. Then forget story and go and sin no more.

Ok

Noted.

Did you, or did you not?

In your mind of minds, you know of you're guilty

I am going to be sincere with you..You are actually enjoying the company and everything that comes with it. You may not have any emotional attachment but the truth is that if you keep entertaining such "coincidences" and free meals, you may find yourself in a position you did not envisaged.

Imagine being the shoulder they cry on when they have issues in their marriages. Your shoulders must be very broad i guess.

Put up a straight face and be very official.Yell the husband that nothing is happening between you guys and dare to cut off all excesses.

.if you are not guilty it shouldn’t bothered you.

Also since he didn’t confront you directly it shouldn’t bother you and you shouldn’t go an confront the man.

The man only suspect it and trying to use reverse psychology on the wife interrogation. The wife is the one who blown it our of proportion. It should be family matter

Fvck the promiscuous wife and move out of that house 😈