Letuspray4niger:
Good day all, please I need ur advice

I’m the only bachelor in my neighborhood, three rented apartments. I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home. They always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs.

One of them, her husband is not always around. He goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me in conversation any little chance she finds me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too.

I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution.

The other lady is here with her husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally. It happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor's house to ask her if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives.

On our way going the husband was coming back home, he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she dares disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it.

A this point, I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s mwife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this)? The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action?

Matured advice please.

Ole, barawo....you are romancing with somebody's wife and you expect him not to talk. The only advice I have for you is to mind your business or relocate. You can never have a good relationship with both family anymore.

Why should you be walking on the streets with another man wife, you don't have sense, can't you respect your self.

I am a Christian but i will give it to the Muslims when it comes to putting boundaries for married women. it is difficult to see married Muslim women relating with men the way christian married women do. How will somebody who is not the husband or brother of the woman feel comfortable mingling with her. Thank your God say no be Muslim woman you they do that nonsense with, you for don they somewhere by now.

Receiving food and gifts from them ain't bad, avoid walking the neighborhood with them.

For now keep your cool, taking it too far would make the husband feel you're trying to protect his wife which doesn't look good.

6 feets is waiting for u . How dare u give someone's wife a lift ? U must be a fool ! How dare u agreed for a married woman to see u off to where the barber is ? U deserves death. U met a peaceful man

greatefa1011:
I see say Monkey dey work baboon dey chop.
Legal or not cat and fish in same basket mean alot. Next time no do bros. Avoid married women whose husband are not available especially. God loves you for exposing the issue.
That word "don't tell him means alot". Secondly, the woman who cried out understood her husband better. Them for just kpai you with that food shikena. End of story.
It's a lesson though. Back in our school days eating girls food na cruise.😃😃😃

Please read well, I’m not eating her food

Pzpropertylimit:
6 feets is waiting for u . How dare u give someone's wife a lift ? U must be a fool ! How dare u agreed for a married woman to see u off to where the barber is ? U deserves death. U met a peaceful man

U have not said any reasonable

Pascal9:
Why should you be walking on the streets with another man wife, you don't have sense, can't you respect your self.

Thank you

bolabadmus38:
You needn't to be too close to a married women. You are even lucky you are not attacked physically. Learn to distance married women if you want to live long. Some women can be interested in you while you are innocent which may destroy you. Don't be close to married women. Some of them are dangerous.

Thanks 🙏

Iamicekid:
Just bone the matter since you don already word am, just take precautions on how you relate with the lady going forward, anything more than the regular morning and night greeting should be cut off

Thanks bro

Fiscus105:
Married woman couldnt describe barber's place for you, but prefare to walk you down to his place like Tommy & Jerry in the streets that 3 of you staying as neighbors.

The act rubbishes her husband's virtues as a man already, even if you didn't have ulterior motive.

I doubt if you guys normally thinking what people would be thinking and saying when dealing with someone husband/wife

I regretted my actions

Letuspray4niger:
Good day all, please I need ur advice

I’m the only bachelor in my neighborhood, three rented apartments. I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home. They always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs.

One of them, her husband is not always around. He goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me in conversation any little chance she finds me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too.

I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution.

The other lady is here with her husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally. It happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor's house to ask her if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives.

On our way going the husband was coming back home, he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she dares disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it.

A this point, I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s mwife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this)? The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action?

Matured advice please.

Legal action ke.
Try dey rest. You aren't the only bachelor in the midst of married people.

You clearly don't have boundaries.
Set boundaries and stick to principles..

Dzzzz:
..Guy you dey wrong..Of all the people you took someone’s wife to look for barber,be honest if it was you would you be ok seeing your wife in someone’s car while you walking home?..Don’t do that again and if no be longthroat dey do you Na married woman food you wan chop or you no get babe?When the man finds it you even dey chop food your own done finish.

Read well pls, I’m not eating her food

makapella:
I am going to be sincere with you..You are actually enjoying the company and everything that comes with it. You may not have any emotional attachment but the truth is that if you keep entertaining such "coincidences" and free meals, you may find yourself in a position you did not envisaged.

Imagine being the shoulder they cry on when they have issues in their marriages. Your shoulders must be very broad i guess.

Put up a straight face and be very official.Yell the husband that nothing is happening between you guys and dare to cut off all excesses.

Thank you bro I appreciate ur response

GenFunction:
While looking 4 dis barber,did u guys hold hands?

Ans this question, very important

SpecialAdviser:
Taking a legal action will compound the issue at hand and I can bet you if the man is strong you will regret going that way. You were the one who losened your guard flirting with married woman.

Is she your wife? Why receiving food from her? Dey play

Please read well I’m eating her food

Letuspray4niger:



Read well pls, I’m not eating her food

(Make I no lie I need the food cause I no sabi cook)Shey no be you talk this one??..

Letuspray4niger:
Good day all, please I need ur advice

I’m the only bachelor in my neighborhood, three rented apartments. I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home. They always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs.

One of them, her husband is not always around. He goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me in conversation any little chance she finds me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too.

I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution.

The other lady is here with her husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally. It happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor's house to ask her if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives.

On our way going the husband was coming back home, he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she dares disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it.

A this point, I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s mwife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this)? The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action?

Matured advice please.

Abeg let the sleeping dog lie.
Avoid any interaction with the wives let alone giving them lift.
Some married women nowadays hmm.

Ebubu2:


Don’t mind the two idiots. They are claiming ignorant of what they’re doing, but they’re acting like babies and luring eachother to bed. Idiots are what they are.

That's it!

The apartment right behind ours is occupied by a bachelor. I hardly see my neighbors. The guy right beside us, I've not seen him this year, I no get time abeg. Even when my baby said he gave some money, I didn't look for him to say thank you, the thank you from my baby is enough. So I'll return from work, then the next thing is leading one JJC bachelor neighbor to a barber's place?? Ah it's funny! Na women who have nothing doing dey get time for all those kain rubbish. If workaholic was a person, it'd be me. I'm sure for a moment, my neighbors would think I'm arrogant because I don't mix. I mind my business a lot.

Letuspray4niger:
Good day all, please I need ur advice

I’m the only bachelor in my neighborhood, three rented apartments. I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home. They always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs.

One of them, her husband is not always around. He goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me in conversation any little chance she finds me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too.

I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution.

The other lady is here with her husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally. It happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor's house to ask her if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives.

On our way going the husband was coming back home, he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she dares disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it.

A this point, I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s mwife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this)? The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action?

Matured advice please.

This is very wrong. You went too far with this. What would you think, if you see a bachelor who's a neighbour walking with your wife to go find a barber? Perception is deeper than reality.


Keep away from them completely or leave the compound - so you'll not get harmed.

blackpanthar:
I believe you are a fine guy and you appear successful but pls be wise o, you may be on your right to go ahead with using legal actions against the husband but pls sir as a single guy you are quite a very ignorant person.... with all the sexcapades gist on the internet involving neighbours and such. Not every good deed is a favor, some do it to gain access to you.

LEARN TO READ YOUR ENVIRONMENT.... e get why o.

Is it that you don't know how to clean your own surroundings? or how to not answer when they come knocking? or how to end unnecessary conversations?

BECAUSE, AT THE END OF THE DAY, YOU WILL BE BLAMED.......... This is why most landlords do not like to give SINGLE FOLKS a chance to rent their house because of avoidable nonsense like these.

Is ANY HELP FOR FREE IN NIGERIA? Didnt you see the signs........ you just FELT they were being NICE? Nice? in this country? Pls have more wisdom next time, any married woman whose husband is not always available for her, is a walking risk. YOU HAVE TO BE CAREFUL....

It may be wise to get a GIRLFRIEND or your sister or someone whom everyone can see with you and they will have to back off.

or, you can as well move out of the house.

or go and get married.

Another one that works is GETTING A RING.... wear it when you are about entering the house or going out... or when you have to engage anyone there in conversations... if they ask, say you are married and she is a daughter of the native herbalist in your village, that she will soon come (sounds like joke but it works o) WATCH HOW YOU WILL BE AVOIDED....

But remember, the MORE YOU TRY TO EXPLAIN YOURSELF OUT OF SUCH STICKY SITUATIONS WITHOUT EVIDENCE..... the more guilty and unbelieved you will be in the eyes and ears of everyone.

He thinks he is the only successful bachelor around married families yen yen yen, you can’t cook, they are been nice.
When you pick the married woman in your car, which position she used to sit, eeh fine boy?

placeofallure:


That's it!

The apartment right behind ours is occupied by a bachelor. I hardly see my neighbors. The guy right beside us, I've not seen him this year, I no get time abeg. Even when my baby said he gave some money, I didn't look for him to say thank you, the thank you from my baby is enough. So I'll return from work, then the next thing is leading one JJC bachelor neighbor to a barber's place?? Ah it's funny! Na women who have nothing doing dey get time for all those kain rubbish. If workaholic was a person, it'd be me. I'm sure for a moment, my neighbors would think I'm arrogant because I don't mix. I mind my business a lot.

That one escorting a bachelor to a barber's place is something else.


If I come to my compound, I go to my flat, lock the door and I come out when I'm going to work or some other places. No talking, I just greet and pass.

My married neighbour would want to see me or borrow money, I don't give her face. Why married woman go de ask neighbour for money? Women have lost it.

If my wife takes food to a single bachelor in my hood, she goes her papa house with that man.
A lot of things show you and the woman are evil

BALLOSKI:
That one escorting a bachelor to a barber's place is something else.


If I come to my compound, I go to my flat, lock the door and I come out when I'm going to work or some other places. No talking, I just greet and pass.

My married neighbour would want to see me or borrow money, I don't give her face. Why married woman go de ask neighbour for money? Women have lost it.

Exactly me, I avoided my married neighbors that year like plague, now I am married. I made people to avoid my property too because atleast they know I don’t talk much but action man

aikyg:
Wahala! The man is doing you a favour by advising you to leave his wife and go and get your own wife. Some men would have attacked you without warning. It's also obvious that you don't have a girlfriend. Try by getting a girlfriend so you can leave people's wives alone.

Nack him brain shot, or pin his leg so he learn the hard way..
Get girlfriend wey fine and use her pepper your neighbor, stop shinning teeth with your neighbors wife.. them go kpai you

jaymichael:
You have made your grievance known and you have stated in clear terms that you are not sleeping with the wife. Let the matter slide. You will gain nothing from the legal case even if you win.
Just keep the good neighbourly relationship.
Good luck.

Thanks bro

I see comment of single people begging OP not to sue and there about 🤣. If I was that man, my problem with you will start the moment you confronted me, be you who, I will mess you up in a way you can’t forget. Im telling you from street knowledge, your billions or contacts will not matter then.
Op woman are Idol, when a man marry them desist and run for your life.
If you never touch that women, you already emphasizing how to do that..
Man and woman don’t have any friendship, don’t do this with well to do young boys that spend hard to maintain family, them go kpai you and no one will know

Forget all the legal shit. You are too cute to be single go and marry....all the problem will go away.

imagrg:
Pack out if you love your life oh.

Just like that? As if he plug money from a tree

Pennywise2:
Just pack out. From now on they will keep suspecting u.

Just like that? Nigeria and advice

KBORN:
Women-whether single or married, hardly cook for a single man just for the fun of it.It's always a subtle greenlight of seduction.Believe me!

Nonsense talk

Letuspray4niger
When you're dealing with married women, be very careful. (Proverbs 27:12)

You can lie to the married woman that some anonymous men came to threaten you that someone in the come one in the compound claimed you're touching his wife, that you don't want to end up 6 feet under or in General Hospital.

You can even hire people for that role, but endeavor that hey enter your flat and warn you, lest people accuse you of being a wife snatcher.

The husband that warned you may be suspicious but I doubt he thinks you've actually slept with his wife. That's why he does not want you to inform her.

Don't call a lawyer. You may put her into trouble.