Tallesty1:

Once the event is intriguing enough to grab your attention, it will stick. There are things I will talk about, and my mom will be like, 'But you are not supposed to remember that.'

Well, I remember because of the emotional significance attached to it.

I hope you have a forgiven spirit sha


Because e no go funny.

That incident was even between her and a younger aunty. I even mentioned what the aunty was holding in her hand.

Hahahaaha. I know why you asked, but I do. The problem is when people do not give me a proper apology. If there is any trace of gaslighting or mansplaining in it, I get angrier. He used to do it unconsciously until he realised it only made things worse.

pocohantas:


That incident was even between her and a younger aunty. I even mentiones what the aunty was holding in her hand.

Hahahaaha. I know why you asked that, but I do. The problem is when people no not give me a proper apology. If there is any trace of gaslighting or mansplaining in it, I get angrier. He used to do it unconsciously until he realised it only made things worse.

Nah the tiny details will make her believe you.

Like when I talked to Mom about a certain burial, she didn't believe until I told her that there was too much stew on the rice the kids were served because the rice burn. She shock.

Ehena, before someone starts saying, 'On this minute last year, you did this,' or 'This day, and on this hour that year, you also did this.'

How do you prefer your apology? Verbally or through action?

Please note that both is not available in the options..

Tallesty1:

Nah the tiny details will make her believe you.

Like when I talked to Mom about a certain burial, she didn't believe until I told her that there was too much stew on the rice the kids were served because the rice burn. She shock.

Ehena, before someone starts saying, 'On this minute last year, you did this,' or 'This day, and on this hour that year, you also did this.'

How do you prefer your apology? Verbally or through action?

Please note that both is not available in the options..

True @ the tiny details!

It is not a straightforward answer. The best form of apology is a behavioural change. But we need a verbal talk (apology) first. I don't want someone assuming the other party is nagging or insecure. When their concerns are valid and most times you know what you are doing!

pocohantas:


True @ the tiny details!

It is not a straightforward answer. The best form of apology is a behavioural change. But we need a verbal talk (apology) first. I don't want someone assuming the other party is nagging or insecure. When their concerns are valid and most times you know what you are doing!

True, people often say sorry without truly meaning it. That's why when someone apologizes to me, I usually ask, "Will it happen again?" The answer is usually no, as expected, but I still ask because that will be my judge should it happen again.

i remember nursery school when i was 4,i dey shit for body no be small,i remeber the ainty always pinching my yansh when washing my shitty shitty bumbum i now understand why she does so..

Tallesty1:
True, people often say sorry without truly meaning it. That's why when someone apologizes to me, I usually ask, "Will it happen again?" The answer is usually no, as expected, but I still ask because that will be my judge should it happen again.

Were they supposed to say yes?
Except infidelity or physical/verbal abuse, it would most likely happen again and again. As far as they make conscious effort to do better, I just know they are humans and would have some weak days. Make person no give me high bp.

guobe:

You adapted really early. Just wow.

Yeah.
Lots of things I remember from that early age.There was a time my dad was posted to a new station ,my mum took me along to go visit him and started crying because it was really bushy and scaring place ,my mom cried till we got there,till almost morning ,that my dad was suffering ,how was he coping?etc

One day ,she was talking about the event and said it was my elder sister she took there ,I said it was me ,started explaining how the place was ,how she was crying and the Okada we took there( Okadaman even told her "madam,your husband never die ,why you dey cry like this" )She was shocked!

I remember seeing my Aunt and her then boyfriend doing their thing .lol

That's why I'm always careful around kids. They know ,see and assimilate things .

pocohantas:


Were they supposed to say yes?
Except infidelity or physical/verbal abuse, it would most likely happen again and again. As far as they make conscious effort to do better, I just know they are humans and would have some weak days. Make person no give me high bp.

I won't be there to forgive this ones ooo.


Someone messed up real bad and started apologizing, when done I asked the same question, and yes was the answer as usual.
I said okay, we good, e no believe am.

Said make I do something to show I was angry, that is not me.


Sha, it happened again just like you said.

VinnyBaba:


OP, you are Lying.

No child remember his/her First in Nursery school,
Unless you started at 5,6yrs!

You don't know what you're saying.
I remember mine.

poshestmina:


Yeah.
Lots of things I remember from that early age.There was a time my dad was posted to a new station ,my mum took me along to go visit him and started crying because it was really bushy and scaring place ,my mom cried till we got there,till almost morning ,that my dad was suffering ,how was he coping?etc

One day ,she was talking about the event and said it was my elder sister she took there ,I said it was me ,started explaining how the place was ,how she was crying and the Okada we took there( Okadaman even told her "madam,your husband never die ,why you dey cry like this" )She was shocked!

I remember seeing my Aunt and her then boyfriend doing their thing .lol

That's why I'm always careful around kids. They know ,see and assimilate things .

Wow so touching. Your mum really loved your dad but on most of these remembrance stories it seems crying seems to be the bottom line for remembering what happened a long time ago.just my observation.

VinnyBaba:


OP, you are Lying.

No child remember his/her First in Nursery school,
Unless you started at 5,6yrs!

I remembered mine.. They asked me to crossed my hand,to see if it will touch my ear.. E no touch am o .. They sha laughed and still placed me in the class o.I cried sha,even wee wee on my pants with chin chin in my hands.. Lol.

My mom always come before closing time to pick me.. And as soon as I sight her,I don close for the day be that.. There was this thing dey call jangolova.. Shit injured me twice in KG 3. Still have the scar on my leg .. Them warn me tire to avoid that thing.the stubborn me no dey hear.. I dey chop more beating, if milee dey press the injury with hot water.. Primary and Secondary was more interesting. I remembered I broadcast news for school anniversary or so ,them show me for TV station.. Omo come see levels if I dey waka for street..

Goube you too much.. I need document these things.. I never reason am until today..

BigYash:
I remembered mine.. They asked me to crossed my hand,to see if it will touch my ear.. E no touch am o .. They sha laughed and still placed me in the class o.I cried sha,even wee wee on my pants with chin chin in my hands.. Lol.

My mom always come before closing time to pick me.. And as soon as I sight her,I don close for the day be that.. There was this thing dey call jangolova.. Shit injured me twice in KG 3. Still have the scar on my leg .. Them warn me tire to avoid that thing.the stubborn me no dey hear.. I dey chop more beating, if milee dey press the injury with hot water.. Primary and Secondary was more interesting. I remembered I broadcast news for school anniversary or so ,them show me for TV station.. Omo come see levels if I dey waka for street..

Goube you too much.. I need document these things.. I never reason am until today..

Thanks .your story sweet well well.Me I like jangolova too and first to run to pick music anthem instrument for assembly ground.lol.

guobe:

Thanks .your story sweet well well.Me I like jangolova too and first to run to pick music anthem instrument for assembly ground.lol.

Wow! Good old days ..

BigYash:
Wow! Good old days ..

Sure bro.

I remember when my mum changed my school where I attended kindergarten to go start Nursery 1 ( though she said I was supposed to be in nursery 2 but because I didn't answer questions she asked them to put me in nursery 1) in another school. I just saw the boy that his mom convinced my mum to come that school. I waved at him, he didn't wave back and I just didn't care from there on. I remember when my book finishes and I will be asked to sleep. I will mock other students for writing just because I'm very sad inside for not writing to the point of crying sometimes. I remember also like a week from when I started school I was forgotten in school not until around 8 that they came to pick me(my mum close from business late and forgot to inform people at home to pick me up) I was with a girl too I can't remember if we were in the same class. And we left her there. The people that came to pick me were peeping, I don't know why, it was the girl that saw them from where we were playing with sand withno care in the world( the world could come to an end then and we wouldn't care innocent children) that the girl saw them from where they were peeping and announced their arrival to me. I didn't see the girl again after that day, we didn't even know each other's name as we didn't ask.

Fattprince23:
I remember when my mum changed my school where I attended kindergarten to go start Nursery 1 ( though she said I was supposed to be in nursery 2 but because I didn't answer questions she asked them to put me in nursery 1) in another school. I just saw the boy that his mom convinced my mum to come that school. I waved at him, he didn't wave back and I just didn't care from there on. I remember when my book finishes and I will be asked to sleep. I will mock other students for writing just because I'm very sad inside for not writing to the point of crying sometimes. I remember also like a week from when I started school I was forgotten in school not until around 8 that they came to pick me(my mum close from business late and forgot to inform people at home to pick me up) I was with a girl too I can't remember if we were in the same class. And we left her there. The people that came to pick me were peeping, I don't know why, it was the girl that saw them from where we were playing with sand withno care in the world( the world could come to an end then and we wouldn't care innocent children) that the girl saw them from where they were peeping and announced their arrival to me. I didn't see the girl again after that day, we didn't even know each other's name as we didn't ask.

Eya this your own story touch me

poshestmina:


Yeah.
Lots of things I remember from that early age.There was a time my dad was posted to a new station ,my mum took me along to go visit him and started crying because it was really bushy and scaring place ,my mom cried till we got there,till almost morning ,that my dad was suffering ,how was he coping?etc

One day ,she was talking about the event and said it was my elder sister she took there ,I said it was me ,started explaining how the place was ,how she was crying and the Okada we took there( Okadaman even told her "madam,your husband never die ,why you dey cry like this" )She was shocked!

I remember seeing my Aunt and her then boyfriend doing their thing .lol

That's why I'm always careful around kids. They know ,see and assimilate things .

How do u manage to remember all these things?

tobore4u:
How do u manage to remember all these things?

I don't know or can't explain but they've always being stucked in my memory.

poshestmina:



I don't know or can't explain but they've always being stucked in my memory.

You are a special breed

The way memories form is so Interesting.

We had a graduation party in my Nursery school shortly before I graduated to primary 1.

I can still recall the aroma of the Jollof rice.

guobe:
Nursery school is the bedrock of education for a child and at three years of age ,I started my nursery schooling.
I was dressed up by my mum and dad with my stockings and Bata shoe all gingered up for my first day in school .
My parents drove me to school as the school was not too far from our house then.
My mum and my dad took me to my class and I saw alot of kids in the class crying and wailing with the female teacher trying to console them.
In my mind I was like why are all these kids crying.
Then suddenly my parents dropped me in the class after seeing the teacher and left without any trace.
I was seated on my desk and now joined other kids to start crying and wailing..
I came to the realisation that earlier on,those kids I met in the class were crying because their parents left them in the class.
Till this day that memory is still stuck on me and when I narrate it to people, they find it hard to believe that at 3 years I could remember what happened on my first day at nursery school.
How many people still remembered what happened on their first day in nursery school?

GodHimself:
The way memories form is so Interesting.

We had a graduation party in my Nursery school shortly before I graduated to primary 1.

I can still remember the smell of the Jollof rice.

Ah for real. Lol
Mine was putting on the graduation gown was something else and very special to me.
Everywhere was full with crowd of people.
I didn't participate in any of the events though like drama.
.