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Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Uchesis: 8:50am On Mar 29 |
CoronaVirusPro:I don hear you oga. Go and take care of your children. That is your calling here on earth. . I'm very sure you will jump to the sky if the American embassy just issue you a free visa and ticket to even the worst place in the US. You like the whiteman's country but you hate their way of life. Dey deceive yourself for there. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by zagorakis(m): 9:01am On Mar 29 |
Klass99:Home ownership and companionship with a good man, matter to me more than biological children do. Don't just subject an innocent man to your selfish desires. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Lordofalmajiri(f): 12:23pm On Mar 29 |
OgwuEgo:My chief life no suppose hard o.. paste me your digits na?? |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by tosyne2much(m): 1:06pm On Mar 29 |
Ten06:I personally know of someone in his 50s too without a wife and kids Looking at him, loneliness is always written all over him and he sometimes talks to himself like someone that is having mental issues.. Most of the time, he's always outside sitting with people till late hour and goes home when everyone disappears This is not the kind of life any sane person would wish for 4 Likes |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by OgwuEgo: 2:30pm On Mar 29 |
Sent to your email Lordofalmajiri: 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Bullfallo(m): 8:23pm On Mar 29 |
tosyne2much:having wife and kids wouldn’t have make any difference. There are people like that married or not. It has nothing to do with loneliness. There are more married men with kids that are more haggard and keep late night than him. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Rechargeam247(f): 8:42pm On Mar 29 |
It's your choice, not every experience is worth learning from, some people learn by experience, some learn from other people's experiences, you choose how you want to learn😉 |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by willyblinx(m): 1:15am On Mar 30 |
tosyne2much: And you don’t know anyone that is married with kids that acts like they are mentally unstable and stay out late? Common guys! Having or not having kids did not cause nor would it prevent this from happening. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by correctguy101(m): 3:23am On Mar 30 |
DeepSight: On this matter, selfish is good.. Don't say shallow. As for the bolded, ah. Don't make me laugh please.. Anyhoo, there must be continuation... |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by femi4: 7:37am On Mar 30 |
CoronaVirusPro:Not everyone will have kids While some lost their kids n are lonely 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by DeepSight(m): 7:38am On Mar 30 |
correctguy101: But seriously. So selfish that someone on this thread wondered about who she will send on errands if she doesn't have children. And almost to a man, those in the "you must have a child" camp have focused on the frailties of old age and who would help them at such a time. There is something almost mercenary and exploitative about such an approach to child bearing. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by femi4: 7:43am On Mar 30 |
DeepSight:It's not shallow, it takes a trained child to remember you at old age. Besides you were there for kid in his first 20-30 yrs. It's not too much to ask from him to be there for you in your last 10yrs 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by DeepSight(m): 7:53am On Mar 30 |
femi4: You are still missing the point. It's not that there is anything wrong with your kid being there for you in old age. In fact that's a beautiful and honorable thing. The point is when the purpose for which you had kids was to make sure you have someone to take care of you in your old age. When that was your objective and your mind set in having kids. That is what is shallow. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by femi4: 7:56am On Mar 30 |
DeepSight:Nobody said that's the objective. They are only pointing out the benefit at old age, and not necessarily a biological child 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by DeepSight(m): 9:49am On Mar 30 |
femi4: Oho, pointing out benefits like having who to send on errands right? Don't be silly. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by femi4: 10:35am On Mar 30 |
DeepSight:Your IQ is low. You ve not heard of the words "Trust n Companion" before You can always get maid if its just for an errands sake. The man in this context was even losing money to the fake people that came around and taking advantage of his situation. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by correctguy101(m): 7:17pm On Mar 30 |
DeepSight: True. That's why "most" people try as much as they could to nurture, educate the children they have as much as they could and as they see fit. So what's wrong in hoping, wishing and even requesting to not be forgotten at an advanced age? It's a justified selfishness abeg As for this daddy o, Instead of getting all wrinkling and shaky, I'd rather kick jerrycan now and spare my children the wahala of caring for a weak old man. As for errands, I'm already used to being alone and doing things myself (I have that constant feeling that if I sent someone, they wouldn't do it the way I like and I'm so set in doing things a certain way, lazy way sha. . ) |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Mecka: 12:13pm On Mar 31 |
Jewessgratitud3:you need that dick. let me get you pregnant. you are too lonely |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Mecka: 12:20pm On Mar 31 |
willyblinx:will you have kids |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Mecka: 12:28pm On Mar 31 |
Klass99:you are talking because reality hasn't dawned on you. When people start speaking ill of you for not having kids. You will understand. This is Africa not America |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Kingrshd3: 2:53pm On Mar 31 |
Bullfallo: But the percentage is very few since if he had a good family relationship would have been better.... And either u like it or not 🚫 People without children or wife might say it outside as sometime that doesn't count but deep down in their heart they are dieting silently ☹️ |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Bullfallo(m): 3:43pm On Apr 03 |
Kingrshd3:there are more elderly men that are miserable with wife and kids than men without any of them |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Kingrshd3: 3:41pm On Apr 04 |
Bullfallo:.. where do u see such statistics. Well it's ok life is not just balance at all 😭 |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Konquest: 2:15pm On Apr 15 |
Klass99:@Klass99, that's deep... you're truly a strong-headed babe, firing on all cylinders. lol. I assume you're now in your 30s. From here on out, you'll have to be clearly intentional about being more visible or rolling with men who also don't wanna have children, (i.e., divorcees, widowers, OR older men who are done having children if you truly want to have that home ownership and companionship or marriage with a "good" man). In any event, what triggered your subconscious aversion to having your own biological kids? I'm curious to know. Hit me up when you get back online. Take care. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Klass99(f): 2:58pm On Apr 16 |
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Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Konquest: 5:10pm On Apr 16 |
Klass99:How's it going Klass99? Okay, I hear you loud 'n clear... "YOU are STRONG-WILLED... and strong-headed too." *Smirk* Your feedback here is lit babe, you spoke straight from the gut and I like you for that. I for one don't like to judge folks and their choices because there are variables in life that shape us and we learn from our experiences (good and bad). That's the nature of our planet... The cause-and-effect principle. Indeed, as a man, after reading your engaging post twice, I came off with the firm conclusion that you are prepared for what is to come in your life based on the steps you've already taken. You should have seen my eyes popping out right here. lol. Coincidentally, I know about Olumide Omosebi and his radio program is quite popular among Nigerians in the Diaspora, so, he gets calls from many countries. From experience and reading books in my personal home library, I pretty much have a vast knowledge of advanced relationship issues and solutions going back to many years, but the very day I first listened to Olumide give information on Family Law and more, I instantly fell in love with his program. I used to listen in via the online app especially during the COVID lockdowns, but stopped for a while. I've partly listened to his program online for 3 times this year, and would listen to more of the previous episodes later. His radio program is an A-list program tbh. So, I'll encourage you to give it a shot... Reach out to Omosebi by email (or better yet by phone or his physical office in Lagos) since you do not want an LDR type of relationship, which doesn't fit into your "love language" (which is key and is the missing link in relationships). Most male folks ignore or are just not aware of the different aspects of "love languages" and that leads to a nasty separation or divorce. Conversely, I'd also recommend that you be discreet and wise about screening the deluge of these male folks who are gonna come forward because just like you've also said, some may just want to sexually hit and run or just EAT your money and later conjure a brutal reason to ditch a woman. Some of these guys know how to brutally string females along meanwhile, they have a wife in the village or younger girls they want to tie the knots with. What else have I left unsaid? Yeah! Check [@gnosis_help] on both IG and X for the physical office and phone contacts of Olumide. Feel free to not be shy... Just keep in touch with me. I might also have a connect for you down the road depending on your core preferences. Take care "strong-willed." 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Konquest: 8:07pm On Apr 16 |
Klass99:That's brilliant... Take care. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Klass99(f): 8:24pm On Apr 16 |
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Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Konquest: 8:42pm On Apr 16 |
Klass99:"Lookachu..." "Analytical dissector"... That cracked me up. If someone isn't fast enough the thing you typed would just "evaporated" into thin air. Then you start giving excuses of decluttering. Once beaten, twice shy. In any event it was a good feedback you gave. I appreciate your points of view more and more. By the way, before you rush off to go to bed, I wanted to ask if you love pets? Do you keep any like dogs or cats? I used to love them puppies though but once they grow to adulthood, they start getting entitled. Last but not least, tell me what month did you call in to Olumide's radio program in 2023? |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Klass99(f): 9:05pm On Apr 16 |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Konquest: 9:48pm On Apr 16 |
Klass99:Specimen for disection? Well people like are uniquely unconventional in your approach to things. Doesn't make you any less human. That's a bull dog 🐕 you mean. A very vicious dog breed. There are other more dangerous dogs in the world such as the pitbull. That breed of dogs called pitbull is very vicious and they have been known to maul and kill people including children. That's what really put me off dogs tbh. There's an elderly White woman who was living alone and who used to keep a lot of dogs in her house. One day she came back from a trip with her luggage and that's how these her own dogs attacked her. She lost her life in the process. Few days later curious neighbors noticed she had not been out for her usual walk around the neighborhood and her suitcase was still outside the main house. Security men were called in and they found her mutilated body (I don't want to be more graphic than this). As puppies, maybe, but as adult dogs, I'll pass because these dogs can be potential killers of adults and babies which they've done time and time again. Especially that dangerous pitbull breed. Haha... You reckon I wanted to do that? Well I actually asked because I wanted to know the timeframe from the time you spoke to Olumide last year and now. We'll chat some more later. Sleep well, so as to get ready for work tomorrow morning. (WAT) |
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