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Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by humilitypays(m): 3:06pm On Mar 28 |
willyblinx:Isorai |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Verbtips(m): 3:07pm On Mar 28 |
Fine and good,
that's your choice
paul sha no marry
joshua selman no marry.
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Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by willyblinx(m): 3:17pm On Mar 28 |
Klass99: I wish I can like your comment 10 more times. The general society places too much emphasis on happiness being dependent on having kids. Thereby putting too much pressure on those not married nor having kids. Having a good mate and enjoying your relationship is awesome enough. I have never been a fan of doing things the way the society expects just because “they expect it to be so”. 4 Likes |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by samuelson06(m): 3:17pm On Mar 28 |
Klass99: Would you permit the man to have one or two with another woman outside without disturbing your home? |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by occfx: 3:21pm On Mar 28 |
Bullfallo: Whenever I doubt biology, I look at the older ones. If you will replace your phone before the present one dies, you will eventually need a child. However, you said you don't need pressure and many mouths. Just get one mouth and hand it over to a Nanny. If eventually, you still don't need it. You dash him or her out to the nanny. Life is simple |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by themanderon: 3:22pm On Mar 28 |
Bullfallo: Whatever reason that is informing your decision not to have children will surely pass away and when you are old and grey and you see your siblings and friends all having their children and grandchildren there is no how the thought of "what if" will not fill your mind. In other words you will surely regret it because you are meant to be fruitfull and multiply. There is what God intended. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Ajalekoko76(m): 3:27pm On Mar 28 |
Why seeking public opinion on "REGRET" or not. Whatever comes you should gladly accept in future knowing fully well that it's your choice. Attempt to consider public opinion will change your life style, I encourage you to strengthen your life style especially decision NOT to have child. Time will tell either good or bad it's your choice Ire ooooo |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Joemavel(m): 3:34pm On Mar 28 |
DeepSight:That's an abnormal family. I'm raising kids and I shower them with love, my own family growing up we aren't perfect but when in need that's when you see and know you got people. I am talking about a normal family and not those abnormal ones. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Klass99(f): 3:35pm On Mar 28 |
willyblinx: You dey mind them. It is even the herd mentality for me and how they expect you to act like a zombie. Do as I do or do as your parents did and have children too, without questioning or reasoning things out for yourself. Thank God for free will and the power of choice sha, I got to this point through careful thinking and self awareness. I know for a fact that children will not make me happy, the mere thought of having them, exhausts me more than it excites me. 2 Likes |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Jman06(m): 3:37pm On Mar 28 |
Klass99:Op, consider marrying this lady since both of you are on the same page with regards to not desiring to have children. You can marry and be fvccking yourselves without having children. At least, you'll be spending a huge chunk of your money on condoms and contraceptive pills which is good for my profession. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Bimpe29: 3:37pm On Mar 28 |
No is bothered about what you really want to be or do but we want you to be good and this choice will surely hamper that. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by OvertheTop(m): 3:43pm On Mar 28 |
Bullfallo: Since You have made up your Mind and You said you don't need public Validation, Why Did you Write it Here? Are You Having Second Thoughts? Are you now needing Validation? Just Asking.... 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Asswipemod: 3:45pm On Mar 28 |
Bullfallo: SMH. Kadoso Mutairu aka seunmsg! SMH again and leaves the thread. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by okoroemeka(m): 3:51pm On Mar 28 |
Klass99:and I am beginning to wonder what type of good man will marry a woman that does not want children, especially when having children is now the major reason men are getting married ,,anybody that does not want children both biological or adopted is copying the oyibo lifestyle,those people have homes that take care of elderly people but here in Nigeria you will die and rot to skeleton on your bed nobody will give a shit about you, offsprings is the best old age insurance policy in Nigeria,when your strength will fail,your eyesight,health,mind,that is when you need a loyal person by your side |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by BigDawsNet: 3:51pm On Mar 28 |
Bullfallo: Forget wife Just have kids... My little advice 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Kingrshd3: 3:55pm On Mar 28 |
Rollingdollar: Life life life.. How can a man survive without having kids at old age 😞 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by kay29000(m): 3:59pm On Mar 28 |
Rollingdollar: Damn! This story touched me mehn! |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by IkeAbuja: 3:59pm On Mar 28 |
You don't follow public opinion but you are here seeking public opinion if you will regret no having children sorry bro you are confused 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Omoapena(m): 3:59pm On Mar 28 |
It's your choice, person wey no get children dey live... |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by SmartMen: 4:03pm On Mar 28 |
CoronaVirusPro: Thank you, Thank you. There is energy to waste jare. This is how I deal with people in my cycle. Once I know you are stubborn, I don't waste my time oo. Reality and life will do justice. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Ten06(m): 4:05pm On Mar 28 |
The few people I have seen who got old without children around my neighborhood are not something one will wish to live through. Their live is just too boring with no one to keep them busy. Even the ones with maid are not happy |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by MrBroke(m): 4:13pm On Mar 28 |
Klass99: You are smart. I like the way you see life. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Bush2013: 4:22pm On Mar 28 |
Me I want to marry oh!. If you're a young, good looking, productive lady dm make we marry ASAP 😆 |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by mywells: 4:23pm On Mar 28 |
No matter what you have to meet up with the law of continuity, this is the law of creation, if your parents have thought the same way you're thinking the same you're thinking. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by emerged01(m): 4:34pm On Mar 28 |
Bullfallo:There is nothing you can tell me You have fear inside you and it has made you to become less of yourself. Get over it and become real you. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by kay29000(m): 4:34pm On Mar 28 |
Verbtips: Dude, no finality to Joshua Selman's case. He is just 43. He can decide to marry in a couple of years or next year. I have a friend that used to always say he would never marry in his 20s, and even in his 30s and early 40s he kept saying it. I was shocked when I saw his wedding pictures at 43. The thing shock me. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by jelel6: 4:35pm On Mar 28 |
I think to have or not to have children should be a MAJOR decision. Unfortunately, we have been programmed to get a Job, marry, and have children. Me included. So what should have been a major decision to make ends up being trivial. But there's nothing trivial about birthing, raising, and caring for children. Not every person in the world is going to be able to commit to, and then have the capabilities to shoulder such responsibilities. Fact is, if Nigeria was a less judgemental society. A few more people would be contented with the happiness and pride they find in other sources besides children. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by lalalista: 4:36pm On Mar 28 |
I want to have children but I don't want to marry. I don't like living with a man. They disgust me sometimes. I love being on my own 3 Likes |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Biodun1929(m): 5:02pm On Mar 28 |
Yes, you will most likely regret it. I used to think like you too when i was in my 20s and even in my 30s. But it hit me some time in my early 40s. Humans are social animals by nature...even though I've always been a loner, I still loved some time with close friends and family once in a while. But when those family and friends start building their own family and no longer have time for you, you start having an existential crisis...you start wondering if you're really making the right decision by not getting married and having kids. There are little joys that comes with being a parent that you can't quantify. And I'm not talking about what some people have been saying above like having someone to send on errands or having someone to take care of you when you're old. That's cool, but there are other little things like seeing a human being that's a part of you, and seeing yourself in him...let me give you an example. During my late 20s and most part of my 30s, I was away from my family...I hardly came home. So when I started getting closer to my parents again in my 40s, I would some times drive them to church. I look a lot like my dad and his friends are always surprised that he has another son that they never knew, that is doing okay for himself, and looks just like how he looked when he was my age. When they start going on and on about the resemblance and they ask questions about me with him there, I always see that joy in his eyes...that fulfilment. As I said it can't be quantified. When me and my other siblings visit my parents and they bring their kids, you can't explain the joy they feel. It wasn't easy all through the journey, but right now in their late 70s/early 80s, they're fulfilled. By the way, I'm not married...I'm getting married later this year. I'm 43. I don't regret not marrying early...I had to learn some lessons in life. I'm just happy I made up my mind before I got to 50. 6 Likes |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Jeezuzpick(m): 5:04pm On Mar 28 |
Klass99: Not so, my sister. I won't tell people who can't have kids to kill themselves, for instance. I have close friends who are childless and really want kids. However, I can see the old people around me and I know for sure that their grown kids mean a lot in their lives in their old age. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Ubdavis(m): 5:12pm On Mar 28 |
The choice is up to u |
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