helinues:

You are the one trying to derail the thread

Says one whose first comment was...

^{Keeping a lady self na headache on its own not to talk of adding multiple junks.}


The title of the thread asked: 'Men Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman'
That alone elicits scholium from those who has informed opinions on mono/poly couples who have shared their experiences. Not solidum about why anyone should cheat. Worse is your cheating diversion of the topic had no center point. Were you statint it within a matrimonial settings or pre-marital one like you cheaters do in relationships.

helinues:
Polygamy in a relationship is that not cheating?

No guy, it's not the same.
Firstly, understand that maritalship is different from relationship so stop miscontruing one for the other. So to address that faulty statement - Polygamy can not exist in a relationship. Their are suitable for words for when you cheat on your partner with another in a relationship and it isn't called polygamy. Words like womanizer, lothario, philanderer. It is why I initially said folks tend to conflate promiscuity with polygamy as they imagine polygamy to be a legitimate excuse to indulge in wanton and unchecked sexual carnage like a rabid dog with no collar chain. In actuality, it is monogamy that breeds such tendencies for a hundred and one reasons I can itemize.

I don't expect you who called wifeable women "junks" to understand my points.

helinues:
In order to be able to cheat successfully, you must be a chronic liar, irrespective of gender

The OP never used the word cheat nor did he/she made his musing about how to cheat successfully in a relationship. Go and re-read it again. He mention the term 'polygamy'. I surmised he needed to know what the opinionated ones think of a contrast between mono and poly marriages.

y3mi:

Says one whose first comment was...

^{Keeping a lady self na headache on its own not to talk of adding multiple junks.}


The title of the thread asked: 'Men Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman'
That alone elicits scholium from those who has informed opinions on mono/poly couples who have shared their experiences. Not solidum about why anyone should cheat. Worse is your cheating diversion of the topic had no center point. Were you statint it within a matrimonial settings or pre-marital one like you cheaters do in relationships.


No guy, it's not the same.
Firstly, understand that maritalship is different from relationship so stop miscontruing one for the other. So to address that faulty statement - Polygamy can not exist in a relationship. Their are suitable for words for when you cheat on your partner with another in a relationship and it isn't called polygamy. Words like womanizer, lothario, philanderer. It is why I initially said folks tend to conflate promiscuity with polygamy as they imagine polygamy to be a legitimate excuse to indulge in wanton and unchecked sexual carnage like a rabid dog with no collar chain. In actuality, it is monogamy that breeds such tendencies for a hundred and one reasons I can itemize.

I don't expect you who called wifeable women "junks" to understand my points.



The OP never used the word cheat nor did he/she made his musing about how to cheat successfully in a relationship. Go and re-read it again. He mention the term 'polygamy'. I surmised he needed to know what the opinionated ones think of a contrast between mono and poly marriages.

Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman

Can one really be happy with oneself all the time not to talk of others? Should you replace your own self just because you are not happy with whatever the situation might be.

I doubt if up to 30% of people have ever experienced what true love is before, True love is as scarce as being rich.

It's only those who have not experienced what true love really mean that engage in polygamy because maintaining a woman is not an easy task not to talk of having many.

Anyways, priorities are different in life sha

Kobicove:


This is true, a man can have multiple women with mutual consent

Truth is - it's possible but very hard. Once you tell those women 'poly' you won't even finish the 'gammy' unless perhaps you're an Elon Musk or Dangote which in itself wouldn't be based on legitimate affection on her side but the wealth. Provided one is stinking rich, advantage and merit-wise polygamy trumps everything monogamy pretends to offer except for just one issue and that's the only problem I can't figure a solution around since it's a physio-anatomical one.

helinues:




Can one really be happy with oneself all the time not to talk of others? Should you replace your own self just because you are not happy with whatever the situation might be.

I doubt if up to 30% of people have ever experienced what true love is before, True love is as scarce as being rich.

It's only those who have not experienced what true love really mean that engage in polygamy because maintaining a woman is not an easy task not to talk of having many.

Anyways, priorities are different in life sha

I'll stop engaging you on this exercise. I have made it a policy to ignore Nigerians who if when one is arguing/discussing about Mortal Kombat then he switches it to Need For Speed, how does one place two entirely different genre on the same basis to draw point.
The topic is about matrimony, a life-long commitment to either if one or two/more is better, you switched it to cheating, then to true love and finally life priority are different. Like wtf!

Discussing wild/big cats with someone, diverted it to politics, we got there, still pointless submissions, then digressed it to religion, again empty talks, the next thing that came out was "some people waste their time learn nonsense".

Maybe we should ask Solomon



. He is the wisest of men that ever lived.


.
. I can just imagine how many threesomes baba had when he was alive.

realG101:
You cannot demand monogamy from a man who already had his life together before you came along.

I am not "demanding" shit.


That's not in my place.

Any man who has his life together and desires a monogamy, will seek me out for reasons best known to him.


If it is your rule to be a polygamous man who has his shit together, good for you. I already said there are women who do not mind sharing. They do not demand exclusive faithfulness from men, so focus on them and leave the ones who want to do one-man-one-woman alone. That's the beauty of life; one way nor enter market.

Kobicove:
This is true, a man can have multiple women with mutual consent

I love that you used these particular words.


They are, afterall, what I consider the bedrock of liberalism.

That alone elicits scholium from those who has informed opinions

If Paul Graham should catch this dude, he'll chew him like meat.

realG101:
If you were there to build a life from the scratch with him, yes you may be entitled to monogamy.

It's you assuming I would not have been building my own life from scratch too for me.


Mtcheeeewwww.

idahme:
If she brings the money to sustain the relationship then I will be Happy to be a monogamist but if she isn't then she should forever remain silent and eat the little given to her.

You can't have zero responsibilities and have hundred percent control it doesn't happen.

Interesting.

realG101:


I agree with you for the most part.

But imagine that you have a particular babe that was there when you were building your shit. She cheered you up when you were not yet wealthy and even supported financially.

Will it be fair to take a second wife over her when you finally arrive especially if you are aware she wants monogamy.

Bro, you need to understand that women love men opportunistically, and their loyalty will always lie with their emotions, not your sacrifices .

As for that babe that was there when you were struggling, she isn't loving you based on love o; she's a only taking a gamble with you. To understand what I'm saying, just test her for an extended period of struggling. Try telling her of how your life sucks and how badly your business is struggling to make ends meet ...watch and she her change color within a few months!


In my honest opinion, the only woman who truly stick with a man when things go wrong is his mother . Other than her , all other women are just vultures waiting to pick at the carcasses of men who are of no value to them.

Jashub:
Bro, you need to understand that women love men opportunistically, and their loyalty will always lie with their emotions, not your sacrifices .

As for that babe that was there when you were struggling, she isn't loving you based on love o; she's a only taking a gamble with you. To understand what I'm saying, just test her for an extended period of struggling. Try telling her of how your life sucks and how badly your business is struggling to make ends meet ...watch and she her change color within a few months!


In my honest opinion, the only woman who truly stick with a man when things go wrong is his mother . Other than her , all other women are just vultures waiting to pick at the carcasses of men who are of no value to them.

Interesting perspective. It's all mind games afterall

I will always run home to meet that woman who gives me peace. It means I will live longer. Stay away from toxic, disrespectful and unsubmissive one's they will cut short your precious life.

One woman is always enough

Carcholce:



That means you are not ready to deal with the outside world yet.

I understand this statement perfectly.

But as you evolve as an individual, you will realize the importance of not letting the 'outside world' shape who you are.

Life is like a farmland, it will give you back in many folds that which you give to it. Good or bad.

realG101:
Was having random gists with my gf some days ago when she popped a weird question.

She was like 'hope you're not having any ideas about polygamy in this relationship'

Although I responded swiftly dismissing any chance that I will be a polygamist. but then in my mind, I was like, is that really what I want? Being with the same woman for the rest of my life.

It has bothered me for some days now and I realized that my answer to her that I won't take a second wife isn't entirely honest.

This is a dilemma for me because personally my word is my bond. It's not my habit to say something and do the opposite.

So it's scary that I have told this girl that I won't take a second wife.

Is it just me or do most men low-key want multiple women to themselves?

I don't even see the need for multiple wives and multiple problems when there are so many single pretty girls to Bleep and dump as you like,why tieing yourself up with another woman that you can easily get bored of

realG101:
Was having random gists with my gf some days ago when she popped a weird question.

She was like 'hope you're not having any ideas about polygamy in this relationship'

Although I responded swiftly dismissing any chance that I will be a polygamist. but then in my mind, I was like, is that really what I want? Being with the same woman for the rest of my life.

It has bothered me for some days now and I realized that my answer to her that I won't take a second wife isn't entirely honest.

This is a dilemma for me because personally my word is my bond. It's not my habit to say something and do the opposite.

So it's scary that I have told this girl that I won't take a second wife.

Is it just me or do most men low-key want multiple women to themselves?

If you want to peace marry two wives
If you want to enjoy and live longer then marry three .

Eunoiaa:


I am not "demanding" shit.


That's not in my place.

Any man who has his life together and desires a monogamy, will seek me out for reasons best known to him.


If it is your rule to be a polygamous man who has his shit together, good for you. I already said there are women who do not mind sharing. They do not demand exclusive faithfulness from men, so focus on them and leave the ones who want to do one-man-one-woman alone. That's the beauty of life; one way nor enter market.

Fair enough. Just said mine so some ladies will understand the breakfast served to them when the time comes

Eunoiaa:


It's you assuming I would not have been building my own life from scratch too for me.


Mtcheeeewwww.

Easy lady, no offence intended. We're not just quite used to Nigerian girls having their own lives.

Real men marry one woman and stick to her.

No matter what some people think, I'll continue to say it that men are not naturally designed to be with multiple women! It's just about ego boosting and for show off that some yesteryears men were polygamous. If nature designed men for multiple women, a typical man would not get tired after one to two rounds of sex.

Some men in the past saw polygamy as an attribute of wealth. They married multiple women in other to birth many children, all of whom would contribute in cultivating their farmlands.

The troubles in polygamous homes far outweigh whatever benefits there is in polygamy.

realG101:


I agree with you for the most part.

But imagine that you have a particular babe that was there when you were building your shit. She cheered you up when you were not yet wealthy and even supported financially.

Will it be fair to take a second wife over her when you finally arrive especially if you are aware she wants monogamy.

You call yourself a realG, i think you should try to live up to your monicker.

A realG suppose understand women nature throughly but I'm afraid you're still a learner.

Carcholce:


You have to make it a habit when dealing with women. Learn to become unpredictable. They will love and respect you more.

Who lied to you?

idahme:
If she brings the money to sustain the relationship then I will be Happy to be a monogamist but if she isn't then she should forever remain silent and eat the little given to her.

You can't have zero responsibilities and have hundred percent control it doesn't happen.

GOD Bless You 100%
You are the only reasonable comment so far,
You see all those trash 🗑️ they been they post up their Na bullshit.

Human wants are insatiable.
Know this and don't be deceived!

y3mi:
Most women in their selfish thoughts and parochial way of viewing things often tend to conflate polygamy with promiscuity. Polygamy curbs, if not eliminate promiscuity while monogamy Bo only aids it, enables all factors that warrant it.

If one man marries one woman, who married the remaining rest? They are the ones who lures and entice the married men.

All this issues should be blamed on the menfolk. Men are responsibile for ruining everything.

I have a lot analysis to share on this, but ain't got the strength now.

Thanks for this. Another Nairalander by moniker Causalobserver has stated this: polygamy actually forces a man to commit since he has to cater for her offspring and the woman herself. Unlike monogamy where he can get the milk for free without catering for the ranch or buying the cow. Most men would do anything to dodge commitment which is why marriage within a two parent household benefits women much more than men.

And yes, as you stated, men are responsible for everything. Men control the society.https://www.nairaland.com/6643241/nigerian-men-failed-women

Ps.
One thing I have always disliked men/guys doing is - after going about destroying girls/ladies in their young sexually active life, introducing them to vices, and badly things or by demanding such from them in order to fulfil a puerile fantasy they will outgrow as they mature, when ready to settle down and start a family, they now not only complain and weep around about the scarcity of decent, tight, up-right, non-wayward girls/ladies who aren't b1tchy, but forgot that they contribute to their making.

Perfect!

In some societies where premarital sex is frowned, the men marry the women immediately. Northern Nigeria is an example. However, in the south, the men introduce these ladies into sexual debauchery WHILE paying heavily for it. Then turn tomorrow to complain that their girls are wild. Who made them wild if not the men? Northern women are only wild in their husbands' houses, while those in the south are wild as spinsters.

Southern Nigerian men have to lay on the bed they made.

Jman06:
Real men marry one woman and stick to her.

No matter what some people think, I'll continue to say it that men are not naturally designed to be with multiple women! It's just about ego boosting and for show off that some yesteryears men were polygamous. If nature designed men for multiple women, a typical man would not get tired after one to two rounds of sex.

Nature aka biology actually designed men to have sex as many times as possible. That is what testosterone is there for. Scientific publications have it that men possess more testosterone than women. Sperm cells are PRODUCED DAILY by every man. As I write this post and as you read, we both produced sperm cells. These cells have to be purged out of the system, and that is mainly through ejaculation. It takes a lot of discipline for a man to suppress his sexual urge, as testosterone is a hormone, not a m.oron.

Additionally, lack of frequent sexual activity in men increases the risk of prostate cancer, of which black men are the highest risk group. What else? Married women weaponise sex, yes they do. Married women, especially after two or three children, start asking "if sex is food?" to a group of humans who produce sperm every day and are at risk of prostate cancer. Where else would these men go to, if not sex workers?

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22552705/#:~:text=Sexual%20desire%20is%20typically%20higher,in%20studies%20of%20sexual%20desire.

https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/news/hsph-in-the-news/why-more-sex-may-lower-prostate-cancer-risk/

And please don't write that rich men aren't interested in sex. They are and spend a lot on it.

Eunoiaa:


It's you assuming I would not have been building my own life from scratch too for me.
Mtcheeeewwww.

While that is true of modern women, why are you not aiming for men at the same level as you are? Why aim for men who are higher than you are? Edunt stated here how new female grads in Big4 firms don't regard or consider their male colleagues on the same level, but target men working at oil companies and investment banks. But as they approach their early 30s, they now move towards the same male colleagues they derided and snubbed.

Hypergamy doesn't lie.

realG101:


I agree with you for the most part.

But imagine that you have a particular babe that was there when you were building your shit. She cheered you up when you were not yet wealthy and even supported financially.

Will it be fair to take a second wife over her when you finally arrive especially if you are aware she wants monogamy.

It is not polygamy that most women are against, especially from middle-class men, but they are against their men approaching other women. Unfortunately, testosterone does not consider that aspect of life. There are fewer marriageable men than marriageable women. Nigeria is a poor country, and some cultures, regardless of Christianity, actually support or turn a blind eye towards polygamy. So, the belief that men would not approach these women is entirely foolhardy. I can only believe a man who is against having affairs with other women than his wife if he is well-to-do. This is because most, if not all, men who lampoon sexual affairs with different women don't have money. The other close group is men who are very religious and actually practice what they preach. Very Nigerian religious clerics practice what they preach, so I am cautious about this group.

Moreover, there was a study I read which stated that communities abut to a coastal area have a high preponderance for wanton sexual affairs. Check most islands; they have high rate of teenage pregancies, STIs, low amount of virgins, high sexual liberal culture etc. This means anyone planning to marry an Ijaw man, for instance, YET expects him to have high fidelity, is on a fool's errand.

Gerrard59:
While that is true of modern women, why are you not aiming for men at the same level as you are? Why aim for men who are higher than you are? Edunt stated here how new female grads in Big4 firms don't regard or consider their male colleagues on the same level, but target men working at oil companies and investment banks. But as they approach their early 30s, they now move towards the same male colleagues they derided and snubbed.

Hypergamy doesn't lie.

Do I still even remember the context of this convo lol?

First of all, how is hypergamy true, if at the end of the day, the same women end up moving back to the men they once rejected?

And I remember in one of my responses to you, I told you that nobody forces you into a relationship, a monogamous/equal one at that, as a man. You have all the choice of refusing to play by any dating market rule. Let me just assume you're speaking of a generic "you" and not addressing me personally. So your case with the hypergamous women is not my concern. It is your opinion, so it's anecdotal at best.

Ehen, I recall now.

Saying I shouldn't be with a richer, committed man because I am not "built" =/= I should be with a built man on my level. Okay? That's fine? I never said I do not find men I'm same with attractive. My response was only in the context of the scenario that dude raised. So whether I'm with a man who's richer or not, I expect commitment from him.

Me and polygamy go be 5 & 6. But thing is i no plan to marry any banny officially . I no like wahala lol

You call yourself a realG and you're scared of a woman's opinion