Avast:


Hmmmmmm

Marriage is a different game altogether. No matter how experienced you are before marriage, you will still face challenges from your spouse. I thank God for the one I married.

But the question is do you think the woman that you want, wants you in return?

Negroid001:


That's why I'm working so hard sister.
I'm investing, I'm saving. There's a big workload ahead of me.

But note. I ain't partaking in all of this stress with a liability.

Karleb:



This hypergamy thing doesn't end with money.

There's good look.
Popularity.
Competency.
Youth.

I believe there should be others too.

Let's talk about these too.

Maysdevices:
I am agreeing with him and telling him that if he chooses such a woman, he is destined to share his manhood with her and you still have a problem? What exactly is men’s issue with women on this site? Like even the op described the woman I described ‘a fake ass slave’

Why don’t you go tackle him?

I didn’t read much of what you wrote but if I came across as one disparaging the life of a homemaker, then I apologize…

No need to get rude or use terms like I’m ‘making noise’ when your fellow men describe women who have decided to be homemakers in these same terms everyday

Don’t get in your feelings because you feel it’s a woman typing

All I’m saying is the man above to choose one, it’s either you provide without complaints like the ‘man’ you claim to be or you get the a hustler that thinks like you and hold your peace forever

It is that simple

It is your fellow men that use these terms to abuse the women they know they are destined to take care off, your problem should be with them and not me

Maysdevices:
I am agreeing with him and telling him that if he chooses such a woman, he is destined to share his manhood with her and you still have a problem? What exactly is men’s issue with women on this site? Like even the op described the woman I described ‘a fake ass slave’

Why don’t you go tackle him?

I didn’t read much of what you wrote but if I came across as one disparaging the life of a homemaker, then I apologize…

No need to get rude or use terms like I’m ‘making noise’ when your fellow men describe women who have decided to be homemakers in these same terms everyday

Don’t get in your feelings because you feel it’s a woman typing

All I’m saying is the man above to choose one, it’s either you provide without complaints like the ‘man’ you claim to be or you get the a hustler that thinks like you and hold your peace forever

It is that simple

It is your fellow men that use these terms to abuse the women they know they are destined to take care off, your problem should be with them and not me

Negroid001:


Age is a number to me.
I can marry anyone of any age. So long she's not too older than me.
Fyi. I don't do juveniles. Our energy never matches.

Villa12:
you may likely remain single for life. Your sister was right. As a man, you will be the provider even if you're furtunate enough to get someone within your class. It is the norms in our clines.

Reason why i said you may likely remain single for life is because it is much easier for women to get men within or above their class but not that easy for men. If you like let all these small small boys for nairaland dey decieve you or applaud you. It's just like me saying the girls i graduated with in school should marry us the guy. Like who does that. Some of the girls in my class got married in their final year while some during and after service. How on Earth will they marry their mate who probably don't know where life is taking them to?

Kingrshd3:



God will bless you 🤔

That's y the thing self dey tire me sometimes and I dey always remember this slang that life is not balance ♎

Make I kuku carry my cross because this one I marry wants me more more more but na mẹ no too gbaddun am because na pregnancy tied me up to her if not I wouldn't have started with her..

But she wants me till Jesus comes

shaybebaby:

Do me favour and see how many your folk hold ( on this platform at least) hold the same view.

If your view was the standard, then we wouldn't have the term " evening newspaper" being bandied around.

Kelechi009:


Your brain is still living in 1950s, wake up. If you choose to marry a Uni babe who is a liability then you need to wake up.

opeyemi3737:
your sister don become seer now, so person wer dey struggle today no fit make am tomorrow buy benz abi

Kelechi009:


Everyone on this thread that you're arguing with an exception for Gerrard are living in Nigeria & they still have the backward mentality that their sole responsibility is to lift women from poverty, so every thing you say is flying over their head. I read your post and I hear you loud and clear.

Please just know that you're on the right path, the average Nigerian man believes they are suppose to marry a girl from Makoko informal settlement and place her on a monthly salary.

Kelechi009:


Why does it matter if one man thinks differently than others and you all want to crucify the one man because he thinks differently. Everyone cannot be backward thinking like your average Nigerian.

Dollar is 1300, poverty is on the rise in Nigeria but our guy should go and marry a 21 yr old uni student who has nothing to offer apart from sex all in the name of “his view is not standard”.

shaybebaby:

Not crucifying him at all.

Just remember to hold your gender to account as they scream , virgin this, virgin that, a woman with her own money must still be "submissive", evening newspaper, and all of their insecurities.

Villa12:
That is what your father, grandfather and great-grandfather did and they had a successful marriage. Nature has made it so expecially in our clines. In your tiny brain you think money is the only factor that makes marriage/family flow smoothly?

Will you also help the woman carry pregnancy for 9-12 months and risk your life during child birth? Will the child also bear the woman surname? Will you also lose your shape and figure as a result of motherhood? If you can also share the aforementioned then you can see a woman that'd even do 50/50 bills with you.

Kelechi009:


This is the sole reason why you will die of poverty, it comes in the night creeping and will catch up with you, most Nigerian guys who are domiciled in Nigeria have this mentality of yours. I have left the shores of Nigeria 8 years ago, therefore I am nothing like you.

This is also why women like shaybebaby love men like you that scream provider provider, because that's the only reason why you exist. To be a work horse and die.

shaybebaby:

Do me favour and see how many your folk hold ( on this platform at least) hold the same view.

If your view was the standard, then we wouldn't have the term " evening newspaper" being bandied around.

Avast:


So far, it's not that you don't appreciate her at all; that means you still have a iota of love for her.

If your wife has good behavior, I would encourage you to stay focused and be sincere with her. Let her feel that you love her more than she loves you, even if you have to pretend, and don't treat her like a piece of shit. You can build your future with her. What is outside is not guaranteed until that one enters, and that's when you'll realize that all women possess 80% of the same attitudes; the remaining 20% makes them differ, either for better or worse.

I never wanted to marry my wife because of our age difference, but you see, this babe can go to lengths for me. One day, I just said to myself, 'Why am I even bothering, chasing, and looking for someone to see reasons to love me, when there is one that really loves me for reasons I don't know?'

We give thanks to God; we have now been together for 5 years with a cute baby boy, and we're still going strong.

Kelechi009:


Deep down you love those screaming virgin this virgin that because at the end of the day an average Nigerian guy insecurities is what keeps an average Nigerian woman happy.

Kelechi009:


This is the sole reason why you will die of poverty, it comes in the night creeping and will catch up with you, most Nigerian guys who are domiciled in Nigeria have this mentality of yours. I have left the shores of Nigeria 8 years ago, therefore I am nothing like you.

This is also why women like shaybebaby love men like you that scream provider provider, because that's the only reason why you exist. To be a work horse and die.

Negroid001:


I do not hold the same view with majority of folks here.
The evening newspaper thingy is true tho, I'm not biased. Even if the woman is my relative. Fact remains fact.

At the same time, no pressures. Anyone can get married at any time. Just know what you want for yourself and don't get heartbroken or damaged because of societal pressure and desperation. Do you!

shaybebaby:

Cognitive dissonance much?

Avast:


So far, it's not that you don't appreciate her at all; that means you still have a iota of love for her.

If your wife has good behavior, I would encourage you to stay focused and be sincere with her. Let her feel that you love her more than she loves you, even if you have to pretend, and don't treat her like a piece of shit. You can build your future with her. What is outside is not guaranteed until that one enters, and that's when you'll realize that all women possess 80% of the same attitudes; the remaining 20% makes them differ, either for better or worse.

I never wanted to marry my wife because of our age difference, but you see, this babe can go to lengths for me. One day, I just said to myself, 'Why am I even bothering, chasing, and looking for someone to see reasons to love me, when there is one that really loves me for reasons I don't know?'

We give thanks to God; we have now been together for 5 years with a cute baby boy, and we're still going strong.

shaybebaby:

I no dey follow naija man ooo.

shaybebaby:

I no dey follow naija man ooo.

Gerrard59:


That is true. But I think for women, they come after financial stability. Sure, a lady who seeks marriage would choose a younger dude over an older man all things being equal. What I am curious about is how modern-day women are yet to understand that there are fewer men who are financially stable, and those who are yet single have many women at their beck and call YET want monogamy. Na wetin, I tell a female doctor friend who is based in Abuja: there are few men you describe, and if they are single, they have many women in their lives. She even wants the one with less body count.

Negroid001:


You sef don't follow your kindred.
You want to marry up.😂

Gerrard59:


That is true. But I think for women, they come after financial stability. Sure, a lady who seeks marriage would choose a younger dude over an older man all things being equal. What I am curious about is how modern-day women are yet to understand that there are fewer men who are financially stable, and those who are yet single have many women at their beck and call YET want monogamy. Na wetin, I tell a female doctor friend who is based in Abuja: there are few men you describe, and if they are single, they have many women in their lives. She even wants the one with less body count.

Tallesty1:
Be like you wan forcefully hold his johnson one place make his piss foam.

shaybebaby:

Cognitive dissonance much?