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You don't need to stroll far on the internet before you see stories of men paying their gf's school fees or training them only for her to leave for another man.

Or putting her on salary only to find out she's cheating or sponsoring another guy. These men are shocked. And are left scratching their heads. Wondering what happened. They probably read somewhere that women love money. Their gfs probably convinced them that if these guys loved them, they'd take of them. So, they hurriedly funded their gfs. And ended up wasting his resources. As usual, the response/advise most people give is: "Never pay a girl''s fees that's not your wife"

This advise comes from a good place BUT it is still wrong. Because it falsely assumes that a woman's nature suddenly changes once she's married. If anything, it only increases and/or deepens.

So what then is the right solution to this issue? Before i tell you, let me explain the REAL reason why putting your babe on salary or paying her school fees will just lead her into the arms of another man


------Why Salary Never Works


The reason is simple. A girl's love and attraction for you deepens based on HER investment in you not yours. As men, we are logical. Men think "If i invest in her, i'll reap the rewards" They treat girls like some business project. But this is not how women's brain view love or attraction.

To her, the more she invests in you MORE than you do, the more she feels like she really loves you. So when a man meets a girl without her investing quality and quantity time, experiences, resources etc... she sees him as weak and someone she can easily manipulate.

That's why when girls tell stories of an ex they can't get over, they often say "after all i did for him" OR "nothing wey i no do for that guy" However the guy that spent on her and paid her school fees? She barely wants him.

This brings us to the key reason I mentioned. Tattoo this in your brain:

It's NOT your investment in her that matters. It's HER investment in you


This may be tough for your logical brain to grasp for now. But as you urge the women you meet to invest more in you than you do to her, you'll notice her attraction grow for you.



----HOW Do You Inspire A Woman To Invest

I'm just going to summarize. Cuz the details can fill like 10 pages. First tho, you dont want to put any gf on a salary. She's not an employee. She's not working in the relationship. It's her relationship just as it is yours.


Secondly, get her to do things and sacrifice things for you. Make her cancel plans for you. Change her schedule for you. It's important to note that I wrote "inspire her" NOT force her. You shouldnt force a woman to do anything. It will only back fire. The desire and urge should come from her based on the inspiration and direction she gets from you.

It should never feel like you're forcing her. Because after all, the mindset you should always have is that you don't need her.


Lastly, create a balance between your investment in her. As a general rule you should invest 20% less than she does. That's the sweet spot. If it's equal, you'll notice her creating drama trying to take charge of the relationship. If yours is way more, she loses attraction... feels bored and ends up cheating.

If you've ever seen this meme: "The person you love doesn't want you, It's the person that you dont like that wants you" THIS thread explains why.

Someone because of love is over investing more than they should. For a girl this isnt much of an issue. But for a man, this leads to a ton of problems and heart break along the way.


So that's it. This should give you a feel of how female attraction works. And help you form a stronger, sweeter relationship.

N/B. What you just read is very powerful. And should only be used on girls you actually love. Do not use it to waste women's time or use them. Only weak men do that

Talk soon

Old story.... The Koko is to always choose the girl that loves u more than U love her. Always know urself as the prize and carry urself as such. U don't need to inspire her to invest anything or get her to do anything for u. She naturally just wants to do these things and more for U when she genuinely loves you more. And then when U come dey knack am well on top just forget it. Her friends will advise her against U but she will still die there like say na jazz. And that 20% lesser investment in her is funny and doesn't apply. I never give a woman reason to feel she's doing me favours so I match her goodness towards me but in reality if she loves u more U can never match her goodness or favours which boils down to the Koko again the ratio of the love. And ur sounding as if U can stop a woman from cheating. Again when U are the prize and she loves U more than U love her she naturally invests more emotions,time, material things etc so her venturing to cheat is difficult women aren't wired like men. They nurture what they love and would even rather find other means of pleasure if the man she loves is falling short in that very department. They just don't loose attraction and jump to the next hard pipe because ur matching their generosity lol... Except u have never truly met one that loves U that way. U just can't match it. The more U try the more she does things for U. U try to match her generosity she breaks new records for U. The only thing U should maintain which u can't even control is the emotional investment which is always lesser than hers for U. Every other thing doesn't count. Just enjoy. And if she cheats for any reasons which is less likely since she's the one more emotionally invested don't hesitate to replace her instantly.

dkidd:
Old story.... The Koko is to always choose the girl that loves u more than U love her. Always know urself as the prize and carry urself as such. U don't need to inspire her to invest anything or get her to do anything for u. She naturally just wants to do these things and more for U when she genuinely loves you more. And then when U come dey knack am well on top just forget it. Her friends will advise her against U but she will still die there like say na jazz. And that 20% lesser investment in her is funny and doesn't apply. I never give a woman reason to feel she's doing me favours so I match her goodness towards me but in reality if she loves u more U can never match her goodness or favours which boils down to the Koko again the ratio of the love. And ur sounding as if U can stop a woman from cheating. Again when U are the prize and she loves U more than U love her she naturally invests more emotions,time, material things etc so her venturing to cheat is difficult women aren't wired like men. They nurture what they love and would even rather find other means of pleasure if the man she loves is falling short in that very department. They just don't loose attraction and jump to the next hard pipe because ur matching their generosity lol... Except u have never truly met one that loves U that way. U just can't match it. The more U try the more she does things for U. U try to match her generosity she breaks new records for U. The only thing U should maintain which u can't even control is the emotional investment which is always lesser than hers for U. Every other thing doesn't count. Just enjoy. And if she cheats for any reasons which is less likely since she's the one more emotionally invested don't hesitate to replace her instantly.

There's nothing like a woman just "naturally" falling in love you.

There are certain things/attributes/traits about you that inspired her love you .


Also, if you over invest in a girl you feel "naturally loves" you, she will leave you instantly.

Investment is a measure of who is in charge of the relationship. You invest more than and she feels in charge and loses attraction.

She invests more and you're the one in charge. Her attraction for you deepens

The idea of a woman loving you "naturally" where you can do no wrong is a fantasy from Disney land

Lose the qualities she likes in you, over invest In her and watch that "natural" love disappear

Rizzputin:
You don't need to stroll far on the internet before you see stories of men paying their gf's school fees or training them only for her to leave for another man.

Or putting her on salary only to find out she's cheating or sponsoring another guy. These men are shocked. And are left scratching their heads. Wondering what happened. They probably read somewhere that women love money. Their gfs probably convinced them that if these guys loved them, they'd take of them. So, they hurriedly funded their gfs. And ended up wasting his resources. As usual, the response/advise most people give is: "Never pay a girl''s fees that's not your wife"

This advise comes from a good place BUT it is still wrong. Because it falsely assumes that a woman's nature suddenly changes once she's married. If anything, it only increases and/or deepens.

So what then is the right solution to this issue? Before i tell you, let me explain the REAL reason why putting your babe on salary or paying her school fees will just lead her into the arms of another man


------Why Salary Never Works


The reason is simple. A girl's love and attraction for you deepens based on HER investment in you not yours. As men, we are logical. Men think "If i invest in her, i'll reap the rewards" They treat girls like some business project. But this is not how women's brain view love or attraction.

To her, the more she invests in you MORE than you do, the more she feels like she really loves you. So when a man meets a girl without her investing quality and quantity time, experiences, resources etc... she sees him as weak and someone she can easily manipulate.

That's why when girls tell stories of an ex they can't get over, they often say "after all i did for him" OR "nothing wey i no do for that guy" However the guy that spent on her and paid her school fees? She barely wants him.

This brings us to the key reason I mentioned. Tattoo this in your brain:

It's NOT your investment in her that matters. It's HER investment in you


This may be tough for your logical brain to grasp for now. But as you urge the women you meet to invest more in you than you do to her, you'll notice her attraction grow for you.



----HOW Do You Inspire A Woman To Invest

I'm just going to summarize. Cuz the details can fill like 10 pages. First tho, you dont want to put any gf on a salary. She's not an employee. She's not working in the relationship. It's her relationship just as it is yours.


Secondly, get her to do things and sacrifice things for you. Make her cancel plans for you. Change her schedule for you. It's important to note that I wrote "inspire her" NOT force her. You shouldnt force a woman to do anything. It will only back fire. The desire and urge should come from her based on the inspiration and direction she gets from you.

It should never feel like you're forcing her. Because after all, the mindset you should always have is that you don't need her.


Lastly, create a balance between your investment in her. As a general rule you should invest 20% less than she does. That's the sweet spot. If it's equal, you'll notice her creating drama trying to take charge of the relationship. If yours is way more, she loses attraction... feels bored and ends up cheating.

If you've ever seen this meme: "The person you love doesn't want you, It's the person that you dont like that wants you" THIS thread explains why.

Someone because of love is over investing more than they should. For a girl this isnt much of an issue. But for a man, this leads to a ton of problems and heart break along the way.


So that's it. This should give you a feel of how female attraction works. And help you form a stronger, sweeter relationship.

N/B. What you just read is very powerful. And should only be used on girls you actually love. Do not use it to waste women's time or use them. Only weak men do that

Talk soon

You go remain single till you die.

Except the lady is financially independent, nothing wrong in giving your lady monthly allowance if you have to give.

Just be mature enough to understand that she can still leave you.

Rizzputin:
There's nothing like a woman just "naturally" falling in love you.

There are certain things/attributes/traits about you that inspired her love you .


Also, if you over invest in a girl you feel "naturally loves" you, she will leave you instantly.

Investment is a measure of who is in charge of the relationship. You invest more than and she feels in charge and loses attraction.

She invests more and you're the one in charge. Her attraction for you deepens

The idea of a woman loving you "naturally" where you can do no wrong is a fantasy from Disney land

Lose the qualities she likes in you, over invest In her and watch that "natural" love disappear

If U read well U will see the only place I used natural is her willingness to do things for the man she loves without any external influences whatsoever. It's not rocket science she sees traits in U that's why she picked U over another. I still maintain that when she loves U more than U love her it's guaranteed to work better than U trying to make her love U in any form. Like I said if U read well u will see I also mentioned U can never truly match her investments in U if she loves U more than U do her.

It's just how it is but when U try to control or manipulate it by intentionally withholding what U can do for her materially, it puts U in the position of a bitcch. The one with lesser power. Except she knows U don't have. Like it or not she will become more controlling, possessive, masculine in attitude because she feels ur her project and she owns U. Then cheating on U comes naturally but U will still be the main guy. Most guys don't know this part and they go about chest beating how thier girl never cheats and shyyt lol... A lot of times I'm the other nigga these females cheat with but they sill maintain thier main and keep coming back for more intense fvcking but u will never know. When it gets worse they no longer keep it secret anymore. I have advised a lot of girls against this for my own safety but give a girl little power and watch the world turn.

I have been the nigga cheated on too by making the mistake of allowing her do too much and deliberately not reciprocating her gestures by withholding. It got to her head as it would most women and I became her project. I don't talk fantasies or stuffs I read from books or internet, I talk from real life experiences bro. Been there and done it all. Lol when she loves U more genuinely U can get away with almost anything. It's why U see some men maltreating these women which is very wrong and U hear stuffs like why can't she leave him? Does she want to die first? And when she's had enough she leaves because in the end she finds out there's more to life than sticking where it hurts.

Women want to feel loved even when they love U more, most importantly they still enjoy u doing whatever U can for them even when they got u covered and the moment they feel for certain U are deliberately and intentionally doing lesser than U should. The power dynamics shift. It doesn't change what they do for u but they begin to start taking control. Then again ur entitled to ur opinion as I am 😊

otherway:
You go remain single till you die.

Except the lady is financially independent, nothing wrong in giving your lady monthly allowance if you have to give.

Just be mature enough to understand that she can still leave you.

Which one be monthly allowance are U okay?

Rizzputin:
There's nothing like a woman just "naturally" falling in love you.

There are certain things/attributes/traits about you that inspired her love you .


Also, if you over invest in a girl you feel "naturally loves" you, she will leave you instantly.

Investment is a measure of who is in charge of the relationship. You invest more than and she feels in charge and loses attraction.

She invests more and you're the one in charge. Her attraction for you deepens

The idea of a woman loving you "naturally" where you can do no wrong is a fantasy from Disney land

Lose the qualities she likes in you, over invest In her and watch that "natural" love disappear

Welcome back

I never date students. You must have finished your studies and be comfortably working before we go jam.

I can't shout biko.

dkidd:
Which one be monthly allowance are U okay?

Lol..... The guy dey form "real men"

Wonderful write up by the OP, well done! ...

Only fo.ols place their girlfriends on salary or take full responsibilities for a girl they're not married to ...

Just as she won't play wifely duties during the dating stage, you too should NEVER play husband duties before marriage ...

dkidd:
If U read well U will see the only place I used natural is her willingness to do things for the man she loves without any external influences whatsoever. It's not rocket science she sees traits in U that's why she picked U over another. I still maintain that when she loves U more than U love her it's guaranteed to work better than U trying to make her love U in any form. Like I said if U read well u will see I also mentioned U can never truly match her investments in U if she loves U more than U do her.

It's just how it is but when U try to control or manipulate it by intentionally withholding what U can do for her materially, it puts U in the position of a bitcch. The one with lesser power. Except she knows U don't have. Like it or not she will become more controlling, possessive, masculine in attitude because she feels ur her project and she owns U. Then cheating on U comes naturally but U will still be the main guy. Most guys don't know this part and they go about chest beating how thier girl never cheats and shyyt lol... A lot of times I'm the other nigga these females cheat with but they sill maintain thier main and keep coming back for more intense fvcking but u will never know. When it gets worse they no longer keep it secret anymore. I have advised a lot of girls against this for my own safety but give a girl little power and watch the world turn.

I have been the nigga cheated on too by making the mistake of allowing her do too much and deliberately not reciprocating her gestures by withholding. It got to her head as it would most women and I became her project. I don't talk fantasies or stuffs I read from books or internet, I talk from real life experiences bro. Been there and done it all. Lol when she loves U more genuinely U can get away with almost anything. It's why U see some men maltreating these women which is very wrong and U hear stuffs like why can't she leave him? Does she want to die first? And when she's had enough she leaves because in the end she finds out there's more to life than sticking where it hurts.

Women want to feel loved even when they love U more, most importantly they still enjoy u doing whatever U can for them even when they got u covered and the moment they feel for certain U are deliberately and intentionally doing lesser than U should. The power dynamics shift. It doesn't change what they do for u but they begin to start taking control. Then again ur entitled to ur opinion as I am 😊

I suggest you read the thread properly before dropping your half baked opinions.


-Only your mother can love you "naturally" as you claim. Women love based on certain traits and experiences you provide


-Investment is NOT just about money. Your logical male brain is confusing you. Read the post again. Time, resources, emotions and experiences are all part of investment


- Women who stay with men that maltreatment them has NOTHING to do with the "natural love" bs you're talking about. It is based on her investments: emotions(pain, tears) , thoughts and experiences


- you got cheated on because you allowed her invest too much. That is why I said your investment in her should be 20% less than she is. So there's a balance. But you were in such a rush to drop your half baked opinion, you didn't bother to read the thread to understand it


Henceforth, refrain from giving opinions on things you don't fully understand

PinkNature:
Welcome back

Thanks. A thread on drama Divas and knowing a woman's body count coming soon

dkidd:
Which one be monthly allowance are U okay?

If you are not financially and emotionally mature enough to take care of a lady, stay single.

All these broke Red pill guys end up lonely and depressed.

Women are to be taken care of. Find your level.

I don't support a lady having the entitlement mentality but if you can't contribute financially to the life of a lady, you have no right to be in her life.

And by the way, I am a man and a member of Red pill association but I am a reasonable redpiller.

Rizzputin:
I suggest you read the thread properly before dropping your half baked opinions.


-Only your mother can love you "naturally" as you claim. Women love based on certain traits and experiences you provide


-Investment is NOT just about money. Your logical male brain is confusing you. Read the post again. Time, resources, emotions and experiences are all part of investment


- Women who stay with men that maltreatment them has NOTHING to do with the "natural love" bs you're talking about. It is based on her investments: emotions(pain, tears) , thoughts and experiences


- you got cheated on because you allowed her invest too much. That is why I said your investment in her should be 20% less than she is. So there's a balance. But you were in such a rush to drop your half baked opinion, you didn't bother to read the thread to understand it


Henceforth, refrain from giving opinions on things you don't fully understand

I won't even bother with U anymore as it's obvious comprehension is ur problem. What is natural love? And who said anything about natural love? Women will only love U for what they see in U be it material or otherwise and it's nothing natural about that. Omor abeg take ur bs elsewhere I have better things to do than argue back and forth with a block head this morning

dkidd:
I won't even bother with U anymore as it's obvious comprehension is ur problem. What is natural love? And who said anything about natural love? Women will only love U for what they see in U be it material or otherwise and it's nothing natural about that. Omor abeg take ur bs elsewhere I have better things to do than argue back and forth with a block head this morning

Next time open your brain to understand and not drop your half baked bs opinions.

otherway:
If you are not financially and emotionally mature enough to take care of a lady, stay single.

All these broke Red pill guys end up lonely and depressed.

Women are to be taken care of. Find your level.

I don't support a lady having the entitlement mentality but if you can't contribute financially to the life of a lady, you have no right to be in her life.

The post goes beyond money. You can over invest in other areas besides money.

Salary and allowance is just one of the fòolish ways men over invest.

Putting your girlfriend on allowance is a bad move. Because you are over investing in a girl you've known for less than 3 years. And most times, the girl hasn't invested in the man in any significant way.


She's not your employee that you pay salary to. You can take care of a woman without paying her monthly to be with you

Rizzputin:
Thanks. A thread on drama Divas and knowing a woman's body count coming soon

I anticipate. 💪

Rizzputin:
The post goes beyond money. You can over invest in other areas besides money.

Salary and allowance is just one of the fòolish ways men over invest.

Putting your girlfriend on allowance is a bad move. Because you are over investing in a girl you've known for less than 3 years. And most times, the girl hasn't invested in the man in any significant way.


She's not your employee that you pay salary to. You can take care of a woman without paying her monthly to be with you

This is why I wrote that broke guys should stay away from having romantic affairs.

When you give your woman money in any form, you are not doing it to own her but to show her you care.

A lady can still leave you at anytime even after marriage.

You must learn to make sacrifices without expecting to buy the loyalty of a lady.

This mindset is what distinguishes boys from real men.

At the bolded, i thought you said she should be the one to invest more?

Rizzputin:
I suggest you read the thread properly before dropping your half baked opinions.


-Only your mother can love you "naturally" as you claim. Women love based on certain traits and experiences you provide


-Investment is NOT just about money. Your logical male brain is confusing you. Read the post again. Time, resources, emotions and experiences are all part of investment


- Women who stay with men that maltreatment them has NOTHING to do with the "natural love" bs you're talking about. It is based on her investments: emotions(pain, tears) , thoughts and experiences


[b]- you got cheated on because you allowed her invest too much. [/b]That is why I said your investment in her should be 20% less than she is. So there's a balance. But you were in such a rush to drop your half baked opinion, you didn't bother to read the thread to understand it


Henceforth, refrain from giving opinions on things you don't fully understand

otherway:
This is why I wrote that broke guys should stay away from having romantic affairs.

Why do you always think guys who don't give girls money are broke? Lol!
Just how rich are you offline, 😂.

I believe very ugly and dwarf men support this narrative of giving money to women.

FRANCISTOWN:
Why do you always think guys who don't give girls money are broke? Lol!
Just how rich are you offline, 😂.

I believe very ugly and dwarf men support this narrative of giving money to women.

I think it is a waste of time going back and forth with you.

I'm an attractive mature man of over 6ft in height and dark in complexion. Just to let you know that I am most lady's cup of tea.


But you see, when you mature to a stage you wlll realize that six pack, handsome face is totally inconsequential if you can not meticulously take care of a lady.

Enough said.

otherway:
I think it is a waste of time going back and forth with you.

I'm an attractive mature man of over 6ft in height and dark in complexion. Just to let you know that I am most lady's cup of tea.


But you see, when you mature to a stage you wlll realize that six pack, handsome face is totally inconsequential if you can not meticulously take care of a lady.

Enough said.

So you want me to believe that you are over 6ft and handsome but you already assumed the other guy was broke. You gotta be kidding me. You are either short and ugly or you battle low self esteem.

No be only 6pacs , na ekwensu hunger pacs.

Love800:
At the bolded, i thought you said she should be the one to invest more?

Yeah. She should invest more but not too much. Anything over done doesn't end well. That's why you investing 20% less than her is the sweet spot. If you invest 60% less than her for example, she'll feel like you don't regard the her or the relationship at all

Pls, can you explain the bolded without adding that percentage. Explain it with plain words. Am struggling to understand.

Rizzputin:
Yeah. She should invest more but not too much. Anything over done doesn't end well. That's why you investing 20% less than her is the sweet spot. If you invest 60% less than her for example, she'll feel like you don't regard the her or the relationship at all

Love800:
Pls, can you explain the bolded without adding that percentage. Explain it with plain words. Am struggling to understand.

Investing means money, emotions, effort, etc. The percentage is important for you to understand so you don't over do OR under do things.

For example, if she calls and checks up on you 7 times a week... the right balance will be to do the same like twice a week. You don't want to go over board and never call her at all. Or do something worse like matching her 7 times or calling more.

You want her general investment in the relationship to be slightly more than yours. NOT equal, NOT far below yours, And NOT way too much more than yours

Thanks so much.
I appreciate

Rizzputin:
Investing means money, emotions, effort, etc. The percentage is important for you to understand so you don't over do OR under do things.

For example, if she calls and checks up on you 7 times a week... the right balance will be to do the same like twice a week. You don't want to go over board and never call her at all. Or do something worse like matching her 7 times or calling more.

You want her general investment in the relationship to be slightly more than yours. NOT equal, NOT far below yours, And NOT way too much more than yours

Love800:
Thanks so much.
I appreciate

Sure thing

otherway:
You go remain single till you die.

Except the lady is financially independent, nothing wrong in giving your lady monthly allowance if you have to give.

Just be mature enough to understand that she can still leave you.

There are too many risky businesses to venture into than this

Why pay monthly allowance to a lady and still be mature enough to know she can live


How do u convince yourself to do this

DevilsEqual:
There are too many risky businesses to venture into than this

Why pay monthly allowance to a lady and still be mature enough to know she can live


How do u convince yourself to do this

It is a level of maturity that is rare but until a man attains this level, he should not bother dating any lady.

This is just the truth.

DevilsEqual:
There are too many risky businesses to venture into than this

Why pay monthly allowance to a lady and still be mature enough to know she can live


How do u convince yourself to do this

He's a clown. Ignore him.

He's the type to get cheated on then blame the moon and stars for it. Rather than himself