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folake4u:
Lol see .

I love listening to older women (female OGs) who have lived. Their advice is ALWAYS solid. I learn from their experiences in life.

@ bold:

bukatyne:
@ bold:

Lol Buka, why are you laughing?

folake4u:
Lol Buka, why are you laughing?

The way you said it is funny ni.

Generally, it is good to know the outcome you want per instance to determine the advise taken.

However, if there is one thing they get, it is that men need the carrot and stick approach to rate you. That's why our mother's/the church's wrong teaching on a mouse-like wife never works. Be a mouse, and you are seen as a beast of burden , 'loved' for the service you provide.

But again, I think it also applies to women.

I wish the OP was here to provide feedback on what she did.

Going back to the man seemed not to be an option for her.

I would never encourage sleeping with a married man
I would tilt towards masturbation (as creative as possible) or re-marriage depending on the particulars of the divorce.

bukatyne:
The way you said it is funny ni.

Generally, it is good to know the outcome you want per instance to determine the advise taken.

However, if there is one thing they get, it is that men need the carrot and stick approach to rate you. That's why our mother's/the church's wrong teaching on a mouse-like wife never works. Be a mouse, and you are seen as a beast of burden , 'loved' for the service you provide.

But again, I think it also applies to women.

Generally, experience is the best teacher.

So listening to people who've lived their lives to the fullest and also one's self will determine if the advice will be well received or rejected.

Lol. Thankfully, I cannot relate to the "mouse-like-wife" situation. Mo stubborn.

pocohantas:
If truly most men won't sleep with married women, there would have been no measures put in place by same men to ensure their wives don't cheat. From magun to swearing oaths in some cultures. Or is it the DNA cries? MILF?

I want to believe it is just to make women think they are undesirable as they age/marry. Which is only applicable to women who they have used gruesome-virtuousness to suck all her nectar or the ones that let go. If you are an attractive married woman. Preferably the one whose husband is flexing and giving peace of mind, men will approach you. Heavy men, because the younger ones won't have mind to put body.

I said that same thing On.egaì said about a month back and some were arguing with me. I laugh!!!

@ bold:

Nice to read.

Reminds me of a thread I opened talking about women keeping their nectar and some peeps twisted their knickers insisting I was talking about virginity.

Devil's advocate here:

If we are A OK with the OP sleeping with married men, what is the grouse with cheating husbands?

They are not in the pay grade to cheat?

folake4u:
Generally, experience is the best teacher.

So listening to people who've lived their lives to the fullest and also one's self will determine if the advice will be well received or rejected.

Lol. Thankfully, I cannot relate to the "mouse-like-wife" situation. Mo stubborn.

True.

Lol! @ mo stubborn.

bukatyne:
@ bold:

Nice to read.

Reminds me of a thread I opened talking about women keeping their nectar and some peeps twisted their knickers insisting I was talking about virginity.

Maybe the body of your post gave the impression of that . But if you explained and they chose to hold on to one narrative, you can't be blamed.

Please can I have the link to the thread?
Maybe I commented sef.

Modified: I have seen it. Let me read.

Gerrard59:
That said, with this revelation, I hope everyone agrees that it is hard to find a financially comfortable man who practices strict monogamy aka does not cheat, especially as he ages. Whether home or abroad, it is HARD.

Good luck to women looking for a pin in a haystack.

I believe there are a lot of men who are financially comfortable and do not cheat.

A lot of men (doesn't mean much more aren't cheating sha).

30% of financially comfortable men are still a lot

bukatyne:
I wish the OP was here to provide feedback on what she did.

Going back to the man seemed not to be an option for her.

I would never encourage sleeping with a married man
I would tilt towards masturbation (as creative as possible) or re-marriage depending on the particulars of the divorce.

Kai, Buka.

We no longer use the term "masturbation" for females. The word is so heavy and old school.

We call it "DJ" or "DJing" now. You can search it online.

The old school one we all know is the traditional type, while the use of vibrators is the "modern" type.

I say make I tell you as GenZ education.

bukatyne:
True.

Lol! @ mo stubborn.

Yes oh.

pocohantas:
Maybe the body of your post gave the impression of that . But if you explained and they chose to hold on to one narrative, you can't be blamed.

Please can I have the link to the thread?
Maybe I commented sef.

My sister, I said nectar can be lost GRADUALLY......

Didn't know that virginity could be lost in bits.

I have since learnt that NLers would read what they want to read.

https://www.nairaland.com/6489141/sister-please-reserve-nectar-him

UyaiIncomparabl:
Expert. You sabi the game.

You dey feel am abi. 😂😂

folake4u:
Kai, Buka.

We no longer use the term "masturbation" for females. The word is so heavy and old school.

We call it "DJ" or "DJing" now. You can search it online.

The old school one we all know is the traditional type, while the use of vibrators is the "modern" type.

I say make I tell you as GenZ education.

Toor, well noted ma'am

This puts a spin on DJ Cuppy

Vibrators have been as long as time na.

I thought nuhu/nuru messages with semi demi happy endings are the in-thing.

folake4u:
Yes oh.

Stubborn Flakky

folake4u:
.

We call it "DJ" or "DJing" now. You can search it online.



I say make I tell you as GenZ education.

SMH vigorously

bukatyne:
Toor, well noted ma'am

This puts a spin on DJ Cuppy

Vibrators have been as long as time na.

I thought nuhu/nuru messages with semi demi happy endings are the in-thing.

Hahaha my hand nor dey for DJ Cuppy oh.

Yes, I know that vibrators have been in existence for a long time, I was just saying. Lol.

Nuru massages with happy endings has also been trending for years too.

There's new creativity springing up everyday.

Proserpina:
SMH vigorously

Nor shake head oh. Go check am for Twitter na.

There was a Twitter9ja thread where girls were discussing their preference, traditional or modern DJ-ing. I laugh that day mehn.

bukatyne:
Stubborn Flakky

Only the stubborn at heart survive in Nigeria.

Proserpina:
SMH vigorously

Vigorously shaking your man's head in your *****?

That's right. The real thing, with rhythmic pounding beats a machine any day.

For the 101% full body experience.

A glorious gbola is more than just member

Toys are for small girls

GloriousGbola:
Vigorously shaking your man's head in your *****?

That's right. The real thing, with rhythmic pounding beats a machine any day.

For the 101% full body experience.

A glorious gbola is more than just member

Toys are for small girls

Sir Glorious ibi te ro lo yii far o

I was shaking my head for Folake. That child haff spoil finish

folake4u:
Nor shake head oh. Go check am for Twitter na.

There was a Twitter9ja thread where girls were discussing their preference, traditional or modern DJ-ing. I laugh that day mehn.

Dj-ing

Hmmmmmmm it's concealing Sha . Lol poor me would have thought the real Disk jockey definition if it pops in a conversation .

These days the best is to ask if people really mean what they say or there's an hidden definition somewhere

Proserpina:
Dj-ing

Hmmmmmmm it's concealing Sha . Lol poor me would have thought the real Disk jockey definition if it pops in a conversation .

These days the best is to ask if people really mean what they say or there's an hidden definition somewhere

Lol I know right. 😂😂😂😂

I have convos with my friends and we could just be using these slangs, a listener might just assume we're talking about it in its literal state, not knowing it has another meaning.

Proserpina:
Sir Glorious ibi te ro lo yii far o

I was shaking my head for Folake. That child haff spoil finish

Ahhhhhh. I nor spoil oh.

Nobody holy pass me.

That’s the narrative you sha want to hold onto

If we tell you now that their wives are cheating too and two can play that game in their world, you’ll find a way to try to dispute it. 😑

Gerrard59:

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That said, with this revelation, I hope everyone agrees that it is hard to find a financially comfortable man who practices strict monogamy aka does not cheat, especially as he ages. Whether home or abroad, it is HARD.

Good luck to women looking for a pin in a haystack.

pocohantas:
If truly most men won't sleep with married women, there would have been no measures put in place by same men to ensure their wives don't cheat. From magun to swearing oaths in some cultures. Or is it the DNA cries? MILF?

you know what they say. He who kills with the sword doesn’t let anyone walk behind him with a sword. They know themselves and each other well well

I want to believe it is just to make women think they are undesirable as they age/marry. Which is only applicable to women who they have used gruesome-virtuousness to suck all her nectar or the ones that let go.

This!

If you are an attractive married woman. Preferably the one whose husband is flexing and giving peace of mind, men will approach you. Heavy men, because the younger ones won't have mind to put body.

I said that same thing Onegaì said about a month back and some were arguing with me. I laugh!!!

You know some things are better said by certain people. Anyone else saying the same thing wouldn’t be received the same way. Maybe it’s the delivery 🫢

folake4u:
Lol I know right. 😂😂😂😂

I have convos with my friends and we could just be using these slangs, a listener might just assume we're talking about it in its literal state, not knowing it has another meaning.

Na to go buy Gen Z dictionary remain now

folake4u:
Nor shake head oh. Go check am for Twitter na.

There was a Twitter9ja thread where girls were discussing their preference, traditional or modern DJ-ing. I laugh that day mehn.

A finger can never replace a glorious gbola

Oops. I didn't realize flakky had already posted her sfw born homework

bukatyne:
I believe there are a lot of men who are financially comfortable and do not cheat.. A lot of men (doesn't mean much more aren't cheating sha). 30% of financially comfortable men are still a lot

The very religious, extra disciplined and those wey dey one cult or the other where the agreement stipulates such. But I used to think that very religious men don't cheat as I worked with one who took his religion very seriously until recent events. I know pastors, knights and deacons who had/have mistresses.

cococandy:
That’s the narrative you sha want to hold onto

If we tell you now that their wives are cheating too and two can play that game in their world, you’ll find a way to try to dispute it. 😑

I am not a believer in that theory. I believe married women cheat as well. Just that many young Nigerian men tend to be so naive about the antics of married women and the power of married men in arresting the issue.

Proserpina:
Na to go buy Gen Z dictionary remain now

Make una dey up-to-date with trends. 😂😂