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Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Olatunji1929: 10:01am On Jan 09, 2025
Virgin wey dey among marriageable age in Nigeria are less than 0.5% most of them have lost their virginity at 13years
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by AZControversial:
cool

OP, most of the guys settling for less are simply classless!

A very close female friend of mine recently tested me with a question that what if she was a single mother, will I still love her?
I told her straight up that even if she had an angelic character, my answer will still be NO!.... If I have feelings for you, they'll die the moment I find out. I don't do single mothers. Just my choice..... not judging anyone.

This topic ain't about single mothers.... Apologies for the digress.

I just know what I want.....
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Nobody: 10:02am On Jan 09, 2025
cutecommend:
There is nobody that is less. But if several ladies don't want to settle for broke guys and some guys may want to hustle to meet up, why not guys too vehemently settle for virgins?

If some ladies are plain on what they want and size guys before agreeing to date, why are guys not so loud in insisting that they want only virgins when they make it.

The ladies seem to be winning here. Many ladies have sex with multiple people and these same ladies may insist on marrying rich guys. They may even broke shame working class guys who earn averagely. So why are guys not so loud on insisting on virginity. Raise the standard!

Truth: Am just saying this as its part of the insight I got from one or more person.
We have good and marriageable ladies that are not virgins and we have good husband materials that may not be rich.
I’ve said this severally. Ladies are winning the game
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by bullabong(m): 10:02am On Jan 09, 2025
pocohantas:
I wonder. 😂😂😂
Are you married now?
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Nobody:
Reverseng:
Virgin men should settle for virgin women. You can be a non Virgin guy and be looking for virgin woman. You can't have your cake, eat it, and still have it.

Women working in masculine roles robs them of their femininity...their woman energy as they start to think and behave like men. Survival is logical.

That being said, women should know that they're equal, simultaneous and opposite to men, as Newton put it (although he left out the Simultaneous part, which is the Big problem of the science community today)

Women should know that equality with men in every standard is wrong. A man can never carry a baby. Women aren't Fit, mentally and physically, to work in masculine roles as society preaches.

Remember, there's nothing like dirty water. It's either water or it's something else. There's nothing like logical women, and there's nothing like feminine men.


So women should return to feminine by being appreciative of what men bring to the table and know their place in humanity, NOT society because society is made up of some people who don't think for themselves, forcing rules of others, on Others

And men should be masculine by taking accountability for the women they're with. You don't promise a girl marriage and castles, only to have sex with her and abandon her. Be precise with your dealings.

Courtship should be a step towards marriage and not the nonsense we have in society today. If you don't see a future with her, don't date her.

Most of you men are dating girls you know you'll never bring to your parents. But instead if ending the courtship, you'll keep deceiving the girl, all because of sex that surprisingly enough ruins your life grin, because you're having a spiritual activity with someone you don't love. Obtained through deceit.

Some people choose the path of suffering and complain when the suffering happens.

Nice guys creates dysfunctional girls and dysfunctional girls creates players.

But guess what? Players don't create nice guys. So it's a straight line and not a cycle.

The burden is on men, because it's the mess we started, so we have to take accountability and put an end to it.

It's not a matter of setting for less. It's a matter of dealing with the monsters you made.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by morgstreme: 10:06am On Jan 09, 2025
budaatum:
Many men are bringing nothing to the relationship and deserve much less than they get.
HOPELESS EMPTY NONCOGNITIVE DINGBAT!
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Obaaderemi2: 10:08am On Jan 09, 2025
AllBlack:
I was thinking the SETTLING FOR LESS had to do with business and money but it just had to be about women AGAIN.

You really settled for less by spending all this time to write this plenty talk because of women.
I thought he was even going to talk about going for high value women who bring a lot to the marriage in terms of intelligence, education, earning power, cleanliness, etc.
So it's important to marry one dumb poorly educated girl all because she's a virgin?
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Nobody: 10:10am On Jan 09, 2025
I think this generation of men lack love offline, so when a poor girl uses emotions to blind the guy, he will feel he is in love.....whereas the girl is only deceiving him just to get leech on him. And when he goes broke, voooommm, the girl leaves.

When you are broke, don't date a broke girl......when you get rich, don't also date a broke girl. That is the game 🎯
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Lanre1st(m): 10:10am On Jan 09, 2025
cutecommend:
There is nobody that is less. But if several ladies don't want to settle for broke guys and some guys may want to hustle to meet up, why not guys too vehemently settle for virgins?

If some ladies are plain on what they want and size guys before agreeing to date, why are guys not so loud in insisting that they want only virgins when they make it.

The ladies seem to be winning here. Many ladies have sex with multiple people and these same ladies may insist on marrying rich guys. They may even broke shame working class guys who earn averagely. So why are guys not so loud on insisting on virginity. Raise the standard!

Truth: Am just saying this as its part of the insight I got from one or more person.
We have good and marriageable ladies that are not virgins and we have good husband materials that may not be rich.
Many SIMP everywhere, their blokus leads.

Once kongi hold guys, they forget everything
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by budaatum: 10:15am On Jan 09, 2025
morgstreme:
HOPELESS EMPTY NONCOGNITIVE DINGBAT!
It's obvious you were brought up well.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by travelzcruix: 10:21am On Jan 09, 2025
If this discussion is about who is rich, a virgin etc as to how partners are selected, then we are far from reality. You as a man must consider someone who shares some values like you, someone who complements your lifestyle. If you are a club/ showpersonality, then who you need is someone who knows you from that point, by that, a mutual understanding is achieved and nobody will have unnecessary issues. Sex, looks, money all will either fade or u get too used to it. The personality one keeps is what last forever.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Maysdevices(f): 10:23am On Jan 09, 2025
cutecommend:
There is nobody that is less. But if several ladies don't want to settle for broke guys and some guys may want to hustle to meet up, why not guys too vehemently settle for virgins?

If some ladies are plain on what they want and size guys before agreeing to date, why are guys not so loud in insisting that they want only virgins when they make it.

The ladies seem to be winning here. Many ladies have sex with multiple people and these same ladies may insist on marrying rich guys. They may even broke shame working class guys who earn averagely. So why are guys not so loud on insisting on virginity. Raise the standard!

Truth: Am just saying this as its part of the insight I got from one or more person.
We have good and marriageable ladies that are not virgins and we have good husband materials that may not be rich.
1. Virgins love rich men and still choose based on some extreme standards: you don’t ‘pick’ them, you get lucky

2. When such men are broke, they love decent and virgins. When your type becomes rich, then tell the good girls nobody will date them or spend on them if they don’t open their legs, then go love on sexy hoes

I wrote number 2 because you seemed really pained at the rejection of such women, most men don’t care and are already waiting to use the younger ones to show them that men are timless and women are timed

A real man doesn’t force; push, fuss or shout or about he likes. Neither does complains about her demeanor which might seem unseemly, when he’s ready he goes for it and gets it as he likes
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Ringstonermasks: 10:30am On Jan 09, 2025
my own sweet, I married a childhood sweet heart as a Virgin and as a career lady(Army).
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by SeniorGee(m): 10:30am On Jan 09, 2025
When the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by DrFunmisticGlow: 10:34am On Jan 09, 2025
Reverseng:
Virgin men should settle for virgin women. You can be a non Virgin guy and be looking for virgin woman. You can't have your cake, eat it, and still have it.

Women working in masculine roles robs them of their femininity...their woman energy as they start to think and behave like men. Survival is logical.

That being said, women should know that they're equal, simultaneous and opposite to men, as Newton put it (although he left out the Simultaneous part, which is the Big problem of the science community today)

Women should know that equality with men in every standard is wrong. A man can never carry a baby. Women aren't Fit, mentally and physically, to work in masculine roles as society preaches.

Remember, there's nothing like dirty water. It's either water or it's something else. There's nothing like logical women, and there's nothing like feminine men.


So women should return to feminine by being appreciative of what men bring to the table and know their place in humanity, NOT society because society is made up of some people who don't think for themselves, forcing rules of others, on Others

And men should be masculine by taking accountability for the women they're with. You don't promise a girl marriage and castles, only to have sex with her and abandon her. Be precise with your dealings.

Courtship should be a step towards marriage and not the nonsense we have in society today. If you don't see a future with her, don't date her.

Most of you men are dating girls you know you'll never bring to your parents. But instead if ending the courtship, you'll keep deceiving the girl, all because of sex that surprisingly enough ruins your life grin, because you're having a spiritual activity with someone you don't love. Obtained through deceit.

Some people choose the path of suffering and complain when the suffering happens.

Nice guys creates dysfunctional girls and dysfunctional girls creates players.

But guess what? Players don't create nice guys. So it's a straight line and not a cycle.

The burden is on men, because it's the mess we started, so we have to take accountability and put an end to it.

It's not a matter of setting for less. It's a matter of dealing with the monsters you made.
thank you for your accountability and honesty. Hopefully, op and many more lost men will listen to your post.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Maysdevices(f): 10:43am On Jan 09, 2025
cutecommend:
There is nobody that is less. But if several ladies don't want to settle for broke guys and some guys may want to hustle to meet up, why not guys too vehemently settle for virgins?

If some ladies are plain on what they want and size guys before agreeing to date, why are guys not so loud in insisting that they want only virgins when they make it.

The ladies seem to be winning here. Many ladies have sex with multiple people and these same ladies may insist on marrying rich guys. They may even broke shame working class guys who earn averagely. So why are guys not so loud on insisting on virginity. Raise the standard!

Truth: Am just saying this as its part of the insight I got from one or more person.
We have good and marriageable ladies that are not virgins and we have good husband materials that may not be rich.
While I agree with your assertion, the world is not always as black and white as you put it: 1 + 1 doesn’t always equal two and the meanest faced of men might carry the gentlest of hearts

This relationship dynamic you offered isn’t really the answer to the MAN/WOMAN problem. This is because it has existed since the beginning of time and is still the norm now in modest countries and villages
Even in perfectly formed unions like you just described, they are not without their problems and some even end up worse than the players and hoes who marry. Because the players and the hoes who marry or do not marry will end up messing with them

These the players and hoes are not naive like the virgins and relationships are their butter and bread. When these two groups of people meets, its results in the world you have. The real cause of this is because humans are inherently selfish. It’s not a man that is a cheat and a woman that is gold digger because this took place and that took place

It’s because Eve wants the apple and other forbidden stuff Adam must buy and Adam wants the submission and many Eves

Eve will multiply herself in female children to share Adam if she can because of Apples and other forbidden stuff

Man will defy his Maker rules and bullshit His God who He is supposed to walk with for purpose and sustenance again, again and again for the Daughters of Eve
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Gboom: 10:43am On Jan 09, 2025
The best bet is just marrying the person who you love and compatible with, who is also resourceful and brings value to the table
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by QuinQ: 10:43am On Jan 09, 2025
Elzazzi:
cool

Once I make mad money. I'm settling for a rich lady also. I can't hustle to make money only to marry one broke gold digging bitcch.
How about broke hard-working lady?
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by QuinQ: 10:44am On Jan 09, 2025
Gboom:
The best bet is just marrying the person who you love and compatible with, who is also resourceful and brings value to the table
And if such person is not available to you?
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Gboom: 10:52am On Jan 09, 2025
QuinQ:
And if such person is not available to you?
They are always available; the problem most men are battling with is impatience. The girls at times use sex and fake submission to trap men into relationship
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Hushpuppy20(m): 10:53am On Jan 09, 2025
Olonsho le le yi maje
budaatum:
Many men are bringing nothing to the relationship and deserve much less than they get.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Elzazzi: 10:53am On Jan 09, 2025
QuinQ:
How about broke hard-working lady?
That's not my concern. I will marry my status once I make mad money
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Hushpuppy20(m): 10:54am On Jan 09, 2025
Virgin ko virgin atlantic ni
IfyAwazie:
Mtcheww.. For your so called broke guys, you'll know they're broke. Now, how will you know a virgin girl? The way una dey call this broke guys as if being broke na disease. Person wey broke today can be a millionaire tomorrow.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Starzo: 10:55am On Jan 09, 2025
Maysdevices:
1. Virgins love rich men and still choose based on some extreme standards: you don’t ‘pick’ them, you get lucky

2. When such men are broke, they love decent and virgins. When your type becomes rich, then tell the good girls nobody will date them or spend on them if they don’t open their legs, then go love on sexy hoes

I wrote number 2 because you seemed really pained at the rejection of such women, most men don’t care and are already waiting to use the younger ones to show them that men are timless and women are timed

A real man doesn’t force; push, fuss or shout or about he likes. Neither does complains about her demeanor which might seem unseemly, when he’s ready he goes for it and gets it as he likes
You as a WOMAN are not in any position to tell us how a real MAN acts or should act.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by imustsaymymindo: 11:00am On Jan 09, 2025
cutecommend:
There is nobody that is less.
Exactly. Nobody is less.

If you believe you are not less either man/woman, either having numerous body counts, or being broke to whoever's standards, you would get that which you deserve.

It just boils down to what you internalize in your own mind. Whoever is settling for less is only doing so because internally he/she is seeing him/herself as less or maybe lesser.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Hushpuppy20(m): 11:01am On Jan 09, 2025
Woman will never seize to be women, no be the same thing devil take confused Eve for garden of eden or do you think the golden apple in the tree of life is the real apple we are eating now ? No it's not what they mean is that all women love flashy things, they love material things.
All women are the same except those that have the fear of God.
almarthins:
Huh! Confusion just full internet. I just tire for all this broke nonsense. People are just to quick to generalized as them dom use davido, obi cubana as standard of measuring quality men.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by budaatum: 11:02am On Jan 09, 2025
Hushpuppy20:
Olonsho le le yi maje
O daju wípé wọn kọ ẹ dada ni ile.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by QuinQ: 11:03am On Jan 09, 2025
Gboom:
They are always available; the problem most men are battling with is impatience. The girls at times use sex and fake submission to trap men into relationship
I'm talking about for women!
Believe me there are VERY FEW men a very successful lady can love and be compatible with, who is equally very successful
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Gerrard59(m): 11:05am On Jan 09, 2025
cutecommend:
There is nobody that is less. But if several ladies don't want to settle for broke guys and some guys may want to hustle to meet up, why not guys too vehemently settle for virgins?

If some ladies are plain on what they want and size guys before agreeing to date, why are guys not so loud in insisting that they want only virgins when they make it.

The ladies seem to be winning here. Many ladies have sex with multiple people and these same ladies may insist on marrying rich guys. They may even broke shame working class guys who earn averagely. So why are guys not so loud on insisting on virginity. Raise the standard!
This post reminds me of my friend who dates an ex-hookup babe. He told me she has changed and he loves like that. To be fair though, he too went on rampant casual sex with various ladies before he dated her.

There goes my stance: if Nigerian men want chaste women, they too as men need to zip their trousers. These women aren't sleeping with fellow women in the bid to disvirgin themselves. Be like those in the north who seek virgin women and as a result, they (the men) too adhere to no premarital sex. I preached this here: https://www.nairaland.com/7684230/how-reduce-hook-ups-nigeria


And oh! Most Nigerian men will marry non-virgins regardless of the social media alpha male rants (they sometimes make strong points tho). Most of the the girls who flirted and had rampant sexual intercourse in school don marry and have children. The ones wey never marry, I'm cocksure would marry should they decide to. Nigerian men, especially southern men, deserve the women they get. Who for marry these women before? Northern men? shocked grin grin
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Babangidapikin: 11:07am On Jan 09, 2025
Reverseng:
Virgin men should settle for virgin women. You can be a non Virgin guy and be looking for virgin woman. You can't have your cake, eat it, and still have it.

Women working in masculine roles robs them of their femininity...their woman energy as they start to think and behave like men. Survival is logical.

That being said, women should know that they're equal, simultaneous and opposite to men, as Newton put it (although he left out the Simultaneous part, which is the Big problem of the science community today)

Women should know that equality with men in every standard is wrong. A man can never carry a baby. Women aren't Fit, mentally and physically, to work in masculine roles as society preaches.

Remember, there's nothing like dirty water. It's either water or it's something else. There's nothing like logical women, and there's nothing like feminine men.


So women should return to feminine by being appreciative of what men bring to the table and know their place in humanity, NOT society because society is made up of some people who don't think for themselves, forcing rules of others, on Others

And men should be masculine by taking accountability for the women they're with. You don't promise a girl marriage and castles, only to have sex with her and abandon her. Be precise with your dealings.

Courtship should be a step towards marriage and not the nonsense we have in society today. If you don't see a future with her, don't date her.

Most of you men are dating girls you know you'll never bring to your parents. But instead if ending the courtship, you'll keep deceiving the girl, all because of sex that surprisingly enough ruins your life grin, because you're having a spiritual activity with someone you don't love. Obtained through deceit.

Some people choose the path of suffering and complain when the suffering happens.

Nice guys creates dysfunctional girls and dysfunctional girls creates players.

But guess what? Players don't create nice guys. So it's a straight line and not a cycle.

The burden is on men, because it's the mess we started, so we have to take accountability and put an end to it.

It's not a matter of setting for less. It's a matter of dealing with the monsters you made.
Hope there is a manual for V men and women .. remind me of the bible verse I read yesterday@1 Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

All this while all I hear is @2 Corinthians 6:14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? when it comes to marriage
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by Hushpuppy20(m): 11:08am On Jan 09, 2025
Eri eni ti won ko dada nile ( opio)
budaatum:
O daju wípé wọn kọ ẹ dada ni ile.
Re: This Generation Of Men Are Settling For Less by riverbird: 11:09am On Jan 09, 2025
IfyAwazie:
Mtcheww.. For your so called broke guys, you'll know they're broke. Now, how will you know a virgin girl? The way una dey call this broke guys as if being broke na disease. Person wey broke today can be a millionaire tomorrow.
Men will start requesting for some form of proof, eg. Clinically proven to still be a virgin with some papers to back her virginity up.
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